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In Interviews&profile February 17, 2020 By Esther Ijewere

MEET THE NIGERIAN FEMALE NAVAL OFFICER SERVING AS HELICOPTER SQUADRON IN THE U.S

Nigerians are breaking boundaries all over the World.

This is the Inspiring story of Adeyemi, a graduate of Olabisi Onabanjo University who is making us proud in the U.S Navy. She Immigrated in 2009 from Nigeria, and earned her citizenship in 2013.

Today, Adeyemi who is happily married with one child has been commended for her diligence and commitment to service in the U.S Navy. See her Inspiring story below

According to Navy You Outreach ; 2nd Class Adeyemi Planche, a native of Columbus, Ohio, joined the Navy to do something challenging. Now, six years later, Planche serves with Helicopter Sea Combat Squadron (HSC) 3, working with one of the Navy’s most advanced helicopters at Naval Air Station North Island, San Diego.

Planche is a retail services specialist who is responsible for ordering supplies to meet the needs of sailors.

“I like putting a smile on people’s faces, especially when we work with morale, welfare and recreation,” said Planche.

Planche is a 2001 Dupmos High School graduate.

According to Planche, the values required to succeed in the Navy are similar to those found in Columbus.

“If you work hard, you can achieve anything you want to,” said Planche.

With more than 90 percent of all trade traveling by sea, and 95 percent of the world’s international phone and internet traffic carried through fiber optic cables lying on the ocean floor, Navy officials continue to emphasize that the prosperity and security of the United States is directly linked to a strong and ready Navy.

Pilots and aircrew are trained in the squadron to fly MH-60S “Seahawk” helicopters to ensure they are prepared for peacetime and warfighting missions.

Helicopters are equipped with the ability to conduct replenishments at sea, search and rescue missions and support other operations as needed

There are many opportunities for sailors to earn recognition in their command, community and careers. Planche is most proud of earning personal recognition from the commodore aboard USS Pinckney.

“We earned a 100 percent score in records management,” said Planche. “This had not been done before, so it was a big deal for us to accomplish.”

As a member of the U.S. Navy, Planche, as well as other sailors, know they are a part of a service tradition providing unforgettable experiences through leadership development, world affairs and humanitarian assistance. Their efforts will have a lasting effect around the globe and for generations of sailors who will follow.

“Hopefully, I can start a tradition for my children to consider a career in the military,” said Planche. “I like discipline, and the military definitely provides that. I immigrated in 2009 from Nigeria, and earned my citizenship in 2013. I feel really good being able to serve in the military defending this country. It’s a job I can definitely be proud of.”

Esther Ijewere™©

In Uncategorized February 14, 2020 By Esther Ijewere

11 WAYS TO BE A MORE LOVING PARTNER

“Are you in a relationship presently and you are trying to figure out how to love your partner more?”

“Are you about to go into one and need to know how to love your partner right ?”

This article is for you!

Read on and learn some of the doable ways in which you can learn how to love — become more loving, win your partner back, and enjoy a satisfying relationship. Once you know what genuine love looks like, it will be easy to implement.

Most people mistakenly think that love is a feeling. Here’s the thing, they have it all wrong.

In order to be more loving, you have to understand what love truly is. It’s not just a feeling. It’s a Commitment. It’s an Action. It’s a Decision..

It’s understandable why we’re confused about love. The movie industry has put a spell on us. They have us believe that two people can fall in love.

True, genuine love begins after the spell wears out, after the honeymoon ends and real life begins.

Are you ready to become a more loving partner? You look ready to me. Let’s go!

1. Commit to Your Relationship

Decide that you are going to be in the relationship; that you are going to work toward its growth; that you will nourish it to the best of your ability. Without that commitment, you don’t have the necessary foundation to build a loving relationship. That is why this first step is crucial.

If you have that commitment, read on.

2. Invest Time

The workaholic who works 60 hours a week might say, “I love my family so much. I’m working hard to provide for them.” That’s not love. Remember, love is not a feeling; it’s not words. It’s an action that you decide to take. One of the most important ways to demonstrate love is to spend time with the person you love. After all, time is our most prized possession. You show someone you love them by spending quality time with them.

If you want to become more loving, find time every day to connect with your loved one. You can do this with a text, a phone call, or a lunch date. Be creative.

