Women of Rubies

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Rapper and writer, Eva Alordiah shared a post on her Instagram page on how to get over an ex after breakup.

In the post, she talked about how moving on from a breakup is very important even though it seems hard to deal with especially when one has invested so much time in the relationship.

She wrote:

Why is it so Hard for you to Get over your #Ex? Have you thought about this at all or are you simply just deciding that you cannot get over them?
Breakups are hard, especially when you have spent time connecting and building with someone.
Unfortunately, sometimes, things end.
They just do.
But it’s up to you to realize when it is time to let go and stop fighting to hold on to things.

Do understand that the #Universe will always, always, bring to you that which is good for the nourishing and full evolution of your Soul.
If someone is meant to be in your Life, they will always circle back to you. No matter how long it takes.

But right now, you cannot continue to fight, and to grapple and hold on to people especially when they aren’t holding on to you.
All you’ll be doing is picking at the wounds, making the pain worse and delaying your own emotional healing.

As bad as Breakups are, they are in fact good for us.
They help us reflect on who we were in the past relationship, and who we want to be moving forward.
Breakups introduce us to a whole new Self that we never before knew existed.

So I challenge you today to face yourself, to get back into the sweet rhythm of your life and to Live again.

And stop telling yourself that you cannot get over them, for this is a Lie and Time will prove you wrong.

Stop holding on to the past, stop wishing them back. Because you doing so you cut yourself off from the present moment which is where Life is really happening. In the Now.

Let Time glide you slowly through the stream of Life.
Let time help you Heal.

No matter how painful it feels right now, you are going to get over them ❤

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Why is it so Hard for you to Get over your #Ex? Have you thought about this at all or are you simply just deciding that you cannot get over them? _Follow @evaxalordiah _Follow @evaxalordiah _ BREAKUPS ARE HARD, especially when you have spent time connecting and building with someone. Unfortunately sometimes, things end. They just do. But it's up to you to realize when it is time to let go and stop fighting to hold on to things. Do understand that the #Universe will always, always, bring to you that which is good for the nourishing and full evolution of your Soul. If someone is meant to be in your Life, they will always circle back to you. No matter how long it takes. But right now, you cannot continue to fight, and to grapple and hold on to people especially when they aren't holding on to you. All you'll be doing is picking at the wounds, making the pain worse and delaying your own emotional healing. As bad as Breakups are, they are in fact good for us. They help us reflect on who we were in the past relationship, and who we want to be moving forward. Breakups introduce us to a whole new Self that we never before knew existed. So I challenge you today to face yourself, to get back into the sweet rhythm of your life and to Live again. And stop telling yourself that you cannot get over them, for this is a Lie and Time will prove you wrong. Stop holding on to the past, stop wishing them back. Because you doing so you cut yourself off from the present moment which is where Life is really happening. In the Now. Let Time glide you slowly through the stream of Life. Let time help you Heal. No matter how painful it feels right now, you are going to get over them ❤ _ #TheTruthonTuesday #Throwback #EvaAlordiah #EnergyGiver #WaterWomanEvaAlordiah _ ♡ ♡ ♡ PLEASE SHARE THIS to your WhatsApp and #InstaStories to keep the good energy flowing. Tag me 💥 ♡ Wanna talk to someone? GET A PHONE CALL with me to talk about anything. DM to Request Access.❤

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Black women are out here diversifying the #BlackExcellence portfolio! 25-year-old Catari Jackson just became the Shreveport Police Department’s (SPD) first Black woman in Mounted Patrol, the Shreveport Times reports.

 Jackson has been a patrol officer with the SPD for four years. When she transitioned departments to Shreveport’s downtown area, she was informed that she would be going to “horse school” as a training requirement for officers in that area.

Jackson didn’t know she was literally blazing a new trail. While completing her four-week course to get certified in Mounted Patrol someone told Jackson, “Um, have you noticed you’re the first?” The thought never crossed her mind. Jackson spoke to the press saying, “It’s a great feeling…God placed me here to be an example for other young women.”

