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About four weeks ago, I was called to serve my country; Nigeria. That three weeks experience in Ondo State Orientation Camp Ikare – Akoko was indeed a thrilling one.

I had the opportunity to serve as the flag bearer to escort Mr. Governor and as the Director of Socials of my platoon. Holding this position in camp was a whole lot especially as almost every night rolled by with social activities and the performance of my platoon in various social activities depended on me. I employed the use of Democratic, Transformational and Laissez-Faire styles of leadership which helped to bring several individuals with cultural diversities and upbringings to come together and achieve set goals. The experience also exposed to a greater level of inter-personal skills.

Yes, i indeed worked hard and played hard. At the end of the orientation camp, i was posted to the Ondo State Civil Service Commission. I’m looking forward to an innovative and empowering service year and beyond.

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On January 1, 2020, Ogunbiyi announced her resumption and vision for her new appointment and efforts to achieve the Sustenable Development Goals (SDG7) in its last decade.

Mrs Damilola Ogunbiyi was appointed as the new Special Representative for Sustainable Energy for All and Co-Chair of United Nations-Energy by the UN Secretary General António Guterres on  October 29, 2019.

According to Sustainable Energy For All, Before joining SEforALL, Damilola Ogunbiyi was the first female Managing Director of the Nigerian Rural Electrification Agency and responsible for successfully negotiating within 18 months the Nigerian Electrification Project which is a USD 550m facility (World Bank USD 350m and AfDB USD 200m) to rapidly construct solar mini-grids and deploy solar home systems across Nigeria. She was also responsible for the Energizing Education Programme which will provide uninterrupted electricity to 37 federal universities and seven teaching hospitals through off-grid captive power.

Mrs. Ogunbiyi has good interest in mentoring and empowering young people through skills acquisitions. She also created the Lagos State Energy Academy to help build the capacity of young people in renewable energy technology.

Vanguard Nigeria cited that Her appointment comes as the world is about to enter the final decade to achieve Sustainable Development Goal 7 (SDG7) – access to affordable, reliable, sustainable and modern energy for all by 2030. SEforALL is an international organization, headquartered in Vienna, Austria, that is dedicated to helping the world achieve SDG7 and Paris Agreement targets.

Women of Rubies say Congratulation to Mrs Ogunbiyi on her exalted position.

Talking to someone about our hurting experience does a lot of good to our healing. Lady Gaga shares to Oprah Winfrey in an interview tagged ‘2020 Vision: Your Life in Focus’ about her mental health struggles. She talked about being raped repeatedly at 19.

The singer revealed that she did not have a therapist, or doctor to help with her trauma. And so it got worse because, it was there all along. At the peak of her career all she could do was travel all over the world. “I never dealt with it and then all of a sudden, I started to experience this incredible pain throughout my entire body that mimicked, actually, the illness I felt after I was raped,” she said.

The pain was a ‘trauma response’ according to her. She has also had struggles with fibromyalgia, which she described as a chronic pain condition which makes your body hurt through your brain. “What’s interesting about it is that I’ve found through neuropsych research and my relationship with my doctors that fibromyalgia can be treated through mental health therapy. And mental health should be treated as a medical condition. It should not be ignored.”

She perfectly understands now the importance of accessing a mental health care. “Not everyone has the access to these things and not everybody has money for these things and i want the money for it, I want the best doctors in the world,” she shared. “Mental health is a crisis”.

Although she has perfectly accepted everything that has happen to her, and believes it all happened for a reason.”And i think it happened because God was saying to me, I’m going to show you pain and then you’re going to help other people who are in pain because you’re going to understand it”. She added, Now I’m in problem solving mode!.”

Talking to someone about our hurting experience does a lot of good to our healing. Lady Gaga shares to Oprah Winfrey in an interview tagged ‘2020 Vision: Your Life in Focus’ about her mental health struggles. She talked about being raped repeatedly at 19.

