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Hodan didn’t deserve to go like this (does anyone?), in the hands of the very thing she came to change. The story of her passing will forever be told in the manner she wanted people to stop seeing her country.

I made a new friend recently who was considering moving permanently back from the US to Nigeria. She’d moved to the US as a child, and decided to intern in Nigeria this summer to see if moving back was a good idea. In fact, she’d made the decision, and the internship was to serve as a sort of acclimatisation to our own very different norms.

We’d discussed the subtle realities of racism, and the difficulties of raising a black kid over there (I don’t want my black son to be shot by the police, she said), so there was no point in asking her why she wanted to move back. I swallowed the reply I instinctively turn to when any of my friends suggest moving back permanently (That’s a terrible idea, I always say). It occurred to me that she considered Nigeria home, and no matter how long she’d stayed in the US, home, that often transcendent thing, that place where the soul was most comfortable, was Nigeria. And this is the case for all of my other friends too, as well as so many other Africans living in the diaspora.

All of this was just last week.

Which was why reading about the death of Hodan Nalayeh over the past weekend was painful.

Hodan was a Somali-Canadian who moved back to Somalia back in April after 30 years in the diaspora. Hodan was passionate about telling Somali stories different from the tragedies you read in the news. Her Instagram is rife with the faces of smiling children, the dazzling blue Somali skies, clean beaches, orange sunsets.

She founded Integration TV, an online platform that describes itself as “building a community of inspiring and uplifting stories for Somalis worldwide.” She interviews women making strides in a country known for its terrorist attacks and radical Islam.

Yet, only weeks after moving back with a determination to change the narrative about her country, Hodan was murdered in a terrorist attack. Gunmen invaded the Asasey Hotel, where she was staying, after a suicide bomber detonated a vehicle loaded with explosives outside the hotel. Hodan and 25 others, including her husband Farid Jama Suleiman, a businessman and former regional minister, were killed.

While the commiserations have been pouring in, I’ve been considering my only just reversed stance on Africans in the diaspora returning. Hodan didn’t deserve to go like this (does anyone?), in the hands of the very thing she came to change. The story of her passing will forever be told in the manner she wanted people to stop seeing her country.

With the rise of white nationalism and xenophobia across the globe (a scroll through my Twitter a minute ago had me seeing back to back tweets about origins and immigration), there’s a case to be made for people returning and making their home countries better, liveable. But a question keeps swimming around in my head – is home really home if it offers no peace? As with most cases in life, there are no easy answers.

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By: Niyi Ademoroti for Bellanaija

The government of President Mohammadu Buhari has to appoint a lover of tourism, a capable technocrat, to save this sector from the quicksand it is in.

I stopped travelling, and then I stopped writing, hence my absence here. The bleakness of the state of travel in the country got to me. I started travel writing to spread the virus of travelling, to show the beauty of this our dear motherland Nigeria. But the morbid state of almost all of our destination spots got me despondent. I saw little or no effort to improve the condition with this current government, so I gave up. I apologize to myself, to you and to these places. No potential likes to be untapped. It cries out, and the crying out is what is making me write this piece to resolve my issues.

Nigeria is immensely blessed. Every state in this country has many tourist destinations built and packaged by Mother Nature; but we have left them under-utilised. The 774 local government areas have some potential in tourism that can rake in millions of naira, but most of these LGAs are sitting idle, waiting for allocation from the national cake, which they share among themselves with little or no positive output.

The players are sleeping. With what I have seen, I can categorical say—and I won’t change my mind at least for another 50 years—the Nigerian government has no business doing business. The current mentality and culture is inimical to development and progress. They see the business of governance as an opportunity to loot and share money. The resources of governments are not seen as raw materials that should be converted to positive assets. So the whole sector should be handed over to the private sector to run, and the government should focus on policy making and providing security.

This is the agenda anybody in charge of tourism should be working on. Whether minister of tourism or head of our tourism agency, and anywhere down the line. We can’t keep sleeping on how much we can make from this sector. We need to learn from the Dubai miracle. This is the place they go to when they want to relax and travel, but they can’t think of reciprocating this in their country.

