Women of Rubies

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Esther Ijewere

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Success does not come at the blink of an eye, it is a gradual process of everyday hard work and input irrespective of how small, and these daily efforts eventually emerge into stunning results. This is the case of Victoria Olufunmilayo Awomolo (SAN), who started her career as a primary school teacher in 1974 and later, Court Clerk, at Kwara State Judiciary in 1976. From there, she got admission to the Kwara State College of Technology for her A’ Levels. During her National Youth Service Corps programme in 1981, she taught Chemistry at Army Day Secondary School Bida, Niger State and later joined the Ministry of Education, Kwara State in 1982 and was posted to Queen Elizabeth School, Ilorin Kwara State where she taught Chemistry for 10 years. Her passion for self-improvement in order to fulfill a burning desire eventually made her quit teaching to study law at the University of Ibadan with the 1991/1992 session and became a lawyer in 1998. Awomolo is a member of the Nigeria Bar Association, International Bar Association, Commonwealth Lawyers Association, International Federation of Women Lawyers Association, Chartered Institute of Arbitrators United Kingdom, and Fellow Charted Institute of Arbitrators of Nigeria.

She has traveled the rigorous paths of the legal profession and held several elected and appointed positions which include, Secretary Organising Committee, NBA Conference Ilorin 2007, Secretary, International Federation of Women Lawyers (FIDA) Kwara State Branch (2004-2006), Chairman, Organising Committee, two decades of FIDA (Nig) Abuja Branch and Vice Chairperson, International Federation of Women Lawyers (FIDA) Nigeria Abuja Branch (2013-2016).

Her love and passion for the legal profession and her desire to equip herself more for greater exploits in the law practice with a view to positively impact humanity and make useful contributions to national and global development has seen her rise to the level of FIDA International Regional Vice President, Africa North and West, a post she was elected into in the Bahamas in 2017. In this interview with Guardian Woman, Awomolo talks about the height of her profession, the ideology behind FIDA and how the non-profit organisation, made up of women lawyers who are called to practice, in order to treat the issues of women in Nigeria and on the continent.You are one of the few women privileged to become a SAN, tell us about the height of your career as a lawyer?
Out of over 350 Senior Advocate Of Nigeria (SAN), only about 22 of us are women. The first woman to become SAN was Chief Folake Sholanke in 1981 long after we have had several men as SAN. It has been a very slow journey for women to reach the peak of this profession in Nigeria. I was the 18th woman to become SAN. It is about practise and your character. It is strictly on merit. You are treated with what you have done and accomplished in the profession.

Is there any reason why women have slow access?
Yes, this issue came up at the just-concluded NBA 59th Annual General Conference in Lagos. Women tend to be very slow at pursuing a career due to a lot of factors that are solely related to women. Looking at the statistics, more women study law now than in the last 10 years. Also, more women get a first-class at the law school, but immediately they are called to bar, a lot of factors come in, marriage, childbearing, cultural biases, and the rigours of practice, thereby obstructing the furtherance of career. Some male lawyers don’t even like to employ a female lawyer because they know that she would soon leave for marriage. They say they can’t even send married female lawyers on a trip, they can’t tell her to travel with them, marital restrictions on women, maternity leave and all. These are some of the factors that inhibit our growth to the highest level in the legal profession. And so you find more women that go into ministries, banking sector, the corporate organisations.

Tell us about FIDA, what is the ideology?
FIDA is a Spanish acronym for Federación Internacional dé Abogadas, which translates to the International Federation of Women Lawyers and it was founded in Spain by a group of women.

The ideology is to bring women together and to look at the issues of women and children in our society, everywhere on the continent and then to be able to defend them. We do probe women services, we go to court, we do legal clinics, we use advocacy, we work on our men, our leaders, and traditional rulers about all these practices that are against women, widowhood, inheritance practices and others. Lately we have the gender-based violence that is rampant, rape cases, sexual abuses, a lot. These are the issues that we take up and try to advocate against. And where rights are involved, we go to court. In matrimonial issues, maybe the husband is not responsible, not doing the right thing, we put a call through, we settle, and speak to them because we believe in maintaining a stable marriage. FIDA is not a woman activist group; we are into human rights and to look at the indigenous women and children. We have been working over the years. FIDA is over 50 years in Nigeria. We have done a lot of work and there’s nowhere in Nigeria now that FIDA is not known. We are in the 32 states of the federation and more states are coming up to be inaugurated. It is an NGO, we depend on grants, on donations. We go into the prisons, teach them skills, and do a lot to impart the society.