Watch this adorable of them both:

Whatever sexual assaults we have had, through will do us better if we speak out and let it go out of our soul. Keeping it in, eats deep into us. We can use wise words and counsel from therapists to counter the effects.

Every woman with a family to care for and a career would have to deal with sleep deprivation at one point  or the other. But while this is certain, making sure to create a more reasonable sleep schedule would help us perform better.

Here are few thing lack of sleep can do to your health:

It Ages Your Skin

Ever heard of a something called ‘beauty sleep’?, that is because getting a good night sleep helps your skin to rejuvenate and take out toxin build-ups. You would appear less attractive as your skin tends to have a dullness, and there are increased tendencies to having wrinkles and blemishes faster than mothers or single women who tend to sleep more.

It Reduces Your Sex Drive

Some sleep specialist report lower libido for both men and women who lack a proper sleeping regime this may be due to fatigue, sleepiness and some other factors.

Your Physical Heath Is at  Risk

Lack of sleep is linked to obesity, infertility, heart attack, stroke, diabetes and more. Our immune systems are weakened making it easier to be vulnerably to diseases. A clinical study in Mayo Clinic revealed that sleep deprived individuals ate more than those who are not.

You would have Lesser Focus 

Your effectiveness to remember is reduced and you will have trouble staying focused. According to Arianna Huffingthon when you are sleep deprived, you are easily more distracted and irritable and struggle to process basic information.

Sleep is a basic need for our health, even a short 20 minutes afternoon nap likely when the kids are in school especially for homeworking moms. And if you have a busy career getting the kids early to bed would help you not to stay up so late. You could likely hit up the 8 hour recommended daily sleep routine if you do well to plan it. With this you can have a more productive lifestyle moms!.

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Abimbola talks about her resolution for the new  year and how she is set to make the best out of it. ‘If you don’t like something about yourself in 2020 fix it’ she said. The media personality listed some positive thoughts to live by for a more productive year.

Indeed, 2020 is a year to be intentional about. She wants us to know how important our mental health is.

You should get yourself some self love because you deserve it. She said ‘I would take time out to get a massage if i want to’.  Enjoy the vblog below of all she has spoken:

Stephanie Jester may be just as busy as her Grammy Award-winning rapper and philanthropist son Future. She runs multiple businesses and nonprofits, which include a real estate company for the last 10 years. She is also co-founder of her son’s The FreeWishes Foundation. Her entrepreneurship endeavors and business prowess earned her the 2019 Good Samaritan Pink Award as well as being honored at the Economic Empowerment Initiative.

In an interview with BLACK ENTERPRISE, Jester says her faith is at the center of all she does when it comes to managing her businesses, engaging in philanthropist efforts, or mentoring women.

Stephanie Jester

Image: Kisha Scott (GAME)

Black Enterprise: What gets you up in the morning to carry out your duties as an entrepreneur?

Jester: My inner drive. I want to see more, serve more, and be a better me. I get up in the morning because I want to remove the generational curse of deficiency in the lives of my family and friends. According to scripture, “A good person leaves an inheritance for their children’s children.”

BE: How has your son’s success influenced your business dealings? 

Future is an established recording executive and businessman. His successful career has provided an opportunity for me to reach beyond real estate to a diverse audience, allowing me to reach millions of people and opening many doors far beyond my imagination. The FreeWishes Foundation, where I am the co-founder, and EmpowHER, where I am the CEO, are examples of this opportunity. Through the foundation, I am involved in nurturing lives and serving the community through various activations. The foundation’s mission is to deliver a message of hope, perseverance, and resilience to our community by lending support and making dreams a reality for youth and seniors. 

BE: How does your passion and faith help lead you to the decisions you make as an executive?

Before I make an important decision, I dedicate time to pray and meditate. Quiet time or prayer time is required for all major deals and negotiations. Oftentimes, passion and faith do not align, so I have the tendency to lean more toward faith because it activates my spirit. Oftentimes, passion will persuade you to make a decision based on your emotions. Thus far, faith has never failed me.

