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Dr. Dedunmola Oluwo – 24 started 4 business ventures while studying to become a medical doctor in Hungary. She is a baker, a makeup artist, a cook, and a hair stylist. Yes… all that while undergoing the gruelling task of going through med school. Dedun’s multi-faceted reach into the world of entrepreneurship was the result of her determination to survive economically – as a student. This grew into something else when the spectrum of services she provided increased, and she became beholden to the needs of her customers.

Her work ethic is admirable, and behind it all she says was the unwavering love and support of her mother, brothers and friends.

Dedunmola, graduated in 2016 and has now embarked on her Masters degree. She was nominated as the Young Person of the Year at the 2016 The Future Awards, and in an interview recently, she said: “I was able to combine all these without repeating a year in the 7 years of medical school. I was able to make enough to pay for my Masters. I’m sharing my story to inspire others that it doesn’t matter what your situation is, you can always challenge yourself to achieve great things whether you are a 17 year old (like when I started) or older.”

Dr. Oluwo’s passion for hard work and her CAN DO spirit is what makes her a woman of rubies

 

 

Glory Edozien is back with a new episode of her “Discovery with Glory” Vlog.

In this episode she talks about a personal experience dealing with a guy she met on Tinder who unknown to her at the time already had a boo!

She share the steps she took in getting out of that situation and also some mindset shifts that women need to take so they can enter into more wholesome relationships.

She says “Bottom line ladies, before you get into any kind of relationship, ask yourself if this is REALLY what you want. Don’t believe the lie that there aren’t good men out there or that you have to manage ‘whatever’ just to join the relationship bandwagon.”

Watch below:

In 2008, Michelle Obama was tentative on the campaign trail, wary of saying anything to jeopardize her husband’s historic bid to be America’s first black president.

Eight years later, the self-assured first lady — back on the campaign trail — electrified Democratic Party faithful with a passionate takedown of Donald Trump and what she called his “frightening” attitude towards women.

“It has shaken me to my core in a way that I couldn’t have predicted,” Obama told a rally for Hillary Clinton in New Hampshire.

“This is not normal. This is not politics as usual. This is disgraceful. It is intolerable.”

The speech cemented the transformation of Obama, who turns 53 on Tuesday.

Once a reluctant ‘mom-in-chief,’ the tall, toned Princeton and Harvard graduate — America’s first black first lady — has evolved, becoming a singular voice for women and a political dynamo

During her husband’s two terms in the nation’s highest office, the native of Chicago’s South Side — who grew up in a one-bedroom apartment with her parents and older brother — has also become a style icon and global role model.

“One of the most intriguing things about Michelle Obama is that she represents so many things to so many different people,” Peter Slevin, a professor at Northwestern University’s Medill School of Journalism and the author of “Michelle Obama: A Life,” told AFP.

“She chose her issues, she stayed true to her values and she made the role uniquely her own.”

– From the South Side to Harvard –

Michelle LaVaughn Robinson was born in Chicago on January 17, 1964 to a stay-at-home mom and a father who never missed work at a city water plant despite a battle with multiple sclerosis.

She received an Ivy League education at two of the nation’s most elite schools — Princeton and Harvard, where she studied law, as her future husband would also do.

Michelle joined the Sidley Austin law firm in Chicago upon graduation and it was there that she met Barack Obama — a young associate she was asked to mentor.

That meeting would change her life. Obama’s political career skyrocketed, and by January 2009, their family would move into the White House.

– Her causes –

At first, Michelle Obama focused her attention on getting the couple’s two young daughters, Malia and Sasha, settled into their new home.

“Those early years in the White House were a real adjustment for Michelle,” David Axelrod, a former senior advisor to Barack Obama, told CNN.

“She had to start over in so many ways and she had to do it under the watchful eye of the world. And that’s a lot of pressure.”

The first lady soon found her stride, and steered clear of controversy, embracing causes with universal appeal.

Her “Let’s Move” initiative to stamp out childhood obesity through healthy eating and exercise earned praise, as did her work to promote the wellbeing of military families.

Jennifer Lawless, the director of the Women and Politics Institute at American University in Washington, told AFP the “strong argument she made for being active… resonated in a way that a lot of first ladies’ issues don’t hit home.”

In 2015, Obama went global with the “Let Girls Learn” campaign, a cross-agency effort to improve education for teenage girls worldwide.

“She connected powerfully with a wide array of audiences — as a working mother, as a progressive Democrat and, as she herself put it, as a ‘little black girl from the South Side of Chicago’,” Slevin noted.

Throughout her time at the White House, Obama has also emerged as a beacon of support for the US fashion industry.

She turned once little-known designers such as Jason Wu into major style stars, and made it acceptable to wear a cardigan to meet Queen Elizabeth II.

And she embraced social media and pop culture — dancing with late night talk show host Jimmy Fallon, rapping with Missy Elliott in a “Carpool Karaoke” sketch, or doing the mannequin challenge with NBA superstar LeBron James.

