The interview is a follow-up to BBC Africa Eye #SexForGrades undercover documentary on sexual harassment on female university students in West Africa.

Two lecturers from the University have been indicted of sexual harassment and have since been suspended.

The VC talked about the well-being of one the lecturer who attempted suicide, the “cold room”, and the steps the management are taking to eliminate re-occurrence of such situations. The DVC expressed her disappointment and also talked about steps taken by the school’s management, as well as the “panic button” project.

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Odunayo Aliu is a trained educator and child advocate. In the last seven years, she worked in education and environmental initiatives. She is the founder of Bramble; a flagship of Love Letters Child Support Initiative. In 2016, she started Love Letters Child Support Initiative to mobilise resources for children who didn’t go to school. They were able to help over 300 children return to school and adopted 36 children for regular sponsorship. Bramble creates alternative learning spaces where children from rural and marginalised backgrounds of Nigeria can have access to quality education. It helps children find their passion for learning through the use of play and creative resources. The aim is to raise a generation of children who are creative and enjoy solving problems.

Odunayo has benefitted from scholarships and training from national and global organizations which include Social Innovation Academy (SINA Uganda), African Changemaker, kanthari Institute of Social Change India, Green Institute, and Global Goodwill Ambassador. She is a member of Ashoka Changemakers.”

She shares her inspiring story with me in this interview

 Growing up

I was lucky to be born at the time when my dad as a high ranking civil servant was deployed to Lagos state. That could have marked the beginning of a good life for me but it didn’t last because shortly after that, things changed and I was whisked away from my parents to live with my grandmother. That was the beginning of a nomadic lifestyle which soon became the highlight of my childhood. In my early childhood, I had lived in about eight (8) different rural/sub-urban communities and had changed school about 10 times.

Unlike many children in some of the rural communities where I lived, I was lucky because I had the opportunity to go to school, and even though I did not learn much, I had many children to play with. That often distracted me from my challenges at home.  I later pursued a B.Sc. Ed in Education and Biology.

As a child separated from her parents, I understand what it means to lack love and acceptance in childhood. That is why I started Love Letters Child Support Initiative in 2016, to advocate for vulnerable children. Bramble is the education arm of this organization, as through education I got my escape from the hardships.

Inspiration behind Bramble

Bramble is a thorny plant. We chose this name because it symbolises the life of children who are neglected, who are poor and who are orphans, especially from rural parts of Nigeria. No one wants to identify with them and they are often seen as useless just like this plant, which for a long time doesn’t produce fruit. But Brambles are resilient, after some time with the right resources and patience, it begins to blossom and you can enjoy its many fruits – most common among them are blackberries and raspberries. Now who doesn’t enjoy a good blackberry jam?

At Bramble, we offer a space where children can find their passion for learning through creative resources. We craft the learning experience based on the need of each child and invest behind their intrinsic curiosity. We have designed a self-learning curriculum which includes project based learning. Our aim is to raise a generation of children who are creativity, thinks critically, and enjoy solving problem. Bramble provides alternatives which parents in rural communities do not have today.

Why Ibadan

I spent some years in the interiors of Ibadan while growing up. Ibadan is the third largest city in Nigeria with a high number of children who are already in labour force. Ibadan is also rich in diversity; the very poor and very rich, various religious groups, and even different nationalities, they all coexist peacefully. When we were ready to setup Bramble learning Space, Ibadan was the right place to begin.

In 2018, we began working in Ibadan. We have conducted community programs and a pilot project at Balogun Ibikunle, Ayeeye and Beere axis, Ibadan. We are currently working in Arikanki village, where we are building an alternative learning space for children who live in these communities.

Being a recipient of many awards and scholarships

I am grateful for all the trainings I have ever had and to all the good people who have invested their knowledge in me, they have all brought me thus far. Most of the trainings had come at a time when I needed a specific knowledge to move the organisation to the next milestone. A great example would be my one year study with kanthari Institute of Social Change, India. I gained a better perspective into everything that has to do with my work. This training gave my career a leap and gave me a family and friends and they are constantly encouraging me.

My 100k campaign for plastic bottles

On June 5, 2019- World Environment Day, Bramble launched a 3 month campaign for donations of 100,000 plastic bottles which will be used to build two classrooms for children in Arikanki village, Ibadan. This community exist and there is no school or any learning facility for the population of children that lives in it. Both Arikanki village and the five surrounding villages have to depend on low standard private schools which are situated miles away from the villages. Because of these circumstances, many parents end up choosing farming activities for their children over going to school.

