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Nigerian-born Uzoma Asagwara has been elected into a Canadian legislative assembly as a lawmaker in Manitoba. Until Tuesday’s vote, no black person had ever been elected to the Manitoba Legislature in the 150-year history of the province.

That makes Asagwara the first Black, queer woman in the legislature.

She won the Union Station seat for the NDP.

Asagwara, a first-generation Canadian whose parents are Nigerian is a longtime community activist in Winnipeg’s core.

She also becomes one of three Black people to have been elected into the 150-year parliament.

 

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Mosunmola Abudu, popularly known as Mo Abudu, is a Nigerian Media Mogul, philanthropist, and former Human Resources management Consultant. She has been described by Forbes as “Africa’s Most Successful Woman”.

Abudu was born in Hammersmith, West London. Her early years were spent in the UK. She attended the Ridgeway School, MidKent College, and West Kent College. She also gained a master’s degree in Human Resource Management from the University of Westminster in London.

EbonyLife TV

In 2006, Abudu started EbonyLife TV, a network airing in more than 49 countries across Africa, as well as in the UK and the Caribbean. It is a subsidiary of Media and Entertainment City Africa (MEC Africa), EbonyLife TV is located at Tinapa Resort in Calabar, Cross River State, Nigeria.

In March 2018, Sony Pictures Television (SPT) announced that they had concluded a three-year deal with EbonyLife TV that would include co-production of The Dahomey Warriors, a series about the Amazons who took on French colonialists in a 19th century west African kingdom.

EbonyLife Films

Abudu established EbonyLife Films. Her first film as executive producer was Fifty. Teaming up with The ELFIKE Collective in 2016, she produced The Wedding Party, which became the highest-grossing title of all time in the Nigerian film industry Nollywood.

Moments with Mo

Abudu is the Executive Producer and host of a TV talk show, Moments with Mo, which is the first syndicated daily talk show on African regional television.

By October 2009, over 200 episodes had been recorded and aired with topics ranging from lifestyle, through health, culture, politics, entertainment, tradition, to music and inter-racial marriages. Guests have included celebrities, Presidents, Nobel Laureates, and the 67th US Secretary-of-State Hillary Clinton, Abudu says the show “highlights the life and accomplishments of a usually well known, but sometimes an undiscovered African individual who by his or her own tenacity and determination has accomplished something, overcome something or been a catalyst for something that makes her or him a role model to others.”

Aired on M-Net with TV coverage in 48 African countries, the show now also airs on terrestrial and cable TV in other parts of the world.

The show’s success and intention to change the world’s perception of the African continent has led to comparisons to Oprah Winfrey, with The Independent and Slate Afrique calling her “Africa’s Oprah” or “Nigerian Winfrey”, respectively.

The Debaters

Abudu is the creator and executive producer of The Debaters, a reality TV show. Funded by Guaranty Trust Bank, it launched on 3 October 2009. The show focuses on “giving Africa a voice” by promoting oratory.

Forbes Africa recognised Abudu as the first African woman to own a Pan-Africa TV channel (2013). She was listed as one of the 25 Most Powerful Women in Global TV by The Hollywood Reporter in (2013) and received the Entrepreneur of the Year award by Women Werk in New York (2014). In 2014, she was honoured with an honorary Doctor of Humane Letters (Honouris Causa) from Babcock University.

In 2019, Mo Abudu was appointed as the Chairperson of the 47th International Emmy Awards Gala, thus making her the First Nigerian to hold that position.

 

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I’d look at pregnant women in my class, struggling to meet up with one assignment or the other, always asking for lecture notes and sometimes looking completely lost, worn out and confused in their maternity dresses, and I would wonder why they didn’t just take it one at a time, why they bothered with pregnancy considering how stressful the final year of school was. I thought they didn’t have their priorities right.

I tried to help one in particular, Ugochi, as much as I could because we were pretty cool prior to her wedding and subsequent pregnancy. But, I have to admit, inside me I was insensitive. I thought she could come to school earlier, actually do an assignment before the deadline, write her own notes most of the time, “if only she put her mind to it.”

