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Since Saidy Brown tweeted about her status, thousands of people all over the world have re-shared her hopeful message, with many praising her courage for speaking publicly about her own experience with the virus.

Activist Saidy, who describes herself as an HIVictor in her Twitter bio, has been speaking to the BBC about the extraordinary reaction to her post, why it took so long for her to be diagnosed and how she is turning a predicament to a cause.

Meet Saidy

I am a 21 year old girl from a small township in the North West called Itsoseng,I am a sister,a daughter a niece and an HIVictor.

Finding out

When I was 14, I went to a youth day event to represent my school. At the event there were people who do HIV tests, counselling and everything else.

“When we got there, they asked us if we would like to test. I was one of the people who got tested. That’s how I found out.

“I was shocked, I was in denial, I couldn’t believe it. I was only 14 at the time so I was like: ‘How? I’m only 14… I haven’t done anything. How?’

“But when I got home and told my aunt and she was the one who told me that no, I’d actually been born with it. My parents had died from Aids-related diseases, which I had never known.

“My mum passed away when I was 10, my dad when I was nine.”

Living with HIV

I initially wanted to cry, but I couldn’t because I knew that if I cried, everyone else would know before I even tell them, so I just kept it to myself. I was confused though, I mean, I was 14,I could not understand how I could possibly have HIV. “I have not necessarily been discriminated against. I can say that I was discriminating against my own self, from around 14 until I was 18, because I didn’t want to talk about it. Only my family knew; no-one else. Once I reached 18 I decided to start disclosing. It’s been better and wiser. “Where I come from [Itsoseng, a small town in South Africa’s North West Province], I’m the first person to ever come forward and talk openly this way about my status. “But the response and the support is there because whether it’s me or someone else, the reality is that people are living with HIV, whether we talk about it or not.” “

Viral tweet that got people’s attention all over the world

I feel happy at the fact that people saw that tweet and they were interacting, meaning we were talking about a subject that is deemed “unspoken”, so I was happy. I’ve always disclosed my status. I started disclosing it when I was 18. I usually use Facebook to talk to people about HIV and Aids,” she says. “But I’ve been having this urgent feeling to post it on Twitter, so it wouldn’t be just limited to my Facebook friends. I needed the world to get into conversations about this virus.”

Love life

“I’m in a relationship currently. It’s very amazing because usually I disclose right at the beginning of the relationship. “So once the person decides that they want to stay with me then it’s all good, but if they decide to leave, it’s still fine.

“I won’t hate them because people still have their own issues regarding HIV. I don’t really blame the person who says: ‘No I can’t stay with you because you’re HIV-positive’. I’ve had someone say that to me in the past. It hurt a lot. But after a while they came back and apologised. We’re on speaking terms now, it’s fine. I’ve forgiven them.”

What Inspires Me

I am inspired by my courage to live despite everything bad that comes my way, my fighting spirit.

Turning my Predicament to Passion

I knew that pity was only gonna kill me. I wanted to speak up for my parents as well, because I feel like had they been more accepting, they probably would still be here.

Scared of death?

Yes, I have been through stages where I genuinely thought I was going to die at some point, as I stated in that tweet,  never expected to even see my 18th birthday.

Staying healthy

“I’m really not a person who is more conscious about what I eat, but I make sure that I take my pills at the right time every night. I don’t skip them.

Connecting with other “HIVictors”

Currently, I just connect to most people through social media, it has been a great help in me getting my story across. Having people tell me that I gave them a new meaning to life, that my story encouraged them not to give up, especially my fellow HIVictors, is a reward for me.

HIVictors who inspire me

I love Criselda Dudumashe, I also love my big sister and mentor Lebogang Brenda Motsumi. They give me all the hope in the world.

My strength and fighting spirit makes me a Woman of Rubies

The fact that I don’t let my conditions define me. That I fight for healing and once I have healed,I fight to heal everyone else in the similar situation.

Message to women living with HIV

I need for them to understand that the past can never be changed, but we can control our futures… we are not victims, we are HIVictors.

Marriages are falling apart and that is no news. What is news is the way and manner at which the institution is breaking. Our forefathers clearly understood the purposes of marriage and placed optimum values on the marriage institution. These days, however, people have little or no respect for marriages.

