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16-year-old Maud Benson is determined to be the first female grandmaster in Ghana and she’s doing everything possible to achieve her goal. She’s already being hailed as Africa’s Queen of Chess.

Benson only started playing chess at 14 after her French teacher got her to join the chess club. Once she realized the game was helping her strategize perfectly, she stuck to it. Playing in junior competitions, she was the only girl who could comfortably compete with boys.

At age 13, she beat all the best female chess players on the Ghana team during the 2015 Team Championships. She gradually made her way into national competitions, like the Women’s Championship where she easily pushed adult players aside to win the tournament.

She soon moved on to international competitions like the African Junior U20 Chess Championship in Togo where she scored an impressive 6/9 last December.

On how far she wants to go in the game, she said:

“I want to be the first female grandmaster in Ghana. Yes, yes, chess will be a constant feature and, so far, it has taken me here.

I believe that chess will give me the platform to help in creating awareness for female chess in Ghana and Africa as a whole.”

Last February, she secured a spot on the national team representing Ghana at the Chess Olympiad in Georgia come September 2018.

(Photo: Ghana Chess Association)

 

Florida County has decided to dedicate a whole day to Nigerian-American actress, Sope Aluko to celebrate her rise in Hollywood.

Following her Black Panther role as the shaman, she will also be appearing in the movie Venom.

According to the news Aluko excitedly shared on her Instagram, Miami-Dade County has proclaimed April 10, 2018, as Sope Aluko Day — an honor she was presented by the county’s mayor and vice chairwoman.

Sope Aluko is also set to appear alongside Taraji P. Henson and this year’s ‘Best Supporting Actor’ Oscar winner, Sam Rockwell, in the upcoming period drama, The Best Of Enemies.

View her post below.

Layo Emmanuel is a Medical Doctor, Transformational Speaker, coach and a Bestselling author, For more than 6 years, she walked through life not knowing who she was or where she was headed. Her self esteem and confidence plummeted. Her studies were jeopardized and her marriage tethered on the brink of divorce. Layo got indebted  due to a fraudulent business partner and became the joke of the town in far away Ukraine where she lives with her Pastor husband

Layo almost lost it  but decided to take her fate into her hands and  took the long lonely road of finding herself and God given purpose in life. She wrote a book that became  an overnight Number Bestseller and  got featured by some of the most coveted media houses in the world – FOX news, ABC news, NBC, NewYork Chronicles and some others.  In her words “I  re-wrote my life story and turned my pain into passion . Here is my inspiring interview with her

 

Childhood Preparation

I grew up with a mum who was a banker and a dad who worked as an Engineer. I and my siblings grew up sheltered. Oh! My mum is the strictest of “Yoruba mothers.”

She wouldn’t even allow usrelate to the house helps we had living in the house with us. Neither will she let us speak with other neighbors in the compound.

So, I found myself growing up in the company of all manner of books alone. I mean educational books, magazines, novels etc. Those were the only things permitted in the house.

 

Meet Me

I am a #1 Bestselling Author and an international speaker. I trained as a Medical Doctor from a University in Europe. I’m also an ordained Pastor, a Pastors’ wives coach as well as a certified beauty coach.

But in reality …

I am simply a young woman who is determined to enjoy the best of three worlds and passionate to see that other women enjoy the same as well.

By the best of three worlds, I mean, I’m looking at women who are sound in their faith/spirituality. But then, they are disrupting the financial playground because they are loaded.

At the same time, they are living for and fulfilling a definite life assignment. Their home front is thriving. They are emotionally balanced and yes, they are stunners, in the sense of drop dead gorgeous.

All these for me sums up, enjoying the best of three worlds – Spirit, Soul, andBody.

My Best Selling book ‘The Survivor’

“The Survivor” details my journey on how I found my way out of the dark pit that life threw me into.

The goal is for anyone facing giant oppositions to get a hold of that book, apply the insights shared to their lives and come out winning.

Even, if a man has been condemned to spend his life in the worst Syrian prison, if he gets a hold of that book, he will be able to find his way out with the insights I share in it.

And believe me, Esther, the responses from people all over the world makes me believe that the book is achieving its aim.

In there, I detailed all the helpful secrets, truths, principles and tools that I stumbled upon in my lowest moments in life that helped me to “reinvent myself and transform my life.”

