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A couple with Down Syndrome have gone viral on the internet after heartwarming photos of them surfaced online.

Gareth and Deana Tobias who are officially the world’s first couple with Down’s syndrome to get married, are still inseparable 27 years later.

Gareth Tobias was just 17 when he met 19-year-old Deana and they both eventually tied the knot in front of 40 friends and family on July 4, 1992.

Gareth in an interview with Metro uk said:

‘Before I met Deana I had three girlfriends. ‘I chose the right one, and that’s Deana.’

‘I put up with Deana and she puts up with me.’

Deana, 57, talking about the relationship said: ‘I thought “he’s ginger”. I like gingers. He had a beard at the time as well. A red one.’

‘I’m ginger as well.’

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A woman in Uganda has been crowned the ‘most fertile woman in the world’ as she’s a biological mother to 44 Children (yep, you read that correct).

Doctors have finally found a way to stop Mariam Nabatanzi, said to be the world’s most fertile woman from having more kids.

Nabatanzin, a single mother who works as a tailor, hairdresser and herbalist to earn enough money to raise her 38 surviving children was reportedly sold into marriage at the age of 12 to a man who was 40-year-old at that time (28 years her senior). She had her first child one year later.

“Generally, I have tried to educate them. My dream is that my children go to school. They can lack anything (else), but they must go to school.” I can’t say they are nagging because they are my children. I can’t say I will abandon them because they are my children and I love them,” Nabatazni revealed in a recent Al Jazeera documentary.

She recalled being warned by a doctor that birth control, like the Pill, could cause her problems because she had unusually large ovaries. So after her first set of twins, the babies just kept coming.

Mirror reported that at 23, Nabatazni had 25 children and was desperately begging her doctor for help to stop her from having any more. However the medical advice was for her to continue getting pregnant because her ovary count was so high.

Her last pregnancy which led to the birth of her sixth set of twins 3 years ago, ended in tragedy. One of the babies died while she was in labour and then her husband who would often leave for weeks, left her for good.

Mariam said: “I have grown up in tears, my man has passed me through a lot of suffering.

“All my time has been spent looking after my children and working to earn some money.”

It was after that pregnancy that she got the medical help she needed to stop her having more babies. She said the doctor told her he had “cut my uterus from inside”.

After two years of living together with a man as wife, popular Yoruba actress, Bose Oladimeji, says she’s had just about enough and walking out fast. Her reason is none other than domestic abuse, which she says has become not only brutally violent but life-threatening as well.

“Yes I’m ready to go, in fact, I’m not with him right now. I just have to run for my life, my life is very precious to me. I can’t just allow someone to kill me like that and I want to address some ladies out there that they should not love a guy because of what he gives them. They should be sure the love is genuine and not be fooled by money and comfort. I’m leaving right now, I need to run away for my life. I need to save myself. My life will be in danger if I continue to stay with him, so I’m leaving right now,” she said in a chat with Potpourri.

Highlighting the gory details of the abuse, Bose Oladimeji said the beatings start whenever he comes home drunk

“Whenever he’s drunk he’s out of his senses and starts misbehaving, beating me. He acts very crazy. Any weapon he sees around he uses it on me but when he is sober he starts to regret whatever he has done. What I’m saying is that in the process of beating me what if I collapse and die or get injured, what will people say?” she said with agony in her eyes.

When asked if she didn’t see it coming, Bose Oladimeji said he pretended and hid his true nature at the beginning of their relationship, explaining how they met and how all the abuse began.

“We meet in the club through a friend and he was well presented and loving, humble and respectful and he spent a lot of money that night but after everything, to be honest, we went home separately. The following day we hooked up and that was how it all started. He was taking good care of me and that was one of the reasons I fell in love with him. But what I found odd about him is the forceful way he has sex with. No foreplay, nothing, just to jump on me and forces his way through. No affection, no cuddling, no romance just brutal sex. I was raped like this most nights, and usually followed by beating and insults,” she added

Though not legally married, they lived together for two years with issues between them. But Bose Oladimeji would not want to drag the children into it.

A Nigerian model, Olu, with the Instagram Handle, @Kxng.Olu has been ‘blessed’ with a brand new iPhone 11 from Oprah Winfrey after he met with her, and made a video, ‘With his cracked mobile phone.

Apparently, he had a sit down conversation with Oprah, and immediately after the event, he quickly stepped out to cattch up with her in her car, to have another, “one-on-one” conversation with her.

After the conversation, he quickly brought out his phone, to make a video, and Oprah made a comment about his cracked phone.

