Edo State Commissioner for Women Affairs and Social Development, Hon. Magdalene Ohenhen has revealed that it is becoming a normal thing in the state for fathers to impregnate their daughters.

She described the situation as very sad, saying the earlier the state stopped it, the better. She made the disclosure, yesterday, during a protest by the Brave Heart Initiative for Youth and Women (BHI) led by Lady Grace Osakue.

The group was seeking  justice for 17-year-old Gift Alonge who was said to have been impregnated by her father. The victim was alleged to have been first impregnated in 2017 by her biological father, Jacob Alonge, and later in 2018.

“It’s a very sad situation. Edo State is becoming something else, and the earlier we stop it, the better for us. It is becoming a normal thing in Edo State for men to impregnate their own daughters,” the commissioner said.

Ohenhen cited another case of a man who slept with her daughter for over 10 years before the case was reported to the police. She said: “It is time we stopped all these. Edo State forbids it, it is a taboo. We are begging Edo men to stop sleeping with their daughters, it is an abomination.”

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26-year-old rapper, Cardi B is on the cover of Harper’s Bazaar‘s March 2019 issue and she talks about dealing with post-partum depression, her original decision to leave husband Offset after his cheating scandal, motherhood, where she is in her life and so much more.

Read excerpts below.

On where her life is today: “I feel like my life is a fairy tale and I’m a princess— rags to riches, people trying to sabotage. Before, I cared about everything—relationship, gossip. Now I don’t feel like I have the time to please people. I don’t care about anything anymore—just my career and my kid. Well, I care about my career because of my money.”

On her post-partum depression: “I thought I was going to avoid it. When I gave birth, the doctor told me about post-partum, and I was like, ‘Well, I’m doing good right now, I don’t think that’s going to happen.’ But out of nowhere, the world was heavy on my shoulders.”

On her original decision to leave Offset: “I decided on my own. Nobody makes my decisions about my life but me. I didn’t want to go to marriage counseling. He suggested it, but it’s like, ‘I don’t want to go.’ There’s no counselor or nothing that could make me change my mind.”

On how she feels about sex and relationships: “If you think Imma automatically hop onto you after a marriage, that just means you think I’m a sleaze. And I’m not. I have a kid— I have to show an example…Just because I’m out there and very sexual doesn’t mean that I have to be whorish. I like to have sex. That doesn’t mean I have to have it with everybody. Not that I judge women who want to have sex with the world.”

On motherhood: “I just wanna be home all the time. I don’t care about going out anymore. The things that I thought matter, it didn’t really matter. I’m just so focused on my kid. I don’t be sad for long because whenever I’m with my baby, it’s like, ‘Yeah, whatever. F*ck everybody.’”

On distancing herself from social media: “Some people, they always think that I’m trying to do something [on social media] for publicity and I don’t even like the publicity. I don’t like the drama. I don’t like the bullshit …and I don’t need it. I really don’t need it. I feel like my music sells on its own. People think they need it to sell records. I don’t think so. Look at somebody like Post Malone. He’s never on social media.”

For more from Cardi, visit HarpersBazaar.com.

 

 

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American Actress, Gabrielle Union welcomed her first child with husband, Dwayne Wade in 2018 via surrogacy.

The 46-year-old actress recently sat down with Women’s Health magazine to chat about her infertility struggles, what she looked for in a surrogate, and how she’s raising baby Kaavia, and moms new and old can definitely learn a thing or two from her revelations.

Read excerpts below.

On her fertility problems:

“There’s nothing more than I wanted than to cook my own baby…the idea of it felt like surrendering to failure.”

On maintaining an active lifestyle:

 “I need sun. I need Vitamin D on my face. Give me a trail, a park, a walk down the street with the dogs, a breeze, rain. I’ll go hike. I’ll get a lawn chair and sit outside my trailer so I’m not trapped inside.”

On choosing a surrogate for her daughter:

“Some people care about the race, religion, or food habits of their surrogate. I was like, ‘I want a reader.’”

