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Nike Adeyemi, motivational speaker and wife of legendary pastor, Sam Adeyemi has in a new vlog encouraged women  who carry the financial burdens and responsibilities in the family to stay strong.

She said she knows a lot of women who are the main providers in the home because their husbands have very low financial income and have not found his feet.

In her words.

“I want to advise you- do not let it create some friction. The Lord says my grace is sufficient for you.”

Continuing, she said that it is better to sit down and reflect instead of doing otherwise. She also asserted that women should support their spouses and not get bitter when they are going through this phase.

Above all, she says that women should always stay joyful, take care of themselves, give themselves an occasional treat and trust God.”

Watch her full video on fabwoman.ng

 

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Kemi Adetiba,Nigerian Film maker, Lawyer, and director, has disclosed that she is not less of a woman because she is not yet married or have kids.

To pass across her message, she shared a video of Tracee Ellis Ross on her Instagram page and clearly explained why people should not value a woman only by her marital status or the amount of children she has.

The ace cinematographer on social media cleared the air and corrected the society on making women feel less than they are because they have not added ‘mother’ or ‘wife’ to their title.

In her words: ” Marriage and kids is not my “crowning glory”… It’s another BEAUTIFUL step in life I would love to take. I’d also love to make (and keep) a billion dollars in my lifetime, but I won’t be any less of a woman or Kemi Adetiba if that didn’t come to pass either”

See her post below.

 

 

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Britain is marking the 70th wedding anniversary of Queen Elizabeth II and her husband Prince Philip.

In honor of their 70th wedding anniversary, the royal palace released new portraits of Queen Elizabeth II and Prince Philip this week, showing the long-lasting couple ahead of their landmark milestone.

Taken by British portrait photographer Matt Holyoak, the images show the couple in the White Drawing Room at Windsor Castle. The Queen, 91, wears a yellow gold broach that Philip, 96, gave her decades ago in 1966, according to People.

The Queen and the Duke of Edinburgh wed exactly 70 years ago on Nov. 20, 1947, when she was 21 and he was 26. The ceremony took place at Westminster Abbey — the coveted spot for marriages in the Royal Family. The Queen’s parents King George VI and Queen Elizabeth wed there in April 1932, and Prince William and Kate Middleton, the Duchess of Cambridge, had their ceremony there in 2011. (Queen Elizabeth was the 10th member of the Royal Family to be married there, according to The Royal Family’s official website.)

See photos below;

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American superstar R&B/Pop diva, Beyonce Knowles, has ousted her counterparts, Taylor Swift and Adele, to emerge the highest paid woman in music 2017.

According to Forbes, Beyonce’s chart-topping sixth studio album, “Lemonade” and her Formation World Tour made her the highest-paid woman pulling an impressive $105 million pre-tax.

Forbes reports that her Formation World Tour in the scoring period grossed a quarter of a billion dollars.

Following in second place is British singer, Adele, earning $69 million. Adele who completed her first major tour in 2011 earned this despite having no major endorsement.

Taylor Swift who raked an impressive $170 million in last year’s list made the No. 3 spot earning $44 million. Her newly released “Reputation” album is expected to move her up the list in 2018.
Canadian superstar, Celine Dion and Jennifer Lopez, were however not exempted from the list raking $42 million and $38 million respectively.

The 71-year old Dolly Parton proved that age is not a barrier in music as she claimed the No. 6 spot with $37 million.
Forbes gathered data from Nielsen SoundScan, Pollstar, the RIAA and interviews with industry insiders to compile the list.

Forbes considered pre-tax income from June 1, 2016 through June 1, 2017, also putting into consideration fees charged by managers, agents and lawyers.

 

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Ugochi Mitchel Ihezue, winner of Most Beautiful Girl In Nigeria (MBGN 2017) made Nigeria proud by emerging in the top 15 contestants at Miss World beauty Pageant.