 

Serving pastors’ wives by helping them to find their place in the Ministry and shine in all their authenticity’

 I do that through my mentorship program for young pastor’s wives where I get one-on-one with the woman in question. With a series of tools and exercises, we come up with what her unique assignment ought to be in ministry and in life generally.

I also have a Young Pastor Wives Academy” which is an on-going membership community where I basically hold the pastor’s wives hands along their journey in ministry.

There, I aim to shed light on the peculiar challenges most Pastor’s wives experience at one time or the other. And I also proffer God approved solutions to the particular challenges and struggles members of the academy are experiencing.

Being a happy and fulfilled pastor’s wife is one of the hardest things to be in life. Truly, uneasy lies the head that wears the crown.

 

Other activities

I hold training and Masterclasses around programs whose aim is to enable women to thrive in their spirituality, finances as well as their physical wellness.

To this end, I created my flagship program

Reinvent Yourself In 90 Days Like A Boss(90 Days To Your Best Version Yet)” as well as “Turn Your Story To A Source Of Income In 30 Days.

With this, I teach women how to leverage their stories as their greatest platforms in life. Both to impact others as well as turning their stories into a financially rewarding venture.

 

Greatest reward

I have been invited to the Ukrainian Parliament to speak on National Transformation.  I havebeen featured in world-class media, Huffington Post, FOX News, ABC News, New York Chronicles and several others. I have shared stages with Media Influencers, Diplomats, Entertainment Stars, widely respected Pastors and all.

However, the greatest reward I have gotten is the gift of being free to be me.

I mean , there was a time in my life where I never thought I could amount to anybody outside my husband. There was a time, I didn’t think I could do anything by myself without the involvement of other people and it would succeed or thrive.

I would never have thought I could speak and people would listen simply because they believe I was dishing out something of value to them.

So, just being able to display my authentic self and gifts imperfectly to the world like I sometimes do is the greatest gift.

Managing It all

There is no “one size fits it all” answer to this question. There’s no perfect answer. But what I know is that I have a supportive husband, a supportive team and an understanding child.

They all make it seemeasier. Though, there are days I feel like I am drowning and there are days I feel like a boss, on top of it all.

I simply put one foot in front of the other per day and try to take each day as they come. Although, it helps that I’m a workaholic. I keep on working most times until I am stopped by my husband or one of my team members.

 

Giving up

I feel like giving up every now and then. Life just has a way of throwing darts at you especially when you are gunning to live a life of purpose.

So yes, every now and then, I feel like throwing in the towel but then I have trained myself not to enjoy such luxuries. At such times, I only resort to affirmations and confessions. Or I just put on an upbeat music and start dancing like a crazy woman.

Dancing like that has been proven to help release the happiness hormone in the body called serotonin. It most times combats cortisol which is the stress hormone.

 

Who and What inspires me to be better

It’s a nexus of things that inspired me. Firstly the intense dissatisfaction I felt in my soul for living an empty life.

Secondly Ted McGrath (one of my coaches who is also one of the highest paid transformational speakers in the world)

Lastly, funny enough, a Yoruba movie I watched a couple of years back also informed my desire to be better. The star actor in the film was “a down and out guy” who turned his experience in that movie into a book.

The book became an overnight hit – a bestseller.

As I watched, I thought to myself “girl, you can do this” that is, turn my life’s story into a Bestselling book. And it happened.

 

I am a Woman of Rubies

I have gone through fire. I have conquered. And every day, I keep defeating life’s demons that show up at my doorsteps in the name of challenges.

I also keep seeking to improve myself daily, to get better.

Also, like Dr. Myles Munroe said, I am pushing to see that I die empty haven blessed humanity with all that God has given unto me.

Besides this, I am living a life of freedom, one that is authentically me. I play as I want, laugh as I want and do the things I want to do no longer bothered about “societal acceptable standards.”

Now, I get on the pulpit in my ripped jeans and use words like “yeah” or “def” when I am preaching and God is still present strong in the meeting.

And I, on the other hand,feel super comfortable, no longer feeling inferior that I don’t talk or look like the picture-perfect pastor’s wife.

 

Final word for women all over the world

To young women, the world over, know that no one makes the rules by which you must live in this life. You make the rules by yourself with the sum total of information you expose yourself to and the purpose you were given to live out.

