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Fashion entrepreneur, Mocheddah, has taken to her IG page to recount how being an adult and entrepreneur in Nigeria makes her cry a lot. She posted the photo above on her IG page and wrote

This is me —

After a goooood cry ?, I had to wipe my tears , drink tea , get on the phone and get work done .

40% of my time is spent on the phone talking , I do not wish it so but it is , I’m either talking to staff , a supplier or trying to get logistic companies to “do their job “on time because customers need their orders .. .

Another 40% is spent on the field , in the sun buying materials I would need or on an okada trying to meet up with a delivery, ( I’ll post the picture soon ) 
The last 20% is what I have left for myself , family and other businesses I run … .

.It is HARD , I cry , I cry a lot ???.. .

that’s the only way you can survive as a Nigerian business owner … .

Do not let my Instagram slay pictures deceive you , being an ADULT is HARD work, being an entrepreneur is even HARDER .. .

If you must chop you must work 
On the brighter side God rewards hard work … so you will always reap what you have sewn .. I’m writing this to let someone out there know it’s hard for me too … but we will survive .. PS- try drinking green tea – it makes it easier ??

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Things are looking up, thankfully so.

Attention is being drawn to cliche… attitudes we erstwhile thought patriarchal though we know they are downright unacceptable.

I wish though that focal lenses would beam on coercive control, not only that, recognize it as a criminal offense and treat it as such.

We grew up in the same neighborhood oh, how sweet she was. She was that person that knew and called everyone by their middle names, generously dishing out mouthfuls of smiles as her eyes thinned from a kindness that wells from within.

”I think Lois has her number, I will check. But you will be in luck if she picks. She’s only allowed her phone at certain times during the day”

This was the response I got when I allowed my mind travel down memory lane and I felt that longing, the one that suggests I have missed her and I made attempts to reach out.

A frown burrowed. What does he mean by ‘allow’. That choice of word could have been considered more carefully I thought… too delicate to use that loosely.

Then I dug further, she’s also not ‘allowed’ to work. She’s mothering her kids (and her partner) round the clock.

Not too many people have her number, not when she’s constantly changing it. Oh! Stressful!

This, my friend is happening in 2019 and I ask myself, are we still so gullible to interpret deliberate isolation, deprivation of independence as love… at the worst, we have termed it obsession.

Brrrh! We surely should start calling a spade exactly what it is, A SPADE!

It is no longer news that domestic abuse is not always physical. When a persons independence is being sabotaged and threatened by their partners (as a result of previously deprived rights) that, is coercive control.

Such a relationship is hard to exit!

The call is to urgently appraise your situation to identify any trends as those (there are a lot more) above.

And, to raise awareness on the pressing need to not only treat coercive control as a criminal offense but to encourage survivors speak up for victims.

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For the very first time in Nigeria’s 59-year history, the signature of a woman, Priscilla Ekwere Eleje, goes on the naira. 

Eleje, who has been acting director of currency and operations at the Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN), has been confirmed substantive director.

She is the first female director of currency in the history of the bank, and her signature has been appended on the naira — breaking another glass ceiling.

Ladi Kwali, Nigeria’s foremost potter, is the only woman on the naira, taking a spot at the back of the N20 note.

Insiders at CBN told TheCable that the Godwin Emefiele, the governor of the bank, has been working to ensure more women come to the table.

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Since the launch of Fenty Beauty in 2017, every product that they’ve released has had people rushing to the nearest Sephora in hopes that it doesn’t sell out. They’ve conquered the beauty world in terms of inclusivity and have won hearts with their amazing branding and marketing campaigns. Now they are set to conquer the world of skin care and we are so stoked.

The details have yet to be announced, but here’s what we know so far: According to Page Six, “Fenty Skin” was officially listed as a trademark on the United States Patent and Trademark Office’s website as of March 25, 2019 (i.e. less than a month ago). You might remember that there were rumors of a Fenty skin-care line coming in September of 2017 after a fan found items like creams, lotions, gels, and cleansers, registered under “House of Fenty.” But besides the brand’s best-selling Body Lava, we’ve yet to see other complexion-care products from Fenty.

