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Hello WORriors, today is #WomanCrushWednesday and our Woman Crush is Simi!

Simisola Bolatito Ogunleye (born April 19, 1988), professionally known and referred to as Simi, is a Nigerian singer and songwriter. Simi started her career as a gospel singer, releasing her debut studio album in 2008 titled Ogaju. Her career came into spotlight in 2014 after she released “Tiff”, a song which was nominated in two categories at The Headies 2015 and further brought her to mainstream recognition. Simi is currently signed to X3M Music under which she released her second studio album Simisola.

Simi was born in Ojuelegba, a suburb of Surulere, as the last of 4 children. In an interview she granted to Juliet Ebirim of Vanguard Newspaper, Simi revealed that she grew up as a tomboy before the separation of her parents when she was 9. She is an alumna of Convenant University where she studied Mass Communication.

Simi grew up dancing and singing as a member of her local church’s choir until she wrote her first song at the age of 10. Her professional musical career started in 2008 following the release of her debut album titled Ogaju which contained songs like “Iya Temi” and “Ara Ile” with the entire musical production from Samklef.

In January 2014, Simi released an EP titled Restless which gained her new grounds and further earned her a record deal with X3M Music. The EP contains a 5-track cover of popular songs by international acts like Rihanna’s “Man Down” and Adele’s “Set Fire To The Rain”

In anticipation of her second studio album Simisola, a 12-track album which features only Adekunle Gold as guest artiste. Simi released two singles “Smile for Me” and “Joromi” backed with music videos which were directed by Clarence Peters and Aje Films respectively. She unveiled the album’s tracklist via Instagram on September 1, 2017 before it was released on September 8 to relatively positive reviews and went on to debut at number five on the Billboard World Albums chart.

Apart from singing and songwriting, Simi is also a sound engineer. She is credited to have mixed and mastered Adekunle Gold’s Gold album which was released in July 2016. Her music style is basically hinged in the rhythm and blues, soul and hip-hop genre of music.

Simi has won many awards and recognitions. She recently became a brand ambassador for Opera.

Women Of Rubies celebrates you, Simisola Ogunleye!

Adaeze Yobo has shared a testimony surrounding the birth of her daughter who is celebrating her 1st birthday.

The former beauty queen and excited mother took to her Instagram page on Tuesday, February 13, 2018, where she posted photos of her daughter with the testimony as it’s caption.

“#lookatmenow Ist scan showed it was Fibroid, 2nd scan (diff. hospital) showed it was Fibroid and pregnancy but an incomplete abortion (whatever that means) but that I had to flush yu out, which I (thought) i did. A week later, i still felt sick so I called the Dr. and I was scheduled to surgically complete removal of the remaining tissue.

 

“On my way going, the holy spirit directed me to go to another hospital which I did and was told you were still inside and I had no Fibroid. instead of being happy, i cried and worried whether to keep you or not, worried if you will be normal after all the drugs n all. look at you now baby girl    #lexineisonetoday     #birthdaygirl,” she wrote.

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 (Instagram/Adaeze Yobo)

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It would be recalled that Adaeze Yobo and her ex-Nigerian international husband, Joseph Yobo dedicated their daughter, Lexine in June 2017. The dedication ceremony took place at the Christ Embassy Church where they named her Lexine Dumlesi Yobo.

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Prior to the birth of Lexine, Joseph Yobo and Adaeze Yobo already have two boys together.

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Linda Rowe Thomas, Instagram user and fashion designer is all for inspiring people with her post where she talked of having strength to do all things despite her facial disability.

Talking about living despite her deformity, she wrote: “I was never afraid to try harder, never cared about what others thought of me, never allowed cruel words to break me, never stopped believing in myself and I never once gave up on that person staring back at me from the mirror. “I can do all things!” – Phillipians 4:13″

Rowe was involved in a house fire  when she was 2 but amazingly, she is doing so well for herself as a fashion designer. She has not let her dreams wane.

