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Light House a Non-Governmental Organization is set to host the second edition of their annual conference tagged Revamp. Revamp is an empowerment forum where established industry leaders provide mentorship and inspiration to young adults.

According to Precious Eniayekan, the convener of Revamp:” Revamp was born out of the passion to show young adults the way and to provide mentorship for them. It is organized to help them discover what life is about and equip them for what they have been called to do, thereby providing them with accurate information and models .When I was a child I had questions,  I needed explanations and it seemed like everyone was too busy to give me answers.  I made mistakes that could have been avoided, I took steps and made decisions I shouldn’t have made yes they made me who I am today.  But I feel it would have been better if I had someone or people to show me the way” she said.

The speakers for this second edition include Nollywood actor  Lateef Adedimeji, celebrity photographer Body Lawson, Ruky Toje, Timilehin Ayekitan and others . The event will hold on 13th of May at Primrose Event Centre, Ikeja

Precious Eniayekan is a young entrepreneur,Co-Founder Dida.com.ng and also an information technology expert.

Recently, award-winning author and feminist Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie in an interview with the UK Guardian came out to say that she would be more successful in Nigeria if she is not a feminist.

“Feminism is not that hot. I can tell you I would sell more books in Nigeria if I stopped and said I’m no longer a feminist. I would have a stronger following, I would make more money” she said.

She is spot on in this case. Feminism in Nigeria is an endangered movement or belief; it is associated with so much bile, prejudice and stigmatisation. You are either ascribed to one or more of the following stereotypes; man-haters, angry nasty women, pro-abortionists, homosexual or pseudo homosexual, unmarried or a career woman, anti-motherhood ,an atheist, unbeliever, a bad wife or an amoral woman. . .

A little over a year ago, Senator Biodun Olujimi sponsored a bill to seek redress on gender parity issues which purpose was to permit women to have equal rights with men in marriages, education, property rights and employment etc. As we all know it was met with strong opposition based on cultural, political and religious colourations.

Is this the right way to swing? I leave that to your judgement.
According to the World Bank in 2015, the women population in Nigeria stood at 49.07%. Yes, almost half of our population are women; and the sad reality is that large factions of these women are handicapped socially, medically, politically and economically. Factually speaking,  we should highlight and enforce women rights in our country if we truly seek redress on our economic productivity, improved sustainable development. We should ensure that our policies are more representative for a more holistic effect in the society. Are we deliberately going to leave this faction of our populace undervalued, defenceless, faceless, unemployable and underpowered? In which case they are more vulnerable to abuse, poverty, health issues and even death.

Nigeria is a signatory to the Maputo Protocol otherwise known as The Protocol to the African Charter on Human and Peoples Rights on the Rights of Women in Africa. This guarantees comprehensive rights to women and propagates gender parity in core areas which would further empower the African woman. This seeks to address pertinent challenges affecting the girl child and women in Africa, which have been relegated to the background for too long. It has consequently hindered the growth and empowerment of these women. In so many ways, their dreams are caught short as soon as the doctors declare their sex in the labour room.

These issues such as child marriage/early marriage, domestic violence, female genital mutilation (FGM), stigmatisation, gender pay gap, rape culture, marginalization of all forms, denial of property rights and inheritance, etc. are familiar occurrences in our society which affects girls and women. They fight these battles silently and the least that we could do is empathize, commiserate and sensitize these issues. But alas, our silence is just another web in the tangling and vicious cycle.

According to Wikipedia, feminism is a range of political movements, ideologies, and social movements that share a common goal: to define and advance political, economic, personal, and social rights for women. This includes seeking to establish equal opportunities for women in education and employment.

What it means to be a feminist in Iceland or Rwanda which are of the world’s best countries in terms of gender equality, is very different from what it means to be a feminist in Semen, Syria of even Nigeria. This is why feminism is a relative concept and a ready tool which could be used to advocate and propagate women rights that we require in our society  – to enable women to assume their full potential and prospects.

It would be truly amiss for me as a typical Nigerian not to highlight the religious/ cultural angle that casts a shadow on the propagation of women rights in our country. Religion and cultural norms play a huge role on our stance on so many issues, as such most antagonists usually use this premise to expound why women rights should not be enforced or just given the cursory lip service. But then should this be a justification to hamper our development? Especially as it can be clearly seen that the lack of / enforcement of such rights are detrimental to our women and future generations yet unborn.

