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ASIRI, NOSA ,SEUN AJAYI AMONG SPEAKERS FOR REVAMP CONFERENCE

Damilare Osundare a.k.a Asiri Comedy ,inspirational singer, Nosa  and  actor Seun Ajayi have been named amongst the speakers  expected to facilitate at  this year’s  Revamp Conference tagged ‘The Old meets the new’.

The 2019 edition of the conference is scheduled to hold on the 22nd of June 2019 at Prime Rose Event Centre, Ogba ,Ikeja Lagos.

These entertainment icons will alongside other panelists, thought leaders and experts coach, counsel and inspire the young Nigerians who will be attending the third edition of this summit.

The vision of this year’s edition is to bring menthors from the older generation and mentors from the new school under one roof to inspire the teenagers and youths. The focus is to glean wisdom from the old and intelligence from the young achievers.

According to Precious Eniayekan, Convener of the Conference: “It’s been an amazing journey, this is the third edition of the Revamp conference and I can boldly say this is what we have been called to do. For me, raising a generation that will raise the next and the next and the next is something all of us must pay attention to. The stellar initiative is here to stay and we are taking Revamp to the world”, she said.

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3 SIMPLE WAYS TO RELIEVE MENSTRUAL PAIN NATURALLY

Menstrual cramps are common pains experienced by women before and during the period which cause major discomfort. While making use of prescribed drugs, like aspirins, may be advised, it is also good to note that natural remedies are available and efficient like the few explained below;

Stay Hydrated

One common remedy for menstrual cramps is to stay hydrated; in other words, drink more water; this helps to ease bloating which makes symptoms worse.

Get in the habit of drinking six to eight glasses of water each day, especially during your period. Add some mint or a lemon wedge to make it more palatable, if you dislike its plain taste. While you’re at it, back off of the salt, which encourages fluid retention and bloating.

Diet Is Key

Your dietary and lifestyle habits can either relieve or worsen period cramps. If you experience monthly menstrual discomfort, it is advisable to avoid certain foods like refined foods including sugar, glazed doughnuts, bread, and pasta. Avoid trans-fatty acids that are found most often in, for example, French fries, cookies, onion rings, crackers, and margarine. Ditch alcohol, tobacco, and caffeine. All of these things increase inflammation and may encourage period pain. In replacing tea or anything caffeine-related, you can indulge in sipping chamomile tea which may help reduce cramps when you menstruate.

Try The Heat Therapy

Placing a hot water bottle or heating pad against the abdomen can relax the muscles and relieve cramps. Study shows heat helps the uterine muscle and those around it relax, which may ease cramping and discomfort.

One can also place a heating pad on the lower back to get rid of back pain. Another option is to soak in a warm bath, which can help relax the muscles in the abdomen, back, and legs.

In the absence of any of the above, massages, mild exercises and reducing hectic routines should be implored.

Source: Violet Johnson

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MEET SUCCESS ADEGOR – AN INTERNET SENSATION & MEDIAROOMHUB’S COVER STAR!

The May magazine cover for MediaRoomHub is out and to commemorate the Children’s Day, they have featured Success Adegor. Success’ story is not only unique, but it’s also a wakeup call for us all to make education a priority for every Nigerian child.

A few weeks ago, a viral video of a little school girl, Success, surfaced on the internet where the smart and outspoken primary school girl was being questioned by her neighbor, Stephanie, as to why she was returning home rather too early from school on that fateful day. In an outburst, Success said she was sent away for not paying her examination fee.

Of course, situations such as this call for concern amongst many Nigerians as there are so many similar cases out there. Thus, within the space of 24 hours, celebrities and individuals alike raised funds in order to ensure that Success remains in school and yes, they made it happen.

According to MRH,The Success incident came with a lot of controversies which prompted us to travel to Sapele to interview her and her parents. Thus, in this conversation with us, Success talks about how she met Stephanie, whether or not her parents appreciated Stephanie thereafter, how the incident was actually one of several others in the past, how some public figures used her situation for publicity, her future ambition, how she feels about stardom and more.Visit www.mediaroomhub.com for more.