We have her Instagram post below

 

 

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Founder of GREENLANDS HAVEN FOUNDATION, Mrs Olubunmi Ajai Layode, has broken the jinx and shackles of tradition and olden doctrine, to walk her youngest sister down the aisle and gave her away in marriage. Mrs Olubunmi Layode and her three sisters are orphans who had stick together through it all and when it was time for the youngest sister to get married, she asked her eldest sister to give her away in marriage. Olubunmi had her moment of doubt but she eventually made up her mind to do the honor.

As expected, the Reverend of their church and the officiating Bishop from Methodist Church, both insisted that she could not walk her sister down the aisle as it is against culture. Brave Mrs Olubunmi stood her ground and after much deliberation and debate, she won and walked her sister down the aisle. This feat has made it possible for women in the Methodist Church of Nigeria to accompany their daughters down the aisle and give their daughters away in marriage.

In her words, she said;

A few months to my sister’s wedding, in our group Whatsapp chat of the remaining 5 daughters of D.I and J.P Ajai, my youngest sister, Dupeola asked me to give her away. Initially, I objected. I told her that I could not do it and that I would have to ask any uncle to do it. The other sisters said they had discussed it and decided that no one deserves that honour more than me. Since JOPA died, no one has looked out for us. We have been all we have had for each other.

I told them I would have to check the Bible and get back to them. This was the old Bunmi, the one who accepted the shackles of society on her, talking. She had not spoken in a while but the magnitude of what I was being asked to do made her make a rare appearance.

Then, the two Bunmis had a conversation in my head. No, I am not schizophrenic. And no, I am not disrespecting people who have schizophrenia, just clearing the air on the voices.

Old Bunmi : I can’t do it!

New Bunmi : because…?

O.B : … what if it breaks Biblical principles?

N.B : it does not. Church weddings are not a Biblical practice.

O.B : Apostle Paul would not like this.

N.B : Jesus would not stop you.

O.B : I don’t know that I can do this.

N.B : yes you can. And if you don’t do it just because you think a man MUST do it when it does not break any Biblical principles or the constitution of the Methodist church, then you, Olubunmi Ajai are not a daughter of JOPA. Remember how he, on his deathbed told you that you and your sisters are ‘omo Akin’ – children of valour and that you all are to fear no one but God after he, your father dies. Furthermore, if you don’t do this just because you think a man must do it, that makes you a fake Feminist/Humanist. Practice what you preach Bunmi.

So, I told my sisters that I accepted the honour. My sister told the Revd of our family church at Obun Eko that her sister would walk and give her away when he asked her on one of the pre-wedding counselling sessions. He opposed it vehemently, saying it had to be a man, any man… it could even be our 20 year old step brother… any man… but not a woman.

So, a 20 year old step brother could give a woman away but not her 48 year old full sister? I don’t think so!

On the wedding day, one of the Bishops of the Methodist Church of Nigeria officiated. While we waited for the bride who was running late to arrive, the Reverend of our family church approached me to ask me who was giving the bride away. I told him I was. He insisted that I could not. It was turning ugly. So, he said he would tell the Bishop. I said let’s go there. So, I asked my Uncle and Aunts to come with me.

We approached the Bishop and the Reverend jumped in while my aunt – a Deaconess, was introducing me to the Bishop. The Revd jumped in and told the Bishop I insisted on walking my sister and giving her away even though he had told me I could not. The bishop said he was right. I could not do it.

I started crying. Not because I was weak, but because I was livid at the injustice. My sister and I were neither breaking any Biblical rules nor any Methodist constitution but because I have a vagina and not a penis, I was not allowed to honour my sister.