On how it was tough to overcome the public opinions:

“People want to see the bump, hear that you got hemorrhoids—they want to know you’re like them. I was like, ‘This is going to seem like the most Hollywood sh*t ever. Will I be embraced as a mom?’ It’s terrifying.”

On the birth of her daughter:

“I was like, ‘Oh my god, this is my baby. I wanted to fight everybody in that room for various reasons and no reason.”

Read the interview here.

 

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 Polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS) is a common health problem caused by an imbalance of reproductive hormones. The hormonal imbalance creates problems in the ovaries. The ovaries make the egg that is released each month as part of a healthy menstrual cycle. With PCOS, the egg may not develop as it should or it may not be released during ovulation as it should be. Signs and symptoms of PCOS often develop around the time of the first menstrual period during puberty, but sometimes PCOS develops later in response to substantial weight gain.
PCOS can cause missed or irregular menstrual periods. Irregular periods can lead to infertility (inability to get pregnant). In fact, PCOS is one of the most common causes of infertility in women. It also leads to development of cysts (small fluid-filled sacs) in the ovaries
Who gets PCOS?
It happens to women of childbearing age. Most women find out they have PCOS in their 20s and 30s when they have problems getting pregnant and see their doctor. PCOS can however happen at any age after puberty.
Women of all races and ethnicities are at risk of PCOS. Your risk of PCOS may be higher if you have obesity or if you have a mother, sister or aunt with PCOS.
What causes PCOS?
1. High levels of androgens: Androgens are sometimes called “male hormones,” although all women make small amounts of androgens. Androgens control the development of male traits, such as male-pattern baldness. Women with PCOS have more androgens than normal. Higher than normal androgen levels in women can prevent the ovaries from releasing an egg (ovulation) during each menstrual cycle, and can cause extra hair growth and acne, two signs of PCOS.
2. High levels of insulin:  Insulin is a hormone that controls how the food you eat is changed into energy. Insulin resistance is when the body cells do not respond normally to insulin. As a result, one’s insulin blood levels become higher than normal. Many women with PCOS have insulin resistance, especially those who are overweight and have unhealthy eating habits,  those who do not get enough physical activity, and those who have a family history of diabetes (usually type 2 diabetes). Over time, insulin resistance can lead to type 2 diabetes.
3. Inflammation: Women with PCOS often  have increased levels of inflammation in  their body.  Being overweight can  contribute to inflammation. Inflammation can cause high androgen  levels.
 4. Obesity: 80% of women with PCOS are  overweight. The inability of insulin to  function normally is one reason why    women with PCOS tend to gain weight or find it hard to lose weight
What are the symptoms of PCOS?
1. Irregular menstrual cycle: Women with PCOS may miss periods or have fewer periods (fewer than eight in a year). Some women with PCOS stop having menstrual periods.
2. Too much hair on the face, chin or parts of the body where men usually have hair: This is called “hirsutism.” Hirsutism affects up to 70% of women with PCOS.
3. Acne on the face, chest, and upper back
4. Thinning of hair or hair loss on the scalp: This is male-pattern baldness.
5. Weight gain or difficulty losing weight.
6. Darkening of skin, particularly along neck creases, in the groin, and underneath breast.
7. Skin tags, which are small excess flaps of skin in the armpits or neck area.
8. Infertility
Can I still get pregnant if I have PCOS?
Yes. Having PCOS does not mean one can’t get pregnant. PCOS is one of the most common, but treatable, causes of infertility in women. In women with PCOS, the hormonal imbalance interferes with the growth and release of eggs from the ovaries (ovulation). A person who doesn’t ovulate can’t get pregnant.
Your doctor can talk with you about ways to help you ovulate and to raise your chance of getting pregnant.
MY  OWN KIND OF TREATMENT
When a sufferer of PCOS comes to me , I ask her how far she has gone medically. Her blood sample must have been taken to check her hormonal levels. Her fallopian tubes should have been checked to see that they are not blocked. Since  a sufferer also has insulin resistance, I ask if she has ever checked her blood sugar levels. In fact, this is why a diabetic drug called Metformin is always part of PCOS treatment. I then start with these steps:
1. Since we have established that most sufferer of this hormonal imbalance are overweight, I encourage them to lose weight. She will be told the kind of diet to eat and will be encouraged to be exercising.
2. The liver is where our hormones are processed. If the liver is sluggish, things won’t work well. So, they will go through liver detoxification. By the way, do you even know where your liver is? Ok, put your hands on your right ribs; move your hand to where your rib ends. Are you there? Ok, that is where your liver is!
3. The ovaries will be detoxified.
4. You will be surprised that spices in your kitchen are very useful for treating this condition. Some of them are garlic, turmeric and garlic .
5. When the woman starts seeing her menses, I teach her on how to  track her ovulation periods. So she gets to understand the days to have sex.
After all has been done, if the fallopian tubes of the woman are “patent” (as doctors say), that is, if they are not blocked and the husband’s sperm count is normal, nothing stops them from hearing the patter of tiny feet in nine months!