Watch the video below, where she says, “That’s me with in your cracked phone”

He then shared the video on his Instagram page, captioning it; “Today I was blessed with the opportunity to sit down and have a conversation with @Oprah Winfrey. After the assembly, my brother @zcs_5 and I caught her car and had another conversation with her. We hope to see her again soon and thank her for making this possible. #oprah #morehousecollege @morehouse1867”

 

 

A Few days Later, Oprah sent him a note with a brand new iPhone 11.

The signed note reads; “Dear Olufemi. We can’t have you out here viewing the world through a cracked screen or a cracked cover. The new camera you’re gonna love for sure”

Being unmotivated is a nasty feeling. You get stuck trying, and no matter what you do during your day (eating your meal, talking to your boss, reading an article), everything seems to blur into sheer dullness.

What this boils down to is a growing pile of assignments and an incredibly dissatisfied you. Don’t let this feeling control you and your life. Break out of it by doing at least one of these 8 simple things that will ignite your motivation.

1. Make a to-do list

Sometimes, there’s a gazillion things we need to do, which could take a toll on our willingness to work. Especially when nowadays our emails get flooded and the tasks we were never assigned to, multiplies. That’s why I always compile a to-do list that covers the 3 main assignments I need to do. Anything minor, I do them at the end of the day or in-between my breaks.

Phone. Laptop. Good old post-its. Use whatever suits your style. As long as you write down all the tasks you got to do the night before, you’ll be prepared for tomorrow’s work. Regain control of your life and sort your priorities. Nothing drives people more forward than usefulness. So let that feeling overcome any procrastination or laziness and start writing that list.

2. Get rid of social media

Social media may seem like a godsend, but it can also be work’s worst enemy. Let’s admit it — almost all of us have secretly peeked at our Facebook or Instagram feed behind our boss’s back. While it seems harmless to take a quick glance from time to time, it actually kills your motivation and stops you from doing what matters most.

According to a study in Irvine, it takes 25 minutes for us to regain our focus after getting distracted. Think about all those wasted minutes every time you check your notifications or browse through your friend’s feed. Remember, your day is more real than people’s updates. Make it productive, and shut down your social news feed. You’ll feel so much better — I guarantee that.

3. Remember what you’re grateful for

Look at what you have, not what you wish you had.

Your computer, your phone, TV, heating, air conditioner, fridge, home. These are all things to be grateful for. But first and foremost is your health and your ability to read this. Don’t you realize how great your situation is? Then what’s stopping you from working hard towards living the life you want?

The faster you understand the importance of the little things you have, the better and more motivated you’ll feel. Want a suggestion? Write ‘thank you’ notes to all the things that make you happy. No one needs to read them — just you.

4. Do what makes you happy

Based on a study by economists at the University of Warwick, happiness makes us 12% more productive at work. We have more energy, learn faster, make better decisions, and work better with others.

How to feel happy? Grab your favorite book and start reading, call your best friend, make yourself a nice cup of coffee, or watch some inspirational YouTube videos. The possibilities are endless.

5. Move your body

Stop for a moment and examine your physique. Did you exercise? Did you step out of the house?

If not, you might want to plan some physical activities to get your blood flowing. This will give your mind a good break from stressing over on the unfinished tasks from your to-do list. Keep your body strong — your mind will follow through.

6. Start small

If you can’t seem to start on anything no matter how hard you try, maybe you’re pushing yourself too much. Start with small steps instead.

Instead of writing a book, write a page first. Make it a habit to write 100 words, then 200, then 300 words, until you finally get to one page. As the time passes, you’ll eventually be able to write a chapter. The idea to keep pushing yourself into achieving the small goals, so you feel more pumped up the next day to do something greater.

7. Aim big

Yes, you should start small, but always aim big. This means having a clear image of your goal before your eyes at all times. More importantly though, aspire to make it happen with class. You get nowhere if you only dream and don’t deliver.

So if your goal is to finish college, expand it with being ‘at the top of your class.’ If you want to be a successful blogger, think higher and aim to attract editors from highly-reputable sites to republish your articles.

It’s more tempting to finish a task when you know how the rewards will pay off in the future.

8. Take a break

As much as you might think taking a break is lazy advice, it isn’t. Sometimes, when we get too invested into something that consumed more of our time than we anticipated, we become irritable which shatters our motivation. That’s why it’s important to know when to stop and how to do so.

Go for a walk, visit a friend or simply stay at home and watch a few hours of Netflix. Your brain needs a little time off as much as you.

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Friends and colleagues of celebrated actress and filmmaker, Toyin Abraham, have commended her decision to become a herbal medicine vendor.

Celebrities such as Annie Idibia, Mercy Aigbe, Adunni Ade, Dayo Amusa, Chioma Akpotha, Faithia Balogun-Williams and Venita Akpofure took to their respective Instagram pages to praise the controversial nursing mother.