I recommend first, the Bible to you as your primary navigation system in life. Then, every other book. Please, don’t forget financial education in all ramifications.

And if you don’t read any other fiction in your life, do read – Master Of The Game by Sidney Sheldon.

While at it, plan never to be defined as Mrs. Somebody. Rather, ruthlessly invest in yourself and be all that God will have you be on earth.

Then carry a value that not even the richest oil reserves in the United Arab Emirates can pay for enough in terms of bride price.

Even as a woman, the world is a magical garden but you will have to create your own magic with your own hands. A good place to begin from is the thoughts of your heart and the utterances of your mouth.

If I can go from losing myself in my marriage, losing over a hundred thousand dollars in debt, and becoming pregnant right at the verge of a divorce to finding myself where I am today, then anyone can do the same too. 

You too can do the same.

Two weeks ago, media mogul Mo Abudu announced that EL TV had signed a distribution deal with Sony Pictures and are already in talks to distribute three series around the world.

In her latest interview with CNN, Mo talks about what to expect with the TV series about women warriors of Dahomey as it will be the first to be produced.

Watch her interview below.

Popular Relationship Blogger, Elsie Godwin launches her book titled; Oya Start Blogging in Lagos, Nigeria.

The book which teaches both the young and old about the intricacies of blogging and how to go into it has eight chapters of insightful wisdom and knowledge which are timely and quite contemporary.

In her words, “the aim of writing this book is to get more people blogging beyond the bounds of mere gossip. I want them to embrace blogging as a tool for change.”

“There is a great need to pass on this knowledge about the blogosphere especially where there are lots of heresies about blogging from several quarters.”

Elsie who has won several awards globally was featured in the Top 20 Relationship Blogs across the globe in 2017.

Oya Start Blogging is a carefully crafted body of work by Elsie Godwin, detailed and rich with information that are positioned not only to right the wrong perception created by a few about blogging in the eyes of the right thinking world, but to inspire even more creative, conscious and capable minded that have thoughts about becoming bloggers, writers or any other form of literary connoisseur in Nigeria to pick up their pen and bleed the ink on the papers for the world to embrace, enjoy and be informed.

The 31 page book has already started gaining global attention as top bloggers across the globe are said to have requested a copy of the book.

She further encouraged Nigerians to promote the reading culture among the citizens, stating that there is a need to look into the books and guides to succeed in life.

To celebrate her birthday, the book can be downloaded for free for the next 7 days via HERE (https://www.elsieisy.com/oya-start-blogging-elsie-godwin/ )

Elsie Godwin is an On-Air-Personality, social media consultant, influencer, Transcriber and blogger behind the award-winning Literary, Lifestyle and Relationship blog ELSiEiSY.COM, and the TV show – Crux of the Matter. She also has a corner on Guardian Life Nigeria where she writes her opinion on Relationships and Lifestyle related matters. She also co-hosts HeartMatters on Lagos Traffic Radio (96.1FM).


She is passionate about raising awareness on the fight against Rape, Domestic Violence, Sex education and Sexual Health, Mental Health Issues, struggles of orphanages, Sickle Cell Diseases and societal stigmatization.

At the last Commonwealth Games in Glasgow, Nigerian para powerlifter, Esther Oyema set a world record in women’s lightweight by lifting 126kg. Now, she has just smashed the record by lifting an incredible 131kg at the 21st edition of the games taking place in Gold Coast, Australia.

The feat gave Oyema a total of 141.6 points to claim gold in the division. While this is her third consecutive Commonwealth title, it’s not the first time the Paralympian is breaking her own record in powerlifting. In 2015, she won a gold medal at the All-Africa Games by lifting 133kg and beating her previous record of 126kg.

Nigeria has dominated para powerlifting since it was introduced in the games in 2010. Oyema’s main competitor was Lucy Ejike who won silver with a lift of 134.1kg.

Source: konbini.com

Media personality, Toke Makinwa has opened up on her recent surgery and the challenges she has faced in past months of this year and how she has managed to overcome, in an honest post.

Talking about how this year has been for her, she wrote:

“Long and honest post alert***
I like to think I’m strong, I like to think my mind is positive and I’m out here focused on me, building to have a better life than I’ve had and just trying to leave this world a better place. Watching this clip broke me because this has been my state of mind this year.