Tell us about the forthcoming FIDA conference, what are the issues to be addressed?
The issue to be addressed is centered on this year’s theme “The growth of women and children in Africa: Beyond rhetoric”. We cannot continue to see our women stagnant, we need them to grow and develop. Look at our political space for example, the percentage of women in the legislature is embarrassing and it is getting lower and lower everyday. We have only seven women in a group of 43 ministers, seven senators in a House of Assembly of 109. The House of Representatives with 306 members, women are not up to 10 per cent there. So what are we saying? We are saying that Nigeria in particular and Africa in general needs to do something about the status of women. The men also know, the politicians know that women constitute a larger percentage of the voters, so we have to figure out a way to get us working and on the move to. The congress commences on October 11-15 2019. This is Africa and African issues are going to be discussed. We are going to look at different issues concerning our children and women in Africa, so that we can make recommendations.

One of the many issues of women is financial empowerment; how is FIDA treating that?
The second day of the congress, Saturday 12th is our skills acquisition for 50 women. It is not about teaching them and letting them grow. We want to give them materials that will start them up. We don’t want to give them money, we will teach them how to be skillful and industrious. I believe that if the monetary social empowerment programme the federal government is doing goes to the poorest masses, they should be seeing changes in their lives by now.

How do you raise funds?
We go into collaboration with banks, with multinational companies and we also get grants that help us to work in states and empower women because we have discovered that no matter how much advocacy you do, if we don’t empower women, they will continue to suffer these prejudices from men, because some men intentionally trample down on their wives so that they will not have any power at all.

Does FIDA also handle the issue of gender equality
Yes, that’s the basis of our goal. We are affiliated with the United Nations, we go there every year and come back home and then deliberate. The last General Assembly, there was a gender equality bill that was brought back by Senator Olujimi and I was going to come out to give FIDA’s position when they said we should come and defend it. But alas, we got to the National Assembly, they told us that they didn’t form a quorum and asked us to go away indefinitely. Up till today, the papers are still on my table. We were not able to defend it. But thank God for the VAPP – Act (Violence against Persons Prohibition), it deals very much with issues about violence against men and women. That act is being used now by NAPTIP and by other agencies to deal with offenders. We also have the child right act. Children now have rights in Nigeria. We now have this set up in most states of the federation’s family courts so that if there’s any infringement on any child, these courts handle them separately. We have collaborated with other agencies and big players in the actualisation of these laws. We advocate for gender equality, going to the markets, going to villages, discussing with traditional rulers and all stakeholders.

How does FIDA treat the issue of Rape?
FIDA has always condemned rape. In fact, at FIDA branches, they will tell you everyday, one rape case comes up at that desk and we have curb against it vehemently. But thank God for social media, the issues are more open, because there used to be a culture of silence. Victims will not want to speak out, parents would want to cover them up, whereas victims are psychologically and physically traumatised. Some have contracted diseases such as HIV/AIDS, others, without speaking out. Diverse cases like fathers raping their daughters, men raping toddlers and all.

Is FIDA involved in the case of the Benue girl, Ochanya?
FIDA is on the case in Benue State, we have taken it up. The 13-year-old girl, Ochanya, who had been raped since she was seven years old, unfortunately, died. FIDA is on it. Also, we must speak to ourselves as women to be more humane, sensible and sensitive to such issues. Look at the other woman that locked a boy inside a dog’s cage. Another one beat her daughter until she collapsed and died in Ondo State.

Is there anything FIDA is doing to keep women in marriage and still find a way to pursue their career?
Marriage is a private thing and it is a choice. FIDA will not go into any man’s house, or any woman’s home to ask how are you doing? How is your husband treating you? But if there is a problem reported to us, we now call the husband, seat them down and mediate. But generally, whenever we have the opportunity for advocacy, whether we go to them directly or we speak on radio, we insist on women empowerment. We tell women not to give up on their jobs for marriage.

