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Nollywood actress Mercy Aigbe-Gentry has written an open letter to her estranged husband Lanre Gentry after he, in an interview allegedly said she is mentally unstable.

The duo are currently involved in a domestic violence case which the police is investigating.

Mercy wrote on Instagram:

Dear Lanre Gentry, It breaks my heart that I have to do this but as it is you have left me with no choice……I had sleepless night because I just couldn’t comprehend why someone I loved , someone with whom I have a child will be hell bent on destroying me, I just cannot comprehend it…….. I read with tears in my eyes all the LIES you fabricated against me, LIES you feel will justify your inhumane act, LIES you feel will gain you public sympathy and LIES calculated to bring my person to public opprobrium……..

You claim ….
(1) I am Mentally Unstable (2) That you have caught me with different men
(3) That I do not take care of my parents (4) That a man rented an apartment for me……….
LIES all LIES……..
Dear hubby I challenge you to back on your claims with PROOF!!!!!!!!!……….
Hmmmm lanre you forget quickly!…., you forget how I have labored and stood by you all these years, even tho all what I was getting from you was constant beating, harassment, threat to my life and threat to destroying my image if I dare leave you…… .,,You must PROVE all your allegations otherwise God knows I am going to add another lawsuit to the one on ground!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Although my Team has been pleading with me to stay silent all these while, but I have come to realize that you want to ride on my keeping mum……
#saynotodomesticviolence #realmendonthit
#mylifeisnotinyourhands

Lanre responded to the post saying: “(it’s) not true”.

Everyday we hear horrible stories of victims of sexual assault, domestic violence and all sorts of inhumane treatment which women in Nigeria are exposed to. Society begins to ask questions like: why did she stay? Why didn’t she leave? But, where will these women go to?

Most times they can’t go back to their parents, out of shame, or for of reproach. Other times it’s because they are financially incapable or leaving; the weight of the despair and helplessness is heavy upon them. So, they stay… waiting for hope, salvation, peace and a quiet from all the noise. Sometimes the silence comes only when they’re dead.

What can be done to reduce the number of victims of domestic violence and rape? Where is the safe haven for women?

Dr. Kemi DaSilva Ibra‘s new organization, Women at Risk International Foundation, is providing a safe haven for victims. She shared, with BellaNaija, the inspiration behind the foundation.

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Women at Risk International Foundation (WARIF) is a non-governmental organization that was incorporated in 2016 by Dr. Kemi DaSilva-Ibru in response to the high incidence of sexual assault, rape and human trafficking occurring among young girls and women in Lagos State and across Nigeria.

As a practicing Obstetrician and gynaecologist with 10 years experience in this health space, I have noted over the years, a rising number of gender based violence cases directed at young girls and women. I have also witnessed and treated first-hand the harrowing effects of rape and sexual violence amongst these women in our communities. Characteristics such as the age, religious affiliation, race or social economic class of the young girls and women I have treated over the years is also varied. These effects from the assault are both immediate with physical and psychological harm experienced by the affected women who I believe should be seen and referred to as “survivors” and not “victims” and the long term, with social consequences such as an increase in the rate of new HIV cases, unwanted pregnancies and adverse effects on the education and empowerment of the girl child in our society.

Although the country data available on this problem is limited, the numbers are alarming with findings from a national survey carried out in 2014 on Violence Against Children in Nigeria confirmed one in four females reported experiencing sexual violence in childhood with approximately 70% reporting more than one incident of sexual violence. In the same study, 5.0% sought help, with only 3.5% receiving any services.

The foundation serves to address this issue of gender based violence, through the successful implementation of target –oriented initiatives; The first immediate intervention was the opening of the foundation’s first sexual assault referral centre in Yaba – WARIF Centre – which serves as the prototype for a warm friendly safe haven for women at risk. It provided through qualified full time staff, medical treatment and forensic examinations needed especially within the first 72 hours of an assault; Psychosocial counselling is carried out by trained social workers who obtained specialized training by staff from the Washington DC Rape Crisis Centre in Washington DC (one of the organizations in partnership with WARIF). A 24-hour confidential help line is also available at the centre to address the needs of those who call for assistance or to report an assault.

WARIF has a strong collaborative spirit and works with many organizations in the same health space. We have developed strong international and local collaborative ties with both government and non – government agencies to assist in addressing the social welfare needs that often times arise in the care of young girls and women at risk. This is done through the provision of shelters, legal aid and vocational skills. As an official member of the Lagos State Domestic and Sexual Violence (DSVRT), WARIF continues to work closely with government agencies including the judiciary and law enforcement in addressing the prevalence of gender based violence in our communities.