I think people are more in love with the idea of getting married than the married life itself, and I stand to be corrected. Do you know the level of planning, excitement etc that women especially put into their wedding? The hair must be right, the makeup great, the outfits perfect, the venue wonderful, the food and drinks amazing, the music and entertainment outstanding. In fact, everything must be perfect. However, little or no plan is put into the marriage on how to face the expected challenges that comes with it. What often happens is that after the glitz of the ceremony, the day breaks and the challenges comes, you see the couple falter and give up even without trying.

Truth is, marriage is as hard as life. Life is hard, but you see us trying to survive and conquer all odds to be successful in life. But we hardly make such efforts to survive our marriages and conquer all odds to be successful at it. We give up and use every available excuses to defend ourselves. I will try to analyse the various angles to the recent breakup of the marriages of Tonto Dikeh and Ubi Franklyn, the best way I can, bearing in mind that there are three sides to a story, your side, my side and the truth.

Ubi Franklyn fell out with his acclaimed girlfriend Emma Nyra and went public with gory details about her, painting her black and him white. In the same process, he got engaged to Lilian Esoro and they went ahead and got married. Lilian Esoro was matured enough not to speak about Ubi and Emma Nyra’s controversy, but she married him because they were in love right? After their grand wedding, Lilian and Ubi would put up happy pictures and cryptic words showing them living their lives on social media. Meanwhile, there were were already cracks in the wall, and it finally happened few months after the birth of their son.
Lilian walked out of the marriage citing almost the same issues that Emma Nyra claimed she went through in her relationship with Ubi.
My question is, why make so much effort to show a façade on social media when it’s not the reality of that marriage?

Now, Tonto Dikeh got married to Olakunle Churchhill in a secret wedding that shocked everyone. While I gave kudos to her for managing to keep her relationship out of the public until they wedded, I was mostly impressed that she seemed to have turned a new leaf. What with all the inspirational and almost spiritual messages she would often post on her wall, her fans were ecstatic for her. I got a bit worried when she would post every little thing about her marriage on social media. She would write epistles on special occasions and eulogise her husband, calling him all sorts of nomenclatures and praising God for giving her such a loving husband. I felt that all was not well, and that it was a desperate attempt to cover up something and create a different picture from reality.

And suddenly the cookie crumbled, now Tonto is singing a different song. There has been accusations and counter accusations from both parties, the husband whom Tonto used to paint as a demi-god has now become the devil himself. The most funny of them all is Tonto’s recent claims that she lied on social media to paint her husband in a good light. That is absurd because we didn’t ask you if your husband was a saint or not, we didn’t even need to know if he was the perfect husband or not period!

A lot of responsibility of the marriage is placed on women, especially christians. This is because we are homemakers, we are builders, we are shapers. Remember that the Holy book says ‘whoever finds a wife finds a good thing’. It didn’t say a woman will find a husband. It is the man that will find a wife, and she will be a good thing to him.

Make no mistake ladies, we have roles to play in our men’s lives. We have the power and ability to build, shape and make our homes into what we want it to be. We shouldn’t give up on them just because there are issues, rather we should help them get the help they need as the case may be and if that doesn’t work we would know we tried our best.
Don’t waste so much energy displaying perfection on social media, and to the world… instead of building your home. It should be the other way round. Ask God for the ability to forgive all wrongs, conquer every challenge and survive the odds in marriage. Don’t live a lie; if your spouse sees your effort in making the marriage work, he/she will join you and you will both make sacrifices for the good of the home.

My 2 cents, see you next week.

Akudo Abengowe-Adebayo is a multiple award winner, with over 8 years in the media industry. She also hosts (Love Moments With Akudo) and is CEO of SATT Media, a content and media marketing company. She blogs at Akudosworld.
She is married with two adorable kids and loves Jesus with all her being. She is a TV addict, loves dancing and traveling, and a lil gossip now and then. Follow her on twitter@akudoabengowe or instagram@akuabengo

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The journey to having and maintaining a healthy, long, and full natural hair is not an easy one and if you are not a patient person, it can be quite frustrating. Doing the ‘Big Chop’ takes a lot of courage and determination, most especially for people that don’t really fancy low-cut. But hey, the whole natural hair must-do routine which includes weekly or bi-weekly shampooing, conditioning, deep conditioning, protein conditioning, GHE, pre-pooing, daily-spritzing, wearing a satin bonnet/sleeping on a silk or satin pillowcase, etc, will be worth it in the long run…only if you exercise patience.