While they stay to take care of their homes and children, they should at least get something doing however small so they can be financially independent. However, with what is happening in the world now, in the last five years, I don’t think any woman who has a job before marriage will give it up because of a man.

Any plans to go into politics?
Yes if I have the opportunity and feel safe about it because politics, as it is being played in Nigeria, calls for caution and intense passion. At my age, I must be careful. I won’t just jump into politics, I would rather wish to be approached to come and represent my people, that way, I have their support. However, I don’t have the kind of money put into politics but God can provide.

How do you relax, considering how much work and time you put into everything you do?
I ensure to keep work away from home, the same with my husband so we can spend quality time when we’re together. My husband is my best source of detox, I love and respect him and he is my number one inspiration.

Interview by Marie Diamond for Guardian 

The WeWALK smart cane was born from a visually impaired engineer named Kursat Ceylan. He is also the CEO and co-founder of a non-profit called the Young Guru Academy (YGA), the one responsible for making WeWALK come to life. As someone who faces the daily challenges of being blind, Kursat Ceylan knew the limitations of the current technology that people like him have to make do of. Knowing this, he created the WeWALK in hopes of changing the lives of the blind.

This innovative cane includes a built-in speakers, voice assistance, Google Maps, a Bluetooth system that makes syncing to other devices possible, and high-end sensors that alerts the user through vibrations when above chest level obstacles are within proximity—something a regular cane cannot provide.

Google maps helps people with their smart cane.
WeWALK Facebook Page

In these days we are talking about flying cars, but these people have been using just a plain stick,” he explained to CNN. “As a blind person, when I am at the Metro station I don’t know which is my exit… I don’t know which bus is approaching… which stores are around me. That kind of information can be provided with the WeWalk.”

One of Kursat Ceylan’s goal in making the WeWALK is to make the social participation of people like him full, and easier. To him, the WeWALK was made to “support the visually impaired in their full participation into social life.” This device is not completely new, but the fact that he was able to utlize and incorporate existing technologies such as voice assistance, Google Maps, and Bluetooth syncronization, makes it a completely new idea.

WeWALK Facebook Page

A lot of people have expressed their joy and excitement for having this kind of device available for the visually impaired.

Well done Ceylan! This will enhance lives of of the visually impaired by so much!” Julia Teng Roo Seen shared.

Just add a taser and it’s perfect for all situations!” Bill Ward joked.

Even Duygu Kayaman, a proud user of the WeWALK shared her sentiment regarding this innovative device.

WeWALK Facebook Page

To me, WeWALK represents the end of an era and the start of a new one.

According to the World Health Organization, an estimated number of about 36 million are blind. Just imagine the possible change and impact of the WeWALK in these people’s lives once they get their hands on this groundbreaking device!

Know more about the WeWALK by going to their official website and watch Kursat Ceylan as he introduces the smart cane below:

Nigerian visual artist Haneefah Adam is known for her food inspired, eye-catching and creative artworks talks to CNN International about her work and her passion.

In the interview with CNN, Haneefah says  “I have always been artistic, growing up, my mother said I had a flair for art. I do regular portraits, I sew and paint, but what excites me the most is food”.

On her next steps, she says: “I want to partake in more exhibitions. I currently live in Kwara, northern Nigeria; it is difficult to make a mark in the country’s art scene from here.”

In 2016, she won the #TechMeetsArtNG exhibition, sponsored by Samsung Nigeria and Rele Gallery. The competition was a culinary exhibition aimed at exploring the artistic presentation of some of Nigeria’s local meals.

See some of her food art:

Haneefah Adam

Haneefah Adam

One of the biggest challenges to saving anywhere, is impulse buying which may also be as a result of people thinking the cash at hand is too small to take to the bank. But it’s the little drops of water that makes the mighty ocean, yeah? People are beginning to recognise this.

In the last few years, the use of piggybanks, popularly called “Kolo” in Nigeria, have increased, as more and more people are beginning to become for financially responsible.

This means there’s a market for Kolo manufacturers. Ufia Aniebietabasi, recognised this, and is now building a thriving business – Kolo Lagos.

Ufia was in her final year in the university when she realised that she had no savings whatsoever, whether at the bank, or even at home.

