Do you think that a male coworker likes you?

Don’t know whether he’s just an extra nice guy, or he’s actually flirting with you?

We’ve all been there before, and there’s no doubt it can be tough to figure out.

But it becomes a lot easier when you study and learn about male psychology.

So in this article, I’m going to go through every tell-tale sign that your co-worker has a crush on you.

We have a lot to cover so let’s get started.

1. He tries to spend time alone with you.

If you work in an office, I’m sure that you have quite a few co-workers around you.

But even with all the busyness and professionals rushing around, if you find yourself spending a lot of time with just him, then it could be a sign that he is orchestrating time alone with you.

For example:

He may try to go to the lunchroom at the exact same time as you, or when the workday ends, he makes sure to walk to the car with you.

To work this sign-out, all you have to do is notice how often he manages to be side by side with you, and then compare that to how often your other co-workers get one-on-one time with you.

If it is A LOT more than anyone else, then you can get your bottom dollar that he is a romantic crush on you.

2. He asks about things that have nothing to do with work.

If he likes you, he’ll want to move the rapport and connection beyond work-related topics.

For example, he’ll ask you about what your favorite hobbies are, or where you like to hang out with your friends.

Whatever it is, he just wants to build rapport outside of work.

More importantly, he wants to get to know you!

A giveaway sign is if he asks you directly if you’re seeing someone. This is a clear-cut sign that he likes you.

However, he may not come out and say it directly, and instead, he’ll be more subtle about it.

For example, if you tell him that you went to a party on the weekend, he’ll ask you if you went with your boyfriend.

That way, he can work out whether you are actually seeing someone.

If he does this, then it’s obvious that he is interested in your relationship status.

In the end, if he is asking you a lot of personal questions, it means that he wants to build rapport and get to know you for who you are outside of work.

Does he seemed interested in what you are saying and does he engage in the conversation or is he just checking his phone in between drinks of his beer? If it’s all eyes on you, then he’s interested.

This is a sure sign that he likes you and might be pushing to ask you on a date soon.

3. He looks at you with those seductive eyes

You know what kind of eyes I’m talking about.

Those staring, puppy dog type of eyes that stick on you like glue.

He loves the way you look, he’s attracted to you, and he can’t take his eyes off your face.

And you know that the way he looks at you isn’t the same as everyone else.

If you believe that this is true, then the signs point to the fact that he has a crush on you.

If you’re not totally sure, here’s how you can tell:

• If he maintains eye contact with you, he’s definitely interested.
• If his eyes wander to your mouth, he’s interested.
• If he looks away quickly when you catch him looking, he’s probably interested and shy. This is especially important to remember. If his head turns ridiculously quickly, he is likely shy. Have patience and you’ll get more opportunities for eye contact!
• On the other hand, if he breaks eye contact with you and continues gazing around the room, then he may not be interested in you.
• If you don’t like the guy, break eye contact and continue scanning the room.
• If he tells a joke or says something funny, his eyes will glance towards you to see if you’ve laughed.

4. He wants to connect with you on social media

Let’s be honest:

It’s pretty rare to connect with your co-workers on social media.

It only really happens when you’ve worked a long time with someone.

So if he is making the move to get your contact details on social media, then there’s a fair chance he likes you.

Why?

Because he is trying to move your relationship outside of work. More importantly, he is trying to build rapport in a different setting.

A man knows that nothing can happen inside the workplace. The magic happens outside of work!

If it’s normal for your work colleagues to connect on social media, then perhaps it may not be as big a thing.

But if you catch him liking and commenting on all your photos, then you know that he is snooping around because he likes you.

However, watch out for him if he just sends you one-word responses on social media. This means they’re not making much of an effort in their messages to you and probably don’t like you the way that you like them.

If their responses are thoughtful and they’re responding back quickly, it means they’re willing to dedicate a lot of time to you. Time is a great indicator that they like you.

5. When you have an issue at work, he wants to be your hero

When you have a problem, is he the first person jump at the chance to help?

When a guy likes a girl, they tend to get very protective and they want to be their hero that saves the day.

Not only that, but if he jumps at the chance of helping you, he is probably doing so so he can spend more time with you.

After all, spending time alone with you is a way to build rapport.

6. He never looks scruffy at work

If a male coworker likes you, then they’ll want to impress you with every chance they get.