Prior to winning the Miss Nigeria beauty pageant, she served as one of the Beth model management agents and ever since then, she has proven that there is no stopping her.

She surprised the world when she emerged Top Model winner at the beauty peagant which held in Sanya City Arena in Sanya, China on the 18th of November.

She made history at the  competition as It was gathered that this would be the first time a Nigerian wins the Top Model at the competition

 

Check out few things you probably don’t know about her, below:

She was born on the 16th of August, 1990. She attended Army Day Secondary School, Birnin Kebbi and also Federal University of Benin where she studied Fine and Applied Arts.

She currently lives in Onitsha, Anambra state with her parents and family. She hails from Umukegwu-Akokwa in Ideato-North L.G.A of Imo State, i.e the Igbo speaking part of Nigeria.

She is from a family of 5, the first born and only daughter. Mitchel was raised from a humble family. Her mother is a banker with Unity Bank, while the father is a businessman who deals in chemicals.

She attended Army Day Secondary School, Birnin Kebbi and also Federal University of Benin where she studied Fine and Applied Arts.

On 15th September 2017 as the the 30th edition of the Most Beautiful Girl in Nigeria held at Eko Hotel and Suites Lagos, Ugochi Ihezue represented Kebbi state in the pageantry. Firstly on the grand finale, she was awarded with the Model of the Year. She was finally crowned as the Most beautiful girl in Nigeria 2017.

According to the beauty queen, she is single and a Christian by faith. Her hobbies are reading, Painting, Travelling and playing

 

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Gospel singer, voice coach, and motivational speaker, Shola Allyson, has taken to her Instagram page to emphasize on the need to thoroughly train the boy-child.

She said “Let us train them that putting money down is not everything.Their sense of value MUST NOT be tied to money! That being vulnerable to their loved ones would not reduce them. Men can cry. Men cry. Strong people cry. Sometimes, all the bottled up emotions manifest as violence.”

See her full post below;

 

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How are we training the boys? Guy, how are you “re-training” yourself? We should know that how they are trained now is what they’ll carry into life : adulthood, manhood, leadership, “husbandhood” and fatherhood. Let us train them that they are not better than or superior to the girls. The role of a man is to lead and not to boss. Leadership is service. Let us help them to know that they must apply balance in their approach to life. To be considerate. Be helpful. Kind. To make sure that they endeavor to add unto whoever comes their way, not just claiming rights. To treat girls with respect. To share. Is it not just the girls we’re training and talking to about etiquette and manners? What are we telling the boys? Or we’re only equipping them to “work hard and provide”? The dynamics of life have changed and are still changing. Provision from the man is more than money. Especially because we’re even training and equipping the girls to have and sustain money too! Where’s the “EXTRA” the boys would bring to the table? Money? Education? Intelligence? Great jobs? What? Those are common these days! Let us train them that putting money down is not everything.Their sense of value MUST NOT be tied to money! That being vulnerable to their loved ones would not reduce them. Men can cry. Men cry. Strong people cry. Sometimes, all the bottled up emotions manifest as violence, yes. I know we can see the effect of imbalanced training on marriages these days. True love still exists. But the dynamics have changed! No, not that girls don’t want to stay in marriages, it is because simply, the dynamics have changed. Somewhere in a regular guy’s mind is demanding his woman’s submission without realising that it is by being in his place, giving himself up, in all, for her. When a woman knows that you’re all for her, submission comes easy, even when she has more, or is stronger. I believe it’s that simple. Let us contribute to the peace in mankind by training not just the girls but our boys too. The way the world is going, it is not JUST about being a man anymore. It’s the little little things! May the girls send good thoughts our way in future! Train. Retrain. Balance!

5 DAYS AGO

I grew up loving the whole idea of looking beautiful behind a seat and reading off a sheet or screen.

I wanted to be a newscaster so Mass Communication was the answer.

However, i got to the university only to realise that news-reading wasn’t even a course.

