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COMMUNICATIONS SUMMIT SET TO TRAIN YOUNG CREATIVE PROFESSIONALS

The Communicator organizes first Elevate Your Communications Summit for creative people.

The inaugural event is scheduled for May 25th 2017, online via a webinar-styled conference with seasoned industry experts as facilitators. It is specifically designed for Content Writers, Engagement Mangers, Graphic Artists and other team members who form a Communications team either internally in an organization or externally in an agency.

Packed with a line up of speakers to dissect several topics are Nkiru Olumide-Ojo, Executive Head, Corporate Communications Stanbic IBTC; Aligning with a Business’ Critical Need, Oluwaseun Shobo, The Brand Master on Personal branding for Creatives, Nelly Abgogu, Nellies healthy foods; Community Building for brands, Mitchelle Defounga, Creative Director, Noah’s Ark, Design; Aesthetics versus Functionality and George Omoraro, Ragemedia Global on Growing in a Digital team.

This hands-on workshop will discuss the importance of communications in a Business and how their roles make them gatekeepers of several brands.

According to the lead consultant, Tracy Oyekanmi, also known as The Communicator, “Businesses need competent staff to be relevant online and we can also leverage the online space to organize trainings that would benefit people in such roles nationwide.  Twenty years ago, some of these roles didn’t exist and the need for capacity development is necessary especially for entry-level staff in these roles.”

Attendees will receive a certificate of participation, discounts on further training from Simon College of Marketing- Nigerian learning partner to undertake Digital Marketing Institute certification as well as gym membership for work life balance with B Natural SPA Group.   There will also be access to further mentorship in an exclusive online group after the event.

The submit is free to attend but registration is compulsory here http://elevateyourcommunicationssummit.gr8.com/

 

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EDEN ONWUKA: WHAT CAN WE DO TO HELP A BATTERED WOMAN

My Heart is heavy, no one deserves abuse. I’m inspired to respond to ignorant comments made to an abused victim’s brave story. In this month of Domestic Violence (DV) awareness, here’s some ways we can make a difference: Asking a DV victim ‘what did you do? is not a good way to give advice. Asking her to adjust ‘herself’ or do some behavior modifications does not address the root cause and places responsibility solely on the victim. Advocating ‘run’ sounds good on paper, but doesn’t offer her the practicality needed immediately. It doesn’t tell her HOW to go about it if she’s unemployed, in a situation where there are no helpers or family etc.

Any statement that doesn’t deflect the pain or impact of the abuse on its victim is unfair and unkind. It promotes a false assumption that the victim somehow contributed to his anger. The issue here is not to blame her, blast her or tell her to divorce, BUT to focus on the abuse. When a bloodied battered helpless woman is crying out for help and all we offer in her pain is distant unsympathetic lectures on her ‘adjusting’ her behavior and ‘taking it’, that’s not love. Whatever religion we practice, if we aren’t showing compassion then it is cold religion and biased judgment and is not the Heart of God.

The reason some people die in pain rather than ask for help is because of unsympathetic vibes from people around them. Why not offer support even if we don’t have all the facts? Offer kindness, and ASK the victim what help she actually needs? Dear Abused Woman, You are beautiful and worthy and you are a Queen.

You do not deserve abuse, irrespective of the facts leading to it. You are not alone and you will yet overcome. You will still experience beautiful dreams beyond this drama. Yes, you can go against popular grains to save your life. You deserve to Live. There are a variety of unbiased professional agencies that can help address this. You alone cannot change him, intentional intervention is mostly necessary. You already won because you cried out for help, it isn’t shameful, it is Courage. Dear Friend, Family, Onlookers of DV, Affirm the victim without endorsing the abuse. Offer support or be a listener without asking dumb questions. Be the shelter and safety net for them in their chaos. Ask how they would love to be helped, without bruising their boundaries.

Empower them towards financial independence until they can find their feet (some DV victims have no means to start a new life and are heavily dependent on their abusers for subsistence). Don’t enable the abuser or disable the abused by your action or words.

Take a stand against violence even if the perpetrator is your brother, father etc Protect the battered woman’s honour. Gossip a No-No. Pray for, and love them back into wholeness and confidence. Signed, One who believes in you. Eden A.Onwuk (C)dreden 10.8.16 #Enlightenmentoverarguments #Educationoverignorance

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“I MADE A TERRIBLE MISTAKE” – TOYIN ABRAHAM OPENS UP ON HER RELATIONSHIP WITH SEUN EGBEGBE

Nollywood actress/producer Toyin Abraham on a new episode of Rubbin’ Minds revealed to Ebuka that she regrets ever going into a relationship with her ex, Seun Egbegbe.

