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Tiwa Savage has bare it all about her battle with low self esteem

The Mavin queen also revealed that she only looks beautiful by the help of make-ups and push-up bras. Stating that sometimes she is intimidated by the glamour on social media.

“I get a lot of messages from young girls who are depressed with low self-esteem because they don’t feel pretty like the social media girls they see every day and my heart breaks because I feel like that too sometimes.

“We are all in this together, I’m not perfect, and not the prettiest, sexiest, richest but I’ll remain kind and seek after God’s heart because none of the others matters to Him.

“Ultimately God’s approval is all we need”, she said.

She added that contrary to public belief, she hardly sees herself as a pretty woman.

“Some people are born beautiful, flawless skin, long curly hair, fair skin but some of us grew up looking at the world’s definition of beauty and found ourselves not fitting into that standard but with the help of makeup, filters and push up bras we feel a little closer.

“What happens when you take all that off and you stare at yourself in the mirror, do you still think you are beautiful?

“You should because you are and when we meet our creator face to face it’s those with the kindest hearts that will stand as most beautiful.

“So while we work on the outside make sure we work on our hearts.”

Founder and CEO of The Chair Centre and first female chairman of First Bank, Ibukun Awosika has reacted to a media report published on Sunday.

“I did not grant any such interview” – Ibukun Awosika reacts to Media Report

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You get the chance to interview one of the biggest captains of industry, and this is your headline. Shame!
Someone will invent cure for AIDS and they will ask “if the person still makes dinner for his/her spouse”.

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The now deleted interview report, with the headline “Ibukun Awosika: I still kneel for my husband,” was not granted, Awosika said in her tweet.

Awosika said:

My attention has been drawn to an interview that was supposedly held with me by a reporter from one of the local dailies in Nigeria. I can confirm to you authoritatively that I did not grant any such interview.

The whole interview was cooked up. It’s unimaginable that someone will engage in such unethical practices by cooking up questions and answers as if they actually had an interview with me.

 

 

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During a Q&A interactive session with Women Of Rubies, Online marketing professional and LinkedIn Influencer, Kayode Abass talked about why it is important to be on LinkedIn and also shared some nuggets on how to get started.
He shared:
*The most important part of your LinkedIn profile is your profile
photo and your headline. It’s the first thing people use to judge if
you are worth connecting with. It creates the first impression and
first impressions last.
*Your LinkedIn profile helps you build trust. It shows you do indeed exist. 

 

*To make your profile relevant, you need to fill all your information
on your profile, you need to get your colleagues and customers to
recommend and endorse you and you need to publish contents on
LinkedIn. If you do those, people will start seeing you on their
time-limes.

*Build relationships and network on LinkedIn. Don’t wait till you’ve
been laid off from work or till you have a product and service you
want to sell. Build relationships and network before those things
happen. LinkedIn groups are a great way to build relationships and
network with people who share the same interests as you.

 

*Your LinkedIn profile is what clients and prospective employers see
when they google search your name (Go to Google.com, search for your
name and see). Recruiters and companies now fully rely on LinkedIn
instead of the old fashioned way to recruit candidates.

 

*It is possible to schedule posts for personal page and business page
using Buffer and Hootsuite. I use the two for my clients and they run
smoothly.

*LinkedIn allows you to add your other social media account links to
your profile. If you need a job, you will need to find and connect
with the right people on LinkedIn. You will need to connect with and
build relationships with HRs especially.

 

According to pop star, Mel B, she once attempted suicide in 2014 to escape her marriage to Stephen Belafonte.

Mel B reveals all this and more in her upcoming memoir titled ‘Brutally Honest’ which she shared excerpts with The Sun.

In the memoir, she writes that the suicide attempt happened as she took nearly 200 aspirin pills on December 11, 2014, while she was in the midst of shooting the live shows for The X Factor in the U.K.

As each pill goes into my mouth, I ask myself: ‘Are you sure?’ And I take another one. Ten, 20, 50, 100. ‘Are you sure?’ One hundred and 20. ‘Are you sure?’ 150. Are you sure?’

Behind the glitter of fame, I felt emotionally battered, estranged from my family. I felt ugly and detested by the very man who once promised to love and protect me, my husband and manager Stephen.