We have been able to mobilise the number of bottles needed and we have begun the first phase of the construction work. We just concluded a 4-weeks holiday program that benefited over 60 children in this community and the first batch of children will resume at the learning space on September 16, 2019.

Entrepreneurial Challenge

One of the challenges we face regularly while working with community members is their inability to see education beyond the four-wall of a classroom. However, this has made us improve on our storytelling skills since we have to paint lucid images of alternative ways to education. Resource mobilization is a struggle. We also have to improvise with local resources which on the long run, makes our work more sustainable.

Giving up

 I have been overwhelmed and funnily, I often remember a song lyric that reads ‘Do dreams ever come true in this part of the world?’ But to me, giving up has never been an option. I do know this is my life call and I cannot be truly happy if I ignore it.

Being a Woman of Rubies

I guess I will spend my lifetime finding that out. There have been several times I amazed myself, especially how I dust off my butt when I hit the rock bottom…rest but don’t stop. I am a woman of purpose, I know this so well. It would be an honour to be considered among one of the many ‘faceless or nameless’ women trending the less travelled path.

Dear Woman…

Build your skills, have faith in your own journey and appreciate process.

The ten women featured are: Zendaya, Natalie Portman, Nicole Kidman, Scarlett Johansson, Jodie Turner-Smith, Melina Matsoukas, Lena Waithe, Mindy Kaling, Gwyneth Paltrow, and Dolly Parton.

For the 2019 Women in Hollywood, the answer comes with plotting a path unknown.

Nicole Kidman on more Big Little Lies and her upcoming project Bombshell: “Everyone says, ‘Are you going to do a season three?’ We’re like, ‘Just give us a sec.’ We’d love to do another season because we love being together, and it’s lovely spending time with your friends, and with such good material. It’s part of the reason I wanted to do Bombshell, to support Charlize.”

Zendaya on learning to be confident in her acting abilities after her role playing an addicted teen in Euphoria: “I think Euphoria taught me a lot about myself. It made me more confident in my own abilities, because I doubted myself a lot.” Zendaya says that before the show, she didn’t have any work that pushed her or allowed her to be creative. “I was looking for something to prove I can do it. Euphoria served as that, in the healthiest way. I never want to plateau as an actress I always want to be able to explore and push myself. [Being an actress] brings me to places and makes me do things I’d probably never do because I’m such an introverted person. I know, I’m super hard on myself. People actually saying I did a good job at my craft.

Scarlett Johansson, on feeling a connection to her Marriage Story character Nicole, who is going through a divorce: Johansson also felt an almost eerie sense of connection when Noah Baumbach handed her the monologue over lunch in the fall of 2017. “It was the first piece Noah gave me, and it felt familiar somehow, but not because of what I’d been experiencing then,” says the actress, 34, who at the time was embroiled in her own separation, from French curator Romain Dauriac. “But maybe because of how I grew up, and the dynamic between my parents—or maybe because I’ve known women who’ve dedicated themselves to their partner’s vision and then come out of this decade-long relationship feeling almost like a ghost.” She adds that she, too, has been in that place, and that the truth in Nicole’s story was what excited her. “I didn’t hesitate at all, because I knew that I’d have the opportunity to say those words,” she says. “Noah gave me that monologue, and I was like, ‘Well, sh**, come on.’ Am I going to be like, ‘Nah, I’m good let some other actor have that’? No way.

Lena Waithe | Melina Matousokas | Jodie Turner-Smith

Lena On how writing Queen & Slim was a way for her to rebel and gain agency: “I didn’t truly experience what it means to feel like a second-class citizen until I sold my first TV show. Because out of five people, I was the fifth most important person in the room. During the first season [of The Chi], I didn’t have any real agency, so that’s when I started working on the script. It was almost my way of rebelling and reminding myself I do have a gift. They can’t appreciate it now, but they will.”

Melina on being a woman of color, and feeling pressure to be perfect: “In our success comes other black people’s success, so there is a lot of pressure for us to do well for the culture. It’s hard to create art with that weight, and I feel it every day. It’s one of my greatest fears, failing. I just want to make my people proud.”

Jodie on the message behind the film: “The act of committing that type of violence is not something that is glorified, but it’s really a comment on how black people are put in this kind of life-or-death situation way too often. These people make the radical choice to survive, even when it means doing something so horrible that there’s no coming back from it. Even thinking about the concept raises the hairs on my arms, because it really is a film about black survival at all costs.”

