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Many women look forward to being pregnant, having a beautiful baby and being a great mum, but sometimes, the process may not be how it’s imagined.

Titilayo Medunoye started her company Milky Express, following a personal experience with lactation.

After her wedding, she looked forward to getting pregnant, having a beautiful baby and being a great mum. All that happened, but the process wasn’t what she had imagined.

After the birth of her daughter in 2015, she had problems lactating – she did not lactate for 3 months. This led her into depression. She was in the U.S at the time, and met with a lactation specialist and things began to turn around. She began breastfeeding her baby afterwards.

Even after returning to Nigeria, she spent a lot of resources importing lactation products as there was no company producing such in Nigeria.

She decided to do something. She founded Milky Express out of love for babies and their welfare.

“The company focuses on raising the next generation of healthy strong children by providing adequate care and support to their mothers during the breastfeeding period,” it says on its website.

Titilayo also received training from Lactation Education Resources.

Milky Express produces lactation cookies, teas and shakes and also offers support in terms of consultation.

Milky Express also provides advisory services for suitable lactation products, as well as counselling for mothers going through post-partum depression.

Titilayo holds a BA in Economics from Nkwame Nkrumah University of Science and Technology.

We celebrate Titilayo for overcoming a personal struggle and is now working to make sure no woman goes through the same as well as helping others who are facing similar challenges, overcome them

Source: Bellanaija

According to Sahara reporters, sources at the Dakolo residence said the policemen, numbering three, were trying to force them (Dakolos) to go to Abuja against their will.

Police officers are currently at the Lagos residence of popular Nigerian musician, Timi Dakolo, and his wife, Busola Dakolo.

The officers came in a van with number plate BR932KSF.

They ask Busola Dakolo to recant confession against Fatoyinbo by signing document, the men are harassing the Dakolos and trying to force them to sign a document from the Inspector General of Police, Mohammed Adamu, stating that the confession made by Busola is targeted at tarnishing the image of Biodun Fatoyinbo, Pastor Commonwealth of Zion Assembly in Abuja, a move the Dakolo’s are vehemently resisting.

Details later…..

 

Whatever is worth doing at all is worth doing well, That’s the Rose Akoh Story, Populary known as the “Okpehe woman”, Rose is a content developer and civil servant. The 35-year-old entrepreneur and Kogi State indigene recently launched her local spice brand Chide’s Spice, powdered Okpehe (Prosopis Africana). The Sociology and Business Administration graduate from the Universiy of Abuja, shares her entrepreneurial journey and the inspiration behind her brand with me in this inspiring interview.

Childhood Influence
All that I am today, and will be tomorrow would be hugely Influenced by my upbringing. I was privileged to have had a father who could see the future, he knew the importance of quality education, independence, and enlightenment, and he did all he could to ensure that I and my siblings had all of that and more.

Being creative and innovative was his forte, and he’d always want you to be on your toes doing one good and productive thing or the other.

He instilled discipline and the fear of God in us. Even though because of work he lived in other states different from where we settled, his authority and influence was so huge you’d think he lived with us daily. My father was a great man, I wish he was here to do this with me, he was a great historian, and I would have gotten alot of insights from him. But he is no more. Powdered okpehe came to be because of who he nurtured me to be.

Inspiration behind my Okpehe brand
The major inspiration is to make it’s handling and usage very easy.Most people who know okpehe, know that its final form is either round balls, or rectangular shapes. This is usually very hard to pound, and does not properly dissolve well in food. Drying it properly and grinding into a final powder, does not only allow for its easy and comfortable usage, it also makes it easy for one to move around with.

Okpehe naturally has a very strong smell because of its fermentation process. But this is hugely contained with my kind of packaging. Until you open the pouch or bottles, you may never perceive anything. I simply provided an easy way of using the spice, and a more comfortable way of carrying it around. Also, this is an attempt to promote an age long important food condiment. Hence the slang “okpehe to the world”

Being a civil servant and Entrepreneur
This doesn’t affect my work in anyway, as I am still very punctual at work. Even before I ventured into this production, I engage in other activities once I close from work at 4pm.