The devil targeted my mind. He tried to make me lose my mind!!!! Somehow strong TM started to live in a lot fear and doubt and the fear quickly turned to depression. I could sell out my bags or kill it at a stage play or smash another milestone in my career and be so happy today and wake up sad the next.

The devil started planting words of uncertainty in my heart and I started to drift. I started to feel unworthy and it was a strange feeling I had a very important procedure and I didn’t tell anyone simply because a part of me wanted out from it.

(Can you believe the cheek), last week I went into surgery and as the doctors did their thing, Jesus did his. He was there to lift all the unnecessary burden and give me a new heart and as I woke up I felt different. I felt chosen, I felt like I went thru a re-birth and I share this because someone out there is struggling too…..

 

See her Instagram post below

Nigerian born Pamela Anomneze has been invited to attend the royal wedding of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle.

Kensington Palace named Pamela amongst the favoured 1200 guests expected to share the best moments with Harry and Meghan on the grounds of Windsor Castle where they will be joined together in holy matrimony on May 19, 2018, at St George’s Chapel.

Other members of the public who have been specifically selected by regional lord lieutenant offices include a primary school teacher, David Gregory, from Blyth, Northumberland and 12-year-old Amelia Thompson, who was caught up in the Manchester Arena bombing last year.

How Pamela Anomneze got on the list

Pamel Anomneze didn’t just get on the list of the 1200 invited guests for Prince Harry and Meghan Markle’s royal wedding on a platter of gold, she was nominated.

According to Kensington Palace, Prince Harry and Meghan Markle had asked for 600 of their guests to come from a range of backgrounds and ages, including young people who have shown strong leadership, and those who have served their communities.

The other 600 guests are are expected to be people with whom Meghan and Prince Harry have a direct relationship.

For Pamela, her activities at  the Studio 306 Collective, a not-for-profit organisation that helps people recover from mental health problems, might have been spotted by the regional lord lieutenant office.

Studio 306 Collective consists of a group of skilled arts and craft practitioners, who have come together to empower disadvantaged local individuals by offering a creative space for those who are recovering from mental illness.

An excited Pamela said:

“I got an email informing me, and I thought it was an April Fools’ Day prank.”

Describing the invite as truly unbelievable, Pamela said Prince Harry and Meghan Markle were the world’s most beautiful couple.

A resident of Haringey, Pamela explained that she will be attending the wedding with her 15-year-old son, Jude, who went on his knee to plead make a case for himself.

“He used to watch Suits. When I came home and informed him of the invite he was down on his knees begging to go. He said ‘Oh mum, just to get a glimpse of Meghan Markle!”

Source: Pulse

By my 5th year at the university, I had grown enough balls and bravery to look him in the eye and say ‘go to hell’. It was not always like that. For 2 years, I cowered like a coward.

‘Prof S wants to see you’ The course rep said over my shoulders. I turned around to be sure he was addressing me. ‘What for?’ I asked.

‘He did not say. He just said to bring you to his office at the end of the lecture’.

My instinct told me I was about to be sexually harassed again by this one. I was not surprised. This would not be my first experience, I was only taken aback as the professor in question is highly respected for his intellectual prowess and definitely the mould of grey hair that stuck above his Ankara blouse. I did not even realise how much of grey hair he had until ‘we’ began to tussle in his office later.

‘No problem’ I retorted as I typed away frantically on my phone. ‘I need to inform my friend, she has been waiting for us to go back to the hostel together’ ‘Don’t worry, her class is on the same block as the prof’ I added.  

The course rep and I walked to prof’s office in silence. He tried to make small talk but I was not in the mood. My mind was preoccupied with thoughts of how I would scale through yet another harassment. I had also sent SOS to my friend who had not actually been waiting for me to leave wherever she was and meet me in front of the professor’s office. We were planning on how to frustrate the randy man in our little way.

‘Hey, I am so sorry I kept you waiting’.

‘It’s okay, I just finished a lecture as well’. She responded.

‘Professor S wants to see me’. I continued. ‘I won’t be long’

At that moment, I wondered why my girlfriend was not into theatre art or some form of screen play. She acted so convincingly one would think she had actually been waiting.

The course rep knocked on the door, curtseyed and beckoned on me to come in. I looked back briefly at my friend and did the sign of the cross. She would be outside till she hears a scream or bang and then knock raptly on the door till the lecturer opens. And, I will escape. Plan, check.