Natalie Portman on how her involvement with Time’s Up has spawned a powerful network for trading experiences: “If we don’t talk to each other, we can’t share, we can’t get information, we can’t get angry and organize together. It’s actually really important to talk,” Portman says. “Something we’ve been talking about is sharing salary details with each other, because right now it’s such a taboo. It’s actually a real way that we can help each other, to be like, ‘Hey, this is what I get paid. This is how I negotiated this.”

Mindy Kaling on facing sexism early on in her tenure at The Office: The show was nominated for an Emmy for Outstanding Comedy Series. Shortly after, the Television Academy, which puts on the awards show, told Kaling that because there were too many producers on The Office, they were going to cut her from the list. She, the only woman of color on the team, wouldn’t be eligible for an Emmy like the rest of the staff. In order to receive her rightful recognition, she recalls, “they made me, not any of the other producers, fill out a whole form and write an essay about all my contributions as a writer and a producer. I had to get letters from all the other male, white producers saying that I had contributed, when my actual record stood for itself.” Her name was included in the final list, though the show ultimately didn’t win.

Gwyneth on ambition being a dirty word in the industry and why it’s now been unleashed: Paltrow says that as an actress, she never felt that ambitious, though this was as much for systemic reasons as it was for personal ones. “In the ’90s, when I was coming up, it was a very male-dominated field. You used to hear, ‘That actress is so ambitious,’ like it was a dirty word.” But now, with Goop, “my ambition has been unleashed,” she admits.

Dolly Parton on being a good example of female power and supporting women: “I’m still out, living it, doing it, writing it. People say, ‘Why don’t you get out and do more?’ I say, ‘I don’t have to preach. I write it. I sing it. I live it.’ If I’m not a good example of a woman in power, I don’t know who is. I’m out there just promoting mankind, but I am most definitely going to get behind those gals.

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The actress who recently hosted Rape Foundation’s annual brunch, took a moment to share her own experience with sexual molestation as a child.

According to The Hollywood Reporter, during the event, the actress revealed that while she was asleep one night, her mother’s boyfriend came into her room at night and she felt him fondling her breasts.

She said her supportive mother ended the relationship when she reported to her what had happened.

The 61-year-old mother to teenage twins said: “Fortunately, it wasn’t a complete assault, it was fondling, but it was devastating enough for a child who’s 12 or 13. To have a mother who could tell as soon as light broke that this happened and for her to expel him [meant a lot]. That she heard me, believed me, and did something about it, I think was so empowering for me as a young teen, as a young woman.”

 

 

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Adebukonla Esther Adeiga is a 500 level student of Law at Olabisi Onabanjo University. Driven by the desire and passion to be at service to humanity, Bukola is currently in the race for OOU Student Union Government, Vice President for the 2019/2020 academic session.

She shares her Ruby Girl story in this interview.

 

MEET ME

Adeiga Adebukonla Esther popularly known as Bukola is a 500level student of the Faculty of Law, Olabisi Onabanjo University OOU. She is an aspirant for the post of OOU SUG VICE PRESIDENT 19/20 and this ambition is borne out of the interest of students.

 

INSPIRATION

My greatest inspiration is my love and passion to be at service to humanity. There are two women who inspire me a lot with their words; Ayn Rand in her words “the question isn’t who’s going to let me; it’s who’s going to stop me.

Also Rosalynn Carter in her words “A leader takes people where they want to go; A great leader takes people where they don’t necessarily want to go, but ought to be.”

BIGGEST FEAR

My biggest fear is losing anyone dear to me, and also acting below peoples’ expectations.

 

ONE ACCESSORY I CAN’T DO WITHOUT

Earrings.

 

TO GO BACK IN TIME OR TIME TRAVEL TWO YEARS INTO THE FUTURE

I would rather travel two years to the future to prepare ahead for some things.

 

IN MY DARKEST MOMENTS…

I meditate and pray.

 

OOU SUG VICE PRESIDENTIAL ELECTION CANDIDATE

The idea behind my aspiration for the post of OOU SUG VICE president is not borne out of personal interest but for the good of my fellow OOUITES and to serve to the best of the students’ interest. Hmmm… What I feel I will do differently is seen in the students academics. I noticed our students fail not because they are not brilliant but due to some circumstances that surrounds them both financially and family background. I feel so bad when I see such and I’m interested in working towards that area. Also those who fail based on the victimization from lecturers. Our students deserve the best and I’ll do all in my capacity to ensure they get the best.