According to Allure, Since then, trademarks have been filed under the new “Fenty Skin” label, including “medicated and non-medicated skincare, soap, body care and personal care products (excluding color cosmetics, perfume and other fragrance-only products), and related accessories such as kits, tools and applicators.”

Iconic music star Aretha Franklin has been posthumously awarded a Pulitzer Prize for her contribution to American music and culture.

Aretha, who passed away in August 2018 at age 76 after a battle with pancreatic cancer, was honored with the Pulitzer Prize Special Citation.

Aretha Franklin is now the first individual woman to receive a special citation prize, which was first awarded in 1930.

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As Dapo Abiodun prepares to take oath of office in a few weeks time as Ogun state governor, the billionaire businessman has released the names of the individuals who will be working in his economic transition committee.

Rapper Olamide, and actress Eniola Badmus were named as part of the Commerce and Industry sub-committee by the incoming governor.

Abiodun made the announcement on Instagram on Monday. See below (swipe left):

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It’s easy to be impressed with accomplishments of Temi Marcella Awogboro and you ought to be: 1st class degree from University of Cambridge, MBA from Stanford Graduate School of Business, Future Awards Africa Prize for Professional Service, the Goldman Sachs Global Leader’s Award, African Leadership Initiative Tutu Fellow and World Economic Forum Global Shaper.

Now as director of Arbraaj Group, she has committed nearly US$500 million in private partnership capital across strategic sectors in Africa in a bid to tackle some of the most pressing global challenges.But underneath it all is someone who is driven, focused, wise and self-aware. She is a living example that you can generate wealth and give back as she has done through many initiatives including co-founding Kairos Angels, an early stage investment syndicate aiming to transform Africa by partnering with visionary entrepreneurs to build scalable and sustainable businesses.

Through her integrity and generosity of time and energy, Awogboro proves herself to be a good example not just for women but for men too. Perhaps it is these inner qualities we should be impressed with.

You have lived and worked across four continents and travelled much of the globe. What impression or impact has this made on you as a person?
It has been a thoroughly enriching and rewarding journey having had the opportunity to live and work in Europe, The Middle East, The US and Africa and the opportunity to travel much of the globe. In my view leadership skills are becoming one of the most valuable assets in an ever-increasingly fast paced global world. I am always seeking to evolve into a greater version of myself and I find travel gives me opportunities for growth, be it in risk-taking, learning to adapt, building resilience and honing my problem-solving skills.

Historically, encounters between differing tribes, nations, and cultures have driven innovation and fuelled the imagination. The internet and worldwide travel options have taken us to new global heights more rapidly than in generations past.I believe entrepreneurs ready for this future of increased connection will no doubt become leaders of the movement, especially if they prepare their teams now to embrace the change.

What is your advice for the upcoming generation in their pursuit for excellence considering the rut in Nigeria youth circle?
This historical moment calls for the African youth to step up and take leadership to create the future they so deeply desire. Africa’s youth leaders must harness the power of technology, information and networks to build the institutions and infrastructure that speaks to their ideals and vision for the future. Failing to do so will result in the continent being left behind by the technological revolution, further increasing the gap with the rest of the world.

In turn current African leaders must harness and unleash the potential of its burgeoning youth by addressing the barriers which inhibit the emergence of young leaders and their ability to influence the transformation of the continent. As such, there is a need to democratize the leadership development process in Africa. Formal and informal leaderships across all levels in society cannot be a luxury afforded only to the elite, it needs to be an inclusive process through the propagation of inclusive political and economic structures.

Are there any initiatives for young people to improve their skills?
I sit on the board of generation Enterprise (GEN), our mission is to tackle the skills gap that traps young people in poverty. With its portfolio of “Social Mobility Enterprises,” GEN builds businesses that take youth from apprentice to manager to equity owner. An example is Zest Concierge Services, a premium office and home cleaning and repair company with major Nigerian technology clients, run entirely by youth from communities like Makoko.

What are your plans for the girl child in Nigeria?
I am a firm believer in the centrality of education for girls, as a critical tool for economic progress. Rapid socio-economic development of a nation has been observed to depend on the calibre of women and their education in that country. Educating girls is known to be the basis for sound economic and social development, bestowing upon them a disposition for a lifelong acquisition of knowledge, values, attitudes, competence and skills.