It’s truly amusing when certain individuals try to besmirch women rights and associate the affiliation of such rights to the breakdown of nuclear family, home values and the dynamics of marriage in general. It is perceived as a threat to the stability and dynamics of the family.

I would argue that this would in fact create a more stable, well balanced homestead; in most heterosexual societies women are wives, homemakers, mothers, breadwinners etc, whose roles in building the future and society cannot be overstated. So in that vein, why shouldn’t they be empowered in all spheres of life according to their capacities and abilities instead of the norm of limiting the scope of what they can even dream about?
I ask again why not?

So when people ask me why I am a feminist in Nigeria. These are my reasons as stated above and so much more. I simply choose not to be silent. I am a Christian first, a feminist second and both at the same time. (I will elucidate on this in another article.)

I stand with women rights. What about you?

Source: Bellanaija

A report from UNESCO estimates that one in ten girls in Sub-Saharan Africa misses school during her menstrual cycle due her inability to access affordable sanitary products, and conversations about periods are almost an abominable topic of discussion in Nigeria. To complicate that further, because our country is in a recession, the prices of everything, including sanitary products, has doubled.

It was one such discussion that inspired Oghenekaro (Karo) Omu, a social media & brand specialist, to start the Sanitary Aid for Nigerian Girls initiative.

(Photo: S.A.N.G.)

(Photo: S.A.N.G)

On the 15th of January 2017, Karo learned that the prices of sanitary products had increased by more than 100% and she immediately thought of how it would impact the underprivileged girls who had barely been able to get access to these products. And she decided to do something about it. She sent out a tweet

As with most initiatives, once she started, she realized that it was a bigger problem than she’d imagined. So she put together a team of 6: Gabriella Scott, Cynthia Ndeche, Tolani Thomas, Alexa Chukwumah, Ifeyinwa Mbanugo and Olamide Odukoya; with a group of other eager volunteers. The initiative raised over N800,000 within a week, from crowd-sourcing on Twitter alone.

(Photo: S.A.N.G)

(Photo: S.A.N.G)

Karo and her team have so far raised N1.3 million and distributed sanitary pads to over 1,500 women and girls across 3 schools and an IDP camp in Jos.

This coming week, the initiative has plans to give sanitary products to at least 1,000 women and girls in Borno. And at the end of the second quarter of the year, the Sanitary Aid for Nigerian Girls initiative intends to reach up to 15,000 girls in Lagos, Ogun, Abuja, Plateau and Borno.

Speaking to Konbini about her future plans for the initiative, Karo says:

“In the future, we intend to make sanitary education part of communities especially low income ones that don’t have the exposure. Our goal is to reach up to a million girls with both sanitary hygiene education & free pads.”

“We’ve approached brands to partner with us and some of them like Microsoft have been very interested in coming on board.

(Photo: S.A.N.G)

(Photo: S.A.N.G)

This isn’t Karo’s first humanitarian effort, she’s been very involved in providing aid and food to IDP camps across Nigeria. On her experience on this journey, Karo says:

“I’ve always wanted to do things for other people. Every project is different. I used to want to have everything in place before starting but this project was different.”

“I was determined to do it with or without help. Imagine my surprise when everyone that heard about the project saw the relevance.

“Every girl we reach is a big deal because their stories are different. We get asked all sorts of questions. For some girls it’s their first time owning a pack of pads.”

The initiative holds Sanitary drives every month for willing Nigerians to come and donate sanitary products and/or money; and sign up to volunteer to work with the initiative.

Subsequently, Karo hopes to have joint projects with willing participants to reshape education for the children from lower income homes, and be more involved in social advocacy projects that help improve the lives of the most vulnerable people – children, women and the aged – in our society, in Nigeria.

The initiative can be reached by email or via Twitter and Instagram.

(Photo: S.A.N.G)

(Photo: S.A.N.G)

(Photo: S.A.N.G)
Source: Konbini

I woke up this morning thinking of exactly what to share with my readers today and just as I was racking my brain; my friend sent me a link to read through. I didn’t read at first because I was still trying to get something on my empty document sheet. But then I decided to look through; maybe I could get some form of inspiration of some sort. And then when I read through her message and the link she sent me, I was excited because I then had something to share with you guys.

