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This year many had vowed to cast a ballot following changes to Pakistan’s election laws and amid shifting attitudes towards women in parts of the deeply patriarchal South Asian country.

Some 3,200 women were listed on the electoral register in Mohri Pur — but not one voted, according to election officials and an AFP journalist at the village’s sole polling station.

“We have threats from our husbands that they will divorce us if we cast our vote,” 25-year-old Tanya Bibi told AFP as she walked past the polling station, without going in.

Around 8,000 men were registered to vote in the village. Large queues of them — each clutching identity cards — formed at the polling station, located in a school.

“We are here to cast our ballots, but our women didn’t cast their votes because it is our old tradition which we have been preserving,” Muhammad Shamsher told AFP.

Even Qasir Abbas, a lawyer who campaigned for the women’s vote, said in the end he did not bring his wife to the polling station, explaining: “I was afraid … the villagers might boycott my family.”

Bismillah Iram, from a local NGO, said announcements were made from the village mosque warning that women should not come to the polling station.

Elders in Mohri Pur, which is located in Punjab province, banned women from voting decades ago, claiming that visiting a public polling booth would “dishonour” them.

So-called “honour” describes a patriarchal code across South Asia that often seeks to justify the murder and oppression of women who defy conservative traditions by acts such as choosing their own husband, or working outside the home.

Women in Mohri Pur told AFP recently that they had tried to vote in previous elections but had been prevented.

In 2015, one woman, Fouzia Talib, became the only one in the village to vote in local elections. She was ostracised.

Hopes were raised this time after the Election Commission of Pakistan (ECP) declared that at least 10 percent of voters in each constituency must be women, otherwise its results will be voided.

Nearly 20 million new voters were registered in the rapidly growing country of some 207 million people, including 9.13 million women, the commission said.

It was not immediately clear how many had voted once polls closed, but queues of women voters could be seen in major cities such as Lahore and Karachi.

Not so in Mohri Pur, where “not a single female voted,” said Asia Bibi, an assistant presiding officer, adding that she was “surprised and upset”.

Women reported better experiences in conservative rural areas elsewhere, however, notably in parts of Lower Dir, in northwestern Khyber Pakhtunkhwa province, where they were allowed to vote for the first time.

Bakht Sania Bibi, a 46-year-old mother-of-three from Samarbagh town, said village elders had previously stopped women from voting. Announcements used to be made through mosques’ loudspeakers saying women would not be allowed to vote.

“I have voted today and feel elated to get my basic right,” she told AFP.

Sajida Haleem, 27, a first-time voter from Lower Dir’s Koto town said she had been prevented from voting in elections in 2013 and 2015.

“I had always thought, ‘Why do men decide for us? Can we as women decide for them?'” Haleem, who has a Masters degree in social work, told AFP.

“Today I feel I’m a complete Pakistani. I have got my right which had been denied to me since I was 18,” she added.

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TV host Wendy Williams recently sat down with Cosmopolitan for a candid conversation in honor of her show’s 10th anniversary and the launch of her Hunter Foundation’s Give Back Gala.

When asked if anything  was off-limits on her Hot Topics, she said:
‘I don’t do my show from a place of mean. I’m not a mean woman. I’m lovely. [Laughs.] However, I’m a straight shooter—there’s only 24 hours in a day and you’ve got five seconds to say something. I’m going to get straight to the point’.

On how her show has changed Daytime TV

I’ve been a broadcaster for over 30 years. And how I think I really made my stamp [on radio] was by talking, innocently talking, about what I saw on the streets. It became a thing like, Oh my god Wendy’s talking. But I don’t like to use the word gossip—that’s a weird word to me.
Next thing you know, the 12 songs an hour that I was required to play turned into six songs because I’m gabbing. Next it’s two songs. Now it’s no music and all talk. I love it. [And now] I find a lot more people doing “Hot Topics,” doing what I’ve been doing for the better part of my career.