“She’s just fundamentally cool. She is comfortable in any kind of setting. She seems real,” Lawless said, adding that her television appearances or viral videos did not seem “artificial — just her embracing the way people communicate.”

– Political force –

Last year, as Clinton and Trump vied for the presidency, Obama took on a new and somewhat unexpected role: political powerhouse.

She was a natural on the campaign trail and a forceful surrogate for Clinton, herself a former first lady.

In October, Obama — a first lady who once shied away from controversy and endured racial slurs throughout her time in Washington from a small fringe of Americans — unleashed a fierce attack on Clinton’s Republican rival.

“This was a powerful individual speaking freely and openly about sexually predatory behavior. And actually bragging about kissing and groping women,” she said of Trump’s comments caught on video, which he dismissed as guy talk.

“The men in my life do not talk about women like this,” she said. “This is not how decent human beings behave.”

That day, Obama knowingly stepped into the political limelight she had long shunned — and people listened.

“She spent eight years developing a relationship with the American people and they came to trust her,” Lawless told AFP.

 

Moving on –

In an exit interview with CBS, the president admitted his wife was looking forward to regaining some semblance of a normal life.

“Michelle never fully took to the scrutiny,” he said. “She never fully embraced being in the public spotlight — which is ironic, given how good she is.”

Obama has repeatedly said she is not interested in a political career for herself, but could she follow in Clinton’s footsteps, from the role of first lady to elected office?

“In 12 years, if an Illinois senate seat is open and the Democrats have no one to run… who knows what can happen? Life changes and she’s young,” Lawless said.

Source: Guardian.ng

Beautiful Actress Viola Davis is the first black woman to receive three Academy Award nominations after her nomination for a supporting role in “Fences.”

Not new to making history, in 2015 she became the first black woman to win an Emmy for a lead actress in a drama series for her role as Annalise Keating in “How to Get Away With Murder.”

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Viola Davis got her first Oscar nom for a brief but scene-stealing appearance in the 2008 film “Doubt.”

She got her second Oscar nom in 2012 for her role as a maid in the Southern period drama “The Help.”

Bolanle was brought up in Nigeria, Israel and Kenya. Olukanni went to St. Guardian angels Primary school in Lagos and went ahead to Queens College . She moved to Nairobi, went to Rosslyn Academy in Nairobi, Kenya for some portion of her secondary school. Preceding her last year of secondary school, she moved to America for her senior year and went to Wichita Southeast High School in Wichita, Kansas, where she partook in the National Speech and Debate Tournament for Dramatic Interpretation .
In 2011, she got a Bachelor’s degree from Loyola University, Chicago, with a twofold degree – Bachelors of Arts in both Communications and International Studies. In May 2010, while still in school, she won the Loyola University Chicago Kale Williams Award for Exceptional Work in Promoting Human Rights and Social Justice.
Bolanle co-hosts Nigeria’s number one singing competition, MTN Project Fame with Joseph Benjamin and is also a co-host on Moments with Mo. She is a co-founder of ‘Girls For The Future’, an empowerment training workshop which focuses on giving aid to Nigerian girls through education.
Today, we celebrate a woman who is making a difference in our society!

Tracee Ellis Ross is an American actress, model, comedian, producer, and TV Host. She was born on October 29, 1972 in Los Angeles, California, to a Jewish American father and an African American mother. She is the daughter of singer/actress, Diana Ross.

She made her big screen debut in 1996, in the film ‘Far Harbor’. She has since then starred in a lot of feature films and TV series including, Sue Lost in Manhattan, A Fare To Remember, Daddy’s Little Girls, Labor Pains, Girlfriends, CSI:Crime Scene Investigation, Bad Girls, Black-ish, Broad City, Five, etc. She has also been nominated and won quite a number of awards including, Golden Globe Award, NAACP image Award, BET Comedy Awards, Prism Award, BET Awards, etc.

On January 8, 2017, Tracee Ellis Ross, who is a passionate advocate for freedom and equality, won the Golden Globe Award for Best Actress in a comedy series; thus making her the first black woman to pick up the award since 1982. In her acceptance speech, she said,

”This is for all the women, women of color and colorful people whose stories, ideas, thoughts, are not always considered worthy or valid and important. But I want you to know that I see you, we see you.”

 

Governor Abiola Ajimobi of Oyo State on Monday in Ibadan signed into laws, the state’s Administration of Criminal Justice Bill, 2016, and Violence Against Women Bill, 2016

The governor signed the two bills after the state executive council m

Ajimobi told newsmen after the assent that the laws would enhance justice administration.

“Our own government is a law-abiding one,” he said.

The bills were presented for assent by the Deputy Speaker of the state House of Assembly, Mr. Musah Abdulwasi, and the state Attorney-General and Commissioner for Justice, Mr Seun Abimbola,

The Administration of Criminal Justice Law provides for speedy and efficient administration of criminal justice and other matters related to it.

The Violence Against Women Law prohibits violence against women in public and private lives as well as harmful traditional practices against women and other related matters.