Credits:
Editor-in-Chief: Azuka Ogujiuba – @azukaogujiubaContent writers: @ocheibi_abigail & @realoneowoyemiSuccess outfits: @ruffntumblekids @nmaclothingcoPhotography/videography: @onahclassicproduction


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SERENA WILLIAMS BECOMES THE FIRST ATHLETE TO MAKE FORBES’ RICHEST SELF-MADE WOMEN LIST

Serena Williams has made history as the first athlete to make Forbes’ list of the World’s Richest Self-Made Women.  

According to the publication, the 23-time Grand Slam champion made the list as a result of her estimated fortune of $224m (£177m). The majority of William’s fortune has been made as a result of her “brain and brand rather than her backhand”, according to Forbes, with the star investing in 34 startup businesses in the past five years alone.

Opening up about her financial investments, Williams told the publication: “I want to be in the infrastructure. I want to be the brand, instead of just being the face.”

In April, Williams announced she was launching her own venture-capital firm.

Forbes reports that 60 per cent of Williams’ investments so far have gone to companies led by women or people of colour.

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6 WAYS SOCIAL MEDIA IS AFFECTING YOUR MENTAL HEALTH

There is no doubt that the advent of social media has brought it with many welcomed and some not so welcomed developments. Social media platforms have revolutionised the way we stay in touch with each other and it has become an integral part of the daily life of many.

While there are many positive roles played by social media, it has many setbacks as recent reports have said that over- or misuse of social media can have a negative impact on self-esteem and mental health, particularly among younger users.

So how and when might social media use be detrimental to our mental wellbeing?

Addiction

One piece of research posited that tweeting or checking emails may be ‘harder to resist than cigarettes and alcohol’. The more social media use becomes an important part of our daily routine, the more we may become too emotionally and psychologically dependent on it. Asides that, addiction to social media affects our everyday relationships, sleep hygiene, or our performance at work or in our studies.

The Fear of Missing Out (FoMO) Factor

Getting into the habit of checking social media at any available time may lead to us checking on impulse. This can lead to us never really switching off or taking time to relax. Many social media users today live in the fear of missing out on an update from a friend or celebrity causing them to constantly check their social media platforms at all available given times.

Comparison

One thing that makes social media fun is that we get to have a glimpse into the lives of others and keep up to date with them. However, being in constant contact with the lives of others can lead to critical comparison leading to feelings to insecurity. We forget that most of what we see on social media platforms are carefully selected and filtered content and we aspire to unrealistic expectations.

Loneliness

One study has suggested that the more frequently you visit social networking sites the more likely you are to feel socially isolated. However, like many of the studies exploring the effects of social media on mental health, it is difficult to pinpoint causation.

Cyberbullying

One major headache of social networking is the issue of cyber or online bullying. 70 percent of young people and 40 percent of adults say that they have experienced some form of cyberbullying. The Royal Society for Public Health says that victims of bullying are more likely to experience depression, anxiety and even self-harm.

Anxiety and depression

One study has reported that simultaneous use of multiple social networking sites led users to be more likely to report feelings of anxiety or depression. Those that already have difficulties with anxiety, problems such as body dysmorphic disorder and low self-esteem issues may be compounded by social media.’

By: AKINWALE AKINYOADE for Guardian

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OLACHI OLATUNJI: CHOOSE HONESTY OVER HEROISM  

#Part 3

When you look at your kid or your ward or someone younger that you ae somehow responsible for, you want them to look at you are be proud. You always want them to be able to see in you the perfect example. Ask any parent – what drives you? You’d hear stuff like, “I want to give my kids a good example, I want them to look up to me, I want to show them that they can achieve anything they set their minds to” and who wouldn’t want to do or be all these things?

But parents, you need to take some pressure off yourself too. Even Superman needs a little Clark Kent time once in a while – we like to think we can do and be everything for our kids’ but the truth is – we can’t. Guess what? the kids don’t expect us to either.

I remember growing up, my mum was everything rolled into one and some days I just wanted her to rest. I saw what it was doing to her attempting all questions with 5 children every single day. Not easy.

I would understand if she could not be there for me at a time because she just needed to do HER but she never let up and many of you might never let up either. Maybe it’s how we were made – who knows?