When she got to the 200th pill, however, she stopped saying

I knew I didn’t want to go anywhere. … Suicide was not the answer. I had to make my life count. I had to get to a hospital. I had to get those pills out of my stomach before anything happened.

The Spice Girl and Stephen are now officially divorced.

 

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Indonesia’s Supreme Court has sentenced a school administrator to 6 months in jail after she exposed her boss’s sexual harassment.

According to ReutersBaiq Nuril Maknun, 37, recorded a telephone conversation with the head teacher of the school who she accused of making repeated unwanted sexual advances towards her.

She was convicted of recording and spreading “indecent” material under the country’s electronic information and transactions law, her lawyer Joko Jumadisaid.

She was also fined 500 million rupiah ($34,000).

In the recording, the principal shared very graphic details about his affair with the school’s treasurer. Maknun’s co-workers later convinced her to release the recording in a bid to expose the man.

A colleague had used the recording to lodge a complaint against the head teacher.

Speaking to Thomas Reuters Foundation on Thursday, court spokesman Suhadi said: “The Supreme Court judges were satisfied that she has violated the law”.

The top court’s judgement, which was delivered in a closed-door deliberation in September 26, overturned a 2017 acquittal from a lower court.

The judgement was only made available this week.

Jumadi said Maknun, a mother of three, would file a judicial review to challenge the court’s ruling. Jumadi said: “She is a victim and she just wants justice.”

Amnesty International’s Indonesia executive director Usman Hamid said in a statement:

“It appears a woman was criminalised simply for taking steps to redress the abuse she experienced. It is a travesty that while the victim of the alleged abuse has been convicted… little if any action appears to have been taken by the authorities to investigate what appear to be credible claims.”

Speaking on the issue, Maidina Rahmawati from the Institute for Criminal Justice Reform, a Jakarta-based non-profit, said:

“This case is just an example of how the law, which is too vague, could be used against vulnerable women who were trying to protect themselves.”

 

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On Instagram, she shares a picture of herself with the Prince of Wales who recently visited Nigeria.

Grace Ladoja has been working with the UK Grime icon, Skepta since 2014. In that time, she has overseen his transition from the popular face of grime to an iconic, heavily-personified figure with a strong following outside the UK.

Grace, who is the daughter of a former Oyo State governor, Rashidi Ladoja, has built a reputation as one of the main catalysts in the emergence of the UK grime scene on the international stage.

In addition, she is also seen as one of the UK’s most promising media executives, thanks to her work with artistes like FKA Twigs and popular brands like Supreme.

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Tosin Taiwo is the Founder of Street to School Initiative, a non-governmental organization which sponsors the education programs of disadvantaged young people in underserved areas, especially out-of-school, street kids and primary school drop outs.

She has 10 years of kindred experience in community intervention projects and youth engaging programs, Over the years, she has resonated to standing in the gap for children who cannot afford basic education programs. Tosin fundraises to sponsor out of school children back to school. At present, 280 young people have been supported to register freely for WAEC/NECO/JAMB/GCE examination, with many as graduates.

In ensuring the total well-being of children in the community she serves, her organization acts as implementing partner to the Embassy of Japan in Nigeria, to ensuring that Ikola Primary Health Care Centre is renovated and well-fortified with every necessary medical equipment. The Project was commissioned by the ambassador of japan in Nigeria, Amb. Yutaka Kikuta.

Tosin is the recipient of the United States Consul-General Award, an Alumnus of the United States Exchange Program International Visitor’s Leadership Program –IVLP in 2014.

The graduate of Computer Science from the University of Lagos, Nigeria, and Overall Best Corps member for

 

I grew up with a mum whose other occupation was supporting the education programs of children around us. My mum is the type that would see an out-of-school child and would ask why? At early age, the first time I heard the word GCE was when my mum got the form for a student in the church. She was doing all this, because she didn’t have the opportunity as a child to further her education after Basic 4 because of poverty. She remains the medical doctor the world never had.