3. Communicate Your Love

There are countless and effective ways to do this. Find ways to communicate your love through action. Bring home a treat, do the dishes, make dinner, leave a note in his favorite coffee mug, etc. Before he leaves for the gym, my husband takes off his chain and sets it on his nightstand.

As a writer, one of my favorite guidelines is, show, don’t just tell. By doing this, the writer provokes a reaction from their readers, helps them feel the emotion the character is feeling. This works in real life as well.

Take an action, however small, that SHOWS your partner you love them.

4. Acknowledge the Thoughtful Things Your Partner Does

One of the ways to be a more loving partner is to acknowledge all your partner does for you. You might be taking your partner for granted and not even realizing it.

Do you thank them for doing the laundry, walking the dog, making dinner, doing the dishes, working out, replacing the soap and shampoo before it runs out, etc? There are a million little things that keep a home going, and it’s easy to forget that someone is doing it. Acknowledge it.

5. Be Supportive

In what ways can you be supportive to your partner? Maybe it’s supporting a hobby they have, or wishing them a fun girl’s day out, or being there for every music recital, etc. When you’re supportive, your partner will feel like they can’t fail. It will provide the encouragement they need to keep going and have fun at the same time.

6. Provide Space

Clinginess can ruin a relationship. Too much of anything can be deleterious to its survival. Yes, it’s good to spend time together. In fact, I recommend it, but it’s also good to find a healthy balance.

Providing space means you allow your partner to express himself/herself in the way they enjoy. Allowing your partner time with friends and family is important. You don’t have to be by their side 24/7.

“We all need time to explore, reflect, and express ourselves individually.”

Create a space for your partner so that they can express their creativity. Let them be them without you. Remember, they were someone long before you came along.

7. Avoid Put Downs

Here’s the thing, when you’re in a relationship, you pretty much know everything about your partner–the good, the bad, and the ugly. It’s easy to resort to put downs when you’re angry and upset about something they’ve done.

For example, let’s suppose they’re late for a movie. It happens. Don’t start in with, “Late again?! Jeez, you’re never on time, you moron!” Or, “No wonder your parents are disappointed by you!”

What are you trying to accomplish? It certainly doesn’t sound like you’re having a constructive discussion. It actually sounds like a war in progress.

We have enough strife in the world. Don’t allow it to infiltrate your home. Speak with respect. Let love be the motivator, not pettiness.

8. Be Willing to Compromise

Relationships are partnerships. Often, one or both of the people involved forget that; they’re a little too self-absorbed, always wanting what they want when they want it regardless of how their partner feels.

Since all relationships require some form of compromise to be successful, the couple has to work as a team. It’s always a give and take. Willingness to compromise can go a long way in creating happiness and feelings of well-being in the relationship.

9. Listen

You might think you’re listening, but next time your partner is talking, pay attention to your thoughts. What are you thinking? Are you really listening? Are you formulating your answer? Have you tuned out? True listening requires a great deal of effort, but it is a gift to the person who is feeling heard.

When you truly listen, the other person feels valued, important, like they matter. And isn’t that a gift you want to give your partner? It doesn’t cost a thing, but the dividends are priceless. True listening is the encapsulation of love.

Try this exercise, ask your partner a question, then really listen. Don’t get discouraged if your mind wanders for a spell, bring it back and re-focus. Your partner will sense your attentiveness and be ever so grateful.

10. Drop Old Issues

It might sound crazy to bring up past issues and hurts while in an argument, but couples do it all the time. There is no reason to bring up the past. Ask yourself: “What’s the point? What am I trying to accomplish? Am I trying to fix the problem or make it worse?” Old issues have no place in the present. Let them go. Concentrate on the here and now.

The bottom line is: make your relationship stronger, not weaken it.

11. Learn to say “Sorry” and mean it

People make mistakes. It’s good to apologize. Not just a fake apology, but a true, heart-felt apology. Apologies go a long way to repair a broken relationship. If you are in the wrong, say it. Mean it. Make sure the person understands that you are making amends.

You are not going to come off as weak if you say you’re sorry. Not only will you validate your partner’s feelings, you’ll gain respect. More than likely, your partner will say something like, “It’s okay. I know you didn’t mean that.” Make amends when you need to. Your partner will look at you with the loving eyes you crave.