Being a child of God, I have heard so many teachings on wholeness, and why it is vital for an individual to live a full fulfilled life  accept oneself as you are and live with the knowledge of what you allow in your life, and how all this can influence where we are and how far we want to go.

I want to share my wholeness lessons, and how it is essential for us to be fully aware of whom we are and live a happy productive life. Wholeness calls for a complete stock take, by this I mean, know what who you are in every good and bad circumstance, know how you are affected by people and situations around you, know your highest points in life and how you react at your lowest??

How do you react when in a bad situation, either you are dumped by a boyfriend, fired from your dream job, falsely accused or even the times nothing goes your way?? How do you treat those around you??Do you beat yourself up each day and blame every one, anything and everything??What about the times we hit it well and win a jack pot??Do we throw away all we have, thinking we have made it?? Wholeness calls for us to know how you react when one steps on your foot. Do you step on them or slap that person for inflicting pain on you, or you accept it couldn’t have been unintentional???How you react shows what is within, your strength, weaknesses, flaws, at times it even reflects the things we are afraid of. It shows how much closure one needs on the events that happen,at times it is a reflection of how much we need to work on our character and growth for the future. There are some wholeness checks one can do to find out how we are doing:

Firstly, accept yourself fully, character, current position, current financial standing, body type, accept there will always be some better than you, and one who is where you want to be, and that what matters is how much you put in to achieve all your dreams and goals. Once you make peace with all this, you will always know your seasons in life and will never compare yourself to another person, because you are fully aware of your uniqueness and are working to improve on that fully.

Secondly, wholeness calls for peace with both situations, and people around you, it calls for an effort to always see that you don’t allow another’s persons negative energy to influence you nor your decision.it interprets fully being responsible for how you react to a situation, and how you let external factors make you feel. Many people around us carry a lot of baggage, hurts and pain, and there will always be an encounter with such a person, but when you have made peace with yourself, negativity will never affect your being in any way. The other aspect of being whole is dealing with all failure, let downs and disappointments. Many times someone lets us down, we tend to bury or medicate instead of finding a solution or let go. We rarely get closure on issues, hence at a later point we least expect, things arise, so if one hurts us ,we need to deal with that issue immediately and get closure to have peace and move on positively, we equally need to learn to apologize if need be, not for the sake of the oppressor ,but yourself, make peace.

Lastly, build a relationship with yourself, make time to connect with yourself and emotions, take time to know how you are doing and see where you need help, and when stuck and not sure, find someone who has gone ahead of you, someone you trust to not tell you what you want to hear, but will willingly help you be the best version of yourself.

Love yourself enough, to not give what is biased.

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Media personality, Vimbai Mutinhiri has to her Instagram page on Wednesday, February 6, 2019, to admonish women to seize on the opportunity of achieving their goals and aspirations over designer bags and all expensed paid trips.

“I’m dropping this here. I’m tired. Keep the LVs and Chanels. No, your travel agent should not call me. Since you’re ready to throw it away, why not be an angel investor for the same amount? Or just say no. Don’t use the same mouth to say “things are hard” to tell me “I’m traveling, do you want to join me?” 