I asked the Bishop why I could not do it. He told me it was not our culture. I told him that a few centuries ago, multiple births were a taboo in some areas, now, even in those areas, people pay good money to have multiple births. My Uncle told the Bishop that culture evolves. The Bishop insisted that I could not do it. It is simply against our culture in the Methodist Church. My Aunty told him that our parent church, the Methodist Church of England now has female Reverends where they did not have before. Why can’t we evolve? The Bishop said it was not our culture. I insisted that as Christians, our focus should be on Christ. And Christ did not say that a woman cannot give another woman away in marriage. We went back and forth and after a while, he agreed. I could walk my sister down the aisle and give her away in marriage.

And that is how the daughters of JOPA set a precedent in the Methodist Church of Nigeria. Because of us, because we refused to be bound by cultures and traditions that shackle us just because we don’t have a penis, future brides in the Methodist Church can say that they want their mothers or sisters to give them away in Marriage. They can quote the daughters of D.I and J.P Ajai as reference.

I had a meeting with the Bishop a few days ago and he admitted that the society is patriarchal and that the Methodist Church of Nigeria would now look at changing this culture of not allowing women to give another woman away in marriage.

YOU, yes, YOU, can make a change in society.

 

 

Credit: Mrs Olubunmi Ajai Layode

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Former Liberian president Ellen Johnson Sirleaf has been awarded a $5 million prize for excellence in African leadership.

Sirleaf, who served two terms as Liberia’s president, was recognized for leading the country’s recovery from years of devastating civil war, according to the Mo Ibrahim Prize committee. A Nobel Peace Prize winner, Sirleaf was Africa’s first female president and the first woman to receive the prize, which celebrates African leaders who have strengthened democracy on the continent. “Ellen Johnson Sirleaf took the helm of Liberia when it was completely destroyed by civil war and led a process of reconciliation that focused on building a nation and its democratic institutions,” said committee Chairman Salim Ahmed Salim.

Sirleaf took office in January 2006. She was succeeded by former international soccer star George Weah, last month.

Launched in 2007, the Mo Ibrahim Prize for Achievement in African Leadership is awarded to democratically elected African presidents and prime ministers who have left office within the last three years.

Previous winners include former Botswana president Festus Mogae, in 2008 and Mozambique’s former president Joaquim Chissano, in 2007. But on six occasions the prize has not been awarded, with no eligible candidate deemed worthy.

Ibrahim, a Sudanese-born telecommunications businessman and billionaire, created the foundation bearing his name in 2006. It uses 88 criteria to rate the governance of African countries. The $5 million prize is distributed over 10 years and winners receive $200,000 every year for life thereafter.

 

 

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Black Panther actress, Lupita Nyong’o graces the cover of Allure March issue and she talked about her childhood, loving herself and career

Read excerpts from her interview below:

On how she feels about her hair

“Well, I didn’t love my hair when I was a child. It was lighter than my skin, which made me not love it so much. I was really kind of envious of girls with thicker, longer, more lush hair. In my tween years, I started begging my mother to have my hair relaxed. She wouldn’t allow it, though her hair was relaxed.

She felt that that was a decision I could come to when I was maybe 18. Around 13 or 14, I had such a rough time with being teased and feeling really unpretty. My dad intervened and spoke to my mom about my hair, and she finally agreed.

She took me to the salon in the middle of the school day, and I got my hair relaxed. I felt so much better because it was easier to tame. All the girls in my class had their hair relaxed. Very few had natural kink, so I felt a lot more acceptable.

I had my hair relaxed for most of my teenage years, and that was a whole other world. The upkeep of relaxed hair is a commitment. It took styling it once a week and then having it retouched once a month. I remember doing crazy things, like sleeping with my head above the headboard so that my curls wouldn’t get messed up for the next day. I’d have these terrible neck aches because I was determined to keep my hair as pristine as possible. And it was super expensive.

When I was about 18 or 19, I didn’t have a job or anything, so it was really my parents paying for my hair. So I was once asking for some more money to get my hair done and my dad joked, “Why don’t you just cut it all off?” And a few months later, I thought to myself, Why don’t I? I went into the hair salon, and I said, “Let’s cut it off.” It was almost a dare to myself: Can I live without hair? He shaved it right off. It was so scary but so liberating because I went completely bald.”