Also, the raw material is sourced and processed by my mother, Mrs. Grace Akoh, she does this in another state different from the one I live in, I only supervise the packaging, and sometimes distribution, because I have workers who I may only have to speak to on the phone to get things done. I love my Job, and I’m optimistic about the potentials it holds.

Reception so far
It has been overwhelming. I’m yet to meet anybody who has any complaint about the product. All the reviews I’ve gotten have been fantastic. Anybody who sees it starts saying, “Why didn’t I think of this? It’s so good.” Everyone has something positive to say about it. Even those who don’t know about it are asking what okpehe is, and I get to explain to them, and how organic it is. It has been accepted really well, and it’s translating in the demands we’ve been getting.

My business in 5 years
I see it doing very well because it’s a genius idea. I went to an office and the lady was making it sound like I invented the spice itself, and not the processing I did. The credit she gave me for it was incredible. I honestly see it employing so many people and I’m really excited about that because a whole lot of people don’t believe in entrepreneurship. There are challenges, yes, but nothing comes easy. I have encouraged a lot of people already. So, I want to expand almost immediately because with the demand we have so far, there’s no way one person can handle it. Getting distributors across all the states is my first and immediate step. Somebody has already gone to the US with some, and people in the UK are already demanding for it as well. And we are definitely going to be exporting almost immediately.

Nigerians and support for budding Entrepreneurs
Well! I think its a 50/50 thing. This is so because friends, family members and some members of the public may want to purchase your products just to encourage you, others may only patronise you because you are satisfying a need. On the other hand, some persons would not give budding Entrepreneurs a chance to prove themselves, they’d rather go for bigger and older brands, irrespective of the fact that a budding Entrepreneur’s product may be better.

Challenges
Systemic challenges aside, Finance to produce in commercial quantity is being considered. As a new product, market penetration is key, this means that one has to ensure a widespread distribution of the product. Also, for now, all of the processing is being done manually, and it takes a longer time to dry properly. We are in the process of acquiring machines to make things easier. better and faster. Another major challenge i’m certain most budding entrepreneurs face is the lack of physical cash, as one would likely be investing in ideas, equipment and anything that would make the business grow better.

On giving up
It has never crossed my mind! Birthing powdered okpehe has been very interesting and fulfilling for me, not financially, but it’s being rewarding all the way, and I intend to look on the bright side . The acceptance of the products and the encouragement from many people has been inspiring, it fuels me to do more, and better.

Being a Woman of Rubies
I have set a precedence for other women to follow. Fear stops many persons from taking any step. I’ll always say “do things afraid”

Packaging okpehe and locust beans the way I did still amazes people, because everyone who knows it, knows how unhygienic it is usually packed. I believe that this move has encouraged, and would keep encouraging more people to take steps and do something.

Other projects and activities
I also run an advocacy-based NGO with focus on women and children. This has helped me to reach out to many indigent families periodically. I have a volunteer force, and we do wonderful things every month.

Final words for women who want to go into Okpehe business

Just ensure that you have a plan, don’t rush into a business because it appears fun and attractive out there, having a good knowledge about a product, its industry and it’s marketability is very important. Also, every budding Entrepreneur should try to ask questions and be informed. And upgrade the product subsequently.

Facts about Okpehe
This age long condiment can be used to cook any food, and it is used just like any other seasoning out there. It gives food a very rich taste. One very unique thing about Okpehe is that it hardly goes bad, it can be used over a long period of time and it would still be as potent as the day it was produced.

Okpehe aids digestion, and good eyesight. It is important to know that okpehe and locust beans, though very similar, are two different spices. Okpehe is made from prosopis Africans seed, and it is common among Igala’s Igbo’s and the Idoma’s. Idoma’s and igala’s call it Okpehe, while the Igbo’s call it Okpei. Tiv’s call it Gbaaayeh+

Locust beans on the other hand is commonly eaten as a seed, however, they are tribes that prefers it grinded into powder. It is called Ugba by the Igbo’s, idoma’s and Idoma’s. Youruba’s call it Iru. While Tiv’s call it Nune.