Here’s what I want you to take from this –

Every parent wants to be their childs’ hero, they want to be the one their kids look up to but trust me when I tell you it’s better to just be honest with them. Tell the truth, they will understand.

Sometimes as parents we have to make tough decisions – sometimes we need to live away from our families for work or school or whatever. It sucks but telling them the truth helps them understand instead of just cope.

So, you can’t make the school game this week. Say, “Baby, I can’t make your school game on Friday ok – I am really sorry and I promise I’ll try to be at your next one – I’ll get your teacher to record it for me and we’ll watch it together at home, ok?”

 

That is so much better than promising them you’ll show up when you know – you really won’t be there.

Everyone loves a hero, but no one loves a liar and if you can’t be a hero, at least be honest.

 

You will disappoint them more by your lies rather than your truths. The truth you tell might hurt for the moment but the pain of lies can last a lifetime.

I was talking with a friend one time who said when he was 5, his parents dropped him off at boarding school and said they’d be right back. The next time he saw them was 3 months later at the end of the school term. I cannot even begin to imagine what that must have felt like. He cried every day for days until it became clear that neither mum nor dad was turning up and so at age 5, he was forced to become a man.

You might say – his parents probably just didn’t know how to explain it to a 5-year old and I think that too but did not-explaining make it easier on the child or on the parents?

Please stop trying to have it all figured out, stop trying to be so strong for them –Tell your kids the truth. Tell them in a way they can understand – they will and will love you for it too. You will demonstrate to them that honesty does not always feel good, but when the choice is presented – you should choose honesty over heroism, always.

You know one of the things I love most about being a parent – it’s that I get to hold right now in my hands what could be a crucial part of shaping a future generation and even if I cannot change the world myself – the idea that I can raise someone who CAN is hands down THE most amazing and terrifying part of being a parent. For me!

We don’t know everything, but we know some things. Let’s do the best we can with the best we know.

Think about how you’re going to choose honesty with your kids even if what you have to tell them is really difficult.

The End.

About Olachi Olatunji

Hey, my name is Olachi and I like to refer to myself as a ‘thinking enthusiast.’

I love a few things, number one of them being learning and number two would be spreading.

I believe in the power of right thinking to transform lives and as a result; I enjoy spreading knowledge, inspiring thinking and encouraging movement.

I however am not a very serious person so please don’t expect to find me in a suit… In a crowd with beating music though, find me somewhere in the middle – moving to the beat and filling my soul with joy.

 

Olachi Olatunji

Chief Curator,

THEKNOWLEDGEOFHOW Blog.

#TKOH

 

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FOUR STEPS TO CHOOSING THE RIGHT FOUNDATION

Choosing the right foundation could be extremely tricky and overwhelming, especially as a makeup beginner or if one decides to try a new product. There is the problem of not just choosing the right shade but also choosing a foundation that matches one’s skin type. The foundation is to help one’s skin look best and not to look like one has layers of makeup on.

Here are 4 steps to choosing the right foundation to give one’s makeup a flawless finish:

Finding the Best Foundation for Your Skin Type

The first and most important step to choosing a foundation is to find one that matches your skin type. Each skin type has a particular type of foundation that matches it and works best for it, hence it prevents having a face that it has makeup layered on it. For oil-free skin prone to breakouts, using a thick foundation or one that has a lot of moisturisers could make the skin even oilier. As such, people with acne prone skin should stay away from heavy pancake foundations that could clog the pores. Instead, use a lightweight foundation with salicylic acid whose formulas can reduce or to some extent, prevent breakouts.

Liquid foundation is precisely the best type of foundation or dry skin. While some mineral based powder foundations can nourish the skin, they typically aren’t the best foundation choice for dry skin. Rich creamy foundations work very well with dry skin. For oily skin, matte foundation is the best fit as they would prevent the makeup from breaking.

Matching one’s complexion and colouring
Figuring one’s skin tone is the first step to matching one’s foundation to one’s complexion. Undertone differs from skin colour or tone, while one’s skin colour might change, the undertone remains the same. Undertones could be warm, cool or neutral. In addition to pigment or colour, foundations also have cool, warm or neutral tones. To effortlessly blend one’s foundations seamlessly, it needs to work with one’s undertone. Foundations often come in three shades; fair, dark and medium. For each shade, there is also a range of undertones; cool, warm and neutral. The goal is to find the right shade with the right undertone.

