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Titilola Vivour Adeniyi is a Legal Practitioner with over nine years of experience in Public Service. Having served in various capacities in the Lagos State government, in 2014, she was appointed the Pioneer Coordinator of the Lagos State Domestic and Sexual Violence Response Team (DSVRT). Since her appointment, she has facilitated the ratification of two landmark executive orders by the Governor of Lagos State- the Sex Offenders Register and Mandated Reporting, and the Lagos State Safeguarding and Child Protection Programme.

Additionally, she was actively involved in drafting of Policy Documents and Manuals on Investigating and Prosecuting domestic violence, mandated reporters manual, safeguarding the rights of a child, and other awareness process documents on handling of child abuse, domestic violence and rape which have been useful in creating awareness and sensitizing members of the public.

Driven by being able to make a positive impact on lives, she speaks on the Domestic Awareness Month (DAM), the body’s upcoming domestic violence awareness symposium this month and how to seek help.

Why was the month of September declared Domestic Awareness Month (DAM)?
Asides from the need to designate a special month in which we drive special awareness on this topic, DSVRT was actually established in September, on the 9th of September, 2014 to be precise. We are grateful to the Governor of Lagos State, Akinwunmi Ambode for approving the designation of the month of September as the Lagos State Domestic and Sexual Violence Awareness Month.

Would you say there has been any impact on domestic violence so far from the yearly symbolic walk held by the state governor?
Oh most definitely. There is greater awareness, people are more aware of support services available; they are better informed of steps to take to report cases. Some people say, ‘you people are always walking when would you stop?’ We would not stop walking, because we know there are millions of residents who still don’t know about the different services available and do not know that we are ready to stand by them. Similarly, we have continued to see an increase in reporting made by good Samaritans, mandated reporters, whistleblowers, who would before now, turned a blind eye, but are now rising up to their roles as effective bystanders and speaking on behalf of the most vulnerable in our society. We must never underestimate the impact of political will, when an entire state’s leadership embarks on a mission and passes a strong message, this message subconsciously begins to reside in the minds of the populace that we mean business on this issue of fighting Domestic Violence.

According to statistics released by your office and the Commissioner of Justice, DV is on the increase, with numbers already doubling that of last year. Why this surge?
The truth is that we are now witnessing a rapid increase in rate of reporting, and not necessarily that acts of domestic violence and sexual assault have increased that significantly. We need to appreciate that the concerted effort on advocacy, not just by DSVRT by the way, but also by NGOs, some celebrities who have consciously used their platform to speak up, setting up of a special court for quick dispensation of Justice, and then all of these backed up by the strong political will power displayed by the state Governor. All of these efforts have contributed to a situation where people are now more encouraged to come out of their shell and speak up. From our end, several initiatives we embarked on are now bearing fruits by virtue of increased reporting. We have introduced different channels for reporting. By leveraging on technology, we launched the *6820# USSD application, with support from MTN and Airtel. We have also improved our social media presence. A good demographic of our population is the youth; it therefore became imperative that our message is easily accessible for our different target audience. This has also informed our increased presence on social media and so asides from our hotline, and people that come into the office, we have increased access to justice channels hence the increase in reported cases.

Does these figures discourage you in any way?
I am far from discouraged; in fact I am optimistic that we are slowly breaking the silence that has for so long allowed these vices to perpetuate. Sexual and Gender Based Violence remains one of the most underreported crimes all around the world. In the past three years, we have seen a steady increase in reporting of cases. This year, we have started to see an average of 150 new cases monthly. We know that we are just scratching the surface. But with visible political will, cooperation of the society, and improved professionalism in the handling of these cases, we know we are well on our way to ridding this menace out of our society.

What new approach are you employing in actively fighting DSGBV?
We are tackling the issues from a holistic and more sustainable perspective. Partnering with marriage registries, health centres where we are able to reduce the chances of cases occurring by sensitising new couples, as opposed to counselling and responding to cases when the deed has been done. As regards children, we are infusing child-friendly awareness content into the school curriculum so that they are aware of their rights and those rights are properly safeguarded.