In order for Nigerian women to perform to their full potential, imperialist male-gender privilege, biased traditional and religious beliefs impeding women’s education must be de-emphasised in Nigerian society. I am an active advocate for women in education in Nigeria and I leverage my access to leading global institutions to encourage and agitate in favour of women seeking more ways to educate themselves. As Africa Advisory Board of Save the Children, I hope to support the initiatives that touch the lives of the girl child. In addition, I continue to mentor and engage through school visits.

You are in your thirties and have already achieved so much but do you sometimes feel under pressure as a woman to do more?
I do feel under this pressure, born of outsized expectations at work and at home and go through days where you feel you are not able to give the best of you to any one dimension – after all energy too has its limits. Nobody has it all in the way we currently define it.

For all of us, life requires trade-offs and choices. I think it is important we redefine success in more human terms rather than the fantasy of women — or men — that have it all. In my view, real success — the true definition of having it all — is getting clarity on what success means for you individually and putting your energies there.

Do you think Nigerian women are ready to take up more roles in the political space?
Women are ready and have been ready. Religious and cultural norms are applied to constrain women and these are entrenched further through policies and laws that institutionalise discrimination against women. Until we address these ‘intangible’ issues head on women will continue to be under-represented in society.

How do you think investments in the female gender should be approached?
It is important in my view that capital allocators are more intentional about overcoming inherent biases towards those who are under-represented and under-served by existing entrepreneurial structures and systems. Kairos Angels does not approach its investments with a gender lens per se but is doing its part in addressing some of these issues. Today, 50% of the Kairos portfolio is invested in businesses with female sole founders at the helm.

What do you consider your greatest achievement?
I don’t have a single greatest achievement. Every milestone of success has been part of the journey. Perhaps if you ask me today, my greatest source of pride is the blessing of raising a daughter and channeling my love and positivity into her. Becoming a mother has sharpened my focus, renewed my hunger to be more, and do more because I have someone who I come home to everyday that looks up to me as her hero and role model.

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Media mogul Oprah Winfrey is partnering with Apple” to produce original content including documentaries and a book club to a wider audience in Apple TV Plus, the tech company’s upcoming video-streaming service.

In March 2019, Apple launched the new Apple TV Plus without giving away many details on how it would exactly work. Joining the event is Oprah with other A-list celebrities such as Reese Witherspoon, Jennifer Aniston, Jason Momoa, Steven Spielberg, among others.

“They’re in a billion pockets, y’all. A billion pockets,” Oprah pointed out referring to the number of iPhones being used around the world where the new Apple TV Plus will come pre-installed. That’s aside from the other Apple devices as well as third-party devices like Roku and Amazon Fire TV where it will also be available.

In line with that, Oprah announced she has two exclusive documentaries set to be launched on Apple TV Plus. One is entitled Toxic Labor which will tackle the effects of sexual harassment in the workplace and the other one yet untitled multi-part documentary will be about mental health.

Oprah is also planning to start a new version of her book club where Apple users around the world can watch her interviews with authors. She claims it will be “the biggest, most vibrant, the most stimulating book club on the planet.”

“I am proud to be a part of this platform where I can connect with people around the world to create positive change,” Oprah said.

Tyla-Simone Crayton, a 15-year old home-schooled teen entrepreneur from Houston, Texas, is the CEO of Sienna Sauce. Known as the Sauce Boss, she created the recipe for the uniquely-flavored sauce when she was just 8-years old. Now, she is selling the award-winning sauce online and through multiple distributors and she earns $8,000 a month!


Tyla-Simone, who grew up in New York, has always loved the hot sauce at her favorite chicken wings spot in the city. Since the restaurant closed, she tried to replicate the taste of the sauce. She was just 8 years old then and her mother, Monique Crayton, was initially hesitant about the idea. But when she tried to serve the sauce to their friends and neighbors, it became an instant hit!

Since then, Tyla-Simone and her mom have decided to sell the sauce in bottles. Her mother also quit her job earlier this year to be more dedicated to helping her daughter, who is home-schooled, to run and manage the company.

“My sauce has the potential to be even greater than ketchup,” Tyla-Simone told SWNS. “Not only does it taste great, but it’s healthy because it is gluten-free and high-fructose corn syrup free.”

Now based in Texas, Sienna Sauce comes in three flavors: lemon pepper, spicy, and tangy. They have 22 distributors and is set to hit the supermarkets. They have now been reportedly raking in up to $8,000 a month. Tyla-Simone also hopes someday her sauce will be sold in packets at fast-food chains.

“It’s exciting and scary at times and it is stressful to balance my business and going to school,” Tyla-Simone said. “I love doing it and I wouldn’t trade it for the world. People should know that it is never too early to start.”

For more information about Sienna Sauce and/or to order online, visit www.siennasauce.com or follow her on Instagram @CEOsauceboss

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Whenever you find yourself in a fearful situation, do not fret, do not be quiet, have an answer for it by taking the right actions

Fear is the deadliest emotion anyone can experience. This negative emotion does not only cripple people from taking meaningful steps to better their lives, but it also hinders them from enjoying the best things in life. Fear is clearly a distraction from living your purpose on earth. It is a great killer, by this I mean killer of dreams. 

But how does fear come?
Fear comes in different ways. This can be either through an external source or from internal sources. Below is a list of how fear comes:

People
Have you ever noticed that it is so easy for people to not believe in you, your dreams and your goals? Simply put, it is easier for them to discourage than to encourage one. Many times, what people communicate to us is what actually puts fear in us, and interestingly, they seldom know when they are doing this. It might just be out of sheer concern. And if we continue paying attention to what these people say and do to us, we might never have the courage to achieve our goals.

Fear comes also from the kind of people we surround ourselves with. Some people only know how to communicate impossibility. They will find every means to discourage you, instill fear in you, because what you are attempting to do is something they have never done before. They believe: Why attempt to fly like an eagle when you can join them to walk on feet?

Your Inner Self
Another way fear can come is from us ourselves. This is how it happens:

When you have an idea on how to better humanity, fear comes in subtle ways and tells you why you should never take a step on that idea. And the more you gave in to this emotion, the more you get demoralized achieving it.

Past Experiences
Fear can also be an offshoot from past experience. Many times, people do not set all out to be afraid of things, but tracing back to past disappointments and failures, this terrible emotion can come into play.

Having highlighted some ways through which fear can come, the list below provides simple ways through which you can deal with fear:

Dissociate from Pessimistic People
One very useful thing to regularly do is to evaluate the people in your life and identify the roles they play. Some people are cheerleaders, others are energy drainers. The honest truth is that you don’t need everybody on your team, neither do you need everybody to believe in you. Some people don’t just see things the way you do. Stop dragging along people who drain your energy with doubts and fear. Some people just won’t get it.

Surround Yourself with Go-getters
You know the saying: Show me your friend and I will tell you who you are. Well, here is an addition to it: Show me your friend and I will tell you the direction at which your life is headed.

If you want to practically deal with fear all day, you need to surround yourself with “ready to do” changemakers. This issue of surrounding yourself with positive people is non-negotiable. You need people around you who are not afraid to dare the status quo to do the impossible.

Believe in Yourself
You know why most people never get ahead in life? They do not have that self-belief in themselves or their vision. Having self-belief is the fundamental trust you need to achieve anything in life. The next time you want to achieve a goal:

  • You need to believe it can be done.
  • Afterwards, believe it will be done.
  • And then, believe it will be done by you.

Let go of the Past
The past will forever remain the past, and you should never allow it deter you from reaching into the future. There is always so much more you can achieve, so much that you can do with your life, skills and energy. The fact that you made a mistake in the past should not stop you from reaching out for more things. Simply look away from the past and look forward.

Take Actions
There is no better way of dealing with fear than taking action. Get past the ideation phase, where it feels like that which you want to achieve may not possible. Start by taking a step on that idea, even if it’s just baby steps. Continue taking action even when you feel like giving up, and in no time, you would have moved past all the negative fearful emotions.

In conclusion, always remember that fear comes to everyone at some point or the other in life. But the way we respond to this emotion is what will count in the long run. Whenever you find yourself in a fearful situation, do not fret, do not be quiet, have an answer for it by taking the right actions.

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