Final Thoughts

Love is the most beautiful thing on earth. Being loving is the most amazing gift you can give. All the heart flutters, the butterflies in the belly, and the buckling knees, can’t replace genuine loving acts.

Don’t allow your relationship to be fed by simply stringing a set of words together. It takes a great deal more than that. It takes a Commitment, an Action, and a Decision. Done over and over again.

You have everything you need right here. It’s the start you need to make it to the finish line of your relationship. If your relationship has suffered an injury, implement the above tips for a week, a month. See what happens.

– Esther Ijewere™©

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In Interviews&profile February 13, 2020 By Editor

Congratulations To Gloria Edozie On Her New Appointment

Adesua Dozie, has joined Mobil Producing Nigeria Unlimited an Executive Director and General Counsel. Dozie was the General Counsel Africa for the General Electric Company, where she was also co-chair for the GE Women’s Network in Africa.

The appointment which is effective from December 30, 2019 is a continuation of Dozie’s impressive career trajectory which has seen her work with some of the biggest names globally.

Dozie has also served as Secretary and legal advisor to the Coca-Cola Africa Foundation and had several senior legal roles in Africa for Coca-Cola. She has also worked for Elf Petroleum (now Total Upstream) and with the law firm of Ajumogobia & Okeke.

Dozie’s impressive CV includes being lead advisor in a number of high value infrastructure projects across the African continent, in turn facilitating regional growth, strengthening corporate governance and compliance cultures across diverse business communities, serving as a guardian of the complex dynanics between purpose, profit and risk.

She is a passionate advocate for diversity – age, thought, gender and race – and inclusion. She is married to Uzoma Dozie and are blessed with three children.

“In my current role as General Counsel of GE Africa, I have had the opportunity to advise, structure and lead transactions across the African continent, in turn facilitating regional growth, strengthening corporate governance and compliance cultures across diverse business communities, and serving as a guardian of the complex dynamics between purpose, profit and risk,” she said.

In Career Gems January 27, 2020 By Editor

MARYAM SANDA SENTENCED TO DEATH BY HANGING FOR HUSBANDS DEATH

Premium Times stated that the judge dismissed Sanda’s statement that her husband fell on a broken Shisha pot during a fight on the ill-fated day as a “smokescreen to deceive the court. ”He pushed me and as I was falling down, I mistakenly broke his Shisha bottle and the water inside spilled on the floor. He pinned me to the ground and I heard our daughter crying. I told him to leave me so that I could attend to her and he loosened up a bit and I struggled to my feet”, she had narrated. According to the judge, evidence proves the accused stabbed her husband with a kitchen knife with intent to ”kill”.

The mother of one denied killing her husband or nursing such intentions. She said trouble started after she discovered nude pictures of another woman in her late husband’s phone and confronted him.

According to an eye witness she threatened her husband on several occasions if he refused granting her a divorce.

In Inspiration January 10, 2020 By Editor

Congratulations to Damilola Ogunbiyi On Her New Appointment At UN

On January 1, 2020, Ogunbiyi announced her resumption and vision for her new appointment and efforts to achieve the Sustenable Development Goals (SDG7) in its last decade.

Today as I start my term as @UN SRSG for #SEforALL, Co-Chair of @UN_Energy, and CEO of @SEforALLorg, we mark not only the beginning of a new year but also a new decade, the last one to achieve #SDG7. We have only a decade left to succeed – it is #10to2030 pic.twitter.com/ij9yTyO4LU

— Damilola Ogunbiyi (@DamilolaSDG7) January 1, 2020

Mrs Damilola Ogunbiyi was appointed as the new Special Representative for Sustainable Energy for All and Co-Chair of United Nations-Energy by the UN Secretary General António Guterres on October 29, 2019.

According to Sustainable Energy For All, Before joining SEforALL, Damilola Ogunbiyi was the first female Managing Director of the Nigerian Rural Electrification Agency and responsible for successfully negotiating within 18 months the Nigerian Electrification Project which is a USD 550m facility (World Bank USD 350m and AfDB USD 200m) to rapidly construct solar mini-grids and deploy solar home systems across Nigeria. She was also responsible for the Energizing Education Programme which will provide uninterrupted electricity to 37 federal universities and seven teaching hospitals through off-grid captive power.