Let’s check out photos of five Nigerian celebrities that are really inspiring and giving us serious natural hair goals!

OMONI OBOLI

 

ADESUA ETOMI

 

 

BEVERLY NAYA

 

 

DI’JA

 

 

NSE IKPE ETIM

Rihanna received the 2017 Harvard University Humanitarian of the Year Award at Harvard University’s Sanders Theatre yesterday, on February 28, 2017, in Cambridge, Massachusetts.

Rihanna was honoured because of her work in her native island of Barbados and the charities she has founded over the years, the Harvard Foundation for Intercultural and Race Relations.



During the ceremony, Rihanna thanked the university for the honor and delivered an inspiring speech.

Florence Adepoju worked on make-up counter in Lakeside Shopping Mall in Essex, when she was just 17 and studying for her A-levels at sixth-form college.

She noticed the lack of make-up suited to darker skin tones, so she decided to start her own makeup line one day.

She later studied Cosmetic Science at the London College of Fashion, where she did her dissertation on how colour affects different people’s perception of lipsticks.

As part of her dissertation, Florence put together a business plan and social media campaign. This eventually helped her to apply for a business grant from the college, which she used to set up a business.

She launched MDMflow, a lipstick line of bold, bright, highly pigmented colours designed to suit black women.

MDMFlow takes its inspiration from the mid-nineties to early-Noughties hiphop videos that Florence grew up with, and features a range of lipsticks in richly pigmented shades of black, blue, orange and pink.

Florence’s lipstick line which started producing from her parents’ garden shed is now being stocked in Topshop.

In an interview with FEMAIL she says:

‘I was struck by the lack of choice there was for women with darker skin,’

‘Brands would bring out limited-edition capsule collections, but none of the make-up would suit me; the foundation wouldn’t be dark enough or the lipstick wouldn’t be bright enough. I always found it disappointing.’

‘I worked at Space NK throughout university, and people were always requesting shades like blue, but there weren’t many on the market,’ Florence said.

‘They’d see people like Rihanna wearing crazy colours and they’d want to copy her.’

 

Beautiful Oscar winner Viola Davis is the cover star for People Magazine‘s latest issue.

In the magazine, the actress opens up and talks about the struggles of growing up in poverty and how her talent propelled her to success later in life.

Read excerpts from the interview below

On Growing Up in Poverty

I was the kind of poor where I knew right away I had less than everyone around me. We had nothing, I cannot believe my life, I just can’t, I’m so blessed. I would jump in trash bins with maggots looking for food, and I would steal from the corner store because I was hungry, I never had any kids come to my house because my house was a condemned building, it was boarded up, it was infested with rats. I was one of those kids who were poor and knew it.

It became a motivation as opposed to something else — the thing about poverty is that it starts affecting your mind and your spirit because people don’t see you, I chose from a very young age that I didn’t want that for my life. And it very much has helped me appreciate and value the things that are in my life now because I never had it. A yard, a house, great plumbing, a full refrigerator, things that people take for granted, I don’t.

On deciding to become an actress

I first envisioned myself as an actor after I watched Cicely Tyson in The Autobiography of Miss Jane Pittman when I was a child.

It wasn’t until then that I had a visual manifestation of the target I wanted to hit, It also gave me hope for the future and a different life for myself, she helped me have a very specific drive of how I was going to crawl, walk, run from that environment.

Remember the Danshiki sisters? Mirian Chinyere Ugokwe, Lilian Chioma Ugokwe and MarySonia Chizoba Ugokwe,  three sisters from same parent have once again created an Afrocentric emoji, called AfreekMoji.

AfreekMoji is a medium these sisters and entrepreneurs hope to share and educate the world about their beautiful African culture.

The sisters, aged 22 and 21 years old (Mirian and Lilian are twins), were born and raised in Aba, Nigeria, but they presently live in the US.

They are also the founders of Danshikipride, an international African clothing business.