On her role in Black Panther

“Yes. When [director] Ryan [Coogler] approached me to be in it, he walked me through what he was thinking the story would be about. I remember him finishing his spiel and me being like, “And this is a Marvel movie?” And him being like, “Yeah.” And I was like, “And they said you could make this? Have they green-lighted this idea of yours?” And he was like, “Yeah, I can’t believe it.”

And I was like, “Whoa, that is next level.” On set, it was just such an inspirational experience because so much thought was put into this film, and every single aspect of it was rich and beautiful and just arresting, actually. To see this aspirational African world that actually becomes an example for the whole wide world was spellbinding. We were all very much aware that we were in something extremely special.”

On if fame has changed her at all?

“Well, I have to be just more cautious in public spaces. That’s a big change. What fame does is there is an illusion of familiarity that is cast into the world. So it’s about negotiating with that illusion because oftentimes you encounter people who have encountered you, but you haven’t encountered them. It’s a little weird to find your footing. I have to be aware of that possibility, not imprisoned by it. It’s like, how do I find freedom within that awareness?”

On how she identifies herself

“I find that people would ask, “What are you?” and that means what tribe are you, you know, what ethnic group. That’s the only time I hear the words “What are you” in a Kenyan context. But outside of Kenya, when people ask me where I’m from, I say, “I’m from Kenya.” That’s how I identify, unless ethnicity becomes more of a thing, and then I would say I’m Luo, which is my ethnic group.”

On what her perfect day looks like

“My perfect day is waking up before anyone else and having time by myself to write, read, and get a head start on the day. It’s walking along the beach, seeing the sunrise, and then having a lovely home-cooked breakfast. It’s being with my siblings — actually, my extended family — for a big, fat lunch. And then spending time with my friends, talking. Actually, painting nails.”

 

 

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Founder of Mirabel Centre, Itoro Eze-Anaba, has been honored with the Commonwealth Point of Light Award by the Queen of England, Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II.

She founded The Mirabel Centre which is Nigeria’s first sexual assault referral centre, in 2013 and has since then helped over 3,100 victims of rape.

She has provided a safe haven for over 2,800 survivors of this heinous crime and has encouraged thousands of others to break the silence on rape and seek prosecution of perpetrators, reducing their impunity.

Reflecting on the award, the British High Commissioner to Nigeria, Arkwright, said,

“Itoro has shown impressive dedication to supporting victims of sexual assault and rape. She has provided a safe haven for over 2800 survivors of this heinous crime and has encouraged thousands of others to break the silence on rape and seek prosecution of perpetrators, reducing their impunity. “The Mirabel Centre is a project of Partnership for Justice where rape and sexual assault victims can access free forensic medical and counselling services.”

 

Itoro Eze-Anaba took to her Facebook page to post pictures from the event and to also thank her team at Mirabel Centre.

See full post and photos below;

Receiving the Commonwealth Point of Light from Mr Arkwright the British High Commissioner on behalf of Her Majesty the Queen is an acknowledgement of the impact of the Mirabel Centre is on the lives of survivors of rape and sexual assault in Nigeria. It also highlights the importance of collaborative efforts to bring this menace to an end. The amazing team at the Mirabel Centre thank you for being part of the journey, for your support and words of encouragement.

 

I must have changed my outfit three times, swapping casual jeans and a blouse for a knitted mid-length tunic, before finally settling on a classy black dress.

I rearranged the bobby-pin network holding the kinks of my hair in perfect place. I had considered wearing braids, but in the battle between my natural locks and my extensions, my natural hair wins on most occasions—and I knew where I was going, my tight, unruly curls would be welcome.

I recited my introduction in the mirror. “Hi, I’m Chika! I came from the Health Sciences program at McMaster. I’m so excited to get involved in the BMSA (Black Medical Students Association). When I heard that University of Toronto had this association, it instantly became my first choice for medical school.”