Photo courtesy of Emily Enfinger/The Times

The image of Jackson in uniform and with her horse is a welcomed one. After a Shreveport Police group on Facebook shared photos of the new members of the Mounted Patrol, the ones featuring her received a plethora of likes and shares. 

We’re excited for young kids and other women in Shreveport and beyond to see this type of representation. Congratulations Catari! We wish you and your horse, Rock, the best in your new endeavors!

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Over the weekend the riveting Netflix series When They See Us, took home their first Emmy at the Creative Arts Emmy Awards for Outstanding Movie/Limited Series Casting.

The series tells the story of The Exonerated Five, formerly known as The Central Park Five, a group of teenage boys wrongly convicted for sexually assaulting a woman who was jogging in Central Park in 1989. When They See Us is based on the true story of Antron McCray (Caleel Harris/Jovan Adepo), Kevin Richardson (Asante Blackk/Justin Cunningham), Korey Wise (Jharrel Jerome), Raymond Santana Jr. (Marquis Rodriguez/Freddy Miyares) and Yusef Salaam (Ethan Herisse/Chris Chalk).

Ava DuVernay, who directed the series congratulated Aisha Coley, the film’s casting director on Instagram saying  “So happy for this wonderful woman! First nomination. First win. Aisha Coley has won the Emmy for her work in casting WHEN THEY SEE US, along with the great Billy Hopkins and Ashley Ingram. Overjoyed! BTW: She hates taking pictures so this is the best I have. A humble lady. Shy. And spectacular in her talent.”

The series earned 16 Emmy nominations in total. We’ll be tuning in to the Primetime Emmys to root for everyone on September 22nd at 8pm on FOX!

Social media has opened u​s to ​ a whole new world, ​and ​one avenue we appreciate​ most ​ is  Instagram comedians​ who keep us entertained​. Anytime you need a quick laugh throughout the day, you can check your timeline to see silly skits, dances, and voiceovers. There is an abundance of hilarious men and women on Instagram making us smile and helping the mental health of a lot of people. While there are so many well known and upcoming Instagram comedians and content creators, some stand out because of their aura and mode of delivery. One of such people is the very talented and beautiful Mariam Bakr​e,​ popularly known as Mory Coco.

The 25 year old  Mass Communication Graduate from Babcock University is ​ a ​comical content creator, A YouTube Lifestyle Vlogger, Food Bloger and an Entrepreneur . Mory‘s skits not only show her talent but it also clearly represents her religious side, which makes her stand out.

Mory is  happily married to Femi Bakre, who is the CEO of Kraks Tv and one of the pioneers and supporter of comical contents.  ​She shares her inspiring story with me in this interview.

Childhood Influence

Ever since I was a kid, I knew I had to be on Tv, that I had to be on the big screen, that people had to know me for a particular talent, but I just didn’t know what it was. I watched Disney a lot growing up, so I knew there is something called a ‘child star’ and I wanted to be it so bad. Every time I watched a Disney show there was always the desire in me to be that kid in front of the screen but the problem was the platform, I didn’t know how to go about anything, also I am a very shy person so it was really difficult sharing my dreams and beliefs with people, it was like I had this big dream but I didn’t know how to turn it into a reality. When social media gave me the platform to show my self to the world, I JUMPED at it even though it took a little while.

Being a Youtuber, Food blogger, wife and also a comedy skit expert and managing it all

 All these are things I enjoy doing, I love creating content, cooking, vlogging and I also enjoy being a wife Alhamdullilah. Another thing I try to do is listen to my body, I never joke with it. If it’s signalling rest-time, then rest-time it is, even if it’s just for a day because at the end of the day it helps me recharge better and be more creative and loving to the people around me.