So, yes, my childhood prepared me in lots of ways. No child deserves to be left behind in attaining quality education, no, not in this 21st century

Meet Me

I am a graduate of Computer Science from the University of Lagos, an advocate of education for all with 9 years of experience working directly with children and women in rural communities and under-served areas. In 2009, after some charitable project during my service year (NYSC) in Kogi State, I came back to Lagos to initiate a pet project named RESOURCE SHARING NETWORK (RSN), with an objective to pull resources together from friends, families and myself, (as I worked briefly in a Software Company) to make impact in the lives of under-served children in the society. From having two members, we grew to having more than 77 like-minded young professionals and matured adult who were willing to mentor and sponsor the education programs of young people in rural communities.

Motivation behind Street to School Initiative

The motivation to start a non-governmental organization was born during NYSC. Remember, I studied Computer Science with keen interest in database management, however, there was a paradigm shift when I left for service, there, I lived close to struggling youth and physically challenged students. I became more inclined and receptive to the needs of vulnerable young people around me, I spent more time mentoring young people and fundraising to get them basic educational materials and mobility aid appliances (wheelchairs, clutches) than I did at my primary place of assignment. At the end of the service year, there came the NYSC State honors award with support from the wife of the Governor.

Testimonials

Recently, one of our sponsored girls graduated with a CGPA of 4.06 from Tai Solarin University. She had been on our sponsorship program since 2012, and, paired with an amazing sponsor. She has been beneficiary to Full Scholarship from GCE through University education. In 2016, we had another GCE sponsored/mentored student graduating with a first class from Nnamdi Azikiwe University. At the primary education level, we have seen the transformational effect that education could bring to any child. At present, we run a tuition-free school for primary school drop-outs and out of school children in Alimosho LGA, and most of these children could neither read nor write the alphabet correctly when they joined us, however, today, it is a different story. In 3 years, we have had 3 sets of 20 previously out of school children transitioned from primary school to secondary school. Some of these children, used to be on the street running errands, others were usually locked up from prying eyes due to parents inability of paying school fees, some had worked in car wash zones etc. The exciting thing is that these kids are not where they used to be. We are so thankful for all our friends and child sponsors.

Renovation of Ikola primary Health care

Ikola Primary Health Care Centre was constructed during the Millennium Development Goals (MDGs) era, however, it was not equipped. And, sadly it was locked up for some years, in a community where there are more than 500,000 residents. In Ikola Community, we have witnessed the death of pregnant women who lost their lives when they could not access quality health care. Twice, we lost mothers of two of our pupils when medical help could not reach them on time. Again in 2017,one of our pupils, a 7 years old girl died in a church when the parents could not afford private hospital bill. These were death so many. So when we had the opportunity to request for one thing from the Embassy of Japan in Nigeria, we requested for the improvement on the existing primary health care center. We requested for provision of medical equipment so that the center could be fully operational, and our children (most especially) could have access to good health care. Thankfully, this project was approved, and on the 14th of September, we had the Ambassador of Japan visit Ikola community for project commissioning. It was a huge one for us.

Challenges faced

When we started our tuition-free school in 2015, our objective was to make school accessible for out of school children, in three years, we have been able to serve more than 200 pupils against our initial projection. Unfortunately, we have outgrown our school space. We hope to get a property of our own to build a bigger and more conducive school. We need funding to achieve this goal. Other challenges that we are faced with are: (a) Lack of Textbooks: Only 2% of the pupils have English and Mathematics textbooks while 98% do not have any of the recommended texts. Consequently, this makes teaching herculean, as children without textbooks may not be able to actively participate in the workbook and exercises illustrated in thereon (b) Food: many times we have had to make provision for children who come to school without breakfast nor school lunch. It is a difficult thing to expect a child to learn and learn well with an empty stomach.

Other projects and activities

Aside education sponsorship, we identify with children from poor homes who do not have basic educational items such as school bags, notebooks, stationaries, sandal, uniform etc, and we donate to them, accordingly. We do this annually, and this project is tagged “BAG-SWAP”. Usually, before the commencement of new academic session, we usually call out for neatly used school supplies and educational items from our friends off and on social media. This year, we had donations of neatly used notebooks, reading books, school bags, lunch boxes, clothing and water bottles that we were able to give out to children we do not have. We do this to motivate children towards learning.

Other activity include, “TEACHER APPRECIATION DAY”, this is done in commemoration of World Teachers Day, usually celebrated on 5th of October. This day is set apart to celebrate exceptional teachers from low cost schools and government owned schools in rural communities.