I met courses like Graphics of Mass Communication, News writing, Photo-Journalism,e.t.c

Needless to say i was shocked.

All i want to do is read. Not all these hard courses. What has it got to do with looking pretty on TV?!

Don’t blame me.

I was fresh out of Secondary School and didn’t have much knowledge on how things worked.

I eventually adapted and discovered there were innate skills that were sharpened by those courses.

I began to understand me: my strengths, likes, dislikes, talents.

I saw the path i naturally drifted to and it positively affected my grades in courses like English, Feature and Article writing, Broadcasting e.t.c

When i left the university, i decided that i might do a thing or two with the print media but i must read news on TV.

I also realised i liked to talk about issues so i quickly added OAP to my ‘newscaster-ambition’.

It all worked out in my head till rubber met the road.

I went to broadcast stations, submitted CVs, went for interviews and got turned down.

No job! Nothing!

That they said ‘no’ was not the worst part.

Naa.

 It was the fact that it would take them months to say no!

Wasting my time, wasting the money spent on frequent visits to their office, wasting my hopes!

I couldn’t keep staying at home. I needed to go out.

I re-wrote the CV severally and began applying for the position of a teacher, teller, correspondent, customer relations officer, administrative clerk, supervisor, receptionist, marketer…everything!

In fact, i actually went to a hotel and was told they needed a waitress.

I would have gladly accepted but that guy said i didn’t have previous work experience!

But Oga, shebi it’s just to serve tea??

OK, i can learn naa.  

 

All the while, the desire to express myself was becoming strong.

I wanted to speak (and sing) words that provide direction, give encouragement and walk someone through a phase of their life.

Truthfully, that day i needed that job as a waitress but deep down i didn’t want it.

I needed a job but not just any job. It had to be the radio or TV!

I thought i wouldn’t be able to live out my dreams and express my desires if i don’t get a job as an OAP. Or how else would i reach people the way i wanted to?

How would i, if i signed up for any of those other things i was applying for?

Finally, i got a job as a marketer, an editor and later as a home tutor but i was still pinning for a time when i’d speak.

Gradually, i was becoming inflexible.

The temptation to carry on half-heartedly with the tutoring job was there.

I kept asking myself what it had to do with my dream, my goal, my big picture?

 “This is not what i planned .This is not where i should be. This road doesn’t lead to the place i’m going”, i’d often think.

It felt like i was going the opposite direction.

Currently, i work in the Human Resources and Administration department of an organisation.

I remember almost disregarding the opportunity when it came.

I’m glad i didn’t.

Now, i’m beginning to learn that sometimes you flow with the tide, hoping and trusting you reach land safely.

I’ve not reached yet. I still want to speak and sing. I still want to motivate, inspire and create positive, long -lasting impact in the lives of people.

Yes, i still love the idea of reading and presenting but reminiscing on the journey thus far, i discover i had already started living my dreams.

I had begun towing the path without even realising it.

Apart from the people around me who seek for advice on issues, my job entails i speak to people on daily basis. I’ve not just collected CVs and issued queries.

The highlights have been saying something helpful to a colleague who’s having a bad day and being able to relate with an applicant’s struggles even as i say, ‘’no vacancy’’ – the same things i was longing to do on TV and radio.

Now, i don’t just see a job. I see people. I see me. I see purpose.

I realise that i can still be me in several ways, doing varied stuff.

I’m not fixated on what i think i should have been. I’m learning to adapt, to maximise the now.

I’m learning to walk with God, to “trust and obey for there’s no other way to be happy in Jesus…”

You know that song, right?

 

I still don’t have it all figured out but i choose to take the route in front of me rather than wallow in indecision and deal with regrets later.

I’m still learning. I make mistakes but i choose to be on this path.

This path where i don’t need to wait for perfect conditions nor the dream job to do what i know i can do…to be who I am.

Maybe like me, you have your own big picture.

An image that makes your heart beat faster. The ‘one place’ you’ve always wanted to go.