The sector is a mess. Our musicians go to shoot their videos in fine places outside the country, while we have similar things scattered across the country. Our celebrities do destination marriages in South Africa, Dubai and everywhere but in this country, because the sector has been left to die; only the burial is left to be conducted.

The industry has mad potential; any improvement will lead to massive earnings to the government, especially as they have been making less revenue for some time now, due to the declining state of the oil and gas sector.

We need money. We need to make more money. And we need to make money from different sectors. One of the sectors that promises big gains with little effort is the tourism sector. Therefore, a state of emergency must be declared now in this sector.

The things we need to fix urgently are security, awareness, and the decaying infrastructure in all of our tourist attractions. Obudu Cattle Ranch, which is one prime example in Cross River State, has fallen apart. The roads are so bad that it takes twice the time it used to take to get there. And when you do, you may meet the workers on strike. Kajuru Castle in Kaduna State, which has been a shining star because it’s run by private hands, is suffering from the security situation on the Kaduna-Abuja road. It was in the news recently that the castle was stormed by kidnappers and they took some people.

I can go on and on, and I will encourage my readers to list the ones they know in the comment section, so that if the right people are reading this, they will know things to work on.

Travelling is my passion. I like the art and business of travel. In recent years we have seen a resurgence of travel companies, and I have this burning desire to start one. These companies are suffering; it is hard to market places that are unkempt and unsafe. It is sad when a travel company has to be praying that nothing goes wrong on a trip. It kills their zest and harms their bottom-line.

The government of President Mohammadu Buhari has to appoint a lover of tourism, a capable technocrat, to save this sector from the quicksand it is in. The telecommunication model has to be adopted in this sector, and we pray that his efforts to fix our security yield good dividends for the growth of this sector. May God bless Nigeria.

Parenting is hard work, and there are no real short cuts. Children are one of life’s greatest joys, but there’s no doubt about it – taking care of them is also one of life’s greatest challenges especially for parents/guardians who love to feed their bundles of joy with healthy options, but in juggling work and other activities, would need an extra hand getting recommendable solutions.

August Secrets Nigeria is a growing baby and toddler food solutions company with the goal of helping parents, home and abroad, to feed their children with wholesome options, rather than foods made from processed ingredients.

August Secrets comes alive with its first Kiddies Food Festival

Date:  Sunday, July 21st, 2019
Venue: Bay Lounge, Lekki, Lagos

This one day event is designed to launch the brand’s new baby food products, as well as, celebrate existing diverse range that babies and toddlers already find nutritional. Parents/guardians will have the chance to sample and purchase, on the spot, the products exhibited.

The August Secrets Kiddies Food Festival promises to be just more than a children’s food exhibition, but a fun, engaging, and relaxing family affair created for children and their parents/guardians.

According to the brand’s CEO, Toyin Onigbanjo,

“There will be tons of yummy treats and activities such as coloring classes, face painting, slides, among many others, to keep children engaged and happy. The adults will not be left out as there will be a spa corner to help relax those stressed muscles, adult games, parenting competitions, as well as free counselling from trusted nutritionist and health practitioners, as well as an open air culinary workshop – with swift, healthy, stress-free cookery demonstrations specially designed for parents who desire to feed their children with nutritious ingredients.”

This is one family-centered event you do not want to miss! August Secrets is a wholesome child nutrition and holistic childcare company. It was developed to encourage healthy eating habits in children through a range of delicious and natural foods that are easy for parents to make and fun for babies to eat.

The August Secrets brand can be found in selected stores nationwide.

For more information on the August Secrets brand, visit the site

The African Achievers Awards, founded in 2010, was designed to inspire achievement, and address the misconceptions of a non-achieving society, and replace those views with accolades from those who are actively and independently contributing greatly towards developing a prosperous and more fruitful Social environment bringing about solidarity and community spirit.

The 9th Edition of the prestigious Awards was held at the House of Commons, House of Parliament, United Kingdom on July 11th, 2019 with a lecture series under the theme: “Initiating Diaspora Investments for a Diversified African Economy”

Honoring and celebrating the game changers on the African continent, past honorees of the African Achievers Awards have included Arch. Bishop Desmond Tutu; Nelson Mandela Foundation; H.E. Jakaya Kikwete former President Republic of Tanzania; Bill and Melinda Gate Foundation; Kofi Annan Foundation; Justina Mutale Foundation; Dr. Justina Mutale, The African Development Bank (AFDB) General and others.