Sojourn into media content creation

 I had always wanted to go into the media space since I was a kid like a stated earlier, but the first challenge was the lack of platform. Secondly as I grew older, I realized that my privacy means a lot to me, I’m so private to the point where I get uncomfortable when a person sitting next to me can see what I’m doing on my phone. For the longest of time, I had to decide whether I truly wanted to be out there or just keep living my life on the low, but then I realized that there is no other profession I would rather be practicing, no other job can bring me this much happiness so I decide to come out of my comfort Zone and went full force into content creation this year  (2019)

Parental support

 I read Mass-Communication in the university, interned at a radio station, hosted Ramadan talks shows while I was in the university. They saw it coming and the welcomed it with all of their hearts

No special preference for any of my skits

 I can’t say a particular video brought me to limelight, it was a series of videos. Like I said, I decided to go full force this year, so I was releasing content back to back, generally just putting my self in people’s faces all the time and the people are so welcoming and appreciative of my talent which made my work a little bit easier.

The almost saturated Vlogging business

We are all different. First​,​ the room is big enough for one million of us to succeed beautifully without hassle, however there can only be one Mory Coco. How Mory Coco does it, only Mory Coco can do it like that, and that goes to other influencers as well, that’s what makes each and everyone of us unique in our various spaces.

Recognition of Female content creators

 I think that the industry has been fair but we don’t really need the industry to ‘pity’ us any more. Debola Williams,  once said the currency of this generation is talent and it hit me deep because nothing is truer than that statement . If you are talented and consistent, you would get the recognition you desire. You don’t have to beg anybody to showcase you to the world, there are a lot of tools at your disposal, so it’s only a matter of time for you to start getting all the accolades you deserve.

3 women who Inspire me to be better

Ellen DeGeneres, Rihanna and Kemi Adetiba. These three women are success driven, humanitarians and fun. I love women who know how make money, are kind to people and play when the times comes because all work and no play?? Lol.

Representing my religion with my Hijab

 it’s very easy to get carried away in the media scene, my religion has always been a part of me and it would always be by the grace of God. I needed people to accept me the way I am so removing my scarf for the media would be showing a person that isn’t me and I wanted to be as original as possible.

Other projects

 I like to keep things under the books until they are fully mature and ready for execution.

Being a woman of Rubies

I am one because I am constantly always trying to make the world a better place with my content and add value to humanity by making me laugh and feel happy.

To women who want to g​o​ into content creation

This might sound cliché but if you have a talent you believe in and you are ready to put it out there for the world to see, then go for it. Don’t let anything stop you. Results are never immediately except for a few lucky ones amongst us and even at that you would still need to be consistent or else people will forget you. Be consistent even if you don’t see results immediately, so long you know in your heart of heart that this is what you should be doing. You would surely reap the fruits of your labor. Also stay true to your style, don’t change for anyone, the world would adjust, the world always adjusts. Not everyone is going to like you, AND THAT’S OKAY! It only means you are human.

Christiana Boluwatife Fagbenro is a twenty year old undergraduate of Geology. She is a great artist, writer, song writer and performer of poetry.

Meet Me

Christiana is a jovial, strongwilled and outspoken young lady who loves meeting people and trying out new things in order to affect lives positively.

Hobbies

Drawing, painting, writing, singing-songwriting

My Inspiration

Music inspires me greatly, it goes through my ears and flows through my soul, bringing out a marvelling result. Also, basically anyone who is able to break a ground inspires me. Someone whose story makes me stronger, someone who never gave up.

Biggest Fear

My biggest fear is not setting my piorites right in life.

Being a Science student and still excelling well at Arts and Sports

Science is my passion. Art is a talent I developed and found joy in while Sports keep me active, gets me going, so, I find a way to balance it all up. Doing what I should at the right time.

Would you rather go back in time to correct a mistake or time travel two years to the future?

I would gladly go two years into the future, learning from my past mistakes.

What is that one thing you would love to change about yourself?

I cannot think of any. I’m not perfect but I’m great in my own ways.

What will you change as a one day President of Nigeria?

If a day is enough to change negative mentality or end corruption, I would do that

What keeps you up at night?

Prayer, art or when I’m writing.

 If you were given the opportunity to start all over again, will you choose to be a Science student or Arts student?

I would definitely choose to be a science student.