Well, guess what. Just a few years down the line, I became the pregnant lady in class. Here I was, with a son, pregnant and running a post graduate program. I never seemed to catch a break. There was simply no time to accommodate all I had to do in one day.

By the time I woke up, prepared breakfast, dressed and dropped my son off at preschool, came back to prepare for my own school, stayed in traffic to get there, I would be completely exhausted. I joined the no-makeup gang not out of my own will, but because I didn’t have the precious few minutes it would take to get some makeup on. I constantly asked my colleagues a whole lot of questions trying to make sure I was up to date on everything going on. I’d sacrifice hours of sleep, spending it on my table writing assignments, studying or doing research work. It finally dawned on me: I had become the pregnant lady in class. I had become the lady with the rounded belly and maternity dresses, always looking tired and barely meeting assignment deadlines, and who everyone unconsciously grouped as “not one of us.”

How did life become so busy? I was no longer in the “cool gang.” Lots of females dressed better than me in class (because they weren’t pregnant, obviously) and I never seemed to stop being in a hurry. My attention was always needed elsewhere, and so my day was always planned to the last hour, detailed. Take, for instance, me being in school by 3 PM. It meant I would be late to pick up my son from preschool. And how about lunch and dinner and chores, guess who that was on too?

I quietly dusted most of my colleagues in the first semester results, and they were all astonished. Most of them couldn’t believe I could still make good grades despite all my responsibilities. The results were a huge consolation to me for all my sleepless nights, but I couldn’t help but feel terrible for all the times I was insensitive toward pregnant women who were trying their best to meet up with family life and schooling.

Women are the real superheroes, and deserve to be celebrated. Ugochi, my classmate back in our undergraduate days, was probably trying her very best to meet up with everything. And the same goes for most pregnant and family women out there. Some have to work 9-5 every single day, and still find a way to meet up with other numerous responsibilities. Oh and they still find a way to be graceful while at it. Some play the role of wife, mother, nanny, cook, primary care giver, business owner and career woman, all at the same time, without breaking a sweat.

So if you’re reading this today, show some love to that pregnant woman in your class, or at your place of work. A kind word from you might just be all the encouragement they need to adjust their capes and go about their day.

 

 

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The rate of sexual violence in South Africa is said to be among the highest in the world. Recently, a 31-year-old was kidnapped and shot dead in a Nature Reserve, while a 21-year-old nursing student was abducted outside a hospital and raped. These led to the Twitter movement #AmINext, which had women asking if they would become the next victim of murder.

With the #WithoutUs protest, the women are sitting in their homes, refusing to go to work, to school, or even participate in the economy. They say no woman on the streets of South Africa, on Wednesday, September 11, will be found buying or selling anything.

Some women have however said that while they support the protest, they have to go to their places of work, else they’ll lose their jobs. So they’re wearing black in solidarity.

Hopefully, the voice of Women South Africa are heard and the protest yields a positive result.

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Can we also NOT go to the clubs on weekends for about a month or so. https://twitter.com/sibumabena/status/1171486676478119937 

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We support them and denounce the scourge of Rape, abuse & femicide in the country.

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Wendy Williams has plans to get married again – but insisted she’s learned from her mistakes with ­ex-husband and manager Kevin Hunter.

The outspoken TV host filed for divorce earlier this year, after reports suggested Hunter’s longtime mistress, Sharina Hudson, had given birth to his baby while Wendy was battling substance abuse issues in a sober home.

She later confessed in an interview with Andy Cohen she was aware of “a lot of things” about Hunter’s “double life” throughout their marriage, but added that his fathering of a child was “unforgivable”.

While the difficult experience hasn’t put Wendy off the idea of re-marrying, she now insists on “a man with a full career and his own money and his own situation”.

Speaking to host Mehmet Oz on “The Dr. Oz Show” in the U.S. on Wednesday, the star suggested she’s dating “many men,” but admitted this time round she plans to sign a prenuptial agreement and live in a separate home to her partner.