You know what this means, right?

He won’t rock up to work looking scruffy!

This is especially the case if you notice he started dressing better since he started getting to know you.

That’s what guys do. They don’t typically care how they look when they’ve got no females to impress, but as soon as they’re crushing on someone, BAM! They’ve got a haircut and they’re wearing a whole new wardrobe.

Expert tip:

Keep an nose out for how he smells. If he is wearing nice smelling cologne, you can bet your bottom dollar he’s into you.

7. His body language is picking up what you’re putting down.

Body language is probably the most important indicator to figure out if someone likes you.

Why?

Because most of us don’t typically notice what our body is doing. It’s completely reliant on our subconscious.

One of the biggest body language signs to look out for is if his body is facing towards you.

This means that his attention is really on you, and he cares about what you’re thinking.

On the other hand, if his body never really facing yours, then it might be a sign that he doesn’t really have feelings for you.

Does he smile at you and gesture at you? It could be the real thing.

If you are standing near a guy and he is interested, he’ll lean into you, want to be near you, and make eye contact on the regular to try to let you know he is interested.

He could also just come right out and say it, but that is highly unlikely. So stick with deciphering body language and some of these other tricks to tell if a guy likes you for sure.

Another body language sign to look for is how nervous he is around you. We all know that we tend to get nervous around our object of affection.

If you notice that he is fidgety, or he is talking fast, then it might be the case that he is nervous because he wants to impress you.

You can work this out by seeing how he acts around other co-workers. If he is usually relaxed and calm with others, but is a bit hyper, fidgety, and talking fast around you, then it’s probably because he likes you,.

Also, look out for what he is doing with his lips. He may lick his lips or part his lips when he is looking at you.

He won’t notice he is doing this, but subconsciously it shows that he is trying to sexually excite you.

8. He can’t help but compliment you

This isn’t exactly subtle, but if he compliments then you know that he likes you.

I’m not talking about the generic, boring compliments like “You look great”.

I’m talking about the more thoughtful compliments. If he says he loves your walking style, or he loves your cute awkward smile, then you know he is paying attention to the finer details of who you are.

He is noticing what makes you different, and more importantly, that is what is probably turning you on.

At least you know it’s genuine. Now you can just need to figure out if you like him, too.

Also, if you can, see how he talks about you to others. If he is highly complimentary of you when he talks about you to others, then that’s another sign that he is picking up what you’re putting down.

9. You have inside jokes together

Are you two the best of friends in the office? Are you always laughing together about something that no other co-workers would understand?

This is obviously a clear sign that you have a Jim and Pam situation going on.

You’ve both got chemistry together and he’s always trying to make you laugh.

Not only does it make office life more fun, but he actually seeks you out to tell you a joke.

Look, it’s no secret that when a guy likes a girl, he tries to make her laugh.

So if he is telling you jokes, making you laugh and you’re both enjoying shooting the shit together, then he probably likes you.

10. He flirts, flirts and flirts some more

Office life is boring, and to make it a little fun, flirting can go a long way.

While there is a lot of harmless flirting between co-workers, if he likes you he is probably taking it a yard further.

This is especially the case if he doesn’t worry about flirting with other female co-workers, and instead, focuses his efforts on flirting with you.

You’re probably wondering:

What constitutes flirting?

It could be playful jokes, or playful roleplays that he plays with you and no one else.

He might tease you to get an emotional reaction out of you.

Or it could be something as simple a smile directed at you from across the room.

If you know that every day you go to work, he is going to try flirting with you, then you can be sure that he genuinely likes you.

11. Your co-workers tell you that he likes you

Co-workers aren’t as dim as they sim.

Everyone observes what goes on in the office, and most people can pick up when there’s sexual tension between co-workers.

So if your co-workers are mentioning to you the fact that he likes you, then you can bet that they’re onto something.

Maybe they’ve even heard him talk about you. Who knows!

They may also notice that you spend time together or comment on how you would be a good couple.

Source: Hackspirit

No one understands a woman like a woman! This is why we women have to stand together and stop fighting ourselves. It is often said that women are their own worst enemies, unfortunately I believe this is true.
This is an irony to me because we women have gone through and are still going through similar experiences, so you will think we would be able to identify with our shortcomings, our struggles and with each other. But no, the opposite is the case.