My brand in the next 5 years

I see myself with my degree, travelling the world, owning my own Art firm, an organization set at reaching out to most people through every dimension of Art, helping kids discover their talent. I see myself helping children, women and people who feel there’s no hope for them. I see my published books and I see myself at the peak of my goal still standing in Christ.

If you were given the opportunity to address a group of girls five years younger than you, what will you be your advice to them?

I would tell them to always set their priorities right. They shouldn’t give up on their goals, I would tell them my story and that behind every cloud is a silver lining. Lastly, I would tell them to always love themselves because there’s no better work of Art than yourself.

Want to be featured as our #Rubygirl? Send a mail to womenofrubies@gmail.com

Lawal Rahmota  is graduate of Educational administration from the prestigious University of Lagos. She currently run @WeTradeInAll, an online store that offers eyewear styling, optical frames and lens dispensing services for trendy individuals.

She answers our famous #7questions in this interview;
1. What is your biggest fear?
My biggest fear in life used to be FAILING, but I was able to crush that by making myself understand that, failing at anything doesn’t make it the end of life, instead, it is an opportunity for one to do better.
Currently, my biggest fear is that I might one day not be able to fend for myself due to any reason.
2. In your darkest moments, what do you do?
EAT! EAT!! EAT!!!
I guess that is why I am a UK 18 😂. I am an emotional eater. So, in my darkest moments I just let go and have comfort food. * Sorry to disappoint anyone that was expecting something deep.
3. What is that one thing you would like to change about yourself?
Procrastination. This girl can procrastinate for Africa, from reading for exams to doing assignments, if it isn’t Last minute I am not getting it done. I am currently working on it by pushing myself to do things immediately. Like I made sure I replied this mail same day I got it. 😁😁
4. Where do you see yourself five years from now?
5 years from now, I see my brand touching the lives of people via our foundation, offering free eyecare and corrective lens to those who can’t afford it.
5. What keeps you going?
My Fear of poverty.
6. What is your stand on feminism? 
Feminism to me means equal right between genders. Political, social and economic equality and equity. the ideology that no gender is superior to the other.
My understanding of feminism is to oppress men like some individuals believe. Instead, it Is to give a voice to the voiceless. I believe everyone should embrace feminism.
Do you consider yourself a feminist?
I “stan” 100% 😁
7. What keeps you up at night?
WeTradeInAll keeps me up all night, I constantly think and research on how to grow my baby into the likes of Specssavers, Vint and York, Coastal.com etc.
Send a mail to info@womenofrubies.com If you want to be featured on #7questions

 

According to the Chicago Sun Times, Joan Johnson, co-founder of the trailblazing Black hair care company, Johnson Products, has passed away at the age of 89.

In 1954 Joan and her husband George Johnson, started what would become the world’s largest Black owned business, Johnson Products. The two started the company with a $250 investment on the South Side of Chicago. The hair care company dominated the market for decades, with famous trademark products like “Afro Sheen.” Johnson Products sales eventually grew from about $4 million in 1967 to $40 million in 1976. Read that again, $40 million in 1976!

Johnson was relentless in her business pursuits and even more relentless in uplifting and empowering other Black businesses and business owners. Johnson Products became the first company to sponsor the hit variety show, Soul Train, helping to elevate it to a national audience. Johnson also helped to sponsor and organize the Congressional Black Caucus Fashion Show, served as a board member of the Museum of Contemporary Art and was a member of the women’s boards at the University of Chicago and Northwestern University. She also served as a trustee of Spelman College, where she donated to an annual scholarship fund.

Eric G. Johnson, the oldest son of the hair care maven said she passed away last Friday evening, after a lengthy illness stemming from a 2005 accident that caused her to undergo five back surgeries.

“I look at my mother as a pioneer,” Eric Johnson said. “She and my father had no provided path. They created a path where there was none.”

Johnson also said that while his mother spearheaded the business, his father served as the creative genius behind the products.

“My dad could come up with brand names and products, and [my mom] brought the culture of integrity to the company. People had a great deal of confidence in her ability to make the company successful,” he said.