They described her action as commendable and worthy of emulation. @annieidibia1 wrote, ‘‘I just want to use this medium to congratulate My Gurl @toyin_abraham on the launch of her new project, a solution for women with infertility issues. As a woman I  understand how personal this is and I  could not be prouder (sic)’’

Aigbe, on her part wrote, ‘‘This is a big congratulatory message going out to my very good friend @toyin_abraham on the launch of her project. This is a big win for women all around and I am so glad to be a part of the story. It’s time we stop spending fortunes on fertility drugs and treatments…(sic)”

‘‘This is a congratulatory message going out to my colleague @toyinabraham on the launch of her project. It’s such a big win for women all around and I am so glad to be a part of the story (sic),” Adunni Ade also wrote on her IG

Toyin said her journey to conception was what opened her eyes to what she described as the wonders of traditional African remedies (herbs).

Source: Punch

Kafayat Sanni made history on Tuesday, October 15, 2019, when she became the first female fighter pilot in the 55-year-old history of the Nigerian Air Force. After emerging as the overall best pilot at the NAF 401 Flying Training School, Kaduna State, in 2017, she was sent to the United States of America to train at the US Aviation Leadership Programme. Upon the completion of the programme, Sanni is back and was decorated alongside 12 new fighter pilots at the NAF Headquarters, Abuja, on Tuesday.

As she grabbed the first female trophy in flying Alpha Jets and others, her colleague, Tolulope Arotile, also trained at the Starlite International Training Academy, South Africa for 14 months, to become the first female combat helicopter pilot. After a decoration ceremony attended by the Minister of Women Affairs, Mrs Pauline Tallen, the females, alongside their male counterparts will soon be deployed to the North-East to join in the Boko Haram counter-insurgency operation and other internal security operations across the country.

In an interview with Punch, she speaks on her achievements, playing a big role as a female officer and her contribution to counter-insurgency.

Read excerpts from the interview:

On how she felt concerning her achievement in the Nigerian Air Force

It is a privilege for me to be winged as the first female fighter pilot in the Nigerian Air Force. My appreciation first goes to the Almighty God for making this possible for me. It also goes to the Chief of the Air Staff for giving me the opportunity and for making this possible.

On being the first female fighter jet pilot

It was what I wanted to do. And I felt that everyone is not supposed to fold their arms and watch what is happening in our country. Everyone could always play their part. So I did not think there was any reason for me to think that it is not possible for me to actually fly the jet because there was no female that ever flew the jet. I believed I could achieve it and I did.

On contribution to counter-insurgency operations

It will motivate me of course. There are other pilots there in the fronts and they are playing their part. They have been doing their best. So I am also just going to join my male counterparts in the insurgency fight and every other thing that have been going on in our country. So I am just going to get there and play my part.

Advice for younger girls who would like to be in the military

The advice I want to emphasise to them is that they should never say no to opportunities. They should always strive to be the best and put in their efforts. They should never look at anything that seems to want to overpower or overshadow them. For me, you can always attempt things and if they do not work out well; fine. But at every point in time, you just need to put in your best.

Tyra Winters, a Rockwall, Texas high school cheerleader, saved the life of a little boy who was choking on the sidelines during the homecoming parade. 

Winters was sitting atop a homecoming float waving to the crowd when she noticed the toddler choking on a piece of candy.

“He was turning purple, so I immediately jumped off the float, I ran down to the kiddo, and I was like, ‘I got him’ and I grabbed him from the mom. I grabbed him and tilted him and I gave a good three back thrusts and he ended up spitting up,” Winters told CBS DFW. 

The child’s mother, Nicole Hornback, said that the Rockwall High Senior saved her son Clarke’s life. 

“I was sitting right next to him, I just happened to look over. There was no noise, no coughing, no breathing,” Hornback said. That’s when Winters came to the rescue. 

“She saved my baby. I commend her for being a teenager and being trained,” Hornback said. 

After Winters saved Clarke, she did what any teenager would do and ran to get “back on the float before [she] missed it, she told NBC DFW. Hornback said she never had the opportunity to properly say thank you so she wrote a message on Facebook about what happened, thanking the 17-year-old for saving her son’s life. School administrators saw the note and arranged for the two to meet at the school. 

Clarke and Winters greeted with a high five and Hornback said that she really didn’t have the words to properly express her immense gratitude. 

“The words that you would say to anyone who does something for you is ‘thank you.’ But that doesn’t seem good enough,” Hornback said.

Winters wants to be a pediatric surgeon and was trained in CPR and the Heimlich maneuver at her mother’s group home for foster children. Despite all of the praise she’s receiving, she said she really was just trying to help. 