What are signs to look out for in reporting DSGBV cases?
Working out whether one is in an abusive relationship or whether abuse has occurred is not always easy. For Domestic Violence, some signs to be wary of include Possessiveness, checking on you all the time to see where you are, what you are doing, who you are with, tries to control where you go, and who you can see and gets angry if you don’t do what they say. Jealousy- when a potentially abusive partner accuses you of being unfaithful or flirting without any basis or evidence. Segregation- Isolates you from family and friends, often by rude behaviour. Issues threats, Put downs, either publicly or privately by attacking one’s intelligence, looks, mental health or capabilities. Constantly comparing you unfavourably with others. Blames you for all the problems in the relationship, and for the times they are out of control or violent. Whilst for Child Abuse some red flags to look out for in cases of physical abuse, questionable, recurring bruises or fractures, bite marks. For Neglect, persistent hunger, stealing or hoarding of food, abrupt, dramatic weight change, persistent poor hygiene, excessive school absences. For Sexual Abuse, age-inappropriate knowledge of sexual behaviour, unexplained fear of a person or place, unexplained itching, pain, bruising or bleeding in the genital area, venereal disease, frequent urinary or yeast infections.

Did you always know you would end up a crusader for women and children’s rights?
I have always believed public service, and public administration is one of the greatest vehicles for addressing inequality, justice and sustainable development. This is why I never take for granted the opportunity given to me to serve and make an impact.

What would you say have been your greatest achievements so far heading the DSVRT?
DSVRT was set up four years ago as the first of its kind in Nigeria. The fact that the Federal Capital Territory has replicated the DSVRT model and eight more states are toeing the same path, is proof that we are on the right track to providing a sustainable solution to a problem that has spanned decades or I dare say centuries in our country. This for me is our greatest achievement so far, seeing the success attained being replicated across the country and one day hopefully the multiplier effect spans across every part of Nigeria.

Have there been any experience(s) that made you want to give up?
When we first started, there was a lot of resistance by the society, and sometimes even from survivors themselves who are being pressured to drop a case(s). The fact that we were up against a cultural and mindset obstacle was initially frustrating and draining, however, it helped us redefine our approach and that has even taken us to dimensions we had not conceived when we initially started.

 

 

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In recent times, particularly in 2018, there has been a stronger movement in favour of empowering women in the film industry. From gender pay gap uprisings with the highest paid actresses in the Hollywood demanding the same pay as men in equivalent roles, to sexual harassment claims which gave birth to the #MeToo movement, there are many areas in the industry addressing the need to empower its women. Some of these issues were harder to address in the past as even top actresses needed the work, and with fewer leading lady roles decided to stay silent until much later after any grievances they may have faced. Today, Anita Kouassigan shares her view that there is a need to invest in more women screenwriters and directors.

In this day and age, with the many digital distractions we face by overusing our mobile phones, I firmly believe that film – more than ever – will remain the most effective medium for catching – and keeping – one’s attention when a story is being told. There’s nothing that focuses my mind more than escaping into a movie -at least a decent one, with an engaging story. And the use of film as a tool for storytelling and engagement is a major part of our March event as with all our events.

“There will be screenings of short clips showcasing the messages our sponsors and partners want to deliver. It could be an internally produced documentary that contains footage of a school that’s just been built. Or a view of the first hospital commissioned in a rural area. Or interviews of a victim who’s able to tell their story after being freed from some form of bondage.

Women can certainly become more empowered with an increase in films created to tell even the most uncomfortable stories about their struggles, and this includes documentaries, such as The Uncondemned, possibly one of the most uncomfortable yet. It is a film about the first conviction of rape as a war crime and component of genocide (directed by Michele Mitchell and Nick Louvel-now late, sadly). They worked together as a great team, and I am not suggesting we have films made by women alone, we just need more input from women, which means that there is a need to invest in women in film. Women in film need more funding, in their various roles, including on set, but especially when it comes to screenwriting and directing.

Let us consider the argument in favour of more women having a seat at the table (in boardrooms) and the need for women to play more important roles in the decision-making process of a country (women in law and politics). Those arguments are from the same underlying principle of the need for women to have a voice.

