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My step cousin was caught attempting to rape his uncle’s girlfriend’s daughter. My father + step mom decided to bring him into our home thinking a new environment would change him. He raped me every day after school my 6th grade year. They trusted him alone with me.

I told my father about a year and a half ago.. his response? “yea, okay, blame me for something I had zero knowledge of.”

My father was a pastor and my step cousin was a deacon in training. Being that I was a PK and sat up front,I would end up having to hold hands with him during alter call. I’d look over at him and he would smile. I cried during the rapes and he would laugh.

My step cousin was only in 8th grade by the way. This wasn’t a grown man. This was an 8th grade boy with a big full of scare tactics that would shove church bulletins down my throat while raping me in the church floor.

My step cousin and I rode the same school bus. One day, he ran to the door unlocked it and locked me out of the house in the rain. I stood there begging for him to let me in. He let me in when I promised to let him rape me.

When he unlocked the door I ran in as fast as I could and ran to my room. The only reason why his plan that day was messed up was because my step sister and his sister came home from school.

I told my ex step mother what happened around the same time that I told my father what happened. She apologized from the depths of her heart and let me know that if I need any help with anything paying for counseling or ever needed to talk that she was there.

I recently told my aunt who acted as a mother while growing up. While telling he, her jaw was on the floor and her eyes filled with tears. The next day, she told me that she cried herself to sleep and had nothing but nightmares. She said that she blames herself…

She said that she wish she would’ve known. She expressed her deepest sympathies for my pain. She did not blame me. She did not fuss. She understood. She loved me. She asked me if I needed any help, mentally. That’s what the fuck I’m talking about.

My aunt asked me if I had healed from it. She expressed to me that if I had not healed from it she would do everything in her power to help me heal. She has supported me and loved me even more ever since I told her what I went through.

She said “sometimes when women go through these things it takes them a long time to digest the pain that is heavy on their soul. I am glad that you felt safe enough to open up me. I love you more than you will ever know. Want some waffles?”

My aunt stood in as a mom for me, but only when my father would allow her to. She wanted custody of me growing up. However she did not know everything that I was going through.

I cried about it in the beginning,but then I became numb. So, I buried myself in my music. I was a choir geek. I cried using my voice. Every solo I had, I cried through my music. Music kept me sane and ultimately saved my life.

Why would I tell my father about my sexual assault when a year prior I told him I wanted to kill myself. I had recently lost both grand parents a month apart from each other & was being picked on by my 5th grade teacher. His response was ..

“Get the fuck up out my face with that stupid shit!! Don’t you ever come to me with no stupid shit like that again. You wanna kill yourself? I kill you if you come to me with some bullshit like that again. Get the hell up out my face.”

Why would I tell anyone else when my father used to tell me all the time “Don’t nobody care about your damn feelings. You don’t have feelings till you pay some damn bills”

I’m fully healed from my childhood. I just wanted y’all to see wtf goes on in the black RELIGIOUS community. They shame the women and feed the monsters.

 

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The Presidential candidate of the Allied Congress Party of Nigeria (ACPN) and former Minister of Education Obiageli “Oby” Ezekwesili has announced that she’s stepping down from the race.

She made this known in a series of tweets on Thursday morning. She wrote:

Following the reactions of Nigerian citizens at home and abroad to the 2019 Presidential Debate held on Saturday 19 January 2019, and after extensive consultations with leaders from various walks of life across the country over the past few days…

I have decided to step down from the presidential race and focus on helping to build a Coalition for a viable alternative to the #APCPDP in the 2019 general elections.

This coalition for a viable alternative has now more than ever before become an urgent mission for and on behalf of the citizenry.

Over the past three months, I have been in private extended talks with other candidates to make a coalition possible that would allow Nigerians to exercise choice without feeling helplessly saddled with the #APCPDP.

In doing so, I have not hesitated to offer my willingness to step down my candidacy in order to facilitate the emergence of a strong and viable alternative behind which Nigerians can line up in our collective search for a new beginning.