The actress who was close to tears explained that it was a very emotional period for her and as such, she always empathizes with women going through similar emotional stress.

 

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MEET MAUREEN MMADU, THE FIRST NIGERIAN WOMAN TO COACH A EUROPEAN FOOTBALL CLUB

Maureen Nkeiruka Mmadu is living her dream in Norway where she is  the first Nigerian women’s football coach  attached to a top European club at Avaldsnes  and  the former international told PATRICK NGWAOGU that she’s the best woman to lift the Super Falcons from their present quagmire state on the continent.

MAUREEN Nkeiruka Mmadu was born on May 7, 1975 and hails from Onitsha in Anambra State. She is a Nigerian football coach and former midfielder. As a player, she most recently represented Avaldsnes IL, a First Division team based on Norway’s west coast. She played for several other teams in Norway’s Toppserien as well for Linköpings FC and QBIK in the Swedish Damallsvenskan.

She previously played for Klepp IL in the Norwegian Toppserien. Mmadu played for Kolbotn in Oslo, Norway, for the 2010 season, helping them to third place in the Toppserien league. She was seen playing for Avaldsnes IL in an off-season tournament in Oslo on 5 February, 2012.

She was the first Nigerian player to make 100 appearances for the Nigeria women’s national football team including appearing at four FIFA Women’s World Cups as well as the 2000 and 2004 Summer Olympics.Today, she is the only Nigerian women coach handling a premiership club in Europe.

“From 2012 to date, I have been the assistant coach in Avaldsnes team and chief coach of the same Avaldsens 2 division too,” said Maureen. “So, I’m in the Premier League as assistant and chief coach of 2 division in this same team.

“The club have a lot of respect for me because of my immense contributions to them as a player; I have my UEFA C license as a coach. I’m also a chief coach with a Division 2 women’s team here and an assistant coach in a premier league women team.

“I am also a coach developer in my team since 2012 and I think Nigeria should tap from my wealth of experience as a player and as a coach too.

“I have gathered experience over the years, having played in Europe for 13 years and also as a coach for the past three years with a Premier League women’s team and also a Division 2 women too.

“If I am given the opportunity to handle the Super Falcons, I am going to bring in my best with a lot of experience and teach them how modern-day football is played.

“We have good talents but we lack a lot of things about modern-day football but I  will change their African mentality and ways of playing because football now is not only kicking the ball, you also have to teach them what to do when we are not in possession of the ball too.

“I have worked with some of the best coaches in Europe as assistant in the premier league women here in Norway and I have also learned a lot at various coaching courses I have attended,” she revealed.

Speaking further, the former Nigerian international said she was not oblivious of the problems befuddling the Super Falcons following their failure to qualify for the Rio 2016 Olympic Games as well as missing the soccer Gold Medal at the 2015 All Africa Games in Congo Brazzaville.

“I’m not boasting, and I think I can help the Super Falcons at these challenging times when the team is really struggling,” she said. “I will do my best to change their mentality to the way modern football is played now but I have refused to lobby anybody for the job.

“My job should be able to speak for me and If you check the line up of my team, you would see the Colombian player that played in the last World Cup is here with me.

“We have players from different countries like Brazil, Iceland, Ireland, Colombia, USA and Norway too in the team; if the NFF wants the best for our female team, I should be given the job and honestly I will turn the team around; I don’t talk much but my work should speak for me.”

The amiable former hard working midfielder said she already has a strategy in place should she be given the Super Falcons’ job: “I would only take players who are between the ages of 20-28 years and honesty, I will not tolerate any player who is not ready to work for the team and the country.

“I want to be realistic here. There is nothing a foreign coach is going to teach that I can’t but I would want to stop at that. The difference would only be the colour.

“I have played football at the top level and I have worked with top coaches and I have also played under top coaches and I am now a coach too, so what quality of coaching does the Super Falcons need that I don’t have?

“We have talented players but we are missing a lot in formation, organisation, collective and tactical things to make our women football grow, and I think I have what it takes to handle the Super Falcons at this time,” she concluded

Source: http://thenationonlineng.nethttp://thenationonlineng.net

 

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“GETTING MARRIED IS NOT AN ACHIEVEMENT NOR A PROOF OF A WOMAN’S WORTH” – SONIA OGBONNA

 In our society today, when a man is cheating on his wife with another woman, the other woman is called out and labeled a whore. But the man?

Sonia Ogbonna,who is also a life coach on her Instagram page complained about the double standard regarding this issue.