If you feel like you need one, here’s permission to celebrate yourself. Speaking of gender equality in a diversity workshop the other day, we discussed how many men were naturally a lot more inclined to swagger into the CEO’s office and ask for a pay rise, whereas most women cowered and cringed even at the thought of it. I had heard of stories where men would demand a pay rise as their wives had just been made redundant or quit work or gone on maternity leave and they were as a result the main breadwinner. They often got what they wanted.

Until my perceptions of what is acceptable were challenged the other day, I thought such audacity was unimaginable. Then the workshop trainers asked, “Why shouldn’t you demand what you are worth? Most men do it with no encouragement.” Thinking about this statement, I realised there’s absolutely nothing wrong with a woman sauntering into the CEO’s office and asking for a pay because her husband has been made redundant, or she’s received a better job offer elsewhere, or simply she deserves it. It is often unimaginable because we, as women, can’t imagine doing so. Far from us being such demanding divas!

Instead we clip our wings and cut ourselves down to size daily so we can fit into the pigeonholes we’ve conditioned ourselves to believe we should fit in. And sadly, this goes right back to our childhood – as one of my colleagues admitted that growing up even though she was the younger sibling she saw nothing wrong in her mum asking her to cook for the family or iron her younger brother’s shirts. Interestingly, it wasn’t until the discussion on stereotypes during the workshop she realised she had never questioned the assumption that no matter her age she was the caregiver of the men in her family.

Looking at power politics, we discussed how once the minority find themselves in a position of inferiority, the reaction is often anger followed by the desire to be more like those in authority. Hence women trying to be more manly in contexts where men hold the power and women are seen as inferior. Sadly, this inferiority complex also results in women pulling or keeping other women down so they can look more authoritative. How many times have you seen a woman putting another woman down so she can be perceived more senior by those in authority?

Men do the same thing of course – putting someone of their own gender down – to have the upper hand, to look smarter, richer, more virile – and the list goes on. Yet, as men have the traditional position on power in most societies, women putting each other down or throwing each other under the bus just to be accepted into this elite club of power is somehow more disappointing. That constant sense of competition, frustration that one can never really, truly measure up to standards we set so highly for ourselves.

Sadly, we cut ourselves down to size most times, without any help from another woman – sometimes to fit round bottoms into square expectations and somehow for the sheer fear that we will be cut down to size by a man so it may as well be self-inflicted. Which is another reason men are far better at accepting compliments. Tell a man his suit looks good, or his presentation was top notch, you will only see him swagger with even more braggadocio. Tell a woman her outfit is amazing or her sales report for the month was excellent, she will either make excuses about ‘this old thing’ or refer to her work of blood, sweat, tears as ‘oh it was nothing.’ We downplay ourselves.

By: Sinem Onabanjo

As parents, we have to continue to look for strategies to integrate family and work to achieve success in both areas of our lives.

There has never been more working women in the world than we have today. In fact, according to a World Bank research in 2011, more than half (57%) of Nigerian women between the ages of 15 – 64 years old are in some form of employment.

So, the truth is that most women have to work to either support their partners, or to provide for their kids as a single parent.

As a result of this, many mums have no choice but to spend long hours away from their little ones. Most mums are often consumed with guilt, because they have to leave their children early in life to the care of either family, daycare/creche, nannies or after school programmes.

The truth is your reality requires you to work, so the earlier you embrace your decision, the faster you will find ways to deal with your mummy guilt. If you really had a choice, you’d probably take your little one everywhere with you. But the truth is you don’t; the next best thing is to manage the situation in the best possible way.

Now, if you realise that as a woman, you have no choice but to work, there are practical ways to handle the guilt that may plague you as a mum. Below are some examples of mummy guilt, and how they can easily be resolved.

If you realise that you don’t have the time to assist in your child’s academics
This can be a major problem if, due to a lack of supervision, the child isn’t doing well in school. I advise parents to find time to supervise when they get back home. But if you realise that you get back home too late, then it is advisable to get a trusted person to help with this.

However, even if you get a trusted person, you should still look through school work with your child when you get back home. Your child will appreciate the fact that you care about her academics and not just your job, and will most likely begin to excel in their school work.