My commitment in this regard has been consistent and in consonance with my agreement, at the request of then aspirants under PACT in 2018, to supervise their internal selection process as an outside observer passionate about building this alternative force.

Despite disagreements within the Allied Congress Party of Nigeria on these and other issues, I have decided that it is now necessary to show by action and example my determination on this issue by stepping down my candidacy and focusing on building the coalition once and for all.

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Princess Shyngle has taken to Instagram page to shower praise on Nollywood actress, Toyin Abraham for standing by her side when she had a relapse.

The news of her alleged suicide attempt and hospital relapse broke the internet in November 2018.

In her IG post, she narrated how Toyin left her movie set in Ibadan to visit her in Lagos when the news broke that she was in the hospital.

“I had a relapse and got admitted last month in Lagos, this angel @toyin_abraham saw the news online left location and drove all the way from Ibadan to lekki immediately, rushed to the hospital just to see me and to make sure I was okay ❤️ toyin was literally in tears and was praying for me ❤️ @toyin_abraham I just want to say Thank you for being a big sis to me, thank you for always being there for me, thank you for guiding me, thank you for encouraging me and always putting a smile on my face ❤️❤️ I love you so much and I promise to never let you down @toyin_abraham ❤️ you’re definitely an angel sent from above to watch over me and protect me ❤️❤️ God bless you my gorgeous big sis ❤️❤️❤️ @toyin_abraham please help me thank this gorgeous angel for me Y’all ❤️❤️” she wrote.

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Hannah Beachler is an American Film production Designer who has worked on several movies like Creed, Moonlight, Black Panther and many other blockbusters.

Beachler who recently got nominated for her design direction on the superhero movie, Black Panther at the Academy Award (OSCARS) for Best Production Design is the first African-American production designer to be nominated in that category.

Black Panther which also got 7 nominations at the Academy Award made the highlight of Hannah Beachler’s career.

Below are some facts you should know about Hannah Beachler:

1. Beachler grew up in Centerville, Ohio and graduated from the University of Cincinnati, studying fashion design.

2. She was responsible for designing Front Street Gym that appears prominently in Creed in 2015.

3. Beachler is the first-ever female production designer of a Marvel film

4. She studied film Wright State University in Dayton, Ohio.

5. She designed Beyonce’s 2016 TV special & visual album, Lemonade.

6. Beachler first worked with Coogler on his first feature, 2013 indie Fruitvale Station, which went on to win awards including Sundance’s grand jury prize and the audience award.

7.Moonlight in 2016, Black Panther in 2018  and several other blockbusters.

 

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Two years after having injections to turn her into a black woman, German model Martina Big is talking about the procedure, saying she’s changed race.

She speaks on ITV‘s This Morning, joined by her husband Michael who is also taking steps to turn his skin dark.

She believes they’ll have black kids if they procreate.

“My children will be black. We are not having plans, but I am discussing with my doctor to see if my body is okay, will I be able to breastfeed, what the baby will look like,” she said.

She said she’s travelled to a few African countries to learn the culture, adding that right now, she relates better with people of African heritage than white people.

Martina went viral in 2017 after her before and after photos surfaced the internet.

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In a new report by Africa Property News, Lagos has been ranked the 4th wealthiest city in Africa, coming behind Johannesburg, Cape Town, and Cairo.

Lagos was valued at $108 billion, while the other Nigerian city on the list – Abuja – was valued at $13 billion.

The overview of the continent’s wealthiest cities is based on the The AfrAsia Bank Africa Wealth Report 2018. The overview “indicates where clusters of wealthy cities are developing across the continent, as well as showing a few more isolated locations of money aggregation.”