BE: You have a hand in many business decisions for the companies you are involved with. Which position is the most challenging and which one is the easiest to do in terms of making things run smoothly? 

InTouch Property, my real estate, and property management company run efficiently, like a well- oiled machine, because it has been established for over a decade. The most challenging business is Freebandz Touring, because as a woman and a minority, in a male-dominant industry… there have been plenty of obstacles. It is important to solidify your position and stay committed.

BE: Are there any future projects in the works that you’d like to talk about?

EmpowHer (although it’s not a new endeavor) it’s my primary initiative for 2020. It evolved from my innate ability to truly elevate, connect, and help women become their best selves emotionally, mentally and physically. Oftentimes, as women, we are pulled in many different directions, being wives, mothers, sisters, girlfriends, and successful businesswomen, that we neglect to take time to nurture our own well being. I wanted to create a space and outlet that significantly supported women in ways that made an impact on their overall self-development. It is important to thrive from within to live a healthy and balanced life. Creating this strong foundation and balance for women… is the goal of EmpowHer. This is my passion and I pray that it becomes an enormous platform for women wanting to live their best lives.

BE: What advice or suggestions would you give to someone who wants to become an entrepreneur?

First, you have to believe in yourself and be passionate about your endeavor. You have to understand that every great business involves sacrifice and be prepared to lose before you win. Next, understand that sometimes it will be more work than play. If you continue on the path and hold fast to faith and hope, your rewards will be plentiful. Sometimes, you will not see the return on your investment right away, but you have to understand when things look bleak, you must be disciplined, consistent, and self-motivated. The return on your investment will come. 

BE: If there is anything you could do over again when it comes to any business dealings, what would you change and why?

There is absolutely nothing I would change. I appreciate all the life lessons, late nights, quiet and prayer times, curveballs and everything else involved in building my business empire… a LEGACY for my family.

Tania shares why she never publicly spoke about her endometriosis, the struggles before she found out, the day she was diagnosed and everything in-between.

She says “I hope by sharing my story I encourage someone. Making this decision to share this wasn’t easy because I am opening up to my personal struggles but I believe its bigger than me and it is more important to encourage one another and share our battles”.

Watch the vlog below.

 

 

DEFINE what success looks like personally. Set goals and monitor how you are doing. Take concrete actions to achieve them daily, monthly and yearly.

REMEMBER that your values are the foundations of life. Use them as your compass. My values are integrity, compassion and empathy.

TAKE complete responsibility for your life. Jim Rohn reminds us that you have to do your push-ups yourself.

EXCELLENCE should always be your mantra. It is one way to eliminate biases.

INVEST in yourself. Most successful people are voracious readers. Curious minds, and live a life of learning everyday.

COURAGE is key. When women take risks, they are usually well thought out. Do it even if you are afraid.

SEEK help early and expand your network

A POSITIVE ATTITUDE is key. Enjoy life, Have fun and be passionate. Keep your perspective even when you feel that things are not working out as they should.

FAIL FORWARD In fact, I have learnt what people consider a failure is usually a ‘a course correction’ in order to catapult you to greater success.

PAY IT FORWARD There is so much to do to make the world a better place. Your generosity and contribution to society should be your legacy.

Aruna Oteh was the former Vice President and Treasurer World Bank, prior to joining the bank she was the Directir Deneral of the Security and Exchange Commission (SEC), in Nigeria from 2010-2015.

She has served in several governmental institutions, and is known for her ability to deliver excellently well. She was also recently named the 2018 Ai Global Instituional Investment Personality of the Year.

She is currently an academic scholar at St. Anthony’s College, Oxford University, and an executive-in-residence at Said Business School.

Truly, she is a woman of excellence with a quest for modern knowledge.

Despite being born into slavery and enduring over a century of discrimination, Mary Hardway Walker managed to accomplish an extraordinary feat. At 116 years old, she learned to read.