Greatest reward

The Yemisi Ransome-Kuti Leadership Award in 2017 presented during the 25th anniversary of the Nigerian Network of NGOs (NNNGO).

My organization in five years time

In five years, I see Street to School Initiative as a bigger institution with school branches in 5 other underprivileged communities in Lagos and beyond. I see Street to School Initiative in partnership with World Bank Africa, to execute child-centric projects to reduce the number of out of school children in Sub-Saharan Africa.

On giving up…

Yes, most of the times. Running an NGO, especially in Nigeria is overwhelming, then, running one without adequate funding is life threatening. These are times when sustainability plans fail, and there is nowhere to fall to than to look up unto God, who allow rules the affairs of men. Seriously, I don’t even understand why I am still in this sector. It has been draining however fulfilling to see the smiles from lives positively impacted.

My Inspiration

Every woman out there who is undaunted in their pursuit for excellence inspires me. I remember as a child, my favorite pages on any newspaper or magazines, are those pages where there are photographs of women leaders. I would look at them in admiration and silently wish that someday I would be on the pages of the newspaper too. ☺

Balancing the home and work front

This is something I am still learning how to do more efficiently and effectively.

I am a Woman of Rubies

The word ‘rubies’ was used in the Bible to describe something precious and of great value, same bible tells me that I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Literally, I am a woman of rubies, because the Bible tells me so. Just like Arnold Schwarzenegger said, I don’t pay attention to the rules, because nothing is impossible if I work hard.

Women in advocacy are not well appreciated…

I think that women in advocacy are not well appreciated as they ought to in this part of the world. Undoubtedly, it takes a lot of selflessness and painstaking commitment to champion a cause or policy.

We are hopeful for improvement, as the biggest room in the world is the room for improvement.

Former First Lady of US, Michelle Obama is the Cover Girl of the latest issue of ESSENCE.

A little Black girl from the South Side of Chicago grew up to become the FLOTUS and as you can imagine, a lot happened along the way.

She shares some White House confessions, opens up about finding your Barack and living free. In the December/January issue of ESSENCE, she’s talking about her career, motherhood, and marriage.

She says:

“Before anyone in Tennessee or Montana knew who Barack Obama was, I was a vice-president at a major hospital, juggling two little girls…I’m not going to lie: It wasn’t always easy for me.”

On being drawn to Barack, she says “From our very first conversations, he showed me that he wasn’t afraid to express his fears and doubts, or that he might not have all the answers. Just as important, I saw who he was not only in the way he treated me but in the way he interacted with others outside of our relationship. He showed me that he respected women by the way he treated his mother, his sisters, and his grandmother.”

 

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Nigerian author Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie was featured on the cover of the October 27 issue of Telegraph Magazine, where she discussed Nigeria, misogyny, and the #MeToo movement.

Chimamanda talked about losing faith in Nigeria after her father was kidnapped in 2015, how she feels he was kidnapped because of her.

She said:

It was because of me. That incident affected my father – it robbed him of something; there’s a distrust that he didn’t have before. He comes from a generation with a certain kind of integrity. For a long time he didn’t understand things like bribery – it just perplexed him. My father had given his everything – he got his PhD in the US and he had job offers there in the 1960s, but he was keen to come back to Nigeria. It was post-independence, everyone was very enthusiastic and my father spent his life teaching. I felt that Nigeria had failed him – for a man of his age to be thrown into the boot of a car …That incident broke my heart and it’s the first time I started to seriously question Nigeria.

The cover story is up on the Telegraph website, and you can read it here.

 

 

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Billboard’s 13th annual Women in Music event is set to hold on Dec. 6 in New York City and according to Billboard, Janelle Monáe is one of the people who will be honoured at the said event. Janelle Monáe will accept the trailblazer award.

The Trailblazer award is awarded to a female artist who acts as a music industry pioneer by using her platform to spotlight unheard voices and break ground for future generations of performers.

In the past decade, Monáe has worked to redefine how a black woman can be represented in popular culture. Her album Dirty Computer peaked at No. 6 on the Billboard 200 album chart, and the record’s sci-fi-inflected accompanying film project of the same name shows she has no limit in exercising her creativity in new ways.

 

 

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