‘Good evening sir’.

‘Elelubo, how are you? Course rep, please excuse us’. The course rep exited the office as the randy old man told me to bolt the door. Like a lamb going to slaughter, I stood up and bolted the door, my destiny now in whatever game I could play behind those doors.

‘You know what I want I’m sure. I have been informed you would not be of much trouble’.

If this would help understand where I was coming from, I did not have too many friends in class in my 2nd year at the University. My friends were in other departments so I would usually dash off after lectures to be with them. When the man told me he had been informed of my waywardness (the inference I drew from his statement), I was beyond gobsmacked. Why would a course rep who barely knew me sell me so cheaply?

‘Daddy, that’s not true’ I knelt as I feigned a cry.

‘I am your daughter. I don’t know who told you that and why they said that about me but it isn’t true sir’

‘Stop calling me Daddy’ he bellowed, ‘I am not your Dad’

At this point, I knew whatever script we had (my friend and I) written was not going to work. This was clearly a man on heat, bent on having his way.

Change of tactics…..

‘I beg in the name of God, don’t do this to me’

He moved very close to my face. His groin area directly on my face as he cupped the back of my head and repeated hit my face on what was now a hard-on.

I sprung to my feet and made for the door, the same one I bolted myself. He came after me. Oozing like a goat on heat. My mind darted to the lecture on MUSK GLAND and I managed a giggle, of course, in my head. This is going out of hand.

‘Come back here! Behave yourself! What is wrong with you?’

‘No Sir, no sir’ I muttered amidst fake tears. Why the tears never became actual is beyond me to this day. Maybe because I thought we had nailed a plan so I was sure of an escape. What I didn’t realise at that point was that the thick curtains and heavy doors in Prof S’s office were sound proof or at least noise barriers.

He launched at me, pinning me to the wall, and tried to get my face in a kiss position. Then I fought, the tussle was becoming very real with loud bangs and my friend has not come to door. I fought really hard. I started to push him. I kicked his legs even.

When he saw that I was not backing down, he relaxed. He told me I had hit him. I said sorry. Anything to placate him and earn my freedom will do at this time.

‘Are you sure you will not give in?’ ‘Remember you have CRP 203, CRP 302, CRP 401. You are stuck with me for at least another 3 years’.

‘God will help me’. I had said this without thinking it would infuriate him further.

‘Get out!’ ‘Get out of my office!’

I was by the door all along. I quietly unbolted the door and stepped out. It seemed like I had been in there for hours. My friend said I was barely 7 minutes. She said she thought we were having a conversation.

She was there for me but she never heard the bangs!

I escaped that one again.

How I faired, developed guts and graduated is a story for another day but in my 5th year, I made him pay.

Today again, I wish to spotlight the ailment that would have been better off terminal but still persists. The same one that has defied several measures. The very one that permits girls and boys to offer monetary kindness to lecturers in exchange for good grades. This one that allows young girls offer their bodies for marks and very outrageously, encourage young boys offer girls as slaughter lambs to randy lecturers.
My course rep denied ever telling the Professor anything about me but honestly, he can try another line. His come-back was so unconvincing, I wondered how many more he had offered.
There is too much rot in this system. The very root of what ails the system is difficult to challenge.
Maybe, just maybe, social media shaming and naming will do it. But in the meantime, we will not stop this sensitization and empowerment.
#HEAL
#HEALoclock

Speaking about completing Half of a Yellow Sun in her little studio apartment, Adichie said:

“It was so emotionally draining. I cried… Days would pass and I wouldn’t shower. I wouldn’t pick up my phone.”

According to her, Half of a Yellow Sun was the book she felt her “ancestors wanted [her] to write”. So, after she had completed it, she felt free to loosen up as a writer; a decision she thought her third book, Americanah, would suffer for.

About her state of mind while writing Americanah, Adichie continued:

“I was no longer feeling this sense of being the dutiful daughter of literature and that I wanted to follow the rules. You know what? I felt I had earned the right to write a terrible book.”

Well, she didn’t end up writing that terrible book she expected — instead, she created her most successful work yet, which she describes as her “fuck you” book. You can read a little excerpt from the interview, which is set to drop on April 19, right here.