Similarly, in film, more women need to partake in the story-telling process and in directing films, as that is what will ultimately determine how a story comes across. It’s an ongoing reality that not enough scripts are being written by women (perhaps they need more of an incentive?), and men cannot entirely understand the feminine experience. I am not saying we should leave men out; we just need more of a feminine input.

Oftentimes, not enough lines or screen time are dedicated to female roles to humanise a character and one of the most negative aspects still ongoing in the film industry is the objectification of women. It’s still common for female characters to be ridden with clichés and in order to really sell a movie, women may have to appear sexy in order to be viewed as powerful. Why does a woman have to be sexy to be powerful? Why can’t she just be smart and influential in order to be powerful?

Maggie Gyllenhaal recently remarked in an interview that the use of sex in films is used as a tool for female roles to capture the attention of the audience, then they’ll be heard. On screen, women are oftentimes treated as accessories expected to look beautiful, glamorous and extravagant. The key is finding ways to make filmmaking more progressive, giving more dimension to female characters and their stories.

Scripts are often written by men, and while I am not suggesting that male screenwriters set out demean women, they naturally lack certain knowledge that only a woman can have about the certain women-centric issues being addressed. On the other side of what’s deemed as entertaining, there’s the portrayal of bitchy or evil (both with negative connotations), far from empowering.

But things are changing – including in Nigeria. Isoken, directed by Jade Osiberu is a film that has pushed boundaries in terms of the story itself and the way the lead actress (Dakore Egbuson-Akande) depicts her role. She does so in an empowered expression of the issues and choices she’s facing, subjects that are normally deemed as taboo and that cause people (both men and women) to even disrespect a woman in Isoken’s position. But there is still a funding gap for films written and directed by women, and actress-turned-director is still a harder promotion, compared with the case of men.

 

 

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Few years ago, actress Foluke Daramola-Salako, revealed she was raped when she was much younger. In a new interview with Punch, the actress recounted how the experience made her become a better mother to her own daughter.

“I always enlighten my daughter about how some men can be when it comes to sex. Even when I am not around her, she always cautions men when they try to touch her in a way she is not comfortable with.  She tells me when she feels harassed by a man. She is out of the country at the moment, and people always call me to ask me how I trained her.

“In my days as a young woman, I couldn’t discuss sex with my mum. Even till now, I still cannot do that because of the orientation I had as a young girl. If my daughter should get deflowered today, she will tell me because we are friends. I started discussing sex education with my daughter when she was six. I didn’t feel it was too early because she had a rapid growth.

“I was raped by my tenant because he thought I was older than my actual age. I am comfortable with my daughter being around men because I have educated her,” she said.

Foluke went on to say that the Federal government needs to enact a law whereby rapists are killed once convicted.

“I believe the government should pass a law against rape; rapists should be killed when they are caught. I don’t call myself a rape victim, but a rape victor.  Rape victims become a shadow of themselves; they have no form of self-esteem, some of them even take their lives. When it happened to me, I thank God I had friends who helped me recover fast. “When I came out to say it, people were shocked, but I am happy that after my interview, people started coming out to talk about their experience. It has been happening; it is just that people don’t talk about it. An abuser is always a product of an abuse. I’ll advise parents to always pay attention to their children and listen to them,” she said

 

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Kim Kardashian and Kanye West‘s daughter North West has landed her very first solo magazine cover, at age 5.

The cover is for WWD and the issue explores Generation Z and Generation Alpha, and their impact on the global beauty industry.

Talking about the cover, the magazine says:

She embodies the upcoming youthquake, having captivated the digital realm with her cross-generational appeal. Without a public Instagram or YouTube channel of her own, she’s too young to fully understand what a digital footprint is. And yet, hers is already wildly popular.

See the cover below.

For more of North, visit WWD.com.

 

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Adebukola Plumptre is a voice over talent and vlogger. A graduate of Mass Communication from the prestigious University of Lagos where she majored in Advertising& Public relations. She has worked in various capacities such as sales&marketing, business development, media, advertising, experiential marketing & events as well as in administration.