 

IF GIVEN THE CHANCE TO BE THE PRESIDENT OF NIGERIA FOR A DAY

If I’m given the chance to be the president of Nigeria for a day, I’ll improve aspects of security of the country and also feeding.

 

MY BEST QUOTE

“I decided I can’t pay a person to rewind time, so I may as well get over it -” Serena Williams

 

WISH

The trust and belief from people that I can do it.

 

MY POLITICAL AMBITION

Yes, definitely if I have the opportunity to become the president some day, I’ll be glad to. As Eleanor Roosevelt said and I quote “a woman is like a tea bag you never know how strong she is until she gets in hot water. And I’ll also urge my fellow ladies that in every situation in life supporting a lady isn’t something we’ll regret doing.

 

MY BRAND IN THE NEXT FIVE YEARS

Wow! In the next five years I see my self very active in the legal profession, politics in the outside world, making my self, family and everyone proud. Also becoming a successful and bright lady.

 

WORDS OF ADVICE TO GIRLS FIVE YEARS YOUNGER THAN ME

My advice to them will be; in any situation you meet yourselves, never look down on yourself, or feel inferior and have it in mind to be the best you can ever think of or imagine.

Lupita Nyong’o spoke to BBC Newsnight about being a “victim of colourism” as a child and how she “wished to have skin that was different”.

The Oscar-winning actress, who has starred in movies such as Black Panther and 12 Years a Slave,  was raised in Kenya before moving to the United States.

She spoke with BBC Newsnight ahead of the release of her children’s book, Sulwe, about a girl with darker skin than her family.

Lupita told Newsnight’s Emily Maitlis: “I definitely grew up feeling uncomfortable with my skin colour because I felt like the world around me awarded lighter skin.”

She said her younger sister, whose skin was lighter, was called “beautiful” and “pretty”.

“Self-consciously that translates into: ‘I’m not worthy’.”

She said colourism was “very much linked to racism” despite the fact she experienced it in a predominantly black society like Kenya.

“We still ascribe to these notions of Eurocentric standards of beauty, that then effect how we see ourselves among ourselves,” she said.

The actor said she was once told at an audition that she was “too dark” for television.

But Nyong’o said the relationship to her skin had been separate to the relationship to her race, according to BBC.

“Race is a very social construct, one that I didn’t have to ascribe to on a daily basis growing up,” she said. “As much as I was experiencing colourism in Kenya, I wasn’t aware that I belonged to a race called black.”

She said that changed when she moved to the US, “because suddenly the term black was being ascribed to me and it meant certain things that I was not accustomed to.”

Colourism is prejudice against people who have a darker skin tone or the preferential treatment of those who are of the same race but lighter-skinned.

 

 

 

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Naomi Campbell has revealed she is not yet ready to become a mother while discussing life as a single lady at 49.

In a new interview with WSJ. Magazine, the British supermodel disclosed that she’s in no rush to have a child as she already views herself as a mother figure to the countless children who cross her path through her tireless philanthropic work, particularly in Africa.

 

Naomi Campbell reveals she

When asked by the publication about her possible plans to have children, she responded: ‘Naomi on having kids: ‘Not yet—I’ll see what the universe brings me.’

Naomi also spoke about her living the single life, after years of dating a number of high-profile men.

‘Being alone doesn’t mean you are lonely,’ she said. ‘I don’t have time to be bored, and I don’t have time to be lonely.’

 

Naomi Campbell reveals she

Referring to one actor she dated in the early 1990s, she added: ‘For me, privacy is important to know each other, and I always worry that my job will not allow that. But I have ways. I was taught that by Robert De Niro.’

Speaking on her battle with substance and alcohol abuse. she said: ‘I’m a survivor,’ Naomi declared. ‘I don’t have a squeaky-clean life, and I don’t pretend to. I was the first to say that I was an addict, and I’m so grateful to God to be a recovering addict and a recovering alcoholic.’

 

 

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The Barbadian singer talks to Abby Aguirre about Fenty, that album everyone has been waiting for, finding love, and she has a few words for US president, Donald Trump.

Read excerpts from the interview

On her music career and upcoming album 

I have been trying to get back into the studio. It’s not like I can lock myself in for an extended amount of time, like I had the luxury of doing before. I know I have some very unhappy fans who don’t understand the inside bits of how it works.

