Oluwatomilola Anjoorin is the first child in a family of six. She hails from Ekiti. She is a graduate of Biochemistry from Ladoke Akintola University of Technology (LAUTECH). She is the CEO of Miel Creations where she creates amazing delicacies.

Let’s meet you. Who is Oluwatomilola ?

I am Oluwatomilola Anjoorin, the first child and only daughter in a family of six. I am an indigene of Ekiti, but based in Lagos. I am a graduate of Biochemistry from Ladoke Akintola University of Technology (LAUTECH). I own Miel Creations where I make mouth watering cakes.

What are your hobbies?

Reading, traveling, surfing the net and singing.

Who and what inspires you?

I am inspired by achievers, no name in particular, people that despite all odds pull themselves out of difficult situations and stands high such as Oprah Winfrey.

What is your biggest fear?

Being financially and spiritually poor, wrong marriage, not touching lives before I leave the Earth.

With different people joining the baking world, how have you been able to step up your games? Do you think the profession is growing well in Nigeria and worth making sacrifices for?

It is important to note that no matter how much you climb, someone will always be ahead of you, it’s fine.
And, yes, I ensure I attend seminars, keep myself updated by reading and surfing the web, follow the trend WISELY. Well, yes, it is evident in the fact that the almighty cake boss, Buddy, visited Nigeria some months back. My business,my brand,my profession is worth making sacrifices for.

Your best quote?

You won’t always be right, your opinion is not the truth.

What is that one thing you’ll like to change about yourself?

My butts, I’d like to have a bigger butt. On a more seriously note, I’d like to change the way I over think issues.

What keeps you up at night?

Thoughts on how to be a better woman, my dreams and how to achieve them.

If given the chance to be the President of Nigeria for a day, what will you change?

NYSC being scrapped. Ensuring all varsity students learn a skill, give total allowance to fresh graduate to start their businesses.

Where do you see yourself and your brand in the next 5 years?

Myself happily married with kids. My business/brand very well established, having strong holds in different states and it must be able to run independently. Own a big restaurant, be a counsellor/guardian to young girls.

How have you been able to combine being a biochemist and a baker together?

One thing has bowed for the other, I am a full time baker/Event planner for now.

 What is your major challenge so far and how have you been able to deal with it?

Well, I’d say social media awareness/marketing, I try to be better, while surfing the web, I try to focus on things that are more important.

 If you were given the opportunity to address a group of girls five years younger than you? What will be your advice to them?

Know God from your early years, if you’ve missed it before, find your path.
That you’ve failed once, twice, three times, doesn’t mean you can’t start all over again.
Pressures will come, it’ll always be there, focus.
Don’t be so marriage conscious, you tend forget to enjoy your single state that way.
God will bless the works of thy hand, the Bible says,sister,what is in thy hand?

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A lady stormed angrily into a car dealer’s shop. She was upset with the fact that she found out that the brand new car she bought an hour ago was overpriced. Knowing she could have purchased the same brand and model of car for about $5k less somewhere else was incredibly painful.

She felt cheated, screamed, and shouted till they called the cops on her. When the cops came, they perused the purchase document, then confirmed that ownership has been transferred whether she feels cheated or not.


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Whitney Houston’s death sent shockwaves around the world in 2012.

The much-loved superstar was tragically found unconscious and submerged in the bathtub in her suite at the Beverly Hilton Hotel.

Paramedics were called and performed CPR, but she was pronounced dead. She was just 48.

A coroner later ruled that Whitney died by drowning and the affected of atherosclerotic heart disease and cocaine use.

There was much Whitney hid from her fans throughout her life in the spotlight, including her decades-long struggle with drug abuse and a secret lesbian relationship.

Film Whitney: Can I Be Me delved into the star’s secret sadness and the cause of her tragic downfall.

Documentary maker Nick Broomfield searched for the answers to exactly what killed Whitney.

According to Mirror It was claimed in 2016 that Whitney was bisexual, and that she had a secret lesbian relationship with her assistant Robyn Crawford, but that she kept it quiet to avoid upsetting her mother, Cissy.

Whitney’s ex-husband Bobby Brown told Us Weekly magazine: “I really feel that if Robyn was accepted into Whitney’s life, Whitney would still be alive today. She didn’t have close friends with her anymore.”

Cissy wrote about her dislike for Robyn in her 2013 book Remembering Whitney.

In an interview with Oprah, she was asked if she would have been bothered if her daughter was gay.

Cissy snapped back: “Absolutely.”

Oprah asked: “You wouldn’t have condoned it?”

And Cissy said: “Not at all.”