Other on-going preventive initiatives is the implementation of strong advocacy campaigns to raise awareness, such as the #menforWARIF campaign seen on International Womens Day 2017; an impactful social media campaign where male participants engaged and shared personalized fliers with endearing quotes passing on a crucial message to end sexual violence and discrimination against women.

The WARIF Educational School Program commencing in May 2017 is also set to raise awareness and educate the adolescent boy and girl child in various Lagos State Secondary Schools, through the implementation of a specially designed youth educational program on Gender Based Violence, introduced into their school curriculums.

As a nonprofit organization, all the services provided by the foundation, including all services provided by the WARIF Centre are offered FREE of charge. The foundation relies solely on donor funding from organizations, corporate bodies and private individuals.

For more information about WARIF:
Visit our website – www.warifng.org
Follow us on social media (Facebook, Twitter and Instagram) – @warif_ng

A young lady was not about to waste time feeling sorry for herself when she was unable to get a date for prom so she did the unexpected and showed up for the event with her Harvard acceptance letter as her date. Priscilla Samey, 17, is an exceptional student who got accepted into 7 out of 8 Ivy league colleges.
However, in spite of her acceptance into these prestigious institutions, the boys in her class did  not accept to go to prom with her, so this daughter of West African immigrants made do with the available.

On the night of prom, Priscilla dressed as beautiful as possible and stepped out with one of her acceptance letters.

She took a photo with the acceptance letter, looking like she did not have a care in the world, and shared it on Twitter with the caption:

“Couldn’t find a man to accept me for prom so I took a college that did #Harvard2021 #prom2k17”.

The tweet blew up really fast and has now garnered 28,000 retweets and 124,000 likes with lots of social

Amnesty International has announce that human rights lawyer Osai Ojigho joins the organization as Country Director in the Nigeria national office.

The appointment underscores Amnesty International’s commitment to Africa’s most populous country, and ensures a strong presence in order to challenge suspected perpetrators of human rights abuses more effectively – including armed groups like Boko Haram, multinational corporations and the Nigerian authorities.

“We welcome Osai Ojigho who will lead our operations in Nigeria where we have spent the past two years consolidating our presence on the ground by supporting local human rights organizations, and by monitoring and campaigning against human rights violations,” said Colm O Cuanachain, Amnesty International’s Senior Director of the Office of the Secretary General.

“Osai is a respected human rights lawyer and has vast experience of campaigning and development across Africa. Her knowledge of the region and understanding of the drivers of human rights violations will add value to the established reputation of Amnesty International as the leading human rights organization in Nigeria.”

Osai Ojigho has versatile experience, having served as Oxfam’s Pan-Africa Programme Manager. Before that she spent many years leading projects in the areas of gender, human rights, democracy and development.

Protecting human rights in Nigeria is crucial and will have wider impact across the continent
Osai Ojigho, Director of Amnesty International Nigeria

“The presence of Amnesty International in Nigeria continues to improve the prospects for the realization of human rights across Africa,” said Osai Ojigho.

“Working with local civil society organizations and the human rights community, Amnesty International Nigeria will campaign for accountability and safeguards for victims of human rights violations. Protecting human rights in Nigeria is crucial and will have wider impact across the continent.”

Osai is a law graduate of the University of Lagos and holds a Master of Laws (LL.M) degree from the University of Wolverhampton, United Kingdom. She was called to the Nigerian Bar in 2000. In 2010 she obtained a practice diploma in International Human Rights from the College of Law of England and Wales.

In her new role, she will lead Amnesty International Nigeria in expanding its work on housing rights, gender, children’s rights, armed conflict and the human rights responsibilities of corporates, among

Flower is a delicate story intricately interwoven around the lives of 6 characters. Funny, edgy and thought provoking, it touches on the obvious, the ridiculous, and the unspoken that lurk in the secret fibers of our societies. Stories about self-esteem, infidelity, child abuse, mental health and tragic loss are told in ballads, monologues and dance.

The story showcases the often overlooked impact past choices have on present decisions and actions, it calls to question the choices we make every day and the influence they have on the future.

It celebrates the incredible ability of the human spirit to overcome adversity, to find humor in the mundane, to rise above the dirt…… to grow, to bloom, to flourish, to flower.

