Publisher, Betty Irabor, who has battled depression and attempted suicide in the past, shared a thoughtful piece on her Instagram page on Sunday.
In her write-up, the 63-year-old appealed to anyone suffering depression to seek help and deal with the root cause of their hollowness. According to Irabor, getting married, pregnant or buying material things, would not make them feel any better when the root cause of their depression hasn’t been dealt with. She wrote;
I was about 12 when I first saw a Rolls Royce. It’s owner was a guest of mum. Did I show off on that day? I earned renewed respect in the hood on Akinwunmi street.. well at least for few days! Sigh!! Yesterday I took the liberty of posing by this vintage monster of a ride In Warri. Na pose I pose o, I didn’t say it’s mine before you people will come for me!!
I remember thinking while in the throes of depression that as soon as my new ride arrived I would feel better. I didn’t feel better. And that’s how it goes on; when I get married I will feel better, when I am rich I will feel better, when I have children I will feel better, when I get that designer bag I will feel better, when I move into my new house I will feel better.
Truth is, things or people don’t make us feel better until we fix the cancer within and own up to the fact that we feel hollow within and need help. We carry around burdens and pains that we need to offload so we can travel light. We cannot fake true happiness, it expires as soon as we are alone and the reality of what we are masking hits us. We can lie to the world about how well we are on the outside but we can’t deceive our selves…
Life is about finding joy in little abundance and trusting that our current situation is only a part of our long journey….This present challenge is only a comma in a sentence and not the full stop…
Focus on what truly counts and live one day at a time. Most of us dont have it all figured out… na packaging…
Don’t give up on yourself, believe in endless possibilities and don’t focus on what could have been…
This is your time, make it count.
A woman, who was raped by a family member who is a reverend from the time she was 2 till she became pregnant with twins at 19, has told of how she suffered sexual abuse and how she was tied up and accused of luring her abuser after the truth came out.
The story of Mmanti Umor is one that reveals the heights of callousness but at the same time highlights the power of the unbroken human spirit.
Mmanti Umor was raped consistently from the age of 2 till she was about 19, she gave birth to twin babies as result of the incessant rape. She was also accused of being a witch who lured her abuser and was taken to a park, stripped and tied to a tree for one month.
Click on www.lindaikeji.tv to watch this heart touching story on ‘Life Lessons with Betty Irabor’.
Below is a sneak peek.
The C.E.O, Genevieve magazine, Betty Irabor launches her new fashion collection at the Lagos Fashion Week 2018, which started on Wednesday, 24th October 2018.
It would be recalled that Betty Irabor shared her story of coping with poor mental health a few months ago, and she wrote a book on it, titled ‘Dust To Dew’
As a mental health awareness advocate, she named her fashion line “The Dew Collection” after her book. This collection is dedicated to mental health awareness.
The sponsor of the collection is Patrick Ayanski and features designers such as Mai Atafo, Lanre Da Silva Ajayi, Style Temple, among others.
Morning has broken!! This evening at the Lagos Fashion Week, we take Mental Health awareness to the runway…to creating awareness for this mind disorder that is mental health.
This evening, Dew Collection by Betty will show case some very bold,fire ball pieces with fabrics by our Sponsor @patrickayanski and co sponsors/designers who threw their awesome weight behind this cause. We should never allow our pains to go to waste by not saving others from the same fate. Hopefully…we unveil the secrecy surrounding it and then fight the stigma.
Once again, I thank you all for your love and look forward to seeing you as we unveil the Dew collection.
On July 29th veteran broadcaster Soni Irabor and CEO of Genevieve Magazine Betty Irabor celebrated their 35th wedding anniversary , and to celebrate, the lovely couple have been sharing memories on social media.
Betty took to social media to share a photo from their 25th anniversary shot by renowned photographer, TY Bello.
She captioned the photo:
29th July!! Morning has broken! Blessing God for our 35th wedding anniversary today… (pic taken 10 years ago on our 25th anniversary by tybello) Through all the changing scenes of life… here’s to us 🥂❤️
We celebrate them
Betty Irabor, Editor in Chief celebrated her 60th birthday with a soul train themed party and it was a night to remember.
Betty Irabor was joined at the event by her husband Soni Irabor and daughter Sonia Irabor.
The party had so many celebrities and socialites including Rita Dominic, Stephanie Linus, Michelle Dede, Dele Momodu, Prof Pat Utomi, Olu Jacobs, Joke Silva, Tony Rapu, Nkoyo Rapu, Florence Ita Giwa, Hakeem Belo – Osagie, Mo Abudu, Ruth Osime, Chief Medina Ibru, Jimmy Shonuga, Adesuwa Onyenokwe, Victor Okigbo, Funmi Victor-Okigbo, Nkiru Anumudu among others.
Ozzy Agu, Meg Otanwa, Azuka Ogujiuba, Dr. Vivian Oputa, Eku Edewor, Peace Hyde, Monalisa Chinda and more were also spotted at the event.
The party which was hosted by Bovi had unforgettable moments like Musical chairs competition, Lip Sync Battle, and eventually a 70s inspired dance-off.
See the photos below.
The Fab Guests!
Time to Boogie!
Photo Credit: Genevieveng.com
Publisher of Genevieve Magazine turned sixty last week and she covers the latest edition of Genevieve Magazine, and again shares with the world her strugggles with Depression.
Read excerpts from Genevieve Magazine below
On what triggered the depression
Insomnia and menopause triggered the depression. This is something women don’t talk about but the reality now is that people go into menopause as early as 37. I went into menopause on the other side of 50 but the depression came later. It wasn’t diagnosed in time. I was simply told I was under severe pressure and was advised to close down or take two years off. I lost a lot of weight and people thought it was intentional. Thisday Glitterati wrote that I was anorexic.
After two years of going back and forth on the root cause, one day I asked my doctor if it was menopause related. He was surprised I was 50 and he admitted that it was likely to be menopause. I suffered depression for years until I made the decision to get out of it. In the morning, I didn’t want the blinds open. I did not socialise for two years and the depression took its toll on my skin as well as my emotions.
I would be having a conversation and randomly burst into tears. People were insensitive and made comments about me losing weight because I wanted to stay young but it was all based on ignorance. I am sharing this because we hide what could be helpful to others.
I had to deal with mood swings…one minute I was laughing, the next, I was moody. It was bizzare that I became afraid to socialise…my socialisation skills were hindered. I tried to avoid celebrity events so the cameras won’t catch me. I stopped looking in the mirror because I didn’t like what I saw. Really weird.
Doctors didnt detect it was depression early enough!
Not for a while. I think it finally dawned on my doctor when he asked me to describe exactly how I felt. I said I felt sad! Funny thing is he couldn’t understand why a woman who had it all could be depressed. “Is it your husband,” he asked. “No, I said.” “Do you have money issues?” he asked again. “No,” I responded and added, “all of us will be depressed if it was about money.” “Are your children not doing well in school,” he probed further. Once again, I said, “they are doing very well.” “Is it your magazine,” he asked helplessly. “No,” I said, “but it’s a lot of work but not enough reason for a melt down,” I assured him.
“Could it have anything to do with menopause and the fact that I suffer chronic insomnia?” I volunteered. “How old are you again?” he asked. I pointed at my age which was boldly written on my case file and then he went…. “Oh, its depression triggered off by insomnia and menopause. You’re losing weight because of the lack of sleep and loss of appetite.”
Read the full interview and how she overcame depression in the new edition of Genevieve Magazine