As a result of the couples joint efforts, in 1971, Johnson Products became the first Black owned company to be traded on the American Stock Exchange. The company also frequently came in at number one on Black Enterprise Magazine’s list of the nation’s largest Black owned businesses. The Johnsons were awarded with the magazine’s highest honor, the A.G. Gaston Lifetime Achievement Award.

Eric Johnson said his mother “set a direction and standard” for the family. “Because of her, people have been able to accomplish things they maybe didn’t think they could, and they knew all the things they had to strive for.”

Because of Her, we can!

 

Ogechi Ofurum-Omeike is an alumna of Upper Iowa University, Cardiff Metropolitan University and Afe Babalola University where she was awarded a Bachelor of Science

in Communication, Masters in Business Administration (MBA) and Masters of Science in Communication (Distinction) degrees respectively. She is the founder of Techie and Savvy, the convener of the Future Business Leaders Conference and the author of Raising Smarter Kids. Before founding Techie and Savvy, she has worked in various organizations in the Education Sector, rising from the position of a class as Teacher and Sectional Head Teacher in Silversands Hall School to a short stint at Mindscapes Children’s Museum as the Program Coordinator. Also, she worked at ActivEdge Technologies Limited as the Marketing and Communication Manager where she collaborated with international brands

The beautiful and Teacher  shares her inspiring story with me in this interview.

 Childhood Influence

 Growing up was very interesting and exciting. Most likely because of the special bond I shared with my late dad. Also, I was pampered and loved by my brothers beyond measures. My mum was the disciplinarian of the house and as such, she was always quick to the address my excesses. I had a balanced childhood, one filled with love, care, attention and just the right amount of discipline.

That said, my childhood definitely played a role in preparing me for what I am currently doing. Growing up in a neighbourhood where the rate of illiteracy was strikingly high with domestic violence, substance abuse and teenage pregnancies being acceptable norms, I knew I wanted something different for my life. I recognized I was made for more.In a bid to be more, create and offer value, I chose to follow a path that was less travelled by people in that environment: I pursued education. Little or no wonder even though I started my tertiary education with an OND I proceeded to bag an HND, BSc, MBA, MSC and I am still counting.

Inspiration behind Techie and Savvy

Techie & Savvy is a Social Enterprise in Nigeria; primarily focused on capacity building for children aged 5 to 16years (Primary and Secondary School Pupils). We are committed to developing and empowering young minds to become Entrepreneurial by positioning the younger generation to become problem solvers, value creators and consequently, future business leaders. To achieve the aforementioned we have established the following platforms: School Entrepreneurship Club, Future Business Leaders Conference and, One on One session and Open Trainings.To give meaning to our essence, we collaborate with Parents, Schools, Companies, NGOs, Governments, and Individuals to empower the younger generation.

My book “Raising Smarter Kids”

With the current innovations in the technological space and the role of artificial intelligence in making the world smarter, it becomes unsustainable to raise our kids with moribund principles that do not adequately prepare children for the future. It is therefore vital to review these out-dated parental principles and come up with new strategies in raising our kids to become indispensable in a smart world.

These thoughts birthed the need to write the book ‘Raising Smarter Kids’. In reality, no child is born unintelligent; therefore, raising a smarter kid is totally dependent on the strategies deployed by parents, guardians and teachers in engaging their children.  A solid foundation is essential to the growth and development of a child. Hence, in the book ‘Raising Smarter Kids’, I clearly spelt out the roles parents may play from the womb and preschool days of a child in creating a safe haven for the child. Articulately stating the key principles parents, guardians, teachers and the school management may implement in raising smarter kids.

 Being a  motivational speaker, author and entrepreneur

God has blessed humans with several inherent potential, abilities and he expects us to create value with each of them. The parable of the talents in the bible buttresses this. However, to make the best use of our talents, there is need for good understanding of time management and the ability to pay attention to those things that truly matter.

My Inspiration

I am usually inspired by women that thrive in male dominated industries. I am also greatly motivated by the likes of Afe Babalola who didn’t allow his age to hinder him from pursuing his passion and establishing Afe Babalola University at the age he did; and, by those that have deliberately and consistently turned the stones thrown at them into stepping stones towards the path of greatness.