With parents who are entrepreneurs, these siblings had always wanted to be entrepreneurs too, so, when they moved to the United States in June 2007, they decided to keep their African upbringing alive.

 

 

Hello again everybody.

This month I am going to give you tips that will be useful. This is an excerpt of one of the seminars I have given. At the end there is also a testimonial from a mid fifties lady who has been on two of our challenges. Our challenges really try to replace bad lifestyle habits with good lifestyle habits. They are simple and very doable. We have another 30day challenge starting on the 1st of March. Email me at olamideb@awakenlifestyles.com if you want to join. Remember if you want to go fast, go alone; If you want to go far, go in a group.

1.Drink water

Our bodies are made up of 50-75% water and this decreases as we age. Besides helping us lose weight, water helps nutrition work, ⅔ of the water in our bodies is intracellular (inside the cells) and ⅓ is extracellular, which circulates between cells and inside organs, supplying nutrients and excreting waste.
Research shows that obese people who drank 2 cups of water before each meal over a 3-month period lost 5 pounds more than those who didn’t. 1 year later, the water drinkers had kept more of that weight off.

2. Sleep
How much you sleep AND the quality of your sleep will affect nearly every aspect of your daily life, so it’s important to get the sleep you need every night. Proper sleep is critical for stress management, weight and overall health.
Inadequate sleep leads to an increased chance of developing obesity by 23% with just 6 hours of sleep per night and 50% with just 5 hours per night, and 73% with 4 hours per night.
Lack of sleep disrupts circadian rhythms and can lead to inefficient body regulation of energy balance, metabolism, and appetite.
Abnormal leptin and ghrelin levels – hormones that tell your body “I’m full, stop eating” – can go away with too little sleep.
Said simply: Sleep more, eat, and weigh less! Strive for 7-8 hours of sleep each night.

Stress:
Increases The Hormone Cortisol and makes our bodies crave carbohydrates and increases appetite
Makes our bodies store fat around the midsection

We can gain weight even if we don’t eat more due to stress
Contributes to Major Illnesses like heart disease, depression, obesity and poor mental health

3. Exercise
Physical activity is defined as any bodily movement produced by skeletal muscles that requires energy expenditure.
Examples of exercise. Walking, jogging, cycling ,dancing , swimming.

Physical inactivity has been identified as the fourth leading risk factor for global mortality causing an estimated 3.2 million deaths globally.
From a health standpoint, exercise can be more beneficial than simply being at a healthy weight.
Besides burning calories, exercise is also important because when you exercise your body releases endorphins, which make you feel good and motivate you to eat well, do your job well and simply be happy
A growing body of evidence has shown that normal weight couch potatoes are more vulnerable to all causes of death, especially heart disease, than overweight people who exercise
Exercise for an exercise goal, not for a weight goal
Strive to be active at least 30 minutes every day to help keep your body strong and lean. Remember it doesn’t have to be expensive.

4. Eat Right
Feel empowered by putting the most nutrient rich foods in your body. When you focus on how good you feel when you fuel yourself with the best foods you will continue to be motivated to eat these foods.  The benefits from skin health to weight loss, and all that’s in between, will follow.

Eat Real Carbohydrates not processed food. Replace refined carbohydrates like bread, pasta, cereal, with complex carbohydrates like fruits, vegetables, whole grains, nuts, seeds, and legumes. Complex carbs are also packed with antioxidants that help reduce inflammation in the body.

Eat healthy fats.
A common misconception is that fat should be completely eliminated. In reality, we could not live without fat. The body utilises dietary fat for energy, healthy hair, skin, nails, vitamin absorption, and normal everyday bodily functions. Good fats promote several health benefits such as protection against heart disease, cancer, Alzheimer’s, depression and it can reduced blood pressure and lower cholesterol. Choose sources such as nuts, seeds, fish, avocados, and extra virgin olive oil.

Eat lean protein
Our bodies require protein to continuously renew and replenish our cells, stabilise our blood sugar, and give us energy.  Our bodies are literally made out of the amino acids that make up protein in our food.
Many foods contain protein, but the richest sources include animal products like meat, dairy, eggs, and fish as well as plant sources like beans, quinoa, nuts, and seeds.
Fruits and vegetables are high in fiber, which slows digestion and promotes stable blood sugar levels.