On striking a balance as a celebrity herself

It’s not easy doing what I do because…you can’t play two sides. You can’t do what I do and be a ‘celebrity person’ and be socializing with celebrities all the time—it taints “Hot Topics.” The more celebrities I meet, the more disappointed I get in celebrity culture.
And you also can’t do what I do and be out with your friends all the time. I only have one absolute best friend, and she lives in California. We talk every day, but she’s not here [on the East Coast], and I’m almost glad she’s not because she’d be occupying my time. I have to be up at 5:30 a.m. every morning. [After my shows], I’ve got to get home—I’ve got a household to take care of, and myself to take care of. I’ve got to moisturize. I am very serious about my moisturization.

On racism
‘I’m not lying to you—every day when I get home and pull in my driveway, I always squint extra at our mailbox and at our front door [looking out for] vandalism, a cross burned, poop thrown at the door, or something like that. And you know what people commented on my own site? Wendy, why are you complaining? Why don’t you just move?’

On her son’s struggle with drugs
‘My son smoked K2—they take that grass and they spray it with rat poison or whatever. It’s not weed, it’s not coke. Kids are out there smoking that mess. It’ll turn you into a different person’.
‘I saw it for myself—this affected [my family] very deeply. I didn’t know whether my kid would ever return to school. The whole time we’re nursing him through [recovery], I’m supposed to make fun on the show like, “Hi! Here’s Wendy! Hahaha!” But I’m dying inside. [Withdrawal] was a slow process and, for us, it didn’t involve psychiatric drugs or a psychiatrist. We cleaned him out—anything for my boy’.

On her legacy
‘That I made you smile no matter what. [Crying] I can’t stand that bitch, but she is funny as hell–like that, you know? And I do want people to remember me for my race relations, because on the down-low I do a lot for race relations’.

Full interview here  Cosmopolitan.Com below:

Big Brother Naija Double Wahala housemate, CeeC Nwadiora has added another endorsement deal to her already growing list and this time, it’s with sports betting brand, NairaBET.

The sports betting platform took to their social media platform to unveil their latest ambassadorial addition alongside pictures from the contract signing event.

CeeC also confirmed the endorsement deal with a post shared on her Instagram page with caption;

The most powerful thing you can do right now is to be patient while things are unfolding for you. Another one in the bag, I love my new family!! Thanks @officialnairabet , looking forward to an amazing relationship.

 

Sometimes, what hurts when a relationship goes south isn’t really the end of the relationship but the emotions and resources invested!

As one grows older, you become aware of people who are undeserving of your presence in their lives and those whose absence (from your emotional space) is rather a relief.

This maAs you ‘feel’ your way through life, you will also begin to understand that real CARE is never in grandiose displays (a.k.a ‘assurance’) but in the little but consistent gestures of another towards you.

If whoever you are prioritizing in your life falls below the category before…he/she belongs to the category of PEOPLE WHO DON’T DESERVE YOU.

If all you have tried doing is ‘be a friend’ but what greets your efforts from someone who hasn’t even lifted a finger towards you, is being treated like a nuisance…he/she doesn’t deserve you.kes life a lot easy!

You are single-parenting but all your “love interest” seems to care about is YOU. Nobody who hasn’t shown sufficient interest in your “baggage” deserves you.

If the love is genuine, it should take all of you into perspective.
“Love me…love my dog,’’ remember?

When a relationship is strained, only a true friend would NOT wait for words to read the reconciliatory tone of your body language. But the one who would always want you to grovel for ‘peace’ doesn’t deserve you.
The spouse, to whom nothing (marital commitment, respect for your- person/feelings, concern for your health/family, etc) is enough to make him/her hold back from certain “misdemeanour” has long stopped deserving you.

The sanctity of marriage is expressed in the temptations out there that we hold back from yielding to.
Listen…
Everyone gets tempted to ‘misbehave,’ especially in marriage, but the one who has upheld his or her own side of the bargain simply chose to respect what he/she has with you.

And such disposition is NOT exactly borne out of weakness.
The ‘family’ that will rather resent your loving gesture, which has not come in monetary form, does not deserve you-frankly.
Of all the places where ‘money should talk’…the family should be the LEAST of such.

A family is where everyone should come as he/she is bringing along their vulnerability.

But when a family begins to carry on as if the only thing that can confer ‘worthiness’ on their own is some economic worth, such a family has become toxic to the selfless soul.