She decided to change this. She got a carpenter to make a piggybank for her and she disciplined herself to save money.

It worked!

And she told her friends about it and they were interested.

That was how Ufia’s journey began.

She began making Kolos crafted and designed to promote the rich and beautiful culture in Nigeria and Africa. They are really colourful and beautiful, making saving

Today, Ufia has a distributor in another Nigerian city, and she’s currently in talks with an international distributor.

The Mass Communication graduate from the University of Lagos is also a conference speaking, focusing on the importance of maintaining a savings culture.

We celebrate Ufia for recognising a market and creating a thriving business as a result which is impacting people’s lives.

Ade Balogun was working as an architect a decade ago when she made the decision to permanently loc her hair due to her crazy schedules and spending 2 to 4 hours twice a month at a hair salon wasn’t working for her.

She decided to loc her hair. But that came with its own challenges. Her colleagues made fun of her and at some point, she began to dislike how she looked.

It brought back memories from 3 years prior. While in architecture school, she told her mum she wanted to loc her hair and her mum said nothing until they were driving one day and saw a mentally ill man and she goes: “is this what you want to do to your hair?”

Ade kept at it and a year into her hair journey, she had a conversation with a friend who kept her natural hair and made her understand that there’s nothing wrong with wearing her natural hair.

This motivated her to keep wearing her hair the way she loved. To combat the lack of societal acceptance of dreadlocks, limited styling options and unprofessional salon services, Ade re-created styles from watching YouTube videos and applied her architectural leanings towards generating even more unique hairstyles.

She decided to start a blog (locitude.blogspot.com) to help people like her going through the same challenges with their locs. That was how her platform Locitude (Locs with an Attitude) was born.

Locitude is a community for people with locs. The platform has five pillars – its hair studio, product line, events, content creation via its blog and magazine, and education.

Ade also promotes societal acceptance of locs, self-confidence, networking, collaboration, and hair care and maintenance among people with dreadlocks, through her platform.

She hosts the annual Loc Appreciation Day in Lagos and has given talks at a TEDx event as well as Social Media Week, Lagos.

Ade is a visionary who is putting the fun back in for women and men who want to rock their natural hair with attitude and panache, and we’re totally rooting for her!

Wadi Ben-Hirki was only a 17-year old undergraduate at Covenant University when she decided to be a voice for the voiceless. Wadi founded the Wadi Ben-Hirki Foundation (WBHF) to help disadvantaged children in the areas of education and social welfare.

WBHF runs lots of projects including #EveryChildIsYourChild, Sapphire by WBHF, #RescueMakoko, #Street2School, #GirlsNotWives and #LITMOW (Love In The Midst Of War), through which it has reached hundreds of children across the country, with a focus on northern Nigeria.

With #EveryChildIsYourChild, WBHF teaches and encourages people to treat every child equally, irrespective of gender or biological parents.

With Sapphire by WBHF, the foundation raises funds through the sale of merchandise, and in the long run, hopes to employ only less privileged, disabled and victimised children.

The #Street2School initiative works to take the millions of out-of-school children into the classroom.

WBHF is fighting child marriage and gender inequality with #GirlsNotWives.

#LITMOW (Love In The Midst Of War), running in north-eastern Nigeria affected by the Boko Haram insurgency, is an initiative through which the WBHF spreads love to the residents.

Wadi is one of the Country Representatives for the Chatham House Common Futures Conversations. She has also been selected to serve on the African Leadership Institute Youth Advisory Board

Wadi was one of the youths selected to participate in the African Union Regional Youth Consultation on Human Rights (August 2016). She has been nominated for the Choice Humanitarian of the Year 2016 (AYCA), West African Philanthropist of the Year 2016 (CNBC All Africa Business Leaders Awards). She also won Nigerian Teen Choice Awards’ Choice Philanthropist of The Year (2015 & 2016) as well as Humanitarian of the Year (2016) at Covenant University.

Wadi is spreading hope and love to children across Nigeria and we’re rooting for her!

Carolyn is an advocate of promoting female involvement in technology. She is the founder of the Girls’ Voices initiative, a non-profit that provides a safe space for girls to connect and share stories of inspiration and motivation with the use of technology and digital media.