“No wonder so many of my sisters are sucked into this cycle. Ladies, don’t play yourselves. It may be harder the honest way, but let no man convince you that borrowed moments of luxury are more valid than chasing your dreams. Why are you trying to put us in material bondage?🤦🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️ #hellotableshakers #ihavecomeagain #whyisiteasiertoaskforahandbagthanbusinessfinance,” she wrote.

 

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Nigerian actress and producer, Stephanie Linus has received special recognition at the first Blacks in Cinema presentation. The recognition was for her movie, “Dry”which was released in 2016.

The Blacks in Cinema presentation held at the Los Angeles City Council Chambers yesterday as part of the opening of the highly-covered Pan African Film & Arts Festival (PAFF) which will hold in Los Angeles, USA this month.

Los Angeles City Council President, Herb J. Wesson kicked off the Black History Month by honoring the actors and filmmakers who paved the way for people all walks of life to be represented in film. With the help of some legendary African-American actors and filmmakers, the day was officially proclaimed #BlacksInCinema in Los Angeles.

“Dry” had already screened in 2016 at PAFF while also winning the Best Narrative Feature at the festival. The movie will now screen for the second time at PAFF on the 9th, 13th and 18th of February 2019. The movie was recalled to the festival due to the growing importance of global human rights advocacy, which was the core of the movie.

The movie’s core narrative is based on changing the narratives surrounding the issue of child marriage and other forms of social injustice.

Watch Stephanie Linus speaking at the Los Angeles City Council:

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Ruth Oshikanlu has been appointed as a member of the order of the British Empire (MBE) in the New Year 2019 Honours List for her services to Community Nursing, Children and Families

Ruth is an award-winning pregnancy mindset expert, a nurse, midwife and health visitor with over 25 years experience practising in the United Kingdom.

Growing up, Ruth’s father wanted her to become a doctor but she knew that wasn’t her calling, so, she went on to qualify as a midwife. After a thorough grounding in the National Health Service and hospital environment, she decided to focus on community midwifery, helping women to have their babies their way.

Oshikanlu, who is a parenting expert, Queen’s nurse, midwife and health visitor with over 22 years experience, runs Ruth’s parenting centres on beginning the bonding process in the womb.

She is also the author of Tune Into Your Baby: Because Babies Don’t Come with An Instruction Manual, and has developed the Tune Into Your Baby™ approach.

The approach is a holistic parenting programme that equips you to harness the power of your mind along with connecting with your baby in utero to get the desired outcome of becoming a happy and connected mother of a happy and connected baby.

She enables pregnant women to have a stress-free pregnancy, become serene and soulful as they grow a happy soul within them. She also equips mothers with a template that they use for the rest of their parenting journey.

Oshikanlu is also the founding director of Goal Mind, a coaching consultancy that specialises in improving personal performance at work by uncovering employee motivations.

Ruth’s work has earned her numerous health and business awards including:

  • Fellow of The Royal College of Nursing
  • Fellow of The Institute of Health Visiting
  • The Queen’s Nursing Institute’s Queen Elizabeth The Queen Mother Award for Outstanding Service to Community Nursing
  • Recognition Award – Nigerian Nurses Association UK (June 2017)
  • Recognition Award – Women4Africa 2017 Awards (May 2017)
  • The Nigerian Achievers Awards – Outstanding Entrepreneur Award
  • Named on The Nursing Times Leaders List in 2015
  • Named on The HSJ BME Pioneer List in 2014

 

 

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Iron is one of the most abundant metals on earth, is an essential mineral to most life forms and to normal human functioning.

In humans, almost two-thirds of iron our body is found in hemoglobin, the protein in red blood cells that carries oxygen to tissues. Smaller amounts of iron are found in myoglobin, a protein that helps supply oxygen to muscle, and in enzymes that assist biochemical reactions. Iron is also found in proteins that stores it for future needs, and are regulated by intestinal walls.