If you have to hand them to the care of a nanny
It is best that you hire a nanny who is great with children, not just good with chores and cooking. Most mums hire based on cleaning and cooking skills, which is good, but it is important that your nanny can talk and play with your children . Hiring a nanny who loves to take care of kids will give you more peace of mind and comfort as a mum. You can go a step further to install CCTV equipment in your home (if you can afford it), to check them. Also, make impromptu check-ins when no one is expecting you to keep tabs on your child.

If you realise that your child clings to her nanny more than she does to you
Take out time to bond with your little one. You could give the nanny a day off at the weekend, or some hours off, so you can spend quality time with your child. You may be concerned about who will perform the nanny’s duties in her absence, but look at it as a way to bond with your child – you can even bond over house chores.

Whatever you decide, be rest assured that the house will not fall apart in the nanny’s absence. In addition, you’ll be creating unforgettable memories as you spend precious time with your little one.

If you’re not patient with them
Yes, you want the best for your child, but nagging constantly about mistakes they have made will not make things better. You are already hardly at home; you don’t want them happy mum isn’t home often, because all she does when she is is shout and nag all day.

In addition, learn to be patient and forgiving. Set consequences in place for repetitive bad behaviour. Also, teach your child it’s okay to make mistakes, as long as they learn to stop repeating the same mistake.

Help them understand that they are functions of the decisions they make – good or bad. Take time to talk to them and explain why you make certain decisions, rather than staying on the edge many times due to stress.

If you’re calling them names or abusing them
Hurling insults and abusive words make children feel bad and emotionally unbalanced. Learn to define them with what you expect from them, replacing abusive words with more positive words. For example, rather than call your child a naughty or foolish child, you can say I know you’re not a naughty or foolish child, so why did you do that? Also, instead of labelling your child an outright thief or a liar, you can ask, Why did you steal or lie?

It is okay to give age appropriate consequences for outright disobedience. Most importantly, learn to control your temper and emotions. This will make you overcome this guilt in no time.

If you do not spend enough time
This is a major issue that many of us parents struggle with. But I always tell parents to aim for quality time over quantity. Some mums are guilty of being in the same space with their child all day, yet they won’t take out time to play or bond with the child.

My advise: start with 15/30 minutes quality time every day with each child, and increase it as it suits your schedule, rather than no time together at all. This will go a long way in creating a bond with your little one, as kids do not care about how many hours you spend with them, but the quality of undivided time and attention you spent to play, talk or listen to them.

Finally, let’s learn to worry less and focus on what matters while we raise happier children. As parents, we have to continue to look for strategies to integrate family and work to achieve success in both areas of our lives.

Have any tips for dealing with mummy guilt? Please share with us in the comment section below.

Beyoncé did more than give a rare interview to ABCsome nights ago where she spoke about The Lion King, the original cartoon’s impact on her, and the album she curated for the new version of the film. She also released the music video for the new song she recorded for the adaptation: “Spirit.” There’s a lot to take in: incredible dancing, breathtaking scenery, an entire rainbow’s worth of outfits that Bey wears, and Beyoncé’s seven-year-old daughter Blue Ivy Carter, who is a scene-stealer in her own right whenever she’s alongside her mother.

Photo credit: YouTube
Photo credit: YouTube

The video justly has over 10 million views already.

In her interview with ABC, Beyoncé spoke about the vision behind the video. The concept of the video is to show how God is the painter, and natural beauty in nature needs no art direction,” she said. “It’s the beauty of color, the beauty of melanin, the beauty of tradition.”

She added, “It was important that we weren’t just inspired by Africa but that we actually included and learned from the motherland.”

She also spoke about how much being able to pass down The Lion King to her family and children Blue and her younger twin siblings Rumi and Sir meant to her. “Being a mother, my family is my biggest priority,” Bey said. “It’s not many films that the parents can go and feel the way I feel about The Lion King and…pass that legacy on to their kids.”

“I grew up watching The Lion King [the original 1994 cartoon]. It’s the first Disney movie brought me to tears,” she said.

Christie, who played Brienne of Tarth, is in the running for Outstanding Supporting Actress in a Drama Series.Game of Thrones’ Gwendoline Christie submitted herself for an Emmy nomination… and got it Nina CorcoranMore

Game of Thrones may have swept this week’s Emmy news with a whopping 32 nominations, but the TV show would have one less nomination if it weren’t for Gwendoline Christie. According to Entertainment Weekly, the Brienne of Tarth actor submitted herself for her Emmy nomination — and actually got it.