According to her, women should tackle the problem which is the man and stop shaming the other woman who may or not know whether the man is married.

In her words: 

I’M SO SICK OF DOUBLE STANDARDS. Help me understand this please: so when a woman cheats on her man, y’all don’t call a side dude “home breaker” and “wife snatcher”. Instead, wife is labeled as an irresponsible whore.

When a man cheats on his woman, it’s not a man that you will blame. You justify his actions just because,(even though in most cases his married self is the one throwing bread at them babes) and it’s all “side chick’s” fault.

She is the one you will abuse, insult and call names, “husband snatcher aka home breaker”..etc… I don’t get.. The most painful thing is, it’s WOMEN who support, accept and teach their daughters to live according such double standards, not even men sef.

It’s your fellow lady that will call you names and point fingers at you. Stop shaming one another all in the name of idiotic competition based on jealousy and personal insecurities among women. YOUR MAN DOES NOT TREAT YOU RIGHT BECAUSE YOU SETTLED FOR IT AND ALLOWED IT , NOT BECAUSE OF ANOTHER WOMAN.

The reason why women are so bitter, angry, unhappy, lonely and ready to tolerate and settle for nonsense is because they seek the approval of their own worth from men since they are not familiar with it themselves. Purpose of your existence is not all about getting yourself a man.

Getting married is NOT an achievement nor a proof of a woman’s worth. There is so much more to that. Get your life right before becoming someone’s wife. Seek your worth within yourself before you expect it from HIM to acknowledge it.

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SIJU YUSUF: OBSESSIVE PARTNERS

These ones are another kind of mischance.
Don’t get me wrong, nothing beats a partner who is really into you. A partner interested in every detail of your welfare is fantastic but borderline is when he is becoming too interested in your every detail.
I get, your partner wants to spend every waking moment with you but if this is infringing your productivity or happiness, it sure is a sign you don’t want to ignore.
It is not bad to want to want to be in control of happenings/situations in your life and as a matter of fact, knowing you have or are in control of your relationship can be a morale booster, a push on self-esteem but when your partner becomes dominantly manipulative and controlling, it is only a matter of time before you lose yourself in that relationship.
Obsessive partners are controlling and very manipulative. They want to be the final say, scratch that, they want to be the only say in the relationship. They don’t take no for an answer. It’s either their way or their way. They pressure you till you cave in.
You know what happens with controlling behavior, it fasts degenerates into emotional abuse.
Let’s be real, most violent partners/ relationships don’t start out being outrightly violent. There are usually the tell tale signs.
These are the signs that you need to look out for.
It is okay to get jealous. I mean, who doesn’t get sweaty palms with threats? However, extreme and excessive jealousy is very dangerous.
Excessive jealousy is when your partner has a constant conversation in their head that you are cheating or will cheat and so puts extreme and dehumanizing measures in place to curb this.
Wait, isn’t love supposed to be accompanied with trust?
Trust is fundamental in a relationship. Excessively jealous partners don’t have this. They think their spouses are so vulnerable, they can cheat with anybody. They suffer so much insecurity, it is limiting their reasoning.
Another thing an obsessive partner does is help or mandates you to cut ties with your loved one. This is very dangerous. They try to pull off all plugs that may be your succor should their be a fall out. They are sometimes harsh and brash in their approach of severing ties or they may subtly orchestrate ways to let these loved ones go. They are skilled in manipulation so this is no feat at all.
How do they achieve this? They make you feel guilty. You eat and drink guilt. You never give them enough attention they say. They make it seem like the love they have for you is so overwhelming, they can’t live without you.
Messed up reasoning? Yup! Their reasoning is not only messed up, they mess with yours too.
Your self esteem begins to dwindle till you lose touch with reality.
Experts manipulators they are!
If your relationship is not in its early stages where infatuation is allowed to some extent, you may want to check out what those extreme traits you noticed in your partner is about.
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PEOPLE WHO HAVE ONLY SEX TO OFFER IN RELATIONSHIPS ARE THE ONES WHO GET JEALOUS & SUSPICIOUS – ALIBABA

As Comedian/Motivational speaker, Alibaba, shared via Instagram this morning.

“People who have only sex to offer are the ones who get jealous, suspicious and quarrelsome. You know why? Because they know that you might go out one day and find someone who has more than sex to offer. So what does that leave them? So they start to put their spouse in the defensive.