Mrs. Ogunbiyi has good interest in mentoring and empowering young people through skills acquisitions. She also created the Lagos State Energy Academy to help build the capacity of young people in renewable energy technology.

Vanguard Nigeria cited that Her appointment comes as the world is about to enter the final decade to achieve Sustainable Development Goal 7 (SDG7) – access to affordable, reliable, sustainable and modern energy for all by 2030. SEforALL is an international organization, headquartered in Vienna, Austria, that is dedicated to helping the world achieve SDG7 and Paris Agreement targets.

Women of Rubies say Congratulation to Mrs Ogunbiyi on her exalted position.

In Interviews&profile November 7, 2019 By Esther Ijewere

#7QUESTIONS| “MY BIGGEST FEAR IS FAILING MY SONS”- FOLASAYO AYODELE

Folasayo Ayodele is a business woman and founder of Single mothers Tribe, She answers our famous #7Questions below

What is your biggest fear?

My biggest fear is failing my sons. I will not give anyone a chance to say they lack in any aspect in life because they were raised by a woman.

2. In your darkest moments, what do you do?

I look back at where I’m coming from and how far I’ve come. Then I look ahead with gratitude for all things.

3. What is that one thing you would like to change about yourself?

Procrastination and not finishing up whatever I start. I have too many abandoned projects and decisions I’ve been procrastinating on.

4. Where do you see yourself five years from now?

I projected where I’d like to be now five years ago. I didn’t meet my mark and had to make some brave adjustments like relocating to Lagos. I am looking at five years from now; I should have been well settled into my business in Lagos. I see a me who has got everything together; business, my tribe would have by then made unforgettable impacts on more single mums.

5. What keeps you going?

I stay focus on the positive, I try not to permit negative energy in my headspace and around me. My tribe also keep me going, just knowing my challenges are not peculiar to me is a sure sign that I’ll win.

6. What is your stand on feminism? Do you consider yourself a feminist?

I like to consider myself humanist. I believe every human being deserve to be treated with respect and dignity. Be they male or female.

7. What keeps you up at night?

My dreams for myself and my kids keep me awake. Thank you.

In Uncategorized October 27, 2019 By Esther Ijewere

FOLUSO GBADAMOSI: ‘MY GREATEST RECOMMENDATION TO ANYONE HAVING A HARD TIME BALANCING IS TO CREATE SUPPORT SYSTEMS’

Foluso Gbadamosi is the Director, Business Process & Technology, Prime Atlantic Group; Co-Founder at 8191 Solutions and Serving with Love Foundation. Her career spans over 15 years in the Telecommunications, IT and FMCG industries. In this conversation with ADERINSOLA ADENIRAN of Leading Ladies Africa (LLA), Foluso shares her corporate experiences, highlighting how she has integrated her professional pursuits with her personal life, with some success nuggets for women who want to navigate the corporate world.

Tell us a bit about growing up and your upbringing.
I am the first of four children. I grew up in a home with open doors to everyone and parents who expected the best. My parents instilled humility and love for people in ways I find hard to describe. I learnt a lot about being responsible, loving people, the importance of family, being content, being generous and so much more from my parents. The truth is, children learn from our actions more than our words, most of the values I have today are from seeing my parents in action. Gender was never a limiting factor in our home and I was raised to know that nothing is impossible.

You are Director, Business Process & Technology, Prime Atlantic Group and Co-founder at 8191 Solutions that provides technology solutions to SMEs. That is a lot. How did you set out in the corporate world? Did you have a plan from the get-go, or did you just move with the flow?
I entered the corporate world just like most people do: I graduated from University and started working. During my years in paid employment, I have developed a better sense of what I really love and enjoy doing. I am a people-person and traditionally, people in technology tend to be more heard than seen. I believe I’m thriving in the industry while staying true to myself.

