As August rolls around, I find myself marking an incredible milestone – seven years since I made the courageous decision to walk away from a marriage that had turned into a battleground of pain and turmoil. This year, I celebrate the journey of healing, growth, and empowerment that I embarked upon after leaving a toxic relationship. My hope is that by sharing my story, I can inspire and encourage others who might be trapped in similar situations to take the step towards healing and liberation.

Looking back

I recognize how profoundly my marriage changed me. The trauma and betrayals altered my personality, eroded my self-trust, and cast a shadow of fear over my spirit. It felt like I lost myself in the process, and the wounds left me in a constant state of flight mode, always on guard against further pain.

But I refuse to be defined by those painful years. Instead, I chose to rise above my circumstances, embracing the strength that still resided within me. Over the course of these seven years, I embarked on a journey of self-discovery and healing that has led me to a place of empowerment and self-love.

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Healing is not a linear process; it’s a journey with its own twists and turns. There were days when I felt like I was making leaps forward, and others when I stumbled. Through it all, I learned the importance of honoring my own path, no matter how long it takes.


One of the most powerful lessons I’ve learned is the significance of forgiveness. It wasn’t about excusing the pain I endured; it was about freeing myself from the weight of anger and resentment. Forgiving my ex-husband was my way of taking back control of my emotions and moving forward without the burdens of the past.

To all the women who might be going through something similar, please know that you are not alone. Your pain is valid, and you deserve happiness, love, and respect. Leaving an abusive relationship takes immense courage, and it’s a step towards reclaiming your life.


I am incredibly grateful for the individuals who stood by me from the beginning – those who supported me instead of judging, those who chose to embrace me even when they didn’t fully understand. Your unwavering support has been a guiding light on this journey, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Remember, healing is not only about recovering from past wounds; it’s about reclaiming your power and embracing a future filled with possibilities. Healing allows us to shed the burdens of the past, rediscover our inner strength, and craft a life that aligns with our true selves.

Esther Ijewere

7th Year of Liberation

On this anniversary, I stand as living proof that healing is a beautiful journey. It’s a journey that requires patience, self-compassion, and the unwavering belief that you are worthy of a life filled with joy and fulfillment.

Let’s stand together, supporting one another through our individual journeys of healing and empowerment. Let’s create a community where each person’s path is honored and celebrated, and where we can find strength in our shared experiences.

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