I had this conversation with a young man, recently. He feels so unworthy because he is not as comfortable economically as his siblings.
I pointed out to him that what (compassion) he is blessed with is even greater than any material worth.

Also, compared to most of them, his health is excellent and he’s been the one that is always there to help care for the ailing.

I am surprised that he has not seen how life has chosen to reward him. The combination of good health and a caring heart is a huge blessing!
If a supposed friend treats you any differently than how he treats any other-based on a social class…you are not safe with such a person.
“The worst custodians of LOYALTY are social climbers’’…says a friend.

They are the types who are constantly editing their life stories to ‘belong’.
Anybody who is incapable of cherishing the memories of little beginnings and the various actors in such settings isn’t trustworthy.

Don’t invest your emotions in that person who is all ‘caring’ only when they have a need for you.

You see that friend who makes efforts to keep in touch when he or she can conveniently look the other way?

That’s a friend to treasure for life! The age we live in has turned most of us to ‘users’ in one way or the other.

Any ‘close’ friend whose vulnerability (low moments, etc) you have never experienced isn’t on the same ‘emotional page’ with you and is most likely not as close as you think.

Sometimes, those that make you feel ‘not good enough’ are actually those that you do not belong with.
“If they don’t see anything wrong with their action…they will never stop the madness.

A toxic person, group or entity usually cannot see the fault in their actions.

When you bring it up to them, do not be alarmed if they hit you with manipulations and tactics to avoid accountability.

The older you get, the less stress you accept in your life.
You keep your circle small and you just overlook things you would have flipped out on- in the past.

When people want to leave your life, you just say “OK.’’ Ultimately, you are more peaceful and family oriented.

You just care less about the scene, fitting in and meaningless connections.

“You level up and really care about enjoying life every single day.’’ -Sylvester Mc.Nutt

Source: Guardian

Nine-year-old Emmanuella Oziofu has successfully developed an app and website to empower Nigerian children. Her website, www.emmas academy.com, aims to empower young Nigerians with skills in area of coding, web development and graphic design. Her mobile app, Emma’s ICT Academy which is available on google playstore, is aimed at encouraging both fellow kids and even parents to imbibe a culture of eating healthy local and international dishes.

Emmanuella who is a fifth Grade student of Skycrest Schools enrolled at Mikon Institute of Information Technology, where she bagged a Certificate in Basic Training – Microsoft Word, Excel and PowerPoint and later, a Diploma in Desktop Publishing in 2016. She also has certificate in Web Design from Complete Computer Technology Institute (CCT), in 2017,

Her journey into Information Communication Technology started when she was just seven years old, and at nine, she already has a diploma in Desktop Publishing, Advance Excel, Adobe Page Maker, Advance Power Point and Corel Draw. In 2018, despite her routine class work she also enrolled to study Web Development and Graphic Design at NIIT.

Emmanuella went ahead to enrol for Mobile App development at Tech24 and developed her personal mobile app, as well as  designed and hosted her own website, known as Emma’s ICT Academy. She claims to have mastered operations in HTML, CSS, JavaScript, JQuery, WordPress, PHP, Mysql and Graphic Design after successfully completing online courses at SOLOLEARN, California and acquired Certificates in HTML Fundamentals Course; Certificate in PHP Tutorial Course; Certificate in CSS Fundamentals Course; Certificate in SQL Fundamentals Course; Certificate in JavaScript Tutorial Course and Certificate in JQuery Tutorial Course.

Emmanuella reveals that she would like to help teach young children about ICT and also broaden her knowledge about the field in future. Speaking with Hi-Tech at the unveiling of her mobile app and website, she said that her passion to impact lives meaningfully informed her decision to acquire knowledge in ICT.

She said:

“My target was to become a professional web designer and analyst at age nine, and I have accomplished it. I have developed over 12 websites, static and dynamic for my school. I also want to project my skills, among which is a web agency (www.emmas academy. com) to teach people how to build a website. “Another is to teach young ones how to prepare healthy Nigerian food.”

She had previously created a chat site, a personal website and had at the age of eight, created three websites for her former school, Fortune Schools in Benin, Edo.