Ensure to Test out Foundation Shades before Buying
Often, buying foundation online is not advisable especially if one has no idea of one’s foundation shade or trying out a new product. To avoid buying a wrong foundation, it is important to test out different foundation shades before buying or better still, visit stores for recommendations. Foundations could look different in a bottle as opposed to when on the skin. Also, these stores have a wide array of options that allows one to choose from. It is important to do test patches before choosing a foundation shade. However, there are rules to this.

For under-exposed faces, the chest is a good option for selecting the foundation shade. The jawline is one of the most common areas for doing a foundation patch test. This is a good way to ensure the foundation matches one’s neck. Note that the skin on the arm or hands is not a good place for a foundation patch test. This is because, more often than not, the skin on one’s face differs in colour and texture from that of the hand. Also, try to see how well these shades look in natural light as opposed to the fluorescent lighting of most makeup stores. Finally, ask for a second opinion from the makeup professionals manning the counter.

Getting the Right Look
The choice of a foundation can make or break a look. Because of this, it is necessary to choose one that matches one’s needs and style. Lightweight water-based liquid foundation gives a luminous glow, an oil-based foundation with moisturiser gives a nice dewy glow and a matte finish can be gotten using matte liquid, matte powder or a mousse foundation. Also, take into consideration the weather and environment, if one’s plans include physical exertion or humid weather, then a water-resistant or sweat-resistant foundation is best. For fluorescent lighting, a foundation with a little warmth is best and for long events, a matte foundation works best.

Source: OREORITSE TARIEMI for Guardian

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WE MUST TEACH OUR YOUNG GIRLS VALUES THAT TRULY MATTER- OLUCHI ONWEAGBA-ORLANDI

The first Mnet Face of Africa and renowned supermodel, Oluchi Onweagba-Orlandi is no stranger to the limelight as she found international fame at an early age. Wife, mother, businesswoman and now founder of LuLu, she sat down with GUARDIAN WOMAN to talk about what it means to be woman amongst other things.

What does being a woman mean for you personally?
I have always wondered what it truly means to be woman. Not “a woman” but “woman.” You don’t choose to be born female, you literally wake up one day and realise that you are.

Oftentimes it is because growing up especially in Nigeria, there is a constant reminder of what you should do, how you should act, what you should think simply because you are not male.

By: Tobi Awodipe for Guardian

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A WOMAN THAT HAS BEEN HURT…

In narrating his marital issues to me, a man wrote… “I MET my wife during one of my visits to Nigeria. We got married with the understanding that her joining me in the UK is immediate. We soon had a child but, after some time, I noticed her body language towards me wasn’t right, and I asked her questions. Her response was like I shouldn’t bother, that we are fine.

Each time I’m visiting, she never does anything special to woo me. No special hair-do, no makeup, no special food, etc. On several occasions, I’ve asked her if I’m doing anything wrong or if there’s something she needs. Her answers are always “everything is okay.”

The love-making is just zero. She doesn’t show she misses it! Then, I said to myself that she must have been getting it from someone else. So I started looking for clues and secretly investigating.

I managed to get hold of her bank statements. I then noticed a very small amount of money coming into her account from a man!
I asked her about it, and she said the man is a family friend from her mother’s side.

During my visit to Nigeria in January, I asked her mum about the man and she said they’re not related. Immediately I returned to the UK, we had a big argument, words were exchanged and both families were insulted. My wife blocked me on all her phone lines and social media platforms. A friend of mine helped me to persuade her to talk to me after awhile.We started talking but she has so much anger in her.

The issue now is that she said she doesn’t love me anymore and not joining me in the UK. What should I do? Should I just let her be?

Please note:
. Her documents for joining me in the UK are being processed.

. I send money to her on a weekly basis.

. I buy her lots of things whenever I am coming to Nigeria- from mobile phone to underwear.

. I visit two to three times a year.

. I bought her a car even before she learned how to drive.

I wouldn’t know if her anger is because she once saw a chat between me and a lady that I dated in the UK.
But, that relationship has long ended.’’

By: Chukwuneta Oby for Guardian Newspaper

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