“I say this all the time… I’m a wife. I’m not a girlfriend and I will get married again. There will be a prenuptial agreement, and by the way, Mehmet, we will not be living in the same house,” Wendy Williams said.

She later told the host it would be “marriage under new circumstances,” adding: “Like, ‘All right. Let’s stay at your place tonight. Let’s stay at my place tonight… But… you buy the third place. How about that?’

“I need a man with a full career and his own money and his own situation. I don’t want anything from you, except your love and respect. (And) don’t ask anything of me, but love and respect.”

 

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Growing a baby a beautiful experience, but it’s also demanding on your body. New mothers may be told by books and doctors that they’ll be back to “normal” within six weeks of giving birth, but a new study has found that most women take much longer to recover.

Dr. Julie Wray, a researcher at Salford University in England, interviewed women at different stages of post-partum life. She found that the standard six-week recovery period is a “complete fantasy,” and it can take a full year to recover from childbirth.

It’s not just physical recovery that’s needed, but mental as well. Many feel the pressure to get back on their feet soon after childbirth and feel it may be necessary to head back to work as early as six weeks.

 

Wray found that recovery should start in the hospital. Back in the day, women spent more time in the maternity ward learning how to take care of their infant and getting breastfeeding advice. Now, some women are discharged as early as six hours after giving birth and expected to just go with it, according to Wray’s research.

“The research shows that more realistic and woman-friendly postnatal services are needed,” Wray concluded. “Women feel that it takes much longer than six weeks to recover and they should be supported beyond the current six to eight weeks after birth.”

Recovery after childbirth is different for everyone, but the general consensus is that a full year to heal the body and mind is much better than a month and a half.

 

 

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A court ruled the father had sexually abused his child from around the age 13 to 19 and even acknowledged he was violent when she resisted, but he was acquitted because the law requires prosecutors to prove there was overwhelming force, a threat, or that the victim was completely incapacitated.

The verdict is being appealed, but it has sparked outrage with hundreds again expected to demonstrate in cities across the nation Wednesday, while an online petition demanding that any sex without consent be defined as rape — signed by more than 47,000 people — has been submitted to the justice ministry.

For Jun Yamamoto, who was abused by her father between the ages of 13 and 20, the story is sickening familiar.

“Again!… That was what I thought,” the 45-year-old said, adding: “Japanese justice does not recognise sexual offences like this as a crime. I cannot tolerate it anymore.”

The court acknowledged in the latest incest case that the girl had been forced to have intercourse “against her will” and was psychologically subjugated by her father because of the repeated abuse.

But it said it was unclear whether she was “incapable of resisting”, so her father was acquitted of rape.

No protection

Yamamoto, a nurse who also works for the rights of sexual abuse victims, is demanding reforms to the Japanese criminal code.

“When caught off guard or attacked by somebody who should be someone you can trust, you freeze in shock and cannot fight back,” Yamamoto told AFP.

“Even in a case where a father raped his daughter, the court says she could have resisted and lets him go. This legal situation is really a serious problem.” she said, her voice quivering with barely suppressed anger.

While the global #MeToo movement against sexual abuse has stormed through everything from Hollywood to the Italian opera, it has struggled to take off in Japan.

But calls to protect sex abuse victims seem to be winning support, with hundreds expected to rally holding symbolic flowers in 20 cities nationwide on Wednesday.

In one past “Flower Demo” in Tokyo, advocates held banners reading: “Law MUST protect victims, NOT perpetrators”

“Why do we have to ask for this over and over again?” said a tearful protester on mic. “Are we asking for something so inconceivable?”

Activists and lawyers warn that Japan’s criminal code, which dates back over a century, is incapable of protecting sexual abuse victims.

“When the criminal code was created in 1907, Japan was purely patriarchal,” lawyer Yukiko Tsunoda explained.