Eat Breakfast
By eating a hearty breakfast, you’ll give your metabolism a jumpstart and be in better control of your cravings.
When we miss our first fuel of the day, we are often hungry by mid-morning and more likely to engage in mindless nibbling, snacking, overeating, and over compensating for any calories “saved” by skipping breakfast.  Studies repeatedly show daily breakfast consumption is associated with maintaining a healthy weight.

Eat at regular times
It’s important to balance your food intake throughout the day to help maintain normal blood sugar and decrease the chances of binging when hunger strikes.
Keep track of what you eat. Try to avoid frying foods by learning how to roast or bake, and eat more raw foods to boost flavor and cut calories. Also try experimenting with herbs and spices to reduce salt intake. The healthiest foods are those found just as nature intended – whole and unprocessed. When was the last time you saw an ingredient list on a stalk of vegetable or a fresh fish

5. Live Deliberately

Our surroundings impact our mental and physical healthy. Improve your work and home environments:
■ A clean and organized work space increases employee productivity
■ Keep a clean and organized bedroom
■ Have a designated place for everything
■ Label items and folders
■ Use plants to help circulate air

6.Nurture and pamper yourself

Treating yourself to something special can have great emotional and physical impact
Time spent caring for yourself is valuable: massage, bubble bath, manicure , etc.

It is obvious that many things need to be in sync for us to be in optimum health. Don’t worry, it is like driving. When you don’t know how to, it seems difficult but when you know how to, it is very easy. These are general guidelines and the specifics may differ from person to person.

Testimonial from KI
Where do I start? I guess back to 2013 with my Cambridge diet. So I had a nice round happy face and weighed 92kg. A comfortable size 18 and then shirts started gaping at the bust line and skirts began to get snug and would ride up and crease all day long. Had heard of Cambridge but thought, too drastic!

However I really needed to shed the weight, so I dove in. Good results, because 6 months later, I was 75kg, my target weight. And down to size 14 and happy as a lark. This was April 2014. I could swear by Cambridge and mocked everyone who put the weight back on. I told them to eat right…but did I know what eat right was? I had dropped a few bad habits, but did I really know what was bad for me?? I thought bread, cakes, sweets….I was right, but didn’t know the whole story.

So come October 2016, I was 79.6kg. Praised myself though that I had done well to keep of the 17kg that I’d lost but couldn’t seem to shed the 4.6kg. Tried all kinds of diets, would drop 1kg put back 2Kg. Yo-yoed for a while. Got myself the Cambridge products and couldn’t seem to muster up the will power past 1 week. Had tossed out all big sizes, so dilemma! My size 14 clothes were tight. The first 2-3kgs you gain, your clothes are still fine. I was up almost 5kg and miserable.

So my lifestyle change started when I received the GET.IT.TOGETHER 30 day weight adjustment challenge flyer. My motivation? I needed to lose weight – 5kg. I’d seen LB’s physical change and believed something must be right here. I also liked the idea of weight adjustment…not diet!

So along came the 1st lesson, before takeoff…No flour, no sugar. I have preached that to everybody who cares to listen. That’s the starting point and we can keep whatever weight off by simply cutting out on these two “killers”.
Week 1 menu and after the 1st week I weighed in minus 2kg. Compared it to my Cambridge plan, then I weighed in minus 2.7kg but no food…only porridges, shakes and soups.

I was thrilled to high heavens. Because that 1st week, I had era, I had sweet potatoes, I had salads, chicken, fish, boiled eggs/omelets! And lost 2kg! First real diet where I was eating and losing weight. I was hooked.

My work takes me all over the place, hotels, flights…and complained to LB that the weight wasn’t dropping off as I hoped. Got my next vital lesson. Sleep! Nothing is going to happen if I didn’t get enough sleep…if I didn’t drink enough water….and throw in some physical exercise. Not to mention eating your food fresh!
I have since made so many adjustments with the varied food plans, cut out all the processed food, and seasoning with garlic, salt and ginger. Throw in the lifestyle seminar and that’s a real winner.
What more can I say? I’m down to 71.3kg after 2+months and I’m heading to a new target 70kg, to get my BMI as close to Normal as possible.