After reading through this piece, I just shook my head in amazement on how absolutely correct and on point this piece was. It was spot on. We tend to wonder how our behavior in relationships cause heartbreak or divorce in other cases. But in this newsletter, I found out that it is the hurt from a past relationship that we bring into the new ones we go into that actually damages and breaks the relationship up. Please read through and understand and I hope you learn a thing or two. Cheers.

Too many of you say that women do not really want a nice guy. You firmly believe from your bad experiences that most women actually enjoy being treated badly. I can assure you this is not true. Your words and your actions can have effects on a woman that will last her a lifetime. That cruel comment you made about her mother, that day you were so angry you called her out of her name, those times you ignored her for no reason at all, the times you chose not to text or call and decided your friends were more important than she was, she carries those in her mind. And she carries them over to the next man

Women remember every nice thing you do or say in the same way they remember every pitiless thing. When you are good to a woman, even if it ends for whatever reason, she will always remember you. You may never know that, but she will. She will think about the way you made her laugh or the way you dried her tears. She will remember the way she could speak to you for hours. She will remember that you made her feel like a woman, that even when she was wrong, you still made her feel like a woman. You will be the standard for all of the men in her life that follow. If they can’t compete with you or do better, they become bottom of the barrel. You are the man whose shoes no one has yet to outshine. Continue to be that man because there is a woman who is going to adore you and appreciate you for everything you are worth.

A woman may choose to stay with a man who treats her badly because she fell in love with him during a time when he was pretending to be pleasant (somewhere in the beginning stages of their relationship). However, she won’t last with a man who is malicious for the rest of her life. Over time, every mean or hurtful thing that man does will begin to build up inside of her like boiling water. That woman who was once in love and who once catered to her man’s every whim will begin to fall out of love. She will become less caring, and less nurturing. Her heart will grow colder. He won’t see it, not until it is too late. He is blind and will continue to mistreat her. An ignorant man will seal his own fate. He will think its okay to treat his woman this way. She loves him so she is sure to stay. That man has no idea that his woman has an icy storm brewing inside of her heart. Where love once lived is a heart now torn apart. She loves him so much or so he believes. He knows she will stay, but what he chooses not to see is her mind has already broken away.

So you have an option. Treat your women right or don’t, but when you end up alone and can’t figure out what was the matter just remember that woman whose heart you shattered. You can never take away the words you said. They will live with her until the day she is dead. So watch your words and be kind, not cruel, or you may end up sad and lonely.

There is only so much one heart can handle; only so much one girl can handle before she breaks.

Most women truly do not want much. It isn’t a lot to send her a good morning text. It isn’t a lot to call her on your free time. It isn’t a lot to take her out on dates and spend one on one time with her. It isn’t a lot to watch your mouth. It isn’t a lot to treat her like a woman. She will love and adore you for it.

There is this saying that goes thus: whatever you give a woman she will give you ten times more. That saying couldn’t be truer. So if you want to be adored, and spoiled and loved, you must stop being vicious, selfish, and rude. Nice guys do not finish last. Truly nice guys get the girl in the end. At the end of the day, no matter how much money you make or how many muscles you have, a woman looking for real love is going to find her worth, along with a man who deserves her. Your money will be spent, and your looks are sure to go, but if you have a good heart, love can flourish. So be the nice guy or risk losing your women to men who are far better than you ever could be.

This does not mean that you allow yourselves to be treated badly either, but it means opening your heart to good women. It means being a compromising person. It means being forgiving, and nurturing… the kind of man who would make a good husband and father. Do not be a doormat for a woman who does not appreciate you; however, if your woman loves and adores you, be kind because if you don’t, you will lose her in the end.
To our happiness. Cheers.

 

Source: Guardian

Veteran actress Kate Henshaw in her birthday message to her colleague Stella Damasus, told the latter that even though they’d had their own share of “battles,” the past is behind them.

Kate Henshaw wrote on Instagram:

GBOLE!!! @stelladamasus
The older one gets the more you do away with frivolous things.. I am talking about me here oo..????????
We have had our share of “battles”…yes but nevertheless we have come a long way. Through the highs and lows. The past is behind us.
Today I celebrate you for the love and support despite the distance.
God enlarge your coast.
Bless you and make all things beautiful for you today and always.
Happy baiday to you…????????
Have a blast.. YOLO????????????