Girl Voices Initiative works to educate adolescent girls and women about their rights in law and the platform empowers the girls with the skills to use technology and digital media to lead advocacy for the protection of their rights and welfare in society.

Through Girl Voices Initiative, Carolyn does not just give girls a voices, she also builds girl leaders who build and support other girls.

Girl Voices Initiative builds young girls through training in advocacy, technology, and digital media.

Over 100,000 adolescent girls have been reached directly through Girl Voices Initiative’s girl-centred programs, and with its girl leaders, it has reached over 80 million people through various programs.

Carolyn won the US-based World Pulse Prize in 2016 and is a 2017 TechWomen fellow.

Carolyn, a lawyer, has well over a decade’s experience in management consulting and women and girls advocacy, working at UN Women and Nigeria’s House of Representatives, among others.

We celebrate Carolyn for giving girls a voice and for building girl leaders across Nigeria and the world, and we’re rooting for her!

My girls and I were having dinner, and after laughing about everything from fashion to family, the subject of career transitioning came up.

Fola raised the topic—not for the first time—and this time she desperately needed answers from us. We honestly thought she would follow her passion for baking, and “give daddy his law degree” as she had always said she would. Imagine our shock when she told us four years ago that she had decided to work at her uncle’s law firm. I’ll never forget how loudly we laughed when she joked that her child couldn’t live on cookies alone.

Our other friend, Bimpe, had successfully transitioned from owning and running her fashion business for years to becoming one of the best business strategists in the country. Bimpe’s voice was the loudest during this conversation, as it had every right to be. We all watched her handle her transition gracefully, how she sometimes had to delete comments by entitled people who had heard rumours about why she closed down her business. But she was soaring in her career, and that’s all that mattered.

Here are a few lessons on career transitioning that Bimpe shared with us, and will be helpful if you’re in a similar stage in your life.

Keep an open mind
This is a crucial season for you and your loved ones. Before you take that leap into a new career path, be open to the opinion of others, especially those who have transitioned before, or currently work in the industry you seek to join. Be open to asking and answering very tough questions. We didn’t spare Bimpe or Fola these questions, so I doubt your loved ones will. When people give you answers to your questions, ensure you’re not defensive.

Enhance your skills
A career transition can be one of the most humbling experiences ever. You’ll most likely find that some of the skills you have will not come in handy in the future. In order to be very effective in your new industry, ensure that you take a break to enhance all needed skills. Do it at your own pace; there is no rush. You may want to start out with a quick online search, a course, or take on a whole degree if that is needed in your new field. You should also consider an internship position to learn for a few months. Just ensure that you’ve evaluated your past experiences and measured it with what you now seek. Mentorship can also not be over-emphasized. Get a mentor or friend in this field who can help guide you.

Be sure you’re doing it for the right reasons
A career transition is a big deal. It’s important that you do not limit yourself, but it’s also important that the big decisions you take in life are well thought out. You have to look inward and question your motive. Why am I changing careers? Will I look back in five years and regret this decision? Should I seek counsel? The biggest reason for your career change should be fulfillment. Although I understand there are times where life just happens, still, always be fuelled by other desires that are not monetary.

Don’t hold back
Sounds like a contradiction, right? But life is too short to be doing anything that doesn’t give you fulfilment. You just have to take the jump. Do it afraid. There’s only so much analyzing you can do, at some point, you’ll have to just try it and see if it’ll work out. You’ll never know if you don’t try, and if you do try and it doesn’t work out, then at least you can tell the world that you’re great and trying new things and experiences.

About Debbie

Debbie Larry-Izamoje also known as The Entrepreneur’s Best-Friend is a Nigerian Entrepreneur. With Certificates in Innovation and strategy from Harvard University and user innovation from Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT), Debbie is passionate about assisting entrepreneurs which is why she founded Image Boosters , a digital agency that specializes in Digital Marketing, Social Media Management, PR & Communications. She is an author of 2 business books and was for 25 under 25 SME and recently recognized as by Trek Africa as outstanding entrepreneurship personality of the year. www.debbielarrryizamoje.com www.imageboosters.com.ng Twitter and Instagram: @dee_larry @imageboosters_ Email: contactus@imageboosters.com.ng

Discussing too many ideas is a red flag. For example, saying that your company intends to land one major customer, and then saying that you intend to land ten bigger ones at the same time shows you lack focus. Why? Because investors would rather have you record a huge success on the first one before hopping onto others.