By “the album,” fans mean the reggae record Rihanna confirmed she was making more than a year ago: R9, as the Navy has labeled it. (It will be Rihanna’s ninth.) So, is R9 still a reggae album?

I like to look at it as a reggae-inspired or reggae-infused album. It’s not gonna be typical of what you know as reggae. But you’re going to feel the elements in all of the tracks.

Reggae always feels right to me. It’s in my blood. It doesn’t matter how far or long removed I am from that culture, or my environment that I grew up in; it never leaves. It’s always the same high. Even though I’ve explored other genres of music, it was time to go back to something that I haven’t really homed in on completely for a body of work.

On the Album release date

No, oh my God, they’re (Rihanna Navy) gonna kill you for that! And they’re going to kill me more!

On her relationship 

“Yeah, I’m dating. I’m actually in an exclusive relationship for quite some time, and it’s going really well, so I’m happy.” (Yes, she wants kids. “Without a doubt.”)

On El Paso Shootings and her Word for Donald Trump

It is devastating. People are being murdered by war weapons that they legally purchase. This is just not normal. That should never, ever be normal. And the fact that it’s classified as something different because of the color of their skin? It’s a slap in the face. It’s completely racist. Put an Arab man with that same weapon in that same Walmart and there is no way that Trump would sit there and address it publicly as a mental health problem. The most mentally ill human being in America right now seems to be the president.

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Featuring a stellar cast of Funlola Aofiyebi-Raimi, Wale Ojo, Ozzy Agu, Zainab Balogun, Funsho Adeolu, and more, the movie is an adaptation of Jude Dibia’s book of the same title, and is centred around a man whose search for validation and love caused him to create a personality at variance with his true self and more acceptable to the society.

Speaking about the premiere, Funmi Iyanda said: “Through the unique way the plot unfolds, the film fully explores many pressing societal issues and promotes the importance of self-discovery and acceptance in a cultural society.”

“It is an honor to premiere this movie at one of the most prestigious film festivals in the world. We are definitely thrilled by the opportunity to share this with the international community and hope they are inspired by it as much as we are,” she added.

The BFI London Film Festival is an annual event held in the United Kingdom for two weeks in October, with cooperation from the British Film Institute.

‘Walking with Shadows’ will show again at the festival tomorrow, 10 October, 2019.

Funmi-Iyanda, Aoife-OKelly and Ozzy-Agu doing-media-rounds-for-Walking-with-Shadows-movie-screening-at-BFI-London-Film-Festival

 

 

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Oluwatosin Ayinde is graduate of Mass Communication from The Polytechnic, Ibadan. A widow who lost her  husband to cancer five years ago. The beautiful single mom of one runs a  Multi-purpose ventures that deal in household items, general merchandise, contracts, clothing and boutique services.
She answers our #7questions below;
What is your biggest fear?
My biggest fear is failure. I don’t want to fail as a mother, neither do I want to fail as a woman.
2.  In your darkest moments, what do you do?
In my darkest moments, I cry. I lock myself up and cry bitterly, afterwards I pray and I hope.
3.  What is that one thing you would like to change about yourself?
I would like to be more confident of myself. I would like to worry less and focus more. Focus on my business, on my child and on my career.
4.  Where do you see yourself five years from now?
Five years from now, I see myself happily married with one or more kids, I see myself a successful business woman having at least 3 outlets in the metropolis of Lagos and 2 more outside Lagos.
I see myself as an Msc. Graduate, I see myself as a successful and supportive wife and mother.
5.  What keeps you going?
 Hope and my son – hope keeps me going. Hope fails not.
Many times, I get overwhelmed and weighed down, attimes I take a break and rest but I dare not quit.
I lost my parents at a time I needed them most, which has robbed me of many opportunities and support in life. Being an orphan has been a very great obstacle to my life. Now, I’m a mother, I have a son whom we lost his Dad 5 years ago. I want to be there for my son at every phase of his life, I don’t want him to suffer the same fate as me. So, my son keeps me going. I have to be there for him, I must not make him weep and wish his parents were alive. I have to be strong, for him.
6.   What is your stand on feminism? Do you consider yourself a feminist?
Well, feminism in the sense of it, isn’t anti-men. Feminism is a voice to the voiceless. It has given hope and support to many people. Feminism is not bad. Yes, I consider myself a feminist.
7.  What keeps you up at night?
When I wish to accomplish a thing and it seems unachievable, it keeps me up at night. When things aren’t looking positive for me, I lose my sleep.
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