You have been in the corporate space for over a decade, based on your experiences, what would you say are the core principles anyone looking to have a fulfilling career must abide by?
I am a strong proponent of self-awareness. If nothing else, I think any professional should work on becoming more self-aware. In Nigeria especially, there’s a tendency to fit people into some sort of mold and many people have a hard time expressing themselves because they think they should be a certain way. While building a career is important, it does not define you entirely so it’s important to be self-aware as you build that career. For instance, you may work in finance-a stereotypically cut-throat industry- and have a very nurturing personality, so while you are “doing deals” and “killing it”, you also find yourself mentoring people in your organization and caring for them in a way other finance professionals don’t and that’s completely fine-you don’t have to fit into the mold. We should not identify ourselves solely by our professions/industries.

Still on career, would you say there are specific challenges females face in the corporate space and if so why? Can you share some recommendations on how to solve these challenges?
I think for most women with children, a major challenge is finding this so called “balance” between work and family. I honestly don’t believe in balance. I think we just have to try our best in every season of life and make the most of our individual circumstances. My greatest recommendation to anyone who is having a hard time balancing is to create support systems. The thing about support systems is that you have to be willing to appreciate, remunerate, motivate and love on those “systems”. For example, if your support comes in the form of a domestic staff, sister-in-law, sister, brother, mum, mum-in-law, dad, cousin, friend or colleague, you must reciprocate by treating them well and being extremely tolerant. If you naturally have a short fuse or are very fussy, you will need to learn to manage that.

A supportive spouse and family are imperative to success in the corporate world. For single women, I strongly advise being very careful when dating and focusing on the right things. The reality is that your choice of spouse is a huge determining factor of your overall success.I should also highlight the importance of networking with like-minded women who keep you focused. If you have vision and I really hope you do, you must always focus on that vision, so you do not lose sight of that which God created you to do. Sometimes, the voices we allow in our space are the very ones that keep us from being all we can be.

What advice do you have for young women stepping into the corporate world- what should they look out for?
I’d advise any young professional to find a career mentor–someone who can provide guidance, perspective and advice, someone who is a source of experienced insight and a sounding board for future plans.

Can you share some career mistakes you have made on your journey and what you learnt from them?
Absolutely. I once used not ‘liking’ a particular subject matter as an excuse to not learn it. To rise in your career, there are many things you will have to learn outside of your technical comfort zone or job function. It is very important to learn those skills when training opportunities present themselves. As you discover areas you’re lacking, be sure to explore training opportunities and cover the cost if your employer wouldn’t. To pay for these training and learning opportunities, you must plan and save. You spend money on what you value!

How do you navigate family, work and other secular obligations? What counts as ‘balance’ for you?
Structure! I am big on structure and I am also big on support systems. I have those in place and alter them as required with each season of my life. Balance for me doesn’t exist, it’s really getting what needs to get done per time per season in my life. There was a particularly slow season of my life where I felt so empty and now, I wish I spent that time more wisely. I think it’s about seeing the bigger picture and seeing everything that is happening in your life as preparation. Balance is also having a supportive spouse, which I have been blessed with. We both pick up where there may be gaps. Particularly with our children, we both do what needs to be done to achieve a balanced life.

Let’s talk about parenting, what has been the highlight of your motherhood journey so far?
I have two daughters and just seeing the sheer God-given differences in them amuses me to no end. I think it’s beautiful and wonderful how God has made us all so different, all for a unique purpose.

You run “Serving with Love Foundation.” What informed its creation and how has the reception been so far?
Serving with Love is almost six years old now and it was created out of a sheer desire to help our community. There are so many problems to be solved around us all and if we all played our part, I really believe the world would be a much better place. The reception has been wonderful, we have received immense support and our membership database keeps growing. This has also helped us really strengthen and expand our various initiatives.

The future is digital, and most of the Nigerian youth are unprepared for the future of work. There is a real need to provide technology training to young children in Nigeria especially those from low-income families, who would otherwise have no access to computers or digital training. We launched a Digital Life After School Program (DLASP) last year and the objective is to bridge the digital divide and provide much needed technology education to children from low-income families, thereby giving them employable skills and an outlet to express their innovation skills.

If you could speak to your 25-year-old self, what will you tell her?
I know you like things to happen quickly but realize that purpose is a journey, mainly of self-discovery–discovering who God created YOU and no one else to be. You are the solution to many problems; you will discover them as time goes on. Make the best of every season of your life, no matter what, there is always something to learn.