As I arrived at the venue for the social, my anxieties surrounding the perfect attire for the evening slowly gave way to a sobering realization.

I was the only one.

One in 259

I was, and continue to be, the only Black medical student in my cohort of 259 medical students at University of Toronto. As I spent that August evening bonding with Black upper-year medical students, I began to see the small gathered group as a reflection of a larger issue. According to the admissions office at the Faculty of Medicine, the number of medical students who self-identify as African or Caribbean averages between two to five students per class.

And after meeting Dr. Lisa Robinson, the Chief Diversity Officer at U of T faculty of medicine, I learned that those figures have been consistent for years.  When I met her at the Black Medical Students Association social, she simply introduced herself as Lisa, but I later learned that she is also a U of T medicine alumna and paediatric nephrologist at SickKids, in addition to a champion for diversity in medicine. When Dr. Robinson was a medical student at U of T in 1991, she was one of two black medical students in her year. The 25-year gap between our medical educations was bridged by this unfortunate solidarity—a narrative we share with the majority of past and present Black medical students in this country.

Meeting Dr. Robinson and the handful of other Black medical students was a pivotal moment for me, as my fears shifted from the inconsequential placement of bobby pins to the potential consequences of being the only Black body in this new professional student space. My hope for a new, more diverse learning environment faded as I realized that the number of Black medical students is chronically low, even in the largest and most diverse Canadian institutions.

New setting, same struggles  

Despite my growing concerns, I reassured myself that my experiences in my undergraduate studies—and the countless times I’d faced implicit and explicit racism and discrimination in general—meant I was more than adequately prepared.

Some of my earliest memories in childhood include being taunted for my Afro-centric features; my grade three classmates questioned why my lips were so big and why my nose was so wide. Later, I’d field inquiries about my native tongue: “Do your parents speak in clicks? I bet your real name is Click-a” (for the record, it’s pronounced Chee-ka). As time progressed, my battles evolved into defending the shade of my skin and the texture of my hair. I vividly recall being told that I was too dark to be considered beautiful or smart, and my hair was too “nappy” to be deemed desirable. By the time I reached undergrad, I was used to people describing my natural hair as “unkempt” and knee-jerk labeling me as having an attitude or being sassy—common tropes assigned to Black women in popular culture.

At the end of my second year of undergrad, I remember driving across the U.S. border with a few friends for a shopping trip. Despite presenting myself in a cordial and respectful manner, as my parents taught me to do when engaging with authorities, I was met with hostility by border officers. The officer asked each of us what we were studying. When we all told him that we had aspirations of pursuing medicine, he glared at me and said, “Even you?” He then accused me of lying. As the only Black person in the car, and the only one repeatedly dismissed as dishonest, it was clear what the officer was trying to communicate: a Black female doctor? Impossible.

The importance of diversity in classrooms

These memories of prejudice still linger with me today, and as I currently work through my second year of medical school, I often reflect on how medicine is not immune to the racial challenges that penetrate every other realm of society.

I have fielded interrogations from peers arguing whether my “minority status” made it easier for me to get in. I frequently questioned why there was a lack of racial diversity within the teaching materials; during a dermatology session, I was left wondering how certain conditions would present on a patient with a darker complexion. When reflecting on the positive impacts of diversity on medical education, I wondered why the diversity of the patient population was not reflected within the demographic of medical students?

As of 2016, there are more than 627,000 Black people living in Ontario—making me part of the third largest visible minority group in the province—and yet, in my classroom I stand alone. The Canadian Medical Association and other medical organizations in Canada do not track the race or ethnicity of physicians, so there is a lack of comprehensive diversity data. That said, a 2015 report published in the Canadian Medical Association Journal made it clear that even without definitive numbers, there is a lack of Black representation in the medical field, which is concerning to say the least.