Walker was born in Union Springs, Alabama, in 1848 and lived in bondage until she was freed at the age of 15 following the passing of the Emancipation Proclamation in 1863. By age 20, she was married and had her first child. By age 68, she had worked several jobs, including cooking, cleaning, babysitting, and selling sandwiches to raise money for her church. Then in 1917, Walker and her family moved to Chattanooga, Tennessee. By 114, all three of her children and husband died. She, however, kept on living.

In 1963, she enrolled in the Chattanooga Area Literacy Movement (CALM) where she was taught by a volunteer teacher named Helen Kelly. She attended a one-hour class two nights a week for more than a year, where she learned to read, write, add, and subtract, reported WRCB-TV.

Walker’s perseverance and determination earned her a number of honors and accolades, including the key to the city of Chattanooga. She was also certified as the nation’s oldest student by the U.S. Department of Health, Education, and Welfare and named as Chattanooga’s Ambassador of Goodwill twice. Furthermore, she received recognition from two U.S. presidents, dignitaries from across the country and Canada, and even an airplane ride in 1966. Following her passing in 1969, the city of Chattanooga renamed her retirement home after her and erected a memorial to commemorate her life.

Walker’s remarkable story is detailed in a new children’s book titled The Oldest Student: How Mary Walker Learned to Read (Schwartz and Wade Books), written by Rita Lorraine Hubbard and illustrated by Oge Mora. Geared toward children between ages 4 and 8, the book highlights her inspirational life, which spanned from the Civil War to the civil rights movement.

The Oldest Student

(Courtesy of Random House Children’s Books)

“I learned about Mary Walker on a class field trip when I was in 4th or 5th grade, and I always wondered why she waited so long to learn to read,” Hubbard told BLACK ENTERPRISE in an email. Years later, Hubbard rediscovered Walker while researching for her first book, African Americans of Chattanooga (The History Press, 2008). “I began some in-depth research. I discovered some interesting tidbits,” she continued. “The more I learned about Mary, the more I felt that children and adults could benefit from reading about someone who believed ‘it’s never too late to pursue your dreams’.”

Hubbard, who has penned award-winning books for both children and adults, said that she wanted to tell Walker’s story in picture book form in order to engage young readers with history. However, she also aims to inspire people of all ages “who think it’s too late” to pursue a dream. “if Mary could do it at age 114 (and succeed at age 116), so can they,” she said.

According to her website, Hubbard originally wrote The Oldest Student in 2016 before it was acquired by Random House. The book is slated for publication Jan. 7, 2020.

 

Credit : Black Enterprise

A healthy skin is  always looking soft and it glows even visibly for all to see. Some of the simple skin routine to do are often been overlooked. As we already know, the harmattan strips moisture from the air. Therefore below are some simple easy tips that can help you manage this season comfortably:

Use Mild Wash Products

Harsh soaps containing lots of processed chemicals strip oils from our skin, you should do well to always look out for what your product  contains, for example the sodium lauryl sulfate SLS is the main forming ingredients for soap and shampoo. This takes out healthy oils your skin actually need for its protection.

Oil Bath

One of the ways to help your skin is to is to keep it hydrated as much as possible and oil and water is one of the key ways. If you cannot find a soap that contains oil as part part of its ingredients you can drip some olive oil or any oil of your choice into your bath water. Oils helps break down dirt from our skin without much pressure.

Dont Deep Cleanse

After a shower pat your skin lightly, do not pat dry, leave some water visibly on your skin, this would help your skin seal in moisture as you quickly apply your moisturising lotion.

Massage

Apply your oil or lotion and massage all over your body for about 2 minutes, this ensures the oil gets deeply absorbed into your skin and not at surface level. It would also encourage blood flows to the right places for a better complexion and not dull looking skin. However, this also combats dryness on through out the day.

These simple tips should not be overlooked because, they are the base of our skincare morning routine which would guarantee that hydrating glow. However drinking alot of water, staying out of the sun and applying a sunscreen are also not to be ignored.

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