A lot of women understand the essence of mentoring but do not know how to seek mentoring /stay mentorable. How would you advise young women to seek mentoring and stay mentorable?
The first step is to determine what the mentor is for, it could be for career, personal, business, spiritual, family, etc. purposes. I have mentors for specific areas of my life. Some mentors may be all-encompassing- covering all areas, but you must not miss out on a great career mentor because you are fixated on having a mentor that covers all areas, for example.

To seek a mentor, you must be as willing to give as you are to take. Don’t be a parasitic mentee. I also see a lot of people who try to outsource their lives to a mentor. Understand that if you want someone to be your mentor, the person is likely a very busy person and cannot handhold or babysit you. Schedule meeting times, maybe monthly or quarterly, and each time, have specific updates from previously agreed ‘next steps’ and specific issues you would like to address.

In seeking a mentor, it’s often a good idea to find someone accessible within your network. If someone declines your request to be mentored for one reason or the other, don’t take it personally. Ask God to help you in your search and keep your eyes opened. You could also explore structured mentorship programs operated within firms for their employees, or by independent organizations, whereby mentors are matched to individuals over a specified period.

Away from career, family and faith- tell us, what does it for you when it comes to unwinding and having fun?
Hanging with my friends, travelling, watching movies, dancing and reading.

What is your greatest pet-peeve?
People not realising who and whose they are, and trying to be someone else. The lack of realization that we were all created for a unique purpose has destroyed many lives. That is my greatest pet peeve.

Source: Guardian

In Uncategorized October 3, 2019 By Esther Ijewere

FATIMA TOGBE IS BUILDING A FASHION & LIFESTYLE EMPIRE FOR YOUNG MUSLIMAHS

As a young muslim woman, Fatima Togbe, couldn’t find magazines with stories she’s interested in or the ones that give insight to the issues she’s dealing with.

She decided to do something about it. She wanted to create a platform for Muslimahs “between the ages of 21 and 35, modern, educated, fashion forward and trendy with a sound foundation in their love and dedication to Islam.”

“I love fashion so much and love magazines like Harper’s Bazaar, Vogue and Glamour, but I can’t wear half the things in them, nor do the topics meet a lot of my own needs,” she told Guardian in 2017.

The magazines focused on muslim women were “boring.” “No one was really writing about issues that pertain to Muslim women and to a younger new generation of us,” she added.

She decided to start Hayati Magazine, in 2012, to meet this need. Today, it boasts of thousands of followers across social media and website.

Fatima built Hayati into a community where muslim women can talk and read about real issues without fear of judgments. It is a fashion and lifestyle platform for the young Muslimah.

In 2015, she launched Hayati Retail for Muslimahs to shop fashion pieces that appeal to their faith.

To celebrate its 5th anniversary in 2017, Hayati Magazine, hosted the inaugural edition of Hayati Fashion Week which held in Abuja for 3 days, with over 200 guests and 14 designers showcasing their work.

Fatima is a 2016 nominee for The Future Awards Africa (TFAA) Prize for New Media category. She was also listen in YNaija’s inaugural #WOKE100 list.

Fatima has worked with brands such as Vlisco, Golden Morn, and Maggi. She’s building a reputable media company for the young Muslim woman, and we are definitely rooting for her.

In self development September 29, 2019 By Esther Ijewere

HUSBAND DEMANDS DIVORCE IN LETTER TO WIFE, HER BRILLIANT REPLY MAKES HIM REGRET EVERY WORD

In a world that can in turn seem grim, serious or boring, a funny anecdote is always welcome. I don’t know if you’ve read this before, but if not it should give you a chuckle. And if you have, I’m sure it’ll make you laugh again. It has all the ingredients of an entertaining story — drama, retaliation and an unexpected ending… It starts with a letter from a husband asking his wife for a divorce.

But it’s his wife’s brilliant reply that gets all the laughs. . Share it if it also gives you a good chuckle!

Dear wife,

I’m writing you this letter to tell you that I’m leaving you forever. I’ve been a good man to you for 7 years & I have nothing to show for it. These last 2 weeks have been Tophet.

Your boss called to tell me that you quit your job today & that was the last straw.

Last week, you came home & didn’t even notice I had a new haircut, had cooked your favorite meal & even wore a brand new pair of silk boxers. You ate in 2 minutes, & went straight to sleep after watching all of your soaps.