A woman has been abused but instead of identifying with her, sympathizing and helping her go through it, her biggest critiques are women. Women will ask her what she wore or why she was even there in the first place.
A successful woman is being celebrated, but instead of rejoicing with her and give her accolades; fellow women will say she must have slept around to be able to have all she has… especially if she’s within a certain age bracket.
A woman who’s still expecting the fruit of the womb is being persecuted by a fellow woman – sister in law or mother in law, worse still by women who may have had to wait for a child.

Now don’t get me wrong, I am not saying no one can be corrected or that women shouldn’t be objective, I am simply saying we should identify more with our sisters. As women, we have and are still going through similar situations.
We know what it feels like to be treated like second hand simply because we are female.
Most of us have been sexually exploited and abused.

Most of us have being termed good for nothing, our achievements discarded simply because of a marital status.
Why can’t we use our struggles to come together as one instead of fighting each other?
Also I have to ask, why most women are wicked to helps, treating them like rags especially a female help.
Or why a woman uses everything within her power to destroy the home of another woman, so that she can come in?
These are some of the things I can’t just understand.

Why do women hate each other?
I personally believe it’s because we see each other as rivals and competitors, fighting for the “prize”; the man, in other to win him.

We are envious of each other even to the silliest of things, clothes, hair, shoe, bag etc.
I am NOT a SAINT! I am not exonerated of these things; I have done some of the things I am presently talking about.
But then I had to ask myself why we hate each other? Why?

In offices, in church, you will be on your own dressing according to your pocket and taste, but another woman is having sleepless nights, because she wants to outdo you in the fashion department!
The funniest part is you don’t even take notice. But just walk by, and a woman will look at you from the crown of your head to the soles of your feet so she can size you up. Whenever you show up, you are assessed.
You won’t even know you’ve made enemies who just hate you simply because you showed up!
I think that it is rather unfortunate.

I believe with the whole of my heart that there’s something powerful about women coming together. If we identify with one another, there’s no stopping what we can achieve.
In the words of Phylicia Rashad, “Anytime women come together, with a collective intention, magic happens.
It is my opinion that the devil knows the power of united women that he’s done all within his power to make us enemies.

The truth is a woman is incredibly powerful, but we don’t just know how powerful we are. No organization, church, society, can grow or be productive without women. A woman especially an educated one; builds a nation.
You’ve heard or probably even said it yourself, “I can’t be best friends with a lady” or “guys make better friends, even I too once said it.”

But I have come to realize from my own personal experience that it is near impossible or difficult to just be friends with a guy. More often than not, one party starts catching feelings. Well, that’s a topic for another day.
It is possible for women to support each other, encourage each other to be all they can be without being envious or jealous or fight over a man.

Permit me to use this example, Mary the mother of Jesus and Elizabeth her cousin.
Both women were pregnant with mighty men, but instead of Elizabeth being envious of Mary or Elizabeth saying who’s this small girl dragging pregnancy with me, Elizabeth recognized her place and recognized Mary as the mother of the Lord.

Elizabeth’s son was to prepare the way for Mary’s son; my gift may just be what you need to birth yours or to fulfil your dream.

Let’s stop this senseless silent war and see each other as channels of blessing to one another.
Dear older woman, you’ve been through what I am going through, please don’t despise me when I call for help, teach me in love using your experience. I beg you not to be envious of my youth; you can right your wrongs by not letting me make them.

Dear younger woman, please let’s slay together. There’s space for all of us.

Dear woman, I love you! You’re incredibly beautiful and powerful, please can we be friends?

About Adejoke
Adejoke was born in Zaria, Kaduna State (which she absolutely has no recollection of) and graduated from the University of Abuja with a BSc in Accounting at Gwagwalada (which she can’t believe she still lives in).
She started writing because her life was boring and had no one to talk to, so she thought, why don’t I talk with the whole world?
Her blog www.memoirsofagreatlady.com was born after she discovered a passion for writing, and that writing is therapeutic as she now lives a joyful purposeful life.
If you visit the blog, its description says, a lifestyle blog created with a purpose to impact and inspire people to live their best life (helping people to have sense) which sums up what she loves to do.
When she is not writing, she is baking (she makes the best chocolate cake) or disturbing her sister who she loves to pieces.