Go take a critical look at most of those relationships where the guy or babe has only one thing to offer, they will keep talking of security. They want reassurances always. Tell me you love. Promise you will not leave me. Are you sure you are not playing with me? Am I the only one in your life? Do you really love me? Are you tired of this relationship? Do you still love me? …. blah blah blah! When all you have is a hammer everything is a nail. That is what sums up these kind of people. That explains why they get so angry when you are away from them for so long. Their only stake in the relationships needs to be activated regularly to remain relevant in the scheme of things and in their spouses thoughts.

“That also explains why many who marry because the sex is good, find out later that good sex doesn’t pay bills. Neither does it cook, run the home, guarantee respect, make your spouse a person you can rub minds with and not skin. You see you may not know it, but I will tell you, you may be extremely beautiful. That is good. But like sex, if that beauty is all there is to you, in the relationship, the day that beauty is discounted by someone else who has brain and beauty body and cooking skills, with a good dose of home management, last last na modeling agency go need you. So you are a guy, and all you have in your value proposition brief case is muscles. Hiaaaaam. No common sense. Nothing else. So Iet’s look at the sex sef… after a while, its bargaining value in the relationships could diminish. When that happens what will be your new bargaining chip? Same goes for cash. I know a top society lady who married a big time Lagos big boy, when she knew he was in bad times, she vamoosed! And went to kids for another man. How could she? She could, and she did. Some people too, if the marry you because of your Dad’s political office, when the term of office is running out, they run out too.”
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THE FACT THAT I LOST MY HUSBAND DOES NOT MAKE ME A SINGLE PARENT’ – ACTRESS REGINA CHUKWU

Actress Regina Chukwu who lost her husband to the cold hands of death in June 2003, says she doesn’t like being referred to as a single mother. Speaking in an interview with The Nation, Regina said

“I don’t like being referred to as a single parent. The fact that I lost my husband does not make me a single parent. I just want to take God, for the way they have turned out to be. I am my daughter’s best friend”.

On why she hasn’t remarried, Regina says it is because of her kids.

“Actually, it is because of them that I decided not to remarry then. Like I said earlier, I won’t call myself a single parent, because I am Igbo. The fact that you have lost your husband does not mean that you are still not married to that family. So as it is traditionally I am still married to my husband family. I am still their wife and if they want to do any family function, I am considered and called upon. I still belong to the community wives meeting. When my husband passed away, I was called and asked if I wanted to remarry. The condition was for me to leave their children and go ahead. But I looked at my kids and they were still very young and I decided to stay. My children have been asking if I won’t remarry; they want a baby sister or brother. But I don’t know what God has in plan for me. I am open to whatever God is says will happen to me. If I decide to remarry now, it means whoever I want to get married to will pay my bride price and my parents will then go back to my late husband’s family to return the bride price they paid on me. It is tradition telling them this lady is no longer your wife. But when it is not done, I still remain their wife. I still paid my mother-in-law a visit last year”she said Regina says it hasn’t being easy being a widow “It hasn’t been easy. I started my career about 13 years ago and my kids were still very young at that time. But today, my daughter is 16 and my son is 14, I am grateful to God. But not that they are grown up, it gives me more time to be able to pursue my dream to the level I want to take it to. Not that I have attained that dream, because I am yet to receive some awards that I want my name on, but so far, it has been great. It is not that I don’t worry about their welfare, but I have my mom and my siblings to fall back on their wellbeing, wherever I am not around”.

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5 CHRISTIANS YOU DON’T WANT TO SIT BESIDE ON SUNDAY MORNING

After many years, I’ve finally uncovered the key to a healthy church-going experience: avoiding people. Not all people of course, but there are certain types of people you won’t see me hanging around on Sunday morning.

I know it may seem mean, un-Christian even! But trust me, it’s a necessity. A survival skill, of sorts. Avoiding awkward conversations, peer pressure, and distractions before, during, and after services has revitalized my whole church life.

This secret is something I’ve held very close to my heart, but now out of sheer kindness, I’m going to share with you my no-fail strategy on finding the safe zones at church.

Without further ado, here are the nine Christians you don’t want to sit beside on Sunday morning.

  1. The Unrequited Crush

Whether he won’t stop texting you or keeps asking you out on dates despite your polite declinations, it’s always a good idea to avoid The Unrequited Crush.

The Safe Zone: This safe zone is a lot less about where you are and more about who you’re with. Keep a safety zone of friends around and it’s much harder to get cornered. Bonus: by making sure you two are never alone, you don’t have to hear comments like, “You sure would make sure a cute couple!” Talk about an awkward moment.

  1. The Opera Singer

The Opera Singer has so much vibrato that there’s a rumor she’s the real reason the walls of Jericho came tumbling down. The great news is that God thinks this worship is beautiful. The bad news is you don’t. It can be quite the distraction during your time of worship.