SOURCES OF IRON

Many foods contain high levels of iron, and you can easily find and combine them to make tasty, nutritious meals that helps boost your body system. They include:

  • Fruits and vegetables: Dried fruits (prunes, raisins), mushrooms, and dark leafy greens (pumpkin, spinach, broccoli), and citrus fruits, red and yellow peppers.
  • Nuts and seeds: cashews, sunflower and pumpkin seeds, pine, nuts, and pistachios.
  • Animal sources: Liver, egg yolks, turkey or chicken gizzards, meat and fish, beef, lamb shellfish, oysters, shrimp sardines, salmon, and tuna.
  • Dairy products: raw cow or soy milk, yogurt, and cheese.
  • Plant sources: black beans, brown beans, soybeans, kidney beans, chickpeas, black-eyed peas, and lima beans.

EFFECTS OF IRON DEFICIENCY/ OVERLOAD

The risk of iron deficiency is high in women (teenage girls, female athletes, and pregnant women), preterm infants, young children as well as people with certain health conditions (heart, kidney diseases, celiac diseases etc., its effects include:

  • The deficiency of iron leads to anemia, which occurs when the body does not have enough iron.
  • Reduced oxygen delivery to cells, results in dizziness, fatigue, and poor work performance.
  • Elevated levels of free iron stimulate the growth of microbes and increase the risk of infections thereby decreasing immunity.
  • Iron overload may lead to cancer, irregular menstrual flow, and infertility.
  • Reduced iron can affect mental alertness and sensitivity, as iron is required for proper shielding of neurons of the nervous system.

BENEFITS OF IRON

  • An essential component of proteins involved in oxygen transport.
  • Iron is an integral part of many proteins and enzymes that maintain good health.
  • It is also essential for the regulation of cell growth and differentiation.
  • Vital mineral in myoglobin, a muscle protein required for oxygen transport and contraction of the muscles.
  • Boost brain activity, as Iron helps supply oxygen to the blood and 20% of which is consumed by the brain.

WELLNESS CUES: TIPS FOR GETTING MORE IRON IN YOUR DIET

NUTRITION

  1. Avoid the following, as they can interfere with iron absorption:
  • Drinking tea or coffee with meals.
  • Foods such as whole cereals, parsley, dark leafy vegetables, and chocolate, rich in oxalic acid, tannins, phytates, and gluten.
  • Eating foods rich in calcium with those rich in iron, as calcium limits iron uptake into the body.
  1. Do your best to eat iron-rich foods along with those rich in vitamin C, for vitamin C aids the uptake of iron into the body.
  • Cooking foods for shorter periods and with a cast-iron skillet.

LIFESTYLE CHANGES

  • Keep a clean and safe environment as malarial infection paralyzes red blood cells, thereby causing anemia.
  • Avoid medications that can deplete iron such as tetracycline, ciprofloxacin, high blood pressure reducing drugs.
  • The iron from foods you eat may not always be sufficient, so supplementation may be needed. Speak with a doctor or dietician, who may recommend a supplement and it’s crucial to follow dosage instructions carefully.

Let the insights you have gained of risks and benefits, be an integral factor to your daily decision-making process on what you feed your body, and aim to get iron from a variety of sources.

About Hosanna

I am Hosanna Oyibo, a Public Health Coach. I am an avid reader, personal development enthusiast, network marketing professional and a volunteer. I’m also interested in travelling, gardening, and sports. You can read about me and visit my blog with a click on this link https://about.me/hosannaoyibo.

When I think about the empowerment of women and children, I like to tackle the issue from the ROOT cause and in many cases- the lack of financial empowerment is one of the root causes of their disempowerment.

 

Lolo Cynthia Is a public health specialist, sexuality educator and founder of the social enterprise LoloTalks, that employs all forms of media (online and offline) to create awareness and sustainable solutions to our contemporary social and health issues in Africa.  She also doubles as a documentary and talk show producer and lends her voice on issues regarding interpersonal relationships, sexuality, gender, and social issues through her YouTube channel LoloTalks and her blog.