Her foray into vlogging and voice over artistry was borne out of her desire to use her voice in the media space and be positively impacting. Her Instagram handle @bukkysho1 features her vlogs which centre on parenting, self love, career, and body image issues. Her #wcw is a platform for supporting women in business and #dearvoiceovertalent provides useful information to aspiring and established Voice Over Talents.

She is a proud alumni of Voice Over Academy where she received her Pro Voice Over training. Her happiest moments are recording in the studio and playing with her son Nolan.

Childhood Influence
Yes, I had parents who encouraged us to be anything we wanted to be. To be whatever we set our minds to do. I had always enjoyed watching the news especially News Line with Frank Olize and CNN Style with Elsa Clench as well as documentaries. These were bonding experiences with my father.

Meet Me!
I am lover of words, I have always loved to talk and enjoy mind stimulating conversations. I was an Art Student in High School, I enjoyed taking Literature In English and Government & Politics. I studied Mass Communication at the University of Lagos where I majored in Advertising& Public Relations. I was a news reporter and sales executive for the school paper, Unilag Sun.

Inspiration behind passion for Voice Talents
Daily making use of my God given talent. Ensuring my voice is heard in the media space. If I am to lend my voice to causes I am passionate about then this is my springboard to do so.

Leaving my high earned job for Vlogging and voice over
After I had my son, I wanted to be a more present and involved parent. Having him challenged me to follow my passion. After gaining experience in the private sector it was time to focus on more personal pursuits and what I as an individual wanted to do with the rest of my life. I had to ensure it would be more memorable and satisfying.

Challenges
Perfection is the watch word of this profession. The work is never done until the sound engineer is satisfied with your delivery of the script, your tone, your pitch or inflections. The client gives the final word of your artistic efforts. In most cases you will redo entire take at the studio if they are unsatisfied. It is long and time consuming but these checks are necessary for a great output.

Other Projects & Activities
There are causes I am passionate about and lend my voice to them primarily on social media. I document my journey as a new mother and voice over talent on my Vlogs primarily on Facebook and Instagram. I also write letters “Dear Voice Over Talent” on Instagram to discuss my ongoing voice over journey and to encourage colleagues and aspiring persons who want to excel in this field. I also enjoy supporting other business women like myself on the platform “Woman Crush Wednesday”. These are businesses where I’ve experienced great customer service experience and also want others to do same.

Greatest reward
Positive feedback and engagement either in person or on social media. I’ve had a voice over talent from Egypt connect with me. Also, a young lady who wanted to start her voice over career. Even constructive criticism from seasoned voice over talents. It makes it all worth the effort.

On recognition of voice Over artistes in Nigeria
I believe it’s imperative to ensure you get the recognition you deserve in whatever career you find yourself. If you don’t blow your own trumpet, who will? When you have drive and are self motivated you will get the recognition you deserve. It’s a small, close knit circle of practioners and mostly advertising agencies tend to know us on a professional basis. However, our celebrity status is celebrated by our own. We are yet to reach the same status as entertainers or film actors.

What next?
To continue to deliver exceptional work and create memorable experiences. I am media girl at heart and will also pursue other creative expressions on TV, Radio and New Media.

Who and what inspire me to be better
My son Nolan and all women breaking barriers and stereotypes daily.

Being a woman of Rubies
I am a woman of rubies because I sparkle and I shine. I shine this light wherever I go teaching, uplifting and inspiring others to be their very best. To never relent in their pursuit for growth and learning. I am a change agent, I am an influencer.

Advice for young women who want to go into my field
They should seek formal or professional training first. It is not enough to be told how well they speak or sound. There is an art and science to being a great voice over talent. They should leverage on the use of new media to market and promote themselves so that potential clients can find them and see their work in action.

The woman who pionered professional modeling in Nigeria and became Nigeria’s first super model, has died.

Yemi Fawaz died yesterday February 20th at New York Lenox Hill Hospital. She was 64 years old. Ms Fawaz had been battling colon cancer for a while. She also had a hole in her heart and her kidney had began to fail her.

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Yemi Fawaz started her modeling career and became a super model in the late 70s. She also established a modeling school and did a lot for the fashion industry in Nigeria. She left Nigeria in 1997 and didn’t return until 2016. She is survived by her 33 year old daughter. May her soul rest in peace.