The two bills were passed by the Assembly in October, 2016, and November, 2016, respectively.(NAN)

When the slap landed on her face, even before Abiola could process the pain or feel that her jaw was shaking, the first thing she did as usual was to look around, to see who saw what happened.

The only person she saw was Tosin – their daughter.

Oh, she thought, that’s okay. It’s only our daughter.

Little did she know that years and years after she had died, that was the same thought floating through Tosin’s mind as she was being slapped and pushed out of a moving car by the man she let beat her too. This was before she hit her head on the curb, died.

Chidinna looked at his father with disgust, as he introduced him to yet another business partner. His father, meanwhile, looked at him with pride. His son, the one who has just graduated cum laud from Harvard University. He had ensured that his sons did not go to school in Nigeria. He did this to separate them from their mother’s influence. He did not like the way they, especially Chidinna, went to her defense any time he disciplined her with a few slaps.

He needed them to be men and to see that women need to be disciplined and set right like children.

Chidi glared at this brute of a man, wishing he could strangle him. Just the night before, he had heard his mother scream and the sounds of breaking glass in their bedroom. It took his two brothers and the maid to stop him from going there.

That morning she came out, checking to see who heard, who knew she was being beaten up. What a brute of a man.

Tonight Chidinna cannot understand what’s happened. He’s weeping because Ada his wife is curled into a ball after receiving the beating of a lifetime from him. All because she disgraced him at dinner. She didn’t know the right meals to prepare for his Harvard friends. She was not enlightened like him. She was just very drop deadly beautiful.

He also did not like the way she tantalized the men at the dinner like a common whore. They tore off her clothes and stripped her naked with their eyes he could see. She was taunting them, he could see. Why? Why would she do that? To him, why?

Little did they know then, that beating had ruptured her womb and she would never be able to bear a child.

Little did Ada know that despite several apologies and gifts and beatings later, she would be thrown out as barren and Chidinna would father 4 children from 2 more unfortunate women who see the outside product only, the fine, rich Harvard graduate – not the damaged, dangerous creature he really is.

Sir Shina Peters is on the stage; he’s showering praises on Agbesegbe, the Cocoa magnate who’s showering him with Naira. The money is flowing. The big boys are gathering, the big girls are throwing down. The spoilt under-achieving newly married son of renowned Lawyer and politician is in the crowd.

Due to his drug habit he does not have 2 bundles of Naira to rub together, but he too wants to be noticed. He wants to belong. He looks on to the sweet innocent who is dying to go home to nurse their newborn baby. ‘Do you have any cash he asks?’ ‘For Shina? Hell no. All I have is what I got from my mum this afternoon and it’s for the baby’s pampers and SMA’.

She looks to see, even before the pain sinks into her brain. Who is looking? As he twists her ankle, to wrench her wallet from her. Oyinade cannot help it, tears pour out of her eyes as the pain sinks in. She still checks at whose looking.

As she does, she sees Adewunmi has left the party after his spraying spree- leaving her behind. How does she leave this party and get back to their house?

She sees the catering van packing up. She recognizes their logo, they are based on the Island. She can trust these ones who don’t know her and Adewunmi. She begs for a lift.

When news surfaced the next day, a trailer had flattened a van belonging to a catering outfit killing all on board. Oyinade’s parents do not even give the news a glance. How were they to know their treasure, whom they had trusted into the hands of the renowned lawyer was amongst those flattened in the disaster?

Later on when all checks are done, the renowned lawyer and his wife sort their son out. Oyinade’s parents cannot even get access to their grandchild. Oyinade was their only child.

Whilst you still have life, whilst you are still whole, before you look at who is watching or who knows, LEAVE. It is more honourable to leave than to stay.

You are more valuable to your children both male and female if you leave than to stay. On this 21st day of January as we walk with women for their rights, say NO MORE! Enough is Enough. No more concealers, No more excuses, No more shades #nomoreshades

 

About Yemisi Wada

Yemisi Wada is a Lawyer and a Business woman. She has decided she has reached a stage in life where she likes to do what gives her Joy. She has just produced the Crime Series ‘Lasgidi Cops Serious Crimes Unit’ and last year when she turned 50 decided to start up a Blog where she can mentor younger ones on the realities of relationships and life.
She also loves giving back and has a Foundation for Street Children called the Haven for the Nigerian Child Foundation.
She is married and has 5 children. She blogs at www.namsblog.com.ng

OAP Uwanma in her latest vlog shares with us 5 mistakes women make in relationships.

She says:

“Sometimes, when a relationship gets screwed up, it’s the fault of us ladies. We have all been guilty of incessant nagging, unrealistic expectations, bad cooking and even worse sex skills. But there are less obvious mistakes we make that send our men running for the hills! Most times, not deliberately, but sometimes we intentionally sabotage true love. This is not to say men don’t and can’t screw up; they do. But today, we are focusing on the 5 mistakes women make that end their relationships, and usually on a disappointing and sour note! Save a relationship

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