“The purpose of criminalising rape was to assure a wife would bear a child only by her husband and never be accessed by other men… It was a law of chastity which would only benefit a husband or the father of a family,” she added.

“Who wants to protect a woman who so easily lets a rapist do his thing just after a few punches? That was the thinking.”

Many activists see the law as part of a broader gender problem in Japan, which, despite relatively high rates of female education and workplace participation, remains unequal in many ways.

Tsunoda said that sexist norms remain embedded in the legal system and systematically undermine women’s rights, which according to her explains why Japan is ranked 110th out of 149 countries in the World Economic Forum’s latest gender gap report.

Unsafe for women?

In 2017, Japan revised the criminal code on sexual offences for the first time in 110 years, recognising male victims, and increasing the punishment for rape from a minimum of three years to five.

But the requirement that a victim be able to prove they could not resist assault remained unchanged.

Tsunoda served on a justice ministry panel considering the reforms and urged the requirement be changed, but a majority disagreed, arguing that it could lead to innocent victims being convicted based on the “subjective” views of alleged victims.

A review will happen next year, but it is unclear whether the controversial rule will be up for discussion.

Yamamoto and fellow rights campaigners are hopeful the voices of tens of thousands of citizens who signed the petition will force legislators to reconsider.

“The petition to remove the requirements seems to be the most supported among the opinions we’ve received,” a justice ministry official told AFP, adding: “We take it very seriously.”

But until changes are made protestors say they will continue to rally across the country on the 11th of each month.

Demonstrator Wakana Goto, 28, told protestors at one rally: “In Japan, with its reputation as one of the world’s safest countries, I have been exposed to sexual harassment since the age of three, forced to get used to it and to learn to deal with it.”

 

 

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The movie stars Nollywood actors, Clarion Chukwura & Frankincense Eche-Ben.

The emotive film captures the essence of finding strength, self-love and being your own hero in tough times; boasting stellar performances from the cast and powerful screenplay.

“Home” is directed by Clarence A. Petersand Effyzzie Music.

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Blossom and Maureen are in their third year of marriage and it recently was reported that the marriage has hit the rocks.

Her fans are anticipating what she has to share and many are speculating on if it will be details about her marriage or her birthday on Wednesday, 11th of September.

“Countdown to the release,” she wrote. “Y’all been Waiting too Long? I Apologize… TURN ON YOUR NOTIFICATIONS #SpillingTheRealDeal 11▪️09▪️2019 #StayTunned”.

 

 

 

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In her new role, the How to Get Away with Murder leading lady will join heavyweight A-list stars including Celine DionHelen MirrenEva LongoriaElle FanningAja Naomi KingNikolaj Coster-Waldau and Camila Cabello, among others, representing the brand. The appointment builds on the brand’s mission to reflect the diversity of the modern world through spokeswomen, encouraging beauty inclusivity, self-worth and empowering people everywhere.

Davis says that she grew up not having people who told her that she was beautiful or smart and that it’s important to build confidence in women from childhood.

As a young girl, I wasn’t always told that I was smart, beautiful, or worthy. I worked tremendously hard to get where I am today – overcoming feelings of doubt to become a woman who truly believes I am ‘worth it’ in every way. I believe it’s so important to build confidence in women from a young age, and to role model diverse perspectives of beauty. To now be part of a brand that has been championing women’s worth for more than 40 years and to use my voice to help empower others is truly surreal.

Global Brand President of L’Oréal Paris Delphine Viguier-Hovasse says that they are thrilled to have Viola join them. She also adds that her tenacity, authenticity and bold spirit resonate with and inspire so many people.

We are thrilled to welcome Viola as a member of our family. Viola’s tenacity, authenticity and bold spirit resonate with and inspire so many people. She challenges the status quo in all aspects of life and her drive to succeed has proven itself time after time – she leads by example and is the perfect conduit to elevate our core message, ‘Because I’m Worth It.

Making her brand debut at an event in New York City yesterday, Viola will appear in TV, print and digital advertising campaigns for Age Perfect beginning later this month.

 

 

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