Read more at: https://www.vanguardngr.com/2018/07/incredible-tech-feat-nine-year-old-girl-develops-app-website-to-empower-fellow-kids/

 

Source: Vanguard

In recent times, thanks to the increased awareness for healthy eating and largely due to increased efforts to combat the ‘obesity epidemic’ and heart disease in the West, low fat foods flooded the market. You may ask what has West got to do with how we all eat? We are largely influenced by Western media and since in the world of science, we always look up to them for new frontiers in research, we swallowed the low-fat evangelism – hook, line and sinker. Note that the rise in obesity and heart disease may have had more to do with the increasing sedentary lifestyle.
The argument against fat was that fat was making us fat and we needed to replace all that fat with carbohydrates. Fat was kicked out from food production, food manufacturers had to come up with a better way to make the foods more palatable – what did we get? Processed low-fat foods high in sugar.

This led to a lot of misconceptions and sadly an increase in the same diseases that we set out to prevent. (please note that carbs are not the enemy either. Good nutrition basically entails having a sizable amount of all classes of food during meal times). Contrary to what the manufacturers say, “low fat” foods contain as much calories as the ones that contain regular fat (if not more). The low-fat label was simply a guise to sell more products.

I cringe when I see people promote low fat foods as part of a healthy diet or for weight loss. Thanks to this trend, it is common to have clients tell me on our first coaching call ‘oh I have been eating low-fat A or low-fat B’. My advice is always, ‘throw it away, you don’t need it’. You are better off eating your full fat in moderation, getting all the amazing benefits of good quality fat and ditching all that over-processed sugar (too many chemical bonds) that your body has to struggle to digest.
The fat you want to avoid are the fats that raise cholesterol levels, clog the arteries and cause overall problems to the heart and organs. These are the trans fats usually on the ingredients list as partially hydrogenated oil.

Most foods labelled low fat contain trans-fat. This fat is gotten by adding hydrogen to the natural fats to make it solid that way, it can stay longer on the shelves. Trans fat increases risks of heart disease, stroke, diabetes, and other chronic conditions.

Again, low fat foods contain stunning amounts of sugar which keeps the consumer hooked on the product – think food addiction & cravings. These sugars also come from refined carbs. Our bodies digest refined carbs more quickly. As a result, this will cause a spike in the blood sugar, increasing the risk of diabetes, heart disease and high cholesterol levels.
They are also laden with salt/MSG to enhance taste. High salt content can cause high blood pressure. (Also note, not your regular table salt).
The good news is fat is essential for blood clotting, muscle movement, maintaining healthy blood vessels and the correct functioning of the nervous system. It helps the body absorb the fat-soluble vitamins A, D, E, and K and minerals. It is also a great source of energy.
Did you know your hormones are made from fat? Eliminating good quality fat from our meals will result in deficiency of these vitamins and that can impact your immunity and limit the body’s ability to heal itself.
Here are some foods that contain the healthy fats your body will be grateful for.

Seeds and nuts – walnuts, flax seeds, chia etc.
Fish – Salmon, mackerel, sardines, cord, are great sources of healthy fat. They are rich in Omega 3 which is essential to maintain optimum health.
Avocado – Full of healthy fats, they’re also abundant in vitamin K, B vitamins, potassium and much more. If you cannot stand eating it alone, there are so many ways to incorporate it into your meal daily – using it as a spread on your toast, adding it to your smoothie blend (powers up your smoothie and keeps you fuller for longer), adding it to a salad or having it as a side dish.

Eggs: Rich in protein and healthy fats. Be sure to always include the yolk as well as the egg whites, to get the best of both worlds. In the past we were made to believe the yolk was full of cholesterol and not good for the body. Just in case you haven’t read the latest news/research, egg yolks are good for you. I mean what is an egg without the yolk?
Don’t forget your oils too. Oils like extra virgin olive oil, coconut oil and palm oil.

And if you love a warm glass of milk like me (except you are lactose intolerant), please say goodbye to skimmed milk, that is the height of punishment.

In summary, there is a lot of evidence to show that healthy sources of fat improve heart health. There is no long-term benefit of low-fat diets with regards to weight loss and disease reduction.