LB has been a super health coach, listening, advising and helping us make the necessary adjustments. The most fun part is get on your scale and take a photo of your weight! You can’t cheat…it’s distant coaching and I’ve encouraged a number of people to get on the challenges and they can see, feel and are living the results.

Olamide Balogun

About Olamide Balogun

Olamide Balogun (LB) is a wife of one man , a mother, a mentor and personal coach, a Human Resource consultant,
a minister of God, a friend , a confidant and many more. She trained as a lawyer and now runs an HR Consulting firm and manages furnished offices to let. LB spear headed the registration of an NGO that has adopted a school with over 2000 children in premises that has no water, electricity or toilets. LB has a passion for imparting knowledge and also for wellness and optimum quality lifestyle. Follow me at catapultbylb.wordpress.com

Source: Bellanaija

The Spanish Government has appointed a Minister of Sex in order to boost the nation’s declining population.

Prime Minister Mariano Rajoy confirmed Edelmira Barreira as the country’s top sex official.

With this move, the government hopes to boost Spain’s falling birth rate, which is one of the lowest in the developed world.

Spain in recent years has recorded declining birth rates which, according to reports, places it among developing countries with the lowest index.

Last year, for the first time, Spain’s deaths outnumbered its births. According to experts, they claim the reasons for the decline in births are: working long hours, eating late at night, and going to bed after midnight. In addition, youth unemployment rose to 48% in 2015, second only to Greece in Europe.

Spain’s education ministry said the declining birth-rate “aggravates other economic imbalances and generates important impacts in the Welfare State,” according to the Spanish newspaper ABC.

Barreira will be tasked with creating a national strategy to rectify the situation.

Source: TheSun

Enari Ofoegbu is an epitome of strength. She is a television content Producer, founder and CEO of SheBossTV, Creative Director of Aria Eden Luxe; a fashion brand,  and also an emotional Health Activist/Counselor. She battled with suicidal attempts, maniac depression, and insecurity for close to 19 years as a result of the verbal and sexual abuse she experienced as a young girl, This inspired her to create The Confident Woman Network.

The Confident Woman Network is a movement premised on Emotional and Mental Rehabilitation for women, paticularly women suffering from varying mental and emotional imbalances like chronic low self-esteem, self hate, maniac depression, Type A madness, Stockholm’s syndrome and more, due to poor ‘love modeling or dealings’ in their childhood and adult lives.

Read more about her inspiring interview with Women Of Rubies

 

Childhood

My childhood did form the foundation for the birth of ‘The Confident Woman Network’. Growing up, I was exposed to both verbal and sexual abuse and as a result of that, I struggled with my identity, inner peace, and my confidence, which always left me vulnerable to sucidal thoughts and attempts, as well as maniac depression. For close to 19 years of my life, I struggled with either becoming all the harsh words that had been sown into my life as a kid, or forging a path of glorious perfection that Jesus had already become for me. Also, because I didn’t know Jesus in His entirety at the time, I sought validation from the wrong men who I thought would be reliable father figures for me but they disappointed me and left me worse off, emotionally. I was dragged into a dangerous bouts of self loathing, low esteem, and depression, until I came face to face with the CEO of unconditional love, Jesus. I was worshipping God that day in a full cry mode when I heard Him asked me just like He asked King Solomon in the Bible ”What do you want?” I found myself saying ”I want to love and I want to be loved. I want to know the true love of God”

Meet Me

My name is Enari Ofoegbu. I am a Televison Content Producer, CEO, SheBossTV. I am also the creative Director of a fashion brand called Aria Eden Luxe. I have my professional beginings in Media as a producer and presenter with the Nigerian Television Authority (NTA) for five years. I was also a radio host with an online radio station. I also have fashion and styling experience, among other arts related experience. I am an emotional health activist/counselor, which is what I do with ‘The Confident Woman Network’

 

The Confident Woman Network

The Confident Woman Network is a movement premised on Emotional and Mental Rehabilitation for women, paticularly women suffering from varying mental and emotional imbalances like chronic low self-esteem, self hate, maniac depression, Type A madness, Stockholm’s syndrome and more, due to poor ‘love modeling or dealings’ in their childhood and adult lives.