HBO submitted the majority of its main actors for Emmy nominations this year, but overlooked several, possibly by the sheer size of the cast. As such, Christie decided she should submit her name for a Outstanding Supporting Actress in a Drama Series nomination. It seems she wasn’t the only one to think she deserved the spot given she just got that Emmy nomination. Christie is joined by three Game of Thrones coworkers in the Outstanding Supporting Actress in a Drama Series category: Lena Headey, Sophie Turner, and Maisie Williams.

There’s plenty to celebrate when it comes to the Game of Thrones nominations this year, including Kit Harrington and Emilia Clarke, both of whom received their first leading acting nominations after eight seasons on the show. And when it comes to self-promotion where promotion is deserved, Christie is in good company. Alfie Allen, who played Theon Greyjoy, also submitted himself for consideration for Outstanding Supporting Actor in a Drama Series and got the nomination. Carice van Houten, who played Melisandre, submitted herself for consideration for Outstanding Guest Actress in a Drama Series and got the nomination, too.

By racking up 32 Emmy nominations this 2019 awards cycle, Game of Thrones broke records for the most Emmy nominations for a single show in one year. According to Nikolaj Coster-Waldau, those nominations validate the turns the script took in the show’s final season. “The only thing I can say is you don’t get this many actors nominated with bad writing,” he recently said in an interview. “It just does not happen.”

The full list of nominees this year is pretty wild, so expect the actual Emmys to be an entertaining ride. The 2019 Emmy Awards takes place on Sunday, September 22nd at the Microsoft Theater in Los Angeles. The live broadcast kicks off on Fox starting at 5 p.m. PT/ 8 p.m. ET.

Hodan didn’t deserve to go like this (does anyone?), in the hands of the very thing she came to change. The story of her passing will forever be told in the manner she wanted people to stop seeing her country.

I made a new friend recently who was considering moving permanently back from the US to Nigeria. She’d moved to the US as a child, and decided to intern in Nigeria this summer to see if moving back was a good idea. In fact, she’d made the decision, and the internship was to serve as a sort of acclimatisation to our own very different norms.

We’d discussed the subtle realities of racism, and the difficulties of raising a black kid over there (I don’t want my black son to be shot by the police, she said), so there was no point in asking her why she wanted to move back. I swallowed the reply I instinctively turn to when any of my friends suggest moving back permanently (That’s a terrible idea, I always say). It occurred to me that she considered Nigeria home, and no matter how long she’d stayed in the US, home, that often transcendent thing, that place where the soul was most comfortable, was Nigeria. And this is the case for all of my other friends too, as well as so many other Africans living in the diaspora.

All of this was just last week.

Which was why reading about the death of Hodan Nalayeh over the past weekend was painful.

Hodan was a Somali-Canadian who moved back to Somalia back in April after 30 years in the diaspora. Hodan was passionate about telling Somali stories different from the tragedies you read in the news. Her Instagram is rife with the faces of smiling children, the dazzling blue Somali skies, clean beaches, orange sunsets.

She founded Integration TV, an online platform that describes itself as “building a community of inspiring and uplifting stories for Somalis worldwide.” She interviews women making strides in a country known for its terrorist attacks and radical Islam.

Yet, only weeks after moving back with a determination to change the narrative about her country, Hodan was murdered in a terrorist attack. Gunmen invaded the Asasey Hotel, where she was staying, after a suicide bomber detonated a vehicle loaded with explosives outside the hotel. Hodan and 25 others, including her husband Farid Jama Suleiman, a businessman and former regional minister, were killed.

While the commiserations have been pouring in, I’ve been considering my only just reversed stance on Africans in the diaspora returning. Hodan didn’t deserve to go like this (does anyone?), in the hands of the very thing she came to change. The story of her passing will forever be told in the manner she wanted people to stop seeing her country.

With the rise of white nationalism and xenophobia across the globe (a scroll through my Twitter a minute ago had me seeing back to back tweets about origins and immigration), there’s a case to be made for people returning and making their home countries better, liveable. But a question keeps swimming around in my head – is home really home if it offers no peace? As with most cases in life, there are no easy answers.