Eating your fats from whole food options is your best bet, but if you must get it in packed foods, ditch the low-fat labels in front and inspect the food label at the back closely. Reading your food label is a great way to ensure that the food actually contains the promises on the packet. Most importantly, get active. Make it a habit to take ‘walking breaks’ while at work. Find an activity you love and get in your feeling with it.
The problem is not that we are eating fat, the real problem is – we are not using it for fuel.

About Ezinne Meribe
Dr. Ezinne Meribe is the host of Beyond A Dress Size podcast; a podcast series that creates stimulating conversations to pull down misconceptions on nutrition, weight loss, health and body diversity while empowering women to live life beyond the numbers on the dress label, scale or tape.She is the Lead Wellness Coach/Founder at Zinnyslifestyle, where she leverages her professional qualifications and personal experience to teach women how to OWN & LOVE their bodies and LIVE in it fabulously; having successfully won the struggle with being overweight and loving her body. A UK certified Wellness Professional with a Bachelors in Medicine and Surgery (MBBS), she completed her postgraduate training in Public Health at Kumamoto University, Japan. As a Medical Doctor and Public Health Specialist, she continues to promote preventive medicine as the number one way to combat the severe health system constraints in developing countries.

You can connect with her on
Instagram @zinnyslifestyle
Facebook @zinnyslifestyle
Read more on Medium @ezinnemeribe

 

My name is Joy Ogheneovo Erekpaine. Am 35yrs old. I was diagnosed with SLE in 2014. In October 2014 I was rushed to one of the General hospital here in Lagos Nigeria due to heavy bleeding. I had fibroid issue. I bled to the stage of needing a transfusion. I was in that hospital for 17days and I was given about 10pints of blood. The more I was transfused the more the blood comes out.

At a point, the consultant that came to see me said am anemic and they needed to carry out a procedure to ascertain what was really wrong. They couldn’t do this because I was still bleeding, so instead of keeping me, they transfered me to Lagos State University Teaching Hospital (LASUTH). On getting there they were on strike, and they recommended for us to go Island Maternity at Marina Lagos. Getting to Island Maternity, I was attended to. Tests carried out and they were able to stop the bleeding. I was discharged and asked to get back for check up the following week. I was discharged on a Monday and by Friday same week, I was rushed again to Island Maternity.

How we got there is still a miracle because i couldn’t breathe through my nose but my mouth,I lost my voice completely,couple with the heavy traffic on third mainland bridge. God came through for me that day. On arrival at the hospital I was taken to the ER, placed on oxygen and later the consultant came to see me, was asked so many questions, tests were run again and the consultant said he couldn’t place his hands on what was happening so another referral came. I was given two referrals. One to LASUTH and the other to Lagos University Teaching Hospital – LUTH. We got to LASUTH that night and no bed space, we were told to go to LUTH. We were told if no bed space we should ask for “Spill Over ward”.(It was also the Ebola crisis time with Nigeria). Eventually I was admitted at the Spill Over ward in LUTH.

That night I was attended too- different teams of Doctors came, asking questions and running series of tests on me. It was devasting but God showed Himself mightily in my Life. I had rashes on my neck, I had blood patches all over my body. My platelets were about 10,000. I was transfused again totaling 28pints in LUTH. Series of tests were carried out. My blood sample was taken to South Africa too. Blood was coming out of everywhere it could flow out from my body- I was vomiting lumps of blood, there was blood in my brain, blood in my stool, my eyes were bloodshot, my nose was running with blood gushing out, my menstrual flow won’t stop too.

With the series of tests carried out I was told I had West Nile Hermorhagic fever which is under the Ebola disease but not as deadly as Ebola. I was isolated there at LUTH and treatment going on. It was horrible, so horrible. At a point all i was thinking about was dead. Some family members had started saying it was spiritual, I was told I offended someone etc. At a time, the doctors had to set up a central Line for blood transfusion and giving of drips as all my veins had collapsed. I didn’t eat for five days as I was being monitored. I gave up on myself as I couldn’t understand what was happening again. I sent messages to my Pastors and they came over. Shiloh was fast approaching and I kept telling God I wanted to serve Him again and I needed to be well to do that. On one of those days, I told my pastor I wanted to be discharged and be taken to Canaan land so I could die in The house Of God, Yea it got to that. My pastor put a call through to Bishop, he prayed for me and that very day the vomiting of blood ceased. Then tests being carried out began to make some sense. Eventually the tests results from South Africa came in and it showed LUPUS. Haaaa what is lupus again?The doctors tried to explain it all but I wasn’t taking it. All I wanted was to go home. I got well and was discharged.