In the wake of another Nollywood actress’ marriage breaking on the grounds of domestic violence, actor/filmmaker John Njamah advices ladies to wake up. According to him;

“Women!.. why can’t our women learn!?.. it seems the more you advise them the more difficult it becomes for them to comprehend.. Gosh!!.. we need to introduce social media classes so that these women nd the younger women to come will understand how not to throw their entire lives out there… now all they want to do is SLAY and splash photos on insta when the home front is not so rossy… and when the STUPID women beater do their thing, you come crying to us.. THE HAND WRITING HAS BEEN ON THE WALL FOR YOU TO SEE GIRL… but no!! U must marry that man that has plenty money, or that footballer that can splash u with ur greedy needs.. or that politician that takes u on trips around the world.. and Batters you in the process. But you will rather stay in the marriage becos of the shame it mite bring you when the rest of the world knows how it is for you , with all the lies you hav told in the past. Honesty!!.. this false life is getting too much on our women..( especially my sisters in the entertainment industry)..live you life!.. work hard!!. Be a proud woman and don’t allow these stupid men to use you!.
NOW YOU WANT US TO PITY YOU!.. YOU BROUGHT THIS UPON URSELF GIRL!.. there is a strong need for us to talk to our women.. over the past 2 years, domestic violence cases has risen to 65%. YOU ALL NED TO BE CAREFUL.. and to those IDIOTS!.. those women beaters that call themselves men, those MEN that don’t have shame, those “men” that are heartless enuff to raise their hands and beat a woman to pulp remember that you hav daughters, sisters and mothers too.. its a vicious cycle nd it will come back to you.. WAKE UP GIRLS!!… WAKE UP!! #domesticViolence”

In an interview with new magazine, Schick, owned Dr Sid’s wife, Simi Esiri, multiple award-winning actress Rita Dominic, 41, revealed when asked why she was still single that she could have been married a long time ago, but things didn’t work out with the person.

“I believe that God is in charge of my life and will present the right man to me at the right time,” she said.

Asked whether social pressure to settle down get to her, Rita replied,

“I am a human being and I would be lying to say that it doesn’t sometimes. More so because it’s something I sincerely want to do but the feeling passes when I remember that society will not live with the person. I will live with the man, so it is very important that I do it because I want to, not because society wants it for me.”

Speaking about sex and if it gets better with age, Rita said;

“If you ordinarily don’t enjoy it, age won’t make a difference. I find that when a woman embraces her sexuality, many Nigerians equate it to being Ashewo , as if we should act like sex is not pleasurable,”

Speaking about dating, Rita said she dates when someone special comes around but finds it generally as a nightmare

“especially in this days of social media where with one click you are all over the internet.”

She also admits that she loves being in a relationship;

“I love being totally drawn to someone and doing all those loving things couples do, but I am also wary of liars and bullies”

Ajani Damilola narrated what sadly happened via his Facebook account. According to him, Ariyibi Ayomide, a 100 level Student of Unilag, Faculty of Business Administration – department of Employee Relations and Human Resources Management (ER & HRM), committed suicide after being disgraced by her roommates for allegedly stealing in her hostel.

“An incident happened in her room (Amina Hostel) which involved the missing of belongings (which includes make up and clothes) of another girl in d same room.

On Thursday, some of the belongings of d fellow room mate was found in Ayomide’s bag ( scattered in three different bags – make up in one of of her bag, clothes in another bag and clothes in another bag making 3 of Ayomide’s bag).
“As a result the roommates disgraced Ayo and called her many names( relating to a thief) and disgraced her publicly. Ayomide called her mum and her mum came down next day( Friday) to settle d issue. The make up was valued at #2000 in which Her mum paid. After that, her mum told her to pack her bags and follow her home which she did but as she was going d room mates shouted on her and called her so many names.
“Her mum took her home and went back to work (her mum is a unilag staff). Ayomide was d only one left at home when she took sniper in the afternoon. Her mum came back in d evening and saw her child in a critical state. So she asked what happened to her; Ayomide just stretched her hand to do bottle of d sniper she took. Immediately her mum gave her palm oil( epo in yoruba) but results were not forthcoming. So she rushed her to a medical centre at ebute metta, still results were not favourable, she was then taken to Luth ( Medilag). Ayo gave up in LUTH around after 7 yesterday. REST IN PEACE AYOMIDE!!!!”