A place where you know you’d be fulfilled and satisfied.

It might not be job- related. It might be going further in your education, becoming the best at what you do, starting up your own company, heeding the call of God on your life…

Start where you are with what you already have.

Be excellent at it.

If there are better places you think you should be, go there.

However, if for some reasons you can’t be at that desired spot. Then, treat the available like it was the desired.

Enjoy it. Give it the needed attention and zeal you would have given ‘the place’.

You may not know it but there are valuable lessons you can learn on this spot, at this stage of your life.

Lessons that would come in handy when you eventually get to ‘the place’.

You may have been experiencing too many detours already but who says you won’t get there?

Be open-minded. Be flexible.

Be willing to adapt.

Be you.

In whatever shade. In whichever way.In whatever circumstance.BE YOU!

There may be ‘one place’ but it’s allowed and it’s possible to have several routes.

Explore.

Live in the moment.

Live to the fullest.

 

The most common jobs in Nigeria right now are ones gotten from a third-party company that is signed to provide employees for various employers. While I worked at one, I found that, the reason employer companies choose the option of contract staffs is to reduce its expenses and improve profitability. So, while a full-time employee may get a 50% raise from your salary, including HMO benefits. This is even more annoying for Contract Staffs because they do more of the work but have less benefits, up until the length of days to go on leave. However, there’s always a way to have the life you want regardless of the situation presented to you.

KNOW WHO YOU ARE: This is nothing about your desires or visions (at least not for the purpose of this post). What makes you thick? Deep down your heart, what’s the core of your strength. The real test to enjoying your job, hence your life, is to know who you are. When no one’s watching, and you have nothing, there’s a core of you is the strength of your existence. It is what you will be regardless of the amount of wealth you amass. Although the search of identity may be an ongoing process, there’s a core of you that reveals your truth in whatever situation you find yourself. Everything you believe yourself to be should not be dependent on anything else but you. Once you can identify who you are, it would facilitate the emergence of what you’d like to experience.

CHANGE YOUR COGNITIVE EXPERIENCE: The natural cognitive of man is attracted to negative situations that appeal to his senses. So for example, you get to find out the extra benefits due to full-time staffs in your company and it freaks you out (well, you should), it is only normal that you begin to take it out on your daily routine, colleagues and even your line managers.

Two years after my experience as a contract staff in a financial institution, I was appraised and suggested to be converted into a full time staff.  I was excited when my line manager hinted me on this new development and was waiting for the big announcement. To my greatest disappointment, when my appraisal form got to the office in charge, my group head was summoned and asked, “Who would you like to be retrenched in order to approve Adesewa’s conversion?” Confused, she responded, nobody. “Well, because the company cannot afford the cost for another full time employee,” they disclosed.

It was great consolation to have known that the reason for the default was a lack of the company’s capacity, not mine. If this happened to you, I know you would freak out, and probably drop your resignation notice to go somewhere you’ll be ‘celebrated, not tolerated’. Just calm down! LOL! The quality of the delivery of your duties should be influenced by positivity. Contract jobs hardly come with motivations. Thus, you must always find a way around it. While you have a plan to quit, be deliberately positive about your daily dealings. The more positivity you exude, the greater the attraction for more. If it doesn’t happen for you in this job, it would somewhere else.

CREATE VALUE FOR YOUR PERSONALITY: One of the many reasons people want to be in the full-staff cadre is so that the company can place value on them. The true value of your job however is not dependent on your position, but your personality. Quit thinking the reason you’re not doing well right now is because you don’t get so much pay. Your pay may not equal your plan, but it does not necessarily influence the core of you except you want it to. So, during a knowledge sharing session at your company or a proposal pitch, you have the platform to ‘show yourself’. Yes! Flaunt the stuff you’re made of! This is not PRIDE; it is PURPOSE-ON-DELIVERY. Always look for opportunities to reveal who you are asides from being the Front Desk Officer or Cashier. Profer solutions to problems. That’s what employers want to see. Even though it may likely not buy your conversion as a staff, it would increase your value as a person. You are first a person before being someone’s staff. Work at it!