When I was being lectured by the doctors on lupus, I didn’t really pay attention. My medications got finished in Feb 2015, I was so happy(Ignorance got me) and by March I was admitted again. After I was discharged I Google and began to study all about it. My life changed. It’s not been a easy journey with lupus. Depression keeps creeping in. I stopped work and still not working till now. At a time my own father said it’s better am dead than living and wasting people’s resources for a sickness that can’t be cured. I’ve lost friends and relationships. But I haven’t lost myself. Lupus has taught me to LOVE me more. I keep more to myself. When people around start behaving funny because I have lupus, I shot them out of my life. It’s not been easy oooh but it’s been God. I used to have this nonchalant attitude towards things but it has all changed now. Even when I get depressed and frustration creeps in, I still remember I have God in me, and I keep moving up.

I cry! Yes to ease the tension In me. It’s been a sweet and sour experience. I see myself these days more of a warrior. Lupus cannot and will not pull me down but I will pull it down. I’ll defeat lupus. I’ll shame lupus. Things may not be as they should, but I always remember I’ve got God in me. Life is beautiful so don’t allow your challenges define you.
jerekpaine@gmail.com
+2348138084383

Renowned Nigerian writer, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie is among the recipients of this year’s Duke University honorary degree.
Back in March, President Vincent E. Price of Duke University confirmed that the Americanah author is on the list of receipients.

Adichie shared photos of the decorating ceremony on her Facebook page
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Adichie received the award alongside Mary Barra, Chairman of General Motors; Phil Freelon, lead architect for the Smithsonian National Museum of African American History and Culture; former Durham Mayor William Bell; Dr. William Kaelin, professor of medicine at Dana-Farber Cancer Institute; and Russell M. Robinson II, attorney, community leader and philanthropist.

 

MANI and SheWritesWoman are working with @joyincredible to present this free masterclass on ‘Dealing With Depression. If you’re dealing with depression, know someone who is dealing with depression, or want to know how to prevent depression, we will be sharing personal stories and how-tos that are practical and authentic.

Date: Saturday, July 28th, 2018.
Time: 10 am- 4 pm.
Register now here. Spread the word!

Angela Bassett, 59, stunningly covers the latest edition of women fashion magazine, Porter Edit where she opens up about her family, beauty secrets, role in Black Panther and upcoming movie, Mission Impossible.

On how she keeps her 21 year old marriage to Emmy winning actor Courtney B. Vance going, the Black Panther star shared:
Well, he always said divorce is not an option. I’ve always told him: ‘Do what you want to do’ – meaning pursue his dreams – ‘because I don’t want you to get to the end and blame anything on me.’

Angela is unarguably one of Hollywood’s most sort after actors, however, she admits that being a part of Black Panther increased her reach as she now has fans cutting across the age range of 6- 86, according to Porter Edit.
“Black Panther has definitely brought me a broader audience,” Bassett said, adding: “The audience for it has been from six years old to 86.

Every now and again, something comes along that moves movie culture forward, and Black Panther definitely sits on that throne. To have a black male superhero, but also to have strong, complicated, vivid, black female characters was special. Usually we are just the mothers of, the lovers of… Culturally, socially, it just resonates on so many different levels, and I’m so proud to be a part of it.”

On how she raises her 12 year old twins, Slater and Bronwyn, Bassett reveals that they don’t own cellphones or iPads as she denies them some things just to remind them that she did not get everything she wanted while growing up.

They don’t have cell phones or iPads. I had a pencil and paper, they can have pencil and paper. I can’t give them everything – I don’t give myself everything.

On how she remains ageless, Bassett shares that she is not big on exercise but 85 percent of her toned body and ever young features is due to proper diet.