The Safe Zone: You can sit as close as you’d like to the person, as long as it’s not directly in front of them. So you’re in the clear if you’re anywhere behind them, but I recommend a safe zone of three seats to their left or right.

  1. The Loud Whisperers

Loud Whisperers have this burning desire to comment on everything. Sadly, they were never probably taught to whisper. Unfortunately, Loud Whisperers tend to travel in packs so the occasional comment turns into a family discussion that’s almost as loud as the preacher himself.

The Safe Zone: Safe Zones may varies depending on a person’s volume but the only way to stay focused on the sermon is to stay out of earshot.

4. The Walking Bottle of Body Spray

Too much scented body spray. Maybe these people don’t have sensitive noses, or they don’t believe that there can be too much of a good thing. While it’s okay to approach these people for a quick hug, sitting near these toxic fumes can lead to a headache lasting all the way to Monday.

The Safe Zone: Your buffer radius should be one chair for every spritz of body spray. Five spritz? Sit five chairs away. Taking a step outside to breathe fresh air will help too.

5. The Volun-teller

Has someone ever volunteered you to do something without you actually volunteering? That’s what we in the church biz like to call being “volun-told”. Most churches have at least one person who’s always recruiting you to join their ministry without considering your schedule, gifts, or ability to serve.

The Safe Zone: No one is safe. I repeat: no one is safe! Volun-tellers can find you anywhere you are. They’re in the bathroom, the family room, even waiting next to your car. Always know where the nearest exit is and be prepared to duck into the supply closet.

By: Lindsey VanSparrentak

For: http://www.crosswalk.com/slideshows/9-christians-you-don-t-want-to-sit-beside-on-sunday-morning.html

 

 

 

 

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6 REASONS TO TRUST GOD IN THE MIDDLE OF YOUR MESS

When life gets messy, it’s natural for us to get stressed. Or angry. Or bitter. Especially when life takes a turn we didn’t expect – a broken engagement, the loss of a spouse, the diagnosis of cancer, the death of a dream.

Here are seven reasons to trust God with your tears and not stress when you’re in the middle of the mess:

  1. God is more compassionate than you realize.

Psalm 56:8 tells us that God not only sees our tears, he collects them. That means my hurt and yours is more precious to him than we can imagine. That kind of response from him means he’s trustworthy to work our situation out for our best.

  1. Your situation didn’t take God by surprise.

Just because it caught you off guard, doesn’t mean that God was clueless, too. Psalm 139 tells us that God is familiar with all our ways – where we’ve been, what we’re doing now, and where we’re going. Before there is a word on our tongues, he knows it completely. So, trust what he already knows. True faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen (Hebrews 12:1). So exercise true faith by being assured and convinced that God is in absolute control.

  1. God is much more capable of managing your life than you are.

We often believe we have the best solutions to our problems. In fact, there are times I’ve found myself suggesting to God what he ought to do in my particular situation. But Isaiah 55:8-9 assures us that his ways are higher than our ways, meaning his method and his timing in how he chooses to do things are so much better than ours. He is God and I am not. And that just might be what he’s trying to show you and me in the struggle we’re struggling to fix. So, plain and simple, give it to him. He can handle it.

  1. God can, at any time, clear up the mess. So wait for his timing and learn all he wants you to learn in the moment.

Romans 8:28 assures us that “God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to his purpose.” But the next verse tells us how God works things for good in our lives: “For those whom he foreknew, he also predestined to become conformed to the image of his Son….” There it is. God wants us to become more like his Son through our struggles. So be teachable. Be open to what he wants you to learn. And be moldable. You – and your heart – might be the one reason God has not yet fixed the situation.

5. God already has the problem solved.

Often we are looking for a certain resolution, before we will consider our problem fixed. But God looks to the details of our intentions and our very hearts. It’s possible the problem still exists because he’s working on something inside you right now, and then he’ll take care of the exterior situation.

6. A messy situation is one of the primary ways God awakens our need for him, grows our dependence on him, shapes our character, and draws us closer to himself.

Life consists of messes. They are not always because you’ve done something wrong. Sometimes they just happen. And often he allows it because he wants to draw us into a deeper dependence on him and show us a new side of himself. Those are the things that make our messes meaningful – they draw us closer to our Savior. I love how James 1:2-3 tells us to “consider it all joy” when we encounter various trials, knowing the testing of our faith produces endurance. “And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing” (verse 4).

God can be trusted. And he wants you to know that. Lean into him during this time and you will know what it means to “find meaning in the mess.”

 

By : Cindi McMenamin

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