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By: Niyi Ademoroti for Bellanaija

The government of President Mohammadu Buhari has to appoint a lover of tourism, a capable technocrat, to save this sector from the quicksand it is in.

I stopped travelling, and then I stopped writing, hence my absence here. The bleakness of the state of travel in the country got to me. I started travel writing to spread the virus of travelling, to show the beauty of this our dear motherland Nigeria. But the morbid state of almost all of our destination spots got me despondent. I saw little or no effort to improve the condition with this current government, so I gave up. I apologize to myself, to you and to these places. No potential likes to be untapped. It cries out, and the crying out is what is making me write this piece to resolve my issues.

Nigeria is immensely blessed. Every state in this country has many tourist destinations built and packaged by Mother Nature; but we have left them under-utilised. The 774 local government areas have some potential in tourism that can rake in millions of naira, but most of these LGAs are sitting idle, waiting for allocation from the national cake, which they share among themselves with little or no positive output.

The players are sleeping. With what I have seen, I can categorical say—and I won’t change my mind at least for another 50 years—the Nigerian government has no business doing business. The current mentality and culture is inimical to development and progress. They see the business of governance as an opportunity to loot and share money. The resources of governments are not seen as raw materials that should be converted to positive assets. So the whole sector should be handed over to the private sector to run, and the government should focus on policy making and providing security.

This is the agenda anybody in charge of tourism should be working on. Whether minister of tourism or head of our tourism agency, and anywhere down the line. We can’t keep sleeping on how much we can make from this sector. We need to learn from the Dubai miracle. This is the place they go to when they want to relax and travel, but they can’t think of reciprocating this in their country.

The sector is a mess. Our musicians go to shoot their videos in fine places outside the country, while we have similar things scattered across the country. Our celebrities do destination marriages in South Africa, Dubai and everywhere but in this country, because the sector has been left to die; only the burial is left to be conducted.

The industry has mad potential; any improvement will lead to massive earnings to the government, especially as they have been making less revenue for some time now, due to the declining state of the oil and gas sector.

We need money. We need to make more money. And we need to make money from different sectors. One of the sectors that promises big gains with little effort is the tourism sector. Therefore, a state of emergency must be declared now in this sector.

The things we need to fix urgently are security, awareness, and the decaying infrastructure in all of our tourist attractions. Obudu Cattle Ranch, which is one prime example in Cross River State, has fallen apart. The roads are so bad that it takes twice the time it used to take to get there. And when you do, you may meet the workers on strike. Kajuru Castle in Kaduna State, which has been a shining star because it’s run by private hands, is suffering from the security situation on the Kaduna-Abuja road. It was in the news recently that the castle was stormed by kidnappers and they took some people.

I can go on and on, and I will encourage my readers to list the ones they know in the comment section, so that if the right people are reading this, they will know things to work on.

Travelling is my passion. I like the art and business of travel. In recent years we have seen a resurgence of travel companies, and I have this burning desire to start one. These companies are suffering; it is hard to market places that are unkempt and unsafe. It is sad when a travel company has to be praying that nothing goes wrong on a trip. It kills their zest and harms their bottom-line.

The government of President Mohammadu Buhari has to appoint a lover of tourism, a capable technocrat, to save this sector from the quicksand it is in. The telecommunication model has to be adopted in this sector, and we pray that his efforts to fix our security yield good dividends for the growth of this sector. May God bless Nigeria.

Tanzania’s Finance Minister Phillipo Mpango on Thursday, announced the decision of the government to impose a tax on hair extensions and wigs.

Africa News reports that Mpango said this while tabling the 2019-2020 budget in parliament.

When approved, locally manufactured wigs will pay a 10% tax, while imported ones will attract a 25% tax.

According to BBC, Mpango also announced that the exemption on value added tax placed on sanitary towels would be scrapped because it’s not of benefit to the customers as businesses did not reduce prices when it was introduced.

The country’s tax on chocolates and biscuits will increase from 25% to 35%, Mpango announced, adding that the government will remove the tax on coolers and other equipment used by farmers to store vegetables.