The value of diversity in medicine cannot be overstated. In the classroom, a diverse student body only enriches medical education by offering different health perspectives. Minority physicians are also more likely to return to their communities to provide care, according to data collected on U.S. physicians. Out in the field, minority patients also tend to seek out and report receiving better care from those with whom they identify. As highlighted recently in Serena Williams’s account of her traumatic birth, Black women in the United States often face discrimination in healthcare. In the U.S., African-American women are three to four times more likely to die from preventable complications during pregnancy. Although these statistics are derived from U.S. studies and cannot directly be translated to Black women in Canada, they speak to the complications that arise from a lack of diversity in healthcare.

Right now in the medical profession, gender and educational background are the main benchmarks for diversity in institutions of higher learning, but those are insufficient. The disparity is pervasive across most institutions—not just the University of Toronto—and across most fields of study, not just medicine. According to the United Nations Working Group on People of African Descent, Canada is still entrenched in anti-Black racism that permeates educational, institutional and professional systems.

As I went from class to seminar to labs in medical school, I also often wondered, where are the Black tutors and professors? I had read numerous anecdotes from racialized men and women in medicine who have had their position as physician repeatedly invalidated by both patients and staff at their hospitals. For instance, in 2015 Dr. Boluwaji Ogunyemi recounted his experience as chief dermatology resident in a Vancouver hospital for HuffPost. After showing up for his shift in plain clothing, Dr. Ogunyemi took a pair of scrubs for his upcoming shift and stuffed them in his backpack. Suddenly, he was confronted by a ward clerk who believed he was stealing. Dr. Ogunyemi frantically unzipped his jacket so his photo ID was visible, all to prove that he was indeed an employee of the hospital.

Stories like this left me wondering: when was I going to learn how to deal with receiving and internalizing racism and discrimination at the hospital? Despite eagerly seeking answers from tutors, I often receive an uncertain response and referral to the nearest Black faculty member.

Finding my voice

Despite the scarcity of Black colleagues or professors, I have been fortunate to find mentorship during this journey. Alongside other Black physician mentors in my life, Dr. Robinson has provided me with invaluable insight into how to build resilience as a Black woman in our field. She has shared with me how to find solidarity in the growing network of Black physicians, like the Black Physician Association of Ontario, and reminded me how to remain calm yet firm when faced with discrimination.

In fact, she’s a big part of why I felt safe enough to speak out about the lack of diversity in medicine, despite warnings that taking a controversial or radical stance as a medical student could cause problems when it came to finding a residency. Last spring, I was featured in the Toronto Star and did televised interviews with Dr. Robinson, speaking about the lack of diversity in medicine as public ambassadors of the new Black Student Application Program (BSAP) at the University of Toronto, Faculty of Medicine.

Then, this past November, I released a spoken word poetry video entitled “Woman, Black” (see video above) which recounts my experiences as a Black woman navigating medical education. I wanted to shed light on how medical institutions across the country can better support their racialized students who will undoubtedly face some form of discrimination within their professional career.

For the most part, I’ve received praise for speaking out from peers, friends and even complete strangers, but not everyone has reacted kindly. “What are they teaching over at U of T? African bush medicine?” one social media commenter responding to my Toronto Star story said. “She should be smart enough to know that Black people are intellectually inferior and thus are less likely to get into medical school, do your research!,” said another commenter on their Facebook page.  And then there are the people who mean well, but whose words still make my confidence waver. After releasing my spoken word poem, questions about potential professional repercussions came in as quickly as the praise did.

Slow, steady changes

I still worry that my future is less secure because of the stances that I take. But when I think about the consequences of staying silent—which would allow another Black student to go through what Dr. Robinson and I have experienced—it gives me the confidence to continue.

I know that staying vocal as the BSAP ambassador is the best thing I can continue to do, not only for future Black students, but for myself as well. Being the sole Black student in my cohort is no longer frustrating or isolating, I now view it as an opportunity to become a stronger advocate so that more Black people see becoming a physician as a tangible goal. It has inspired me to give back more to my community and become empowered by my narrative—not defeated by it.