She continued: “I didn’t particularly like [Crawford]. She just spoke too much, disrespectful sometimes, like she had something over Nippy [Whitney’s nickname], and I didn’t like that at all. She was all right, she turned out to be all right, I guess. That was her friend.”

Whitney and Robyn bonded when they were teenagers and worked together at a community center in New Jersey.

Whitney was rescued from bullies by Robyn on a number of occasions, with the star being targeted at school when her modeling career began to take off.

And when Whitney moved out of the family home, she and Robyn moved into an apartment together.

It’s been claimed that deep into Whitney’s 14-year marriage to Bobby, Robyn was still very much a part of her life.

Whitney’s make-up artist and friend Ellin Lavar gave her thoughts on the relationship in Can I Be Me.

She said: “I don’t think she was gay; I think she was bisexual. Robyn provided a safe place for her. In that Whitney found safety and solace.”

And gay rights activist Peter Tatchell once said Robyn was Whitney’s, true love.

He told Pink News in 2012: “When I met them [Whitney and Robyn], it was obvious they were madly in love. Their intimacy and affection were so sweet and romantic.”

Robyn, who quit as Whitney’s assistant in 2000, did not speak in the film but was seen in archive footage.

Whitney’s ex once accused her of having an agenda.

In Derrick Handspike’s unauthorised 2008 biography Bobby Brown: The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But, he quoted Bobby saying: “Now I realise Whitney had a different agenda than I did when we got married. I believe her agenda was to clean up her image while mine was to be loved and have children.

“Whitney felt she had to make rumours of a lesbian affair go away. Since she was the American Sweetheart and all, that didn’t go too well with her image. In Whitney’s situation, the only solution was to get married and have kids. That would kill all speculation whether it was true or not.”

Whitney’s security guard, Kevin Ammons, said in Can I Be Me: “Robyn and Whitney were like twins. They were inseparable. They had a bond and Bobby Brown could never remove Robyn. He wanted to be the man in the relationship.”

Whitney’s former bodyguard, David Roberts, says he witnessed her overdose on her 1999 tour and compiled a report for the people managing her affairs.

Documentary maker Broomfield said: “By then Whitney and Bobby were completely out of control. And I think he and various other people tried to bring that to the attention of the estate.

“He wrote that report that was incredibly detailed. And full of concern. I have a copy of it. And no one chose to act on it. Not at all.”

David, who was let go from his position, claims that if the report had been taken seriously “Whitney and Bobbi Kristina would still be here”.

Bobbi, Whitney and Bobby’s daughter, died in 2015, at the age of 22, in very similar circumstances to her mother.

In January 2015, he was found face down in a bathtub at her home by a friend who began CPR until paramedics arrived.

She was taken to hospital, where she remained in a coma and on a ventilator.

Bobbi died in hospice care months later in July.

Whitney herself lost many friends, who drifted away because of her drug abuse.

Some claimed that after Robyn left, drugs became increasingly important to Whitney.

Broomfield says in his film: “It was kind of a miracle that she lived as long as she did. She went down and kept going.”

Ever felt so embarassed and heartbroken when your child snaps back at you in a really disrespectful tone that leaves you almost speechless? Or have you raised your voice on your child maybe in anger trying to give out correction only to get a raised voice in return. Every parent hates this part of growing up in their kids. No one wants to have a rather disrespectful kid who doesn’t acknowledge their parents and listen completely while they dish out vital advise.

As a parent, sometimes it seems like your day is filled with an endless stream of talk back from your kids – you hear it when you ask them to do chores, when you tell them it’s time to stop watching TV, and when you lay down rules they don’t like. It’s one of the most frustrating and exhausting things that we deal with when we raise our kids.

While this can be a part of growing up for kids and a way of helping them show the different sides they are made of, it is important for parents to understand why they shouldn’t take it completely to heart when their kids talk back at them. Most kids go through phases of trying out rude behaviour toward their parents. And all humans sometimes let a momentary irritation get the better of them, so they snap at others.Kids talk back for a variety of reasons. They may be testing their own power to see how far they can take it. They may feel disrespected by parents who overprotect or “boss” them around. Or, they may live in a home in which respectful communication isn’t a priority.

In the majority of cases, however, talking back is the child’s way of exerting his power and saying “you’re not the boss of me.” We are all hard-wired with a need for positive power – the ability to have some control over our lives. When we over-protect, over-demand, order, correct and direct, we stand in the way of our children achieving independence and personal power.