@k8henshaw oh Gbole. You just brought tears to my eyes. I love you so much and I know that deep down you know. You are right. I have also been silly and childish but thank God for growth and maturity. You have been the most supportive and most caring. You go above and beyond for everyone else. I remember when we had an issue long ago, you still came to Asaba for my dad’s burial. You stood by me when no one else did. Thank you for your forgiving and kind heart. I love you my Gbole. God bless you,” Stella Damasus replied.

Filmmaker Daniel Ademinokan, took to Instagram to celebrate his wife Stella Damasus as she turns a year older today.

He shared a photo of her with the caption:

I can never have enough words to express what I feel for you or what you mean to me. My best friend, confidant, prayer partner, co-conspirator, baby mama, wifey, personal motivator and leader of my cheerleading squad. Stellz, as you celebrate this new age, the heavens are definitely rejoicing with you because they are fully aware you’re stepping closer to that divine destiny mapped out for you from our Creator. I celebrate you today Obiageli (????) and I wish nothing but the best for you always. Happy Birthday BooBoo Kitty ????????! PS: Babe I miss you so much! Sooooo much! Naija sun don show me fire. I look like Wande Coal now. ???????????????? #HappyBirthday #StellaDamasus#iLoveYou #iMissMyWife#iCantWaitToGetHome #Wifey #MyRib#BooBooKitty

Leading bloggers and fashion industry powerhouses joined Simi Esiri, publisher and editor-in-chief, SCHICK Magazine and Titi Adesanya, Creative Director, SCHICK Magazine to announce the official launch of SCHICK Magazine, the highly anticipated fashion, beauty and lifestyle publication curated for the smart, stylish and successful African woman. The exclusive media briefing was part of a 2-day fashion exhibition holding this weekend to commemorate the launch of the Magazine.

SCHICK Magazine was inspired by the publisher’s experience while living in the diaspora and then moving back to work in Africa’s burgeoning fashion and beauty industry. The magazine style is simple, contemporary and creates an appealing experience for the young African woman who is fashion conscious and wants to be informed of all the latest developments in the world of style and beauty. The quarterly issued magazine will be packed with engaging content that includes the latest fashion trends, functional fashion, fashion history, SCHICKDebates, SCHICKWeddings, SCHICKAtWork amongst many others.

*“I strongly believe that the focus is now heavily shifting and by 2025, fashion and entertainment industry can be the sustenance for the economy. Individuals like us need to come together to enable this industry grow to where it should be*.” said Simi Esiri, SCHICK’s Publisher and Editor-in-chief.

*“Africans have a unique sense of style, culture and creativity. SCHICK will provide the right international platform to showcase who we are, what we wear and what we do.*” said Titi Adesanya, SCHICK’s Creative Director.

The media briefing precedes the 2-day launch event this weekend where invited guests will be taken on a journey through the making of themagazine and will enjoy an art gallery style exhibition with pages of the debut issue blown out in life-size canvas pieces as well as the opportunity to mingle with SCHICK’s debut cover star, leading award-winning actress Rita Dominic with other notable celebrities and influencers in attendance.

For more information and updates, follow @SCHICKMagazine on Twitter,

@SCHICKMagazine on Instagram and SCHICK on Facebook.

Model Olajumoke Orisaguna has said that her childhood ambition  was to get married early so as to help her mother

She made this known Tofarati Ige, saying acting is one of her talents.

See excerpts:

What are your childhood experiences?

I remember mostly the birthdays and the Christmas periods. My mother made an effort to make them memorable for the family in her own way with the little that she had. It was fun growing up with my family even though we struggled as well. I also remember there were times we had to go hungry. However, I thank God for where I am now.

What were your childhood ambitions?

Growing up as a child, I wanted to get married early so that I could help my mother. I also fancied being an actress even though it seemed way out of my reach. Several times, I would imagine myself on TV screens.

On the morning of the day you photobombed Tinie Tempah’s photo shoot, what were your original plans for that day?

My plan, as usual for the day, was to go out and sell all my bread and probably restock to sell some more.