Getting early stage investment can help new and existing startups worry less about short-term issues such as overhead costs, and help to focus on areas such as gaining competitive advantage, customer retention rates and expansion.

However, for entrepreneurs who aren’t savvy at the game, they could make mistakes that could prevent them from getting funds to expand their businesses. As the founder of a growing hair care solutions brand, I have made some of these mistakes in the last 6 years, and I learned these lessons the hard way. So let’s get into those mistakes and how to avoid them in the future.

Lack of Focus
Investors don’t like to waste their time and money. Therefore, when pitching to them to get funding, pass your message across clearly and keep it short and sweet. Additionally, since their main focus is to get returns on their investments, make sure that you explain the strategic plans you’ve put in place that would help you generate leads and bring in revenue. However, don’t make unrealistic claims or say things that aren’t related to the topic.

Likewise, discussing too many ideas is a red flag. For example, saying that your company intends to land one major customer, and then saying that you intend to land ten bigger ones at the same time shows you lack focus. Why? Because investors would rather have you record a huge success on the first one before hopping onto others.

Underestimating Your Competitors
Don’t make the mistake of telling potential investors that your business has no competitors. Saying that automatically translates to telling them that a market for your business doesn’t exist.

No matter the type of products or services you offer, your business has either direct or indirect competitors. For instance, if you intend to produce luxury cutlery and kitchen appliances when no one has, it’s safe to say that you don’t have direct competitors since there isn’t any other business offering the same product. However, your indirect competitors are other companies also producing affordable cutlery and kitchen appliances.

Additionally, don’t say horrible things about your competitors. Don’t make them look like they aren’t doing anything right, because the truth is if they aren’t doing it right, they won’t remain in business.

A Long/Boring Business Plan
When pitching your business to investors, one of the major items they’d ask for is your business plan. Don’t go to presentations submitting a 70 to 100-page business plan. Those are too many words, and most investors just want to see how your solution can guarantee a return on their investment. Likewise, your revenue model shouldn’t be shallow, It should adequately convey your plans for your business’ success.

Based on my experience, I’d recommend that your business plan shouldn’t exceed 10 to 15 pages. If it’s a pitch, it shouldn’t be more than 10 slides.

Not Understanding Your Metrics
Want to scare off investors? Don’t understand your metrics and you’re good to go. You should be able to know how much it would cost you to acquire a customer or cost of delivering the product and marketing. Knowing these metrics would give you an idea of the amount of money needed to fund or expand your business. Additionally, understanding your metrics would help you and your team work purposefully towards setting and achieving your business’ growth goals.

Being Overconfident
Investors have experienced successes and failures; and they can sniff a lie from miles away. While investors expect you to be an expert in your business, they don’t expect you to be a Jack of all trades. Instead of touting yourself as a know-it-all, acknowledge your investors’ experience and let them know that while you are knowledgeable about your business, you welcome their suggestions and ideas about other areas of your business.

Excess Focus on Product Features
Strictly focusing on your products and their features when raising funds for your business isn’t a great idea. Sure, while you need to sell your products and their features to potential investors, you also have to clearly communicate that you aren’t just selling a product or offering a service. Let them know and show them that you’re building a customer-centric brand.

Without strategic marketing, a great team, financial literacy, emotional intelligence and efficient operations, your business won’t survive, even if your products or services are gems.

Likewise, let investors know if your products have a special feature, and make sure that you communicate clearly how you’ll ensure it isn’t copied or reproduced, such as patent protection or copyright.

Poor Forecasting
Nothing puts off investors more than an unrealistic goal. When you aren’t authentic, you lose credibility. Most business owners make the mistake of exaggerating their financial projections, metrics and market size.

Don’t say it would take competitors five years or more before they can reproduce your products; because when investors carry out an investigation and discover that your claims are far from the truth, you’ve blown your chances. Period!

Instead of falling into this, sell your execution and your value proposition.

Raising children in this digital age is different from our days where we were raised with restrictions. In the digital age, there are no restrictions. Everything is out there , whether you like it or not. This makes it challenging for parents to raise their children, if they don’t become deliberate and intentional about it.