Despite the challenges I have faced, I am more hopeful than ever that positive change is on the horizon. Due to the mentorship opportunities made possible by Ike Okafor, senior officer of service learning and diversity outreach, and his team at the Office of Health Professionals and Student Affairs, the incoming class this year at U of T has six Black medical students. The Faculty of Medicine, alongside BSAP, has also added a new faculty position specifically charged with designing a Black Canadian Health curriculum for medical students. I can confidently say that I am proud to be a medical student at the University of Toronto, which has shown its commitment to diversity and is at the forefront of change in addressing racial disparities.

When I came to U of T, I was the only Black medical student, a similar position that my mentor experienced 25 years ago. Now, we’re working to make sure that this narrative stays in the past—and I know we’ll see even more Black students donning white coats in the future.

 

Culled from www.flare.com

14-year-old Falmata has narrated how she escaped death after she was sent on two separate suicide missions by two different sects of deadly Boko Haram.

Falmata narrated how she was first abducted by the insurgents at age 13 and escaped while she was on a suicide mission but ended up in the hands of another sect group after which she was sent on a fresh suicide mission again.

Falmata said she was 13 when the insurgents abducted her and took her to a makeshift camp, where she also met other girls her age.

“The young girls were put in the tents. There were nine in mine and we had to sleep on big mats.

“At first I wanted to escape but there was no chance,” she said.

Continuing she said: “We were scared that soldiers would storm the camp at any time and not spare us, the women, because they would think we were the fighters’ wives,” Falmata said.

Falmata said she was presented with two options: marry a fighter, or go on a mission but she had opted for the mission.

Her first mission

Falmata narrated that during her stay in the camp of her first abductors, she was approached by armed men who instructed her to prepare herself for an important task.

All I was thinking was, ‘Is it for marriage or what?’ But you can’t ask why you’re getting this done. Instead friends just console you and tell you to be patient.

The survivor said she had a bomb strapped around her waist with an instruction to go and kill non-believers and go straight to paradise.

“I was so scared that I started crying. But they kept telling me to be patient, to accept that this is what life is about.

(They said) that on reaching paradise, everything would be better,” she said.

Falmata said she alongside two other girls were strapped to explosives and were taken to the outskirts of a village.

She further said while armed with homemade detonators, she and the other girls were ordered to walk towards the busy areas for the mission.

The first escape

Falmata narrated that while on their way to her first suicide mission, she and the two other girls had decided against the attack and fled for safety.

The teenager said she and the two other girls asked a stranger to help her remove the belt, and subsequently went off down a dusty road.

However she ran out of luck few hours after.

Her second abduction

Female suicide bomber (File Photo)Female suicide bomber (File Photo)

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Further sharing her experience, Falmata said she ran out of luck while trying to escape the first suicide mission as she met with two men, who belonged to another sect of Boko Haram.

She was subsequently abducted again by the insurgents.

The survivor explained that at the second camp, life was much similar to the previous one with the same routine, same ideology and same fate.

After about a month, Falmata was again presented with a choice – marriage or mission.

And again, she told the fighters she would go for the mission and shortly after they left her, Falmata successfully escaped.

“I met some farmers and asked them to help me remove the belt. I told them I was being forced to carry out a mission, but that I didn’t want to do it,” she said.

Falmata said the farmers helped her get rid of the belt and she later joined a group of hunters who allowed her to travel with them across the woods.

Falmata’s journey home

Trying to find her way back to Maiduguri, Borno state capital, and to her family, Falmata narrated how she and the group of hunters were ambushed by the men of Boko Haram.

Luckily, Falmata managed to slip away into the forest.

Narrating her experience in the forest she said: “I didn’t know the forest. Every little sound would scare me, so I kept moving. I’d sleep on trees when I could.

“I think I spent a whole week without food. I would drink stagnated water and also use this water to wash my hands and feet when praying.

“I would pray two or three times a day whenever I could find water. I was so scared, but God helped me and I reached a town.

