Marriage pressure is one of the biggest challenges folks in their 30’s face. If you have experienced this, then this article is for you.
“Simisola, buy balloon na and do photo-shoot for your birthday”, Tayo said.
“Limme, I’m not buying balloon”
“Why nau? Buy jor so that we can post fine pictures on Instagram”
“Please you people should not go and display my age on my birthday on Instagram o”
Simisola’s 30th birthday was in a couple of days and she was sure her friends would want to announce her cross over to the world of the thirties. But Simi was vehemently against it. Tayo bullied, scolded and bashed her but she maintained her stand that she didn’t want a public announcement of her age. She just wasn’t ready for the questions friends and family would ask.
“So Simi, err… time is no longer on your side o, when are you getting married?’
Aunt Dayo her mother’s eldest sister had called her a couple of days ago full of praises. “SimiSimi peperempempe Peperempe, How are you my dear, your birthday is coming up soon o, Awon brother nko? when are we going to meet them, you are not getting younger o, don’t let your looks deceive you. Abi is there a problem? Shey you will come to my house let us discuss it. Plus Joke, that my friend, her son is back from the States, very fine boy….”
Her Mom had also called her to get ready for deliverance in her church soon.
Poor Simi, she’s beginning to think she has a problem and must marry the next man available.
So many ladies are in Simi’s shoes right now. The pressure from family, friends and the society is insane! Why are we like this sha?!
Society will force you to get married because according to them you are now “ripe for marriage”, saddling an otherwise good woman with a lifelong handicap.
We look upon a young unmarried lady as though she’s suffering from a vile disease just because she’s not married. A lady over the age of thirty soon becomes the butt of ridicule, accusations and meddling, by those around her. Of course there are many reasons a woman could remain unmarried – failed relationships, attitude, exposure, etc.
A lot of times people assume it’s because she has a bad character – in cases when it is, rather than ridicule them, why not help build and mold such women to be better.
Marriage is not the beginning and end of life. I have no doubt its meant to be beautiful and meaningful because it is God’s mandate, but only if you are in it for the right reasons with God’s leading, then it will be fine. Maybe not perfect but it will be fine. Please don’t make marriage seem like the highest possible achievement a woman can ever have.
There are so many young, impressionable women out there, what advice are we giving?
Be a better woman so God can send the right man your way or you better hurry up and marry the next available guy because time is no longer on your side.
We need to realize that at the end of the day titles are meaningless where genuine feelings are nonexistent.
Stop worshipping the RING! Nigerians also need to change the mentality that the life aim of every woman is to be married and have children. Don’t get me wrong please, I am definitely not in support of the “You don’t need a man team” Hollup! Lol. I definitely need a man, but biko, please, let us marry for the right reasons, not because we want to please friends and family.
No be so? Please advise Simisola.