A year ago, The Confident Woman Network (TCW) was birth with a vision to stop the cycle of emotional and mental abuse recurring in the lives of women and young girls, by helping them rediscover and situate their identity in the eternal love and devotion of Christ. We have classes where women gather to discuss the way forward in our emotional and mental health. It usually involves teachings from the Word, spiritual healing clinics, talks given by invited guests, sisterhood support circles and more. Our programs include customized counseling sessions, confidence coaching classes, structured awareness campaigns(walks, media campaigns, mini documentaries, mentoring programs) and sisterhood support programs.

Motivation

The desire to bring peace to the mind, heart and life of a person is my motivation, and I do that by bringing them to God. Peace is the most expensive commodity to a mentally and emotionally oppressed person; the Woman of Samaria, Mary Magdalene, David, knew this and judiciously found it in Christ. I know firsthand the deep ache and unrest, feelings like worthlessness, shame, inadequacy and pain feel like and i am determined to make sure no young woman goes through it and to help every woman going through this find peace.

 

Greatest reward

The greatest reward I have received? I will say the testimonies I get from all the women I have had the opportunity to counsel, the lightness that replaces the heaviness they once felt, the scales dropping from their eyes. These are my greatest rewards. Peace is magical and being able to give it to someone is a great privilege.

Challenges

One of the greatest challenges I have faced is getting women to admit to having emotional or mental struggles. Another challenge is doubt and criticism, people who look at me and condescend to me saying I am not qualified to do what i’m doing or to be used by God. People who are oblivious to my mess, and therefore judge the message God has made me into because I agreed to yield to and be broken by Him. Getting support of any sort to organize programs, outreaches and sort, is another major challenge.

 

Projects and activities

We have lots of projects and activities at The Confident Woman Network. One of them is THE CONFIDENT WOMAN MASTERCLASS; this is a quarterly meeting where women gather to discuss the way forward in our emotional and mental health. It usually involves teachings from the Word, spiritual healing clinics, talks given by invited guests, sisterhood support circles and more. Another one is THE “LOVED MADLY DEEPLY TRULY” AUDIO DEVOTIONAL; We have an audio devotional we share on Whatsapp that exposes God’s love for His female flock. This started precisely a month ago, and we have sent out 10 episodes so far and have an audience of 40 women from Nigeria and outside. Our reach is exponentially increasing, all thanks to God. We also have THE LEAD AFRICA FOUNDATION; This is a leadership & entrepreneurship mobile academy for teens & youth. At the moment we go to schools to conduct our trainings, taking 1 school per 6-week period, bringing in facilitators covering the following courses, Leadership (Theory and practical), Creative career counselling (careers in Arts), Basics of Businesss and Entrepreneurships, etc. We have programs we are currently working on that covers business/skill acquisition for women and girls, organized visits to the mental hospitals, media campaigns(tv/radio shows, mini-documentaries etc) highlighting the epidemic untreated mental and emotional damage in women is, a daily devotional book, collaborations with willing NGO bodies, government agencies and individuals and getting an office space/training facility to start operations from. Lastly, we have an outreach we started last month that meets the basic needs of individuals, from as little as buying sanitary pad to paying for JAMB forms, to helping with accommodation issues to feeding the poor {we have a deaf & dumb community that we sharefood to every Saturday evening. For now we go by the name ‘THE BASIC NEEDS OUTREACH’.

On giving up

Finding purpose is different from staying happy always in purpose. So yes, there are times I do feel like giving up. Purpose has a way of taking forever to launch, so the periods of waiting, begging people to buy into and support the vision, trying to defend the visions in the eyes of critics, always take a toll. But I am a beast once I have found what I’m passionate about, its hard to keep me down for long.

 

I Am A Woman Of Rubies

I am a Woman Of Rubies because I am pro-women; from encouraging women to empowering them. Also because I didn’t make an excuse of my past but rather took it by the horns and I’m daring to do the impossible with it, putting a stop to the mental and emotional war the devil is waging against women and I am already on the WINNING SIDE.

Final words to women

Dear women, greater is that which we are called to be than which has held us down from becoming. Seek necessary help early with any mental or emotional oppression you may be experiencing so this vicious cycle of our children inheriting our emotional pain and damages, can be put to an end.