WORK EXPERIENCE IS IN PHASES, ENJOY THIS ONE: A young entrepreneur who also works as an employee reached out to me one day. She shared all her frustrations as to how she was not getting fulfilments with her job. She mentioned how she knew this was not want she signed up for her life and all. The truth is, at every point in life, we get bored. This is not just a contract thing, stop blaming it on the job. Because, guess what, even if you were full time, you would still get bored. All days are not the same. So, here’s what you need to know. This same way with life, all work experiences are in phases. You have to learn the art of enjoying the phases by creating systems that work for you.

At the financial job experience I told you about, every week became annoying because there had to be something new to do – things that were way out of the initial job description(JD). Whichever way I felt did not matter to the company, the job had to be done anyway. And the only way to be happy with your job is to be happy with you, knowing that this is only a phase. You would get involved in better things and greater opportunities, so if you want to make your life count, you have to do it right.

ALWAYS WORK WITH THE END IN VIEW: You know, many times, we are motivated in the present by having a vision of what’s to come. Doing your job with the end in mind is one sure way to enjoy what you’re doing currently. So, pending the time you find something more ‘ghen-ghen’, let the ‘ghen-ghen’ thing inspire the not-so ‘ghen-ghen’ one. The vision you have for yourself should drive your passion for what you do now. You may not like what you do now, but when you look at the experience later from the inside in, you’ll see it was necessary for your journey. See the end in mind, Live the present, Create your future!

 

Adesewa Greg-Ighodaro is a certified leader and media enthusiast. She loves to inspire through writing and speaking. Asides from being a published author, she enjoys content marketing. Connect with her via social media @adesewainc

It was a women-only meeting, one of those organised by the women leader (usually the Head Pastor’s wife) to empower other women. 

The agenda on this occasion was to inspire attendees to be more. To unlock potentials and harness their strengths.

I cannot remember what led to this conversation or the question that followed. However, I remember quite vividly how this beautiful unassuming woman stood up to ask a question, the question that changed the course of the conversation for that day and opened my eyes to the reality of some other women.

I call it a question because even though she presented it factually, I ‘decided’ it should be for her, a question. It was the most dramatic statement I had heard by then.

She said and I quote ‘When we get to heaven, our husbands will ‘face’ God on our behalf. Men will give account for the women-folk because they are our heads.

Saying I was dumbfounded is putting it extremely mildly but as one of the major participants of the event, I painfully had to snap out of my reverie. I mean, how beautiful will it be to carelessly dump my failures on HIS head at the end of time, I may as well start now. It will indeed be convenient to say the reasons I haven’t met deadlines and delivered or accomplished to the measure of expectations is because of a man/my husband.

Where ever this woman got her idea from, I may never know and honestly,  it is irrelevant. The fact that she ‘lived’ (hopefully not anymore) with this idea carefully balanced in her head is what baffles me till date. I haven’t stopped wondering how many more women live with such ideas as this.

I may not even be as keen as talking about the end of time but I am so interested in how much influence, authority and rule we give men over us. Some ideas are as short changing as they are deadly.

To think we are not living up to the measure of our talents because ‘only men’ are expected to be talented is mind bugging. 

An able bodied woman refuses to add value to herself because she believes women do not need to. Only men do. How lazily ridiculous! What books are you reading? What companies do you keep? Where do you get your ideas?

Snap out of the day dreaming for one, it is a bad dream and two, you are designed to do more; be more.

You may not be looking at making history like Michelle Obama but you need to be an example to the generation coming after you. 

Stop shortchanging yourself with ridiculous excuses. 

Stop applying the bible out of context.

Stop letting in junk.

Guard your heart with all diligence.  These are the issues of life that we are talking about.