Joining the illustrious list of change agents this year was Peace Hyde, the 2018 Obama Foundation Africa Leader and founder of Education Non-profit Aim Higher Africa. Receiving the award under the African Social Impact Category, Peace Hyde was honored for her transformative and leadership role in helping African youths achieve their fullest potential through education and entrepreneurship development.

Her Aim Higher Africa Skills Acquisition Centre in the Nigerian Tech Hub of Yaba has so far provided training to thousands of unemployed youths equipping them with skills ranging from Design Thinking, Fashion, Social Media, Entrepreneurship development while providing startup funding as well.

The non-profit Initiative has previously empowered some 4000 grassroots entrepreneurs and helped them to scale their businesses thereby providing employment opportunities for unemployed youths in impoverished communities across Ghana and Nigeria. The African Achievers Awards has consistently honored great Africans in Leadership, Young Achievers, Community Builders to Captains of Industries across the continent.

Choreographer Camille Brown just became the first Black woman to be nominated for a Tony in over two decades.The last Black woman to be nominated was Marlies Yearby for Rent in 1996.

The nomination came as a refreshing surprise to the Jamaica, Queens native as she recounted her own experiences with discrimination in the dance industry. The 37-year-old dancer told Forbes that: “My first 2 years [of college] I wasn’t even called to audition for a lot of choreographers because of my body type, which was very disheartening.”

For decades, Black dancers have dealt with body shaming within the dance and choreography community for being more curvy than the industry standard. However, Brown’s recent recognition illuminates her light and a much needed shift.

Her nomination for movement in the play Choir Boy, created by Oscar-winning screenwriter ofMoonlight, Tarell Alvin McCraney, is changing the narrative for Black dancers all over the world.

Additionally, her work has been commissioned by the Alvin Ailey American Dance Theater, Broadway theaters, and other prominent institutions. Her bold routines tap into both ancestral stories and contemporary culture to capture a range of deeply personal experiences.

Brown’s driving passion is to empower Black bodies to tell their story using their own language(s) through movement and dialogue. Through the company, she provides outreach activities to students, young adults, and incarcerated women and men across the country.

A proven fighter, she has faced battles off-stage as well. The 37-year-old dancer shared her struggles with pressure to retire in an industry full of much younger dancers. Not to mention she’s had a few health scares that resulted in two surgeries and IV infusions from a ruptured appendix.

The good news is, she doesn’t plan on stopping any time soon. She told Forbes that she hopes to: “Continue to both direct and choreograph for theater, film, and tv. The focus and goals are to always keep growing, learning, and discovering.”

Awards and accolades are not new to Brown. She is also the Choreographer for the Emmy award winning special “Jesus Christ Superstar Live in Concert” and the Tony award winning revival of “Once On This Island” on Broadway, which is set to begin its national tour in Fall 2019.

We can’t wait to see what stage Camille or her orchestrated movements will grace next!

Photo credit: Emilio Madrid-Kuser

In the United States, the risk of pregnancy-related deaths for Black women is three to four times higher than that of white women, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

Working to help change this statistic is tennis star Serena Williams. After giving birth to her daughter in 2017, Williams shared the life-threatening complications she experienced during childbirth and discussed the racial disparities that exist within the healthcare system. Now, through her venture capital firm, Serena Ventures, she has invested in a startup that works to end the maternal mortality crisis affecting Black women called Mahmee. 

According to Fortune, Williams was joined in a $3 million funding round by angel investor Mark Cuban, the Bumble Fund and managing partner of Backstage Capital Arlan Hamilton. 

“I am incredibly excited to invest and partner with Mahmee, a company that personifies my firm’s investment philosophy,” Williams said. “Given the bleak data around maternal death and injury rates, I believe that it is absolutely critical right now to invest in solutions that help protect the lives of moms and babies.”

Founded in 2014 by Melissa Hanna, her mom Linda Hanna-Sperber, who is a longtime nurse and lactation consultant, and Sunny Walia