Recently, I was having a conversation with a client, and as we continued the conversation, I said “parenting is a business and it must be treated as such”. Immediately, I said this, I looked at her and I could see that it took some self control for her not to roll her eyes at me. In that moment, I realised that there were probably a lot of mums out there who would probably not agree with this statement.

I could understand why this lady thought this way. We know that a business is the act of making, buying or selling products or services in exchange for money; so, classifying parenting as a business sounded absurd to her.

If you take a minute to think about it, you’ll realise that God placed the business of parenting in your hands. He also gave clear instructions when He blessed you with that child which is to train him up the way he should go!

In this digital age, everything you thought you knew about parenting has probably changed. However, our role as parents remain the same . Therefore, you cannot continue to use the ancient method you were brought up with, with your children and expect to get great results.

I have come to realize that when things are practicable, we understand it, because we can visualize it better. So, let’s relate it to real life business. As parents, you will do everything you can to grow in your business or career. You will pay business coaches, take professional courses, write qualifying exams, travel for days or months, if necessary, to progress in your field. However, when it comes to raising your child, you prefer to figure it out, make mistakes and wait for God to sort it out for you.

Can you progress in your business or career, if the knowledge you use is outdated? Imagine using the knowledge of 5,10, 20 years ago to operate in 2019? You would be out of a job if you had a career, or out of business if you were an entrepreneur as your competition must have taken over . In fact, it’s no news that if you want to succeed in business in this day and age, you must continuously innovate.

Now, if you must continuously innovate yourself or business to stay ahead of your competitors, why do you think it is okay to parent your kids in the same way you were brought up 20, 30 years ago? Why are you not seeking new ways to raise your digitized babies?

We have left raising our children to chance, the internet, gadgets, schools, teachers and religious organisations. We don’t do this to our businesses/careers? Why do that to your children? Your children are given to you to nurture, teach, guide and train and it is a role you shouldn’t take lightly.

Raising children in this digital age is different from our days where we were raised with restrictions. In the digital age, there are no restrictions. Everything is out there , whether you like it or not. This makes it challenging for parents to raise their children, if they don’t become deliberate and intentional about it. The days of trial and error are long gone. We need to start to seek help where necessary, because in this day and age it is so easy to lose a child.

Why?

Because the world is moving too fast and children are easily carried away if they aren’t brought up the right way.

Want to learn how to parent right and excel in this business of raising your child? Here are a few helpful tips:

Be a role model
Your kids are watching. 80% of your parenting is made easier if you practice what you preach to your children.

Speak positively
Rather than label your child in the negative light, use a positive approach. For example, rather than say you’re a liar, say, you know you’re not a liar, so why did you have to lie?

Create and spend quality time with them
Spending as little as 30 minutes a day, intentionally, will have more impact on them than not spending any time at all. Your children will also appreciate spending this time with you.

Invest in your kids’ talents and gifts
If they’re particularly skilled at something say singing, be their number one cheerleader. Gone are the days you have to be a medical doctor to be rich and famous.

Involve them in your day to day activities
Even if you run a tight schedule, you can bond with them through routine activities like ironing, cooking and cleaning.

Listen to them and don’t be too quick to judge
Your kids are human beings too, ask for their opinion on issues concerning them and listen to them.

Be quick to apologize when you’re wrong
Some of our parents are guilty for always wanting to be right and never apologising when they’re wrong. Don’t be that parent. In fact, don’t be too surprised if your little one calls you out for not apologising. We are in 2019 after all.

Invest in getting knowledge
Some of us need more help than others when it comes to parenting. If you think you need more knowledge to raise your child(ren), get it.

Teach them through life stories
Children often connect better with stories, so ensure you teach them valuable life lessons in the same way. In addition, it is okay to be vulnerable with your children.

Teach them the power of choice and consequences of decisions
Help them to understand that the choices they make can make or mar them for life.

Pray for them and with them
Prayer is key when raising kids in this day and age. But, remember you have a part to play before God can do His. Some parents are quick to hide under the umbrella of prayers and forget their responsibility.

While it takes a village to raise a child, being an intentional parent, who puts in some work and thought, will surely help in the long run.

Source: Bellanaija