She said a local family later gave her shelter for a few days and also helped her return to her family in Maiduguri.

Source: Pulse News

The weightlifters on Iraq’s national women’s team train hard every day, both to bring home the medals and to help ease the financial burden of running a home.

Jerking weights heavier than themselves at a rundown gym in Baghdad’s conservative Shiite neighbourhood of Sadr City, the young women and girls come together for three hours every day.

The girls are focused as they work out between the small gym’s peeling pale mint walls, one of which is adorned with a giant painted Iraqi flag.

With their dark hair in high buns and dressed in team green tracksuit tops, black shorts and leggings, they raise an arm and turn from side to side to warm up.

Then they work out hanging from a pull-up bar, before moving to different mats to get down to the business of lifting weights.

“To those who say weightlifting is not for girls, I say we can do everything men do,” says Huda Salim al-Saedi, 20, patting chalk powder from her hands.

“I challenge men to lift weights and I’m proud of it,” says the weightlifter, her eyebrows trimmed neatly and a black bandana keeping her hair from falling in her face.

Huda was one of the first to be recruited when coach Abbas Ahmed in 2011 set out to create Iraq’s first national female weightlifting team.

At first, it was an uphill battle.

Society’s rejection

“It was very, very hard,” says the former men’s coach, who is now 54.

“Society rejected the idea,” with conservatives considering the sport inappropriate for women and girls.

There was also no state funding for the project.

So Ahmed first approached families whose members were already fans of the sport.

Huda seemed like an ideal candidate. She had practised Taekwondo since the age of eight and had long been a fan of weightlifting on television.

Today, she’s a cornerstone of the Iraqi women’s team and its most promising member.

Huda helped to train her younger sister Hadeel Salem, 17, in weightlifting.Huda helped to train her younger sister Hadeel Salem, 17, in weightlifting.

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Huda helped to train her sister Hadeel, who just turned 17, and last year both of them competed in Asian championships.

The 20-year-old won bronze in the “snatch” discipline in her category at the Asian Championships in Turkmenistan, lifting 90 kilos in one swift motion above her head. She finished first overall at the Asian Junior Championship in Nepal.

Her younger sister Hadeel also competed there taking 10th place lifting 68 kilos in the “snatch,” while in another competition in Kathmandu, the Asian Youth Championships, she came in fourth overall.

But beyond making their relatives proud, Huda and Hadeel’s accomplishments have also provided their family with some financial security.

“Thanks to weightlifting, I have a salary and money to cover my family’s needs every month,” Huda says, with her sister’s pay cheque also helping make ends meet.

‘Welcomed as heroes’

Iraq's national women's weightlifting team is sponsored by the police club that pays each member a monthly salary of $400 to $800.Iraq’s national women’s weightlifting team is sponsored by the police club that pays each member a monthly salary of $400 to $800.

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The women’s team is sponsored by the police club, which pays each of its eight members a monthly salary of $400 to $800 — a considerable sum for some families.

If Huda and Hadeel did not receive support from the club, their family could not pay their monthly rent of some $330, their father Salim Noma says.

Over time, he says, support has grown for the girls in the conservative neighbourhood.

“Everybody has ended up supporting them. They’re welcomed as heroes every time they return from a competition,” says Noma as he watches his daughters train.

Female weightlifting has provided an unexpected source of pride — and safety net — for some families in the working-class neighbourhood.

Loujain Hazem, 15, gave up her studies to focus on the sport, winning a silver medal at the West Asia championships in Jordan last year.

“Our coach has taught us determination and perseverence,” she says.

“I’m sure our efforts will pay off, in terms of both weightlifting and money.”

The younger generation is also dreaming big.

Every day after shool, the father of 12-year-old Roqaya picks her up and they weave through the traffic jams of Baghdad on his moped to the gym in Sadr City.

With her hair tied in a pink bow, she lifts two large red weights above her head.

“I hope one day to take part in the Olympics,” says Roqaya, already aiming high.

Culled from Pulse News