Challenges

 Regardless of the type of business, there are usually unique challenges at every stage of business growth. For instance, when we started Techie and savvy, it was challenging convincing some school owners about the essence of the program and our expertise. However, I guess I can say we are gradually making substantial progress in sensitizing the relevant stakeholders. Also, building structures and getting the right crop of people to work with are major challenges. This is why we are deliberate about recruiting graduates, committed to the training and development of our people and most importantly, ensuring that our team members are passionate about developing and empowering young minds to become Entrepreneurs.

On giving up

Like David in the bible, I have consistently encouraged myself to keep pursing my dream even in the face of challenges because the essence of Techie and Savvy is core to the fulfilment of my purpose.

Being a Woman of Rubies

 In all humility, I am a woman that has endured the challenges of life in a bid to achieve and create value. That is what makes me the woman that I am.

Dear Parents….

To a very large extent, you may not have physical control over the sex, structures, features and other genetic compositions of your offsprings but as parents, we can consciously play a role towards the outcome of our kids in life.

There are specific processes and actions we can deploy as parents to ensure our kids have a secured future in a world that is getting smarter by the day. Some of these principles are stated in my recently published book ‘Raising Smarter Kids’. I would advise every parent interested in the future of their children to get a copy of the book.

 

Nihmatallah Akashat is a Lawyer, Wife , Mom and one of the beautiful faces on popular daytime show “Your View”. The graduate of Law from the Lagos State University; stands out daily with her Hijab on our screen, reflecting the beauty of inclusion and showing us that the hijab is not an hindrance in anyway to women fulfilling their God given purpose.She shares her inspiring story and the challenges of being an influential figure in this interview.

Childhood preparation

Nothing prepared me for this career path. This is because I didn’t plan to be a tv host. However, I had always been opinionated and my expressions accommodated by my dad especially. This gave me an edge at my very first audition. I had something to say about all the topics I was thrown because I had been encouraged to have an opinion about everything. I watched Yourview from the beginning and hoped they will consider having a Muslim co-host. So I will say, I was inspired because I was a Muslim and Islam was not being represented well at the time I joined.

My Hijab Identity

My hijab is my identity. Without it I cannot appear in public among non family members. It is a religious covering yes, but for me it’s about functionality. Also part of the program setting is to have women from different cultures and beliefs on a show. We are glad to reflect that and show the world that every woman regardless of their ethnic background and religions counts.

Still a Lawyer

Yes, I am still practicing law. I am now managing partner cynosure practice barristers and solicitor. A law firm I co founded in 2016

Being  a wife, Mom, TV Host and managing it all

It is the grace of God and setting of the right priorities. Family first and most pressing career need next. It doesn’t matter whether it’s the show or the firm. I have a support system also to help with my children and a very supportive husband.

My Inspiration

The life of the Prophet Muhammed is my inspiration. Even though he was a great leader he related and was touched by the ordinary people. I made it my model and it’s worked for me. I am inspired by the realistic success stories of ordinary people.

Challenges

Yourview has made me very influential but not yet rich however it gives the impression that am both rich and influential. This have made a lot of people come to me for help for every single kind of problem. Infact my pro bono cases are more than I can take. This is a major challenge for me. I am  constantly, trying to say no . It’s very hard to explain to people that your job isn’t proportional to your bank account. sometimes.

On giving up

A few times I have felt like giving up. Especially, when it concerns family. However, I am patient with the situation and find the will to continue again.

Being a Woman of Rubies

I think that will be the fact that I am resilient. I am a fighter. I don’t give up.

Advice to aspiring Muslim TV host

My advice to  aspiring Muslim tv host. Trust yourself and be unapologetically Muslim. You can achieve that by acquiring a balanced knowledge of your religion and any other discipline of your choice. The confidence comes from the knowledge and the acceptance of your way of life which is Islam. Sell your religion wherever you go by being an ambassador of Islam.