“I know they’re calling me the town hero,” Winters said. “It’s super exciting to own that title. But most importantly, I’m just glad the boy is OK.” 

A round of applause for this real life hero and future doctor.

Photo Courtesy of Rockwall ISD/Facebook

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As it stands, women make 80 cents to every dollar earned by men. But, for women of color, that gap is far larger with Black women earning 61 cents to their white male counterparts and Native American and Latina women earning 58 cents and 53 cents, respectively. 

Working to help address not only this wage gap, but the many other biases and micro-aggressions that women of color face in the workplace is entrepreneur and author Minda Harts. In her latest book, “The Memo: What Women of Color Need to Know to Secure a Seat at the Table,” Harts provides actionable and relatable tips for how women of color and their allies can make an impactful change in the workplace. 

“I realized there was a gap in career development geared towards Black women and women of color,” Harts told Because of Them We Can. “Most of the career narratives are written through the lens of a white man or woman and I felt we were being left out of the conversation.”

Harts continues by saying she wanted women of color to read about some of the shared experiences they face in the workplaces and walk away with the tools needed to not just survive corporate America, but also thrive in it. 

Referring to her book as a “love letter to Black and brown women,” Harts explains how her book is a continuation of the company she started in 2015 called The Memo, which is a career development platform for women of color.

Unlike other career books that offer a one size fits all approach to achieving success in the workplace, Harts says “this book is different because the career narrative is written by us, for us.”

“As Dr. King so eloquently wrote in his letter from the Birmingham jail, ‘we will live in the monologue and not the dialogue,’” she says. “I wanted that for Black and brown women at work.”

Harts, who is also an assistant professor of public service at New York University, is currently on tour helping to bring discussions about her book and the many issues women of color face in the workplace to cities across America. Known by many to be a career revolutionary, she says she hopes her book will teach women of color how to be better advocates for themselves at work and how to quantify their worth. 

“Every time we have the opportunity to make an ask, we are helping chip away at the wage gap,” she says. “Every time we don’t ask, we widen it. I realize that just because you ask for more money doesn’t mean you’ll always get it, but at least you’re working on the part of the equation that you can control.”

Two female astronauts are close to accomplishing something no women have done before.

U.S. astronauts Christina Koch and Jessica Meir will step outside the International Space Station Friday morning, the first time in history that two women have done a spacewalk together.

Koch and Meir are expected to spend more than five hours outside the space station to replace a failed power controller, according to NASA.

The remaining four astronauts aboard the International Space Station, all men, will remain inside while Koch and Meir complete their work.

NASA is marking Friday’s “HERstory in the making” by asking schoolteachers to share photos of their students celebrating the spacewalk, according to The Associated Press. NASA has a “HERstory” oral history project documenting the experiences of women who have contributed to the space agency.

Koch and Meir both joined NASA in 2013, the year NASA’s astronaut class was 50% female. Koch is also on her way to making history with a 300-day mission, which will be the longest single spaceflight by a woman.

The astronauts were asked in an interview from space earlier this month about whether they mind having their accomplishments qualified by their gender.

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“In the end I do think it’s important because of the historical nature of what we’re doing and in the past, women haven’t always been at the table,” Koch said on NASA TV. “And it’s wonderful to be contributing to the human spaceflight program at a time when all contributions are being accepted, when everyone has a role, and that in turn can lead to an increased chance for success.”

“There are a lot of people that derive motivation from inspiring stories from people that look like them and I think it’s an important aspect of the story to tell,” she said.

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Meir added, “What we’re doing now shows all the work that went in decades prior. All the women that worked to get us where we are today. I think the nice thing for us is we don’t even really think about it on a daily basis. It’s just normal. We’re part of the team.”

Koch and Meir’s spacewalk comes seven months after NASA had to cancel its first attempt at making “HERstory,” because the space station did not have enough medium-size spacesuits on board.

Koch and another astronaut, Anne McClain, were supposed to make the first all-women spacewalk back in March.

When Koch and McClain, who is no longer on the ISS, discovered they both needed to wear a size medium in the “hard upper torso,” or the shirt of the spacesuit, the walk was canceled.

NASA faced swift backlash from people who viewed the spacewalk cancellation as yet another sign of women being held back on the job.

The decision by NASA though was largely one borne out of logistics, as there are a limited number of spacesuits on the space station and NASA has lacked the funds to update its spacesuits in recent years.

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Since the cancellation of the female spacewalk in March, NASA has been preparing its spacesuits for a series of 10 spacewalks.

The International Space Station is now equipped to make four complete spacewalking suits, with two “hard upper torso” components of the same size to be available at any time, according to NASA.