The only way our kids know how to respond is to fight back. It’s a basic fight or flight response – they can’t easily flee, so they fight back with talk back, negotiating, arguing, stomping away, eye rolling, etc.When children act out, we naturally move straight to emotion- whether it’s embarrassment, anger, or hurt and disappointment. If you respond with emotion to every sour word that comes out of your child’s mouth, you’re only showing your kid just how to get a rise out of you and get some attention, albeit negative attention. Before you respond to the bad words, remove your personal feelings from the situation. Avoid escalating the situation, take a deep breath, and show true control by controlling yourself first. Then there’s no power struggle to be had.

Here are strategies to keep in mind:
. Monitor your own language and model respect as you interact with your child, even when they sass you. In general, if you find yourself criticising or yelling, bite your tongue. Don’t be afraid to set limits, but wait until you can speak calmly and respectfully.
. Don’t take it personally. Remind yourself that your child is still learning self-control and right now they have a problem, which is causing them to lose patience. Acknowledge the problem they are having (and if appropriate offer to help), even as you set a limit about their tone. Kids think twice about hurting the feelings of parents they feel supported by. In general, strengthen your relationship with your child by looking for every opportunity to positively connect. Be sure you spend at least 15 minutes alone with each child every day, giving them your focused, positive attention.
. When your child speaks hurtfully to you, calmly confront their hurtful words or tone and set a clear expectation for respectful communication.
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By Ijeoma Thomas Odia

It occurred to me that no one really prepared women for the changes in their bodies caused by pregnancy and childbearing. So we often struggled with it: from deflated breasts to big stomach club, to postpartum weight gain, to stretch marks, and so on. From the chat, I realized that it was such a serious issue that some women even stopped feeling attractive or desirable because of it and this affected the rhythm of things in their homes.

London Bridge has fallen? As in my no-bra days are over”?

Sonia’s question caused a ripple of laughter in the group.

“You haven’t even experienced it feeling like water sef” Ada opined. This caused further laughter, crying and lots of smileys on the group chat.

I was cradling my little one and couldn’t comment much at that particular time but I don’t think I had ever had that much fun reading the conversations in our young mom’s group. Apparently, Sonia, a first time mom who had just concluded her six months exclusive breastfeeding, was having a hard time processing and accepting the changes in the appearance of her boobs.

“But they used to be so perky” she insisted. Fellow young moms were laughing and typing all kinds of hilarious comments. The moms with older kids in the group were trying to convince her to take it in stride, move on, and buy “lovely bras”.

I realized that was exactly what I did with my own body changes. I “took it in stride”. It occurred to me that no one really prepared women for the changes in their bodies caused by pregnancy and childbearing. So we often struggled with it: from deflated breasts to big stomach club, to postpartum weight gain, to stretch marks, and so on. From the chat, I realized that it was such a serious issue that some women even stopped feeling attractive or desirable because of it and this affected the rhythm of things in their homes.

It then got me thinking, how best can we deal with the changes in our bodies as mothers?

Accept it for what it is

Living in denial about the bodily changes is always counterproductive. Not only that, it’ll affect your mood, attitude and inevitably, your happiness. To fix a problem, you have to first identify that it is there, then you make adequate plans to tackle it.

Deal with the things you can and forget about the rest

You could register at a local gym nearby and get to work; or if you’re pressed for time like me, you could start using a skipping rope in your spare time. No pressure. It took about 9 months for your stomach, for instance, to expand in order to accommodate your little one. So it’s only logical that it’ll take about that same time to return to normal.  You could download apps for dieting and all that, but essentially, take things easy. Join some new moms group on social media just to keep you afloat when you feel low, or talk with an OG like me, haha.

So you can’t fit into your old clothes and it’s making you feel less confident? It’s okay. Just make the decision to start doing something about it. Even if you don’t return to your previous size, you’ll feel good knowing you did something about it.

You’re beautiful and your scars are even more beautiful.

Rita Chidinma

Rita Chidinma is a Post graduate researcher at Federal University of Technology, Owerri with a passion for creative writing and fiction. She is a highly intuitive and deep thinker who uses writing as a means of self expression. In her free time she loves reading, writing and writing some more. She is a wife and mother to three kids. She can be reached on Instagram and Twitter (@theritzz_) or through email, chdinmaasogwa@gmail.com

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Nollywood actress, Elvina Ibru, on Monday said she would love to meet the robber who raped her in 2004. Ibru, who played the role of Mopelola in the blockbuster movie, “Lagos Bling” urged rape victims to speak out.

“I was raped by an armed robber in 2004. It wasn’t my fault and not an incident that warrants me taking up microphone about, so I set up an advocacy group to address it.

“The group is to manage the young and old ones who had been through the same ugly incident like me. I know if I had to go all out to the media about the situation, it will fizzle out.

“However, it is not something I have been silent about; I don’t know the person that raped me, but I will meet him again, I know I will meet him,” she said, in an interview with News Agency of Nigeria.