You don’t tell me you love me anymore; you don’t want relationship or anything that connects us as husband & wife. Either you’re escape on me or you don’t love me anymore; whatever! the case, I’m gone.

Your EX-Husband

P.S. don’t try to find me. Your SISTER & I are moving away to West Virginia together!
Have a great life!

Dear Ex-Husband,

Nothing has made my day more than receiving your letter It’s true you & I have been married for 7 years, although a good man is a far cry from what you’ve been.

I watch my soaps so much because they drown out your constant whining & griping. Too bad that doesn’t work.

I DID notice when you got a hair cut last week, but the 1st thing that came to mind was ‘You look just like a girl!’ Since my mother raised me not to say anything if you can’t say something nice, I didn’t comment.

And when you cooked my favorite meal, you must have gotten me confused with MY SISTER, because I stopped eating pork 7 years ago.

About those new silk boxers: I turned away from you because the $49.99 price tag was still on them, & ; I prayed it was a coincidence that my sister had just borrowed $50 from me that morning.

After all of this, I still loved you & felt we could work it out. So when I the lotto for 10 million dollars, I quit my job & bought us 2 tickets to Jamaica But when I got home you were gone.

Everything happens for a reason, I guess. I hope you have the fulfilling life you always wanted. My lawyer said that the letter you wrote ensures you won’t get a dime from me. So take care.

Signed,
Your Ex-Wife, Rich As worship & Free!

This Story Was Originally Published On newsner.com

In Uncategorized July 23, 2019 By Esther Ijewere

EVA BOZIMO: DON’T LET FEAR STOP YOU FROM FULFILLING YOUR DESTINY

Fear is something a lot of us struggle with. Some more than others, true, and it gets the best of us; but, fear is an illusion. It’s an emotion like any other, like love, compassion, etc. We just give it more power.

Fear is something we’ve created in our minds, and it’s not real. It’s a restriction of the mind. Fear is one the reasons most people don’t tap into their true potential. The fear of the unknown, judgement, the perception of others, criticism and leaving your comfort zone, but nothing great ever happens there, ever.

Fear can be used as a fuel; it should keep you up at night studying, should have you rehearsing your lines before speaking publicly, should make you research about a company before going for an interview. It is not your enemy, it’s your friend. What have you allowed fear to do in your life?

A lot of people stand on the edge of their greatness due to fear. “I have to wait till the right time.” “I have to lose this weight first.” “I have to get enough money first.” We feel we have forever, but in reality, all we really have is now.

No matter how little support or resources you have, you can always start with it to pursue your God given passion. Once you’re in alignment with God’s plan, you’ll be shocked at the people who will drift toward you. These people are called destiny helpers.

Fear will have you rock back and forth in your head just so you don’t leap. Yes, you might fail; but,what if you soar? What if all you need is to take that first step and let the universe play its part. Optimists are five times more likely to fail and ten times more likely to succeed than pessimists and realists because, guess what, they aren’t scared of taking risks. The most successful people in the world today lose more money than the average earner, while the average earner might not lose but remains stagnant.

So whatever it is you feel you want to achieve, despite it seeming unattainable at the moment, you must first silence your mind. Make daily attempts toward it, then go conquer. A lot of times we are given a vision, but we procrastinate and stall because of the chattering in our mind that says we’re not ready or good enough, while our intuition and gut feeling requires us to act now.

Your brain is designed to keep you safe, to keep you complacent and comfortable, while your soul and intuition wants you to soar. Don’t dim your light because you’re scared. Instead, shine to the maximum, and if for any brief moment your light gets to someone in the midst of the darkness and they get to see themselves even for just a second, then you’ve achieved a lot.

When you realise that your vision has less to do with you and more to do with everyone that’s blessed to cross your path, you’ll take action right this minute. You are the author of your life; the pen is right in your hands. Why not make it a memorable one? Who sold us this dream that we have to be comfortable all the time? I don’t know about you, but I’d rather inconvenience myself so I can make my mark in this world and secure a great future for myself than be ordinary, because, guess what, darling, extra ordinary is where it’s at, and the bottom is way too crowded.

Source: Bellanaija

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