See the Top 10 in the overview below:

  1. Johannesburg (South Africa) –  $276 billion
  2. Cape Town (South Africa) – $155 billion
  3. Cairo (Egypt) – $140 billion
  4. Lagos (Nigeria) – $108 billion
  5. Durban (South Africa) – $55 billion
  6. Nairobi (Kenya) – $54 billion
  7. Luanda (Angola) – $49 billion
  8. Pretoria (South Africa) – $48 billion
  9. Casablanca (Morocco) – $42 billion
  10. Accra (Ghana) – $38 billion

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Lately, I have been very intrigued by how urbanization and the vast development we all are witnessing affect our mental health. I know that urbanization has some positive impacts but some of the impacts of this development come with negative effects like unemployment, immigration, change of family dynamic, crime, increased stress, poor social network etc.

 

Lolo Cynthia Is a public health specialist, sexuality educator and founder of the social enterprise LoloTalks, that employs all forms of media (online and offline) to create awareness and sustainable solutions to our contemporary social and health issues in Africa.  She also doubles as a documentary and talk show producer and lends her voice on issues regarding interpersonal relationships, sexuality, gender, and social issues through her YouTube channel LoloTalks and her blog.

Singer, Niniola has bought JAMB forms for 30 students, a gesture being carried out through her foundation “Adopt A Child’s Education”.

According to Niniola, buying JAMB Forms for 30 students was her way of `stepping into her late father’s shoes, a man who was known for his advocacy for standard education for every child’.

 

Niniola wrote on Instagram;

I promised to do more and Walk in my Late Dads shoes…
In continuation 2day I through my foundation @adoptachildseducationprovided 30 jamb forms for some students.
Lets Put some smile on the kids faces.

 

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Serena Williams has defeated World’s number 1 Simona Halep to reach the quarter-finals of the 2019 Australian Open.

Serena Williams, 37, sat out last year’s Australian Open after giving birth to her daughter months earlier and suffering health complications. Since returning to the tour, Williams has reached the past two Grand Slam finals, losing both.

On Monday, the mother-of-one outlasted Simona Halep at Melbourne Park and won the fourth round match with a 6-1 4-6 6-4 victory.

 

Serena Williams knocks out world

 

Speaking on court, Williams said:

It was a really intense match, some incredible points. I love playing tennis, I love this court and it’s really cool to be back out here playing.

I really needed to elevate my game and there’s a reason why. She’s a great player. I had to just play a little bit like I knew I could and I did, and I think hopefully that was the difference.

I’m such a fighter, I never give up. There’s definitely something that’s innate.

 

Serena will now make her way through to the quarter-final where she will meet Czech Karolina Pliskova.

 

 

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When Michelle Obama was in high school, a college counselor said she didn’t think the promising teen had what it took to get into Princeton University.

The former first lady details this pivotal experience in her new memoir, ” Becoming.”

Obama says that at the beginning of her senior year at Whitney M. Young High School, a Chicago magnet school, she was required to meet with a college counselor.

At the time, she had her sights set on the New Jersey Ivy League school because her older brother Craig was there.

But she got a blow when the counselor said it didn’t appear she was good enough to get in.

“‘I’m not sure,’ she said, giving me a perfunctory, patronizing smile, “that you’re Princeton material,'” Obama recalled the woman saying.

Obama said she can’t remember details about the woman her race or her age because she “deliberately and almost instantly blotted this experience out.”

She decided to disregard the advice and apply to Princeton anyway.

“I wasn’t going to let one person’s opinion dislodge everything I thought I knew about myself,” she said.

Instead, she “settled down and got back to work.”

Six or seven months later she got her acceptance letter in the mail.

“I never did stop in on the college counselor to tell her she’d been wrongthat I was Princeton material after all. It would have done nothing for either of us,” Michelle writes in the book.

She added: “And in the end, I hadn’t needed to show her anything. I was only showing myself.”

While Princeton initially intimidated her, by her sophomore year she learned that she was just as smart as everyone else there.

“I tried not to feel intimidated when classroom conversation was dominated by male students, which it often was,” she wrote. “Hearing them, I realized that they weren’t at all smarter than the rest of us. They were simply emboldened, floating on an ancient tide of superiority, buoyed by the fact that history had never told them anything different.”

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