Can you take us through what actually happened from the moment you walked into the photo session to the point where the picture became popular?

I was going about my business selling bread when I walked past the photo shoot and went my way; I didn’t regard it as anything extraordinary. Days later, as I was hawking on the street, I heard someone call out omo oni buredi (bread seller). I turned around quickly, hoping it was a customer who wanted to buy bread. The man who called me then told me that a woman had been looking for me and he directed me to TY Bello’s office. As I approached the office, millions of thoughts rushed through my mind because I wasn’t sure why a woman I didn’t know could be looking for me. A part of me was scared and another part of me hoped she would buy all my bread. I got to her office and she was so excited to see me. She told me she had been searching for me even as she gave me food and told me to feel at home. She spoke with me in my mother tongue and that put me at ease. She asked if I didn’t mind if she took pictures of me. I didn’t know why she wanted a picture of me but I told her she could. She then said I should discuss with my husband that she would like to help me build a career as a model. My husband was sceptical at first as he was concerned about my safety but he later gave his consent. She had my shoot for ThisDay Style magazine and that was how the journey began.

What talents and skills do you have?

I’m very good at acting and modelling is now part of me as well.

If you are to establish a company, what kind of business will you like to invest in?

Truthfully, I think I’ll go into confectioneries.

Best known for her early Nollywood roles, Ego Boyo has emerged from acting to producing, to becoming a society lady. She is a mother of three and most recently became the President of the International Women’s Society (IWS).

Following her new set of responsibilities, will she return to Nollywood? Or is this a chapter closed for good? Ego Boyo invited Guardian life into her home, to talk about her background, her future in the Nollywood and unveil her plans for the IWS organisation.

Credit
Stylist:@ms_fumz
Words: @beatriceporbeni
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Hair: @Beautyface7

Grab a copy of The Guardian and Guardian Life Magazine today to read more.

As part of efforts to alleviate the conditions of widows, single mothers and struggling women in the nation, a non-governmental organization, Ivory Whetstones and Mentors Foundation is set to hold a fundraising charity comedy show to raise money to empower and restore hope to needy women in the country.

The comedy show tagged: The Red Moment, Restoring Everything Damaged, is scheduled to hold at the SEE Event Centre, Leawood Hotel, Oko-Ado, Lekki, Lagos on April 30.

Comedians slated to perform at the event include DJ Bobby, Owen Gee, Lepacious Bose, Koffi, CeeY, DVD, De Oracle, Eboh Bomb and Aboki.

According to the Founder and Director of the Foundation, Dr. Lawretta Ogrih, from the proceeds of the show, 50 women are to be trained and empowered with life’s and business skills to enable them take care of their children, so that they do not end up constituting a menace to the society tomorrow.

Speaking on the selecting process, Ogrih stated that the foundation usually accept recommendations about needy individuals from churches and, on the strength of such endorsements, put these individuals on a waiting list of those slated for empowerment.

She said: “ There are some churches that can not adequately fund them and these women have been committed to the church. But we screen them to see who actually have needs for what we are giving them, because it is a lot.”

The director noted that as part of their empowerment programme, they trained the beneficiaries for a week for what particular skills they need, mentor them and follow up on their progress to see that they are actually applying such skills, making income and getting better.

Speaking on the decision to use comedy for the charity event, Ogrih said the economic situation in the country has led to depression for many people, therefore, the foundation wants Nigerians to laugh, relax and unwind.

She said: “We are looking at lightening their mood. We want them to laugh away their stress and relax. There will be a lot of music in the house aside the comedy. That is why it was slated for the Workers’ Day weekend, because the next day is work -free”.

She also revealed that they are trying to get workers, business individuals and the public generally to support the cause by getting tickets to the show.”

Appealing to well meaning individuals to buy tickets, the director said that such action would impact on a beneficiary.

“That same tickets they bought will be impacting a woman out there, a struggling woman, a single parent, a widow,” she said.

Ogrih revealed that as part of the foundation objectives to give back to the society, lucky participants stand to win a return ticket to Dubai, an all expense-paid night at the prestigious Leawood Hotel, Lekki and a head to toe wellness hamper.

The director also revealed that the foundation has done empowerment in the past without the comedy angle.

“For me, it is a need to lend a helping hand and give to people,” she said.