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Author Maryam Awaisu, one of the activists leading the #ArewaMeToo movement has regained freedom.

People from the Northern part of Nigeria have taken to Twitter in the last few days to share sad stories of abuse from close friends, partners and relatives.

Awaisu, according to Amnesty International, was arrested in her office on Tuesday by SARS officers.

She has finally regained freedom, according to Amnesty International, as well as some social media users who were at the station with her.

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Maryam Awaisu @Ice131Queen has been released. Though she is free now, her arrest and detention was aimed at intimidating women rights activists pursuing justice for victims of sexual violence.

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Finally she’s out and she’s on her way home 🙏🙏

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Maryam Awaisu is still not freed. She is in there at SARS Office. Her phone is off! @ibrahimu14 and some other great Nigerians are waiting outside where she is. Hopefully they would release her today#IAmMaryam#WeAllAreMaryam#FreeMaryamAwaisu#ArewaMeToo

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Johnson & Johnson Innovation has announced five winners of the first Champions of Science – Africa Storytelling Challenge. The Challenge aimed to highlight the journeys of scientists and innovators working in Africa, and celebrate the impact of their work on families, communities and the world.

The Challenge received more than 100 entries from scientists and innovators in 22 African nations, including South Africa, Nigeria, Kenya and Uganda, among others.

An independent committee of scientists, science journalists and policymakers selected the winners, who will receive a $5,000 cash prize, publication of their stories, and international publicity.

The Africa Storytelling Challenge is part of Johnson & Johnson’s ongoing commitment to convene and catalyze champions of science and to engage people of all generations and backgrounds to see the unlimited opportunities that science brings.

Champions of Science – Africa Storytelling Challenge Winners

  • Askwar Hilonga, Ph.D., Tanzania, whose story profiles his invention of a low-cost water filter to clean contaminated water in rural areas
  • Elizabeth Kperrun, Nigeriawhose story describes her work to develop award-winning language learning tools for children.
  • Philippa Ngaju Makobore, Uganda, who described how she and a team of engineers prototyped an automated non-invasive infusion controller to safely and accurately regulate life-saving intravenous fluids and drugs in resource-constrained settings including hospitals and treatment spaces with unreliable power supply.
  • Maame Ekua Manful, Ghanawho described her journey to form a start-up to create fortified foods to address the issue of vitamin A deficiency syndrome prevalent in developing countries.
  • Levit Nudi, Kenya, whose story profiles his development of an innovative mobile app to prevent use of counterfeit or substandard medicines.

 

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American pop star, Ariana Grande has officially matched a chart record that was previously achieved by The Beatles thanks to her new album, Thank U,Next.

After numbers came in for her album, which went No. 1, Grande made history by occupying the top-three spots on the Hot 100 chart with her latest singles: “7 Rings,” “Break Up With Your Girlfriend, I’m Bored,” and “Thank U, Next” (in that exact order).

The Beatles were the last musicians to achieve this back in 1964, when they ruled the charts with “Can’t Buy Me Love,” “Twist and Shout,” and “Do You Want to Know a Secret.” It’s worth noting that Grande is the first solo artist to set this record, too.

“Break Up With Your Girlfriend, I’m Bored” was only just released on Feb. 7, but it’s already climbing the chart in a way that suggests it’ll reach No. 1 status soon. Meanwhile, “Thank U, Next” was No. 1 for seven weeks, and “7 Rings” has held the No. 1 spot for the last four weeks. Naturally, the popularity of her music has crowned Thank U, Next as the most-streamed pop album ever, and Grande as pop music’s indisputable queen.

 

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I recently went out with a friend who had invited me for drinks with his other friends. They were all men, Igbo men to be precise.

 

Lolo Cynthia Is a public health specialist, sexuality educator and founder of the social enterprise LoloTalks, that employs all forms of media (online and offline) to create awareness and sustainable solutions to our contemporary social and health issues in Africa.  She also doubles as a documentary and talk show producer and lends her voice on issues regarding interpersonal relationships, sexuality, gender, and social issues through her YouTube channel LoloTalks and her blog.