The multi-talented, actor, producer, director and writer urged Nollywood stakeholders to be professional in their conduct, adding that the industry needed the touch of core professionals.

“Although I can say that I am not a veteran in the movies because I just spiced up my acting recently, but I have been on stage for a long time.

“What I can bring to the table for my colleagues is that they must be professional with their jobs as much as possible.

“There are times that we need to up our games as actors, producers and other professions in the film making industry; we need to be professional and do things right.

“The fault in our movies did not just happen because we lack money, they also come with the way we handle things as professionals, though, money is also a big factor.

There are other things that are attached to film making which we need to look at to move the industry forward,” she said.

Elvin Ibru was a guest and an anchor at the 2019 Future Awards held that the Balmoral Convention Centre, Federal Palace Hotel, Lagos Island.

Afrofusion musician and the 2019 Grammy awards nominee, Damini Ogulu, a.k.a “Burna Boy” emerged the winners of the 2019 Young Person of the Year Future Awards.

Chiamaka Nnadozie, Super Falcons goalkeeper, has been named the best goalkeeper in Africa by the International Federation of Football History and Statistics.

Chiamaka was also named the 14th best in the world. According to the International Federation of Football History and Statistics, Chiamaka and South Africa’s Andile Dlamini are the only Africans on the shortlist.

Netherland’s Sari Van Veenendaal won the Best Goalkeeper of the Year, followed by France’s Sarah Bouhaddi, who have won the award three times (2016, 2017, 2018) consecutively.

 

Source: Bellanaija

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie has been honoured with the Bookcity Milano Prize at the Bookcity Literary Festival!

The author revealed the news on her Instagram, sharing photos of herself looking gorgeous. She wrote: “Delighted to accept the Bookcity Milano Prize at the Bookcity Literary Festival.”

See photos below.

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It is so heartbreaking. A lady identified as Moradeun, who was reportedly robbed and stabbed on Monday night, has died after she was allegedly denied treatment by a Lagos hospital.

Friends on social media share that Moradeun was on her way home from work when she was robbed then stabbed.

Moradeun’s sister, Twitter user @bankemusic, share the story on her timeline. She wrote:

@segalink please help me I beg you my heart can’t take it please!!! My sister was on her way back home from Work to her house in Gbagada around 7pm.

She was robbed and was also stabbed. People were watching . Sir I don’t know please what would you have done.

Then bystanders later rushed her to R.Jolad hospital in Gbagada but the doctors said they can not treat her expect she has a police report ahhh sir someone was stabbed in the neck. Police report that what sir.

MY SISTER IS DEAD. Someone please pinch me. Who will help me like this!!!!

There’s since been an outpouring of love from friends of Moradeun, all of them sharing stories about the impact she’s had in their lives, and lamenting the practice of demanding police reports before treatment.

💦Moboluwajinde💦@Indigenous_Papi

Moradeun was very friendly, Moradeun was a caring heart, Moradeun was a loving soul, Moradeun bridged gaps, Moradeun didn’t deserve the inhumane act of R. JOLAD Hospital Gbagada Lagos State. Moradeun was stabbed in the neck, Moradeun was dying yet they didn’t attend to Moradeun

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Tunde TNT@Tunde_TNT

This country has failed us!! They are not going to escape with this one! Moradeun was going about her life and she was stabbed and robbed! This can’t continue in this country.

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Okpetoritse@okpedaibo

I met a lady probably when I was in my second year in Uni. A friend told her I had issues with people touching me and she made it a point of duty to hug me and peck me on the cheek until I was okay with it. That was Moradeun, that was the person a failed system took from us.

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Proud Egba babe!!!@daythoughyin

I’m so sorry Nigeria failed you Moradeun. Go on angels wings sweet soul.

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Mr. Oladiji@TolaOladiji

Tell Moradeun a dream or idea you have, she’ll never forget.

Have you done that thing now.

What about that plan you told me about?

When are you going to do it?

Sigh.

Sigh.

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The hospital, R-Jolad, has however denied reports that they demanded a police report from the people who brought Moradeun in. She was assessed, they said, and found to be in need of a vascular surgeon. Because they did not have one, she was referred to the Gbagada General Hospital, they shared in a statement.

See the hospital’s statement below:

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African Women Lead the World in Corporate Board Membership – New Report

 Phuti Mahanyele, a South African business executive. CEO of Sigma Capital and former CEO of the Shanduka Group.

According to a new report, one in every four corporate board member in Africa is a woman. This is according to the gender parity report from the McKinsey Global Institute released yesterday. The news which came as a surprise to many big corporate industry players and professionals worldwide is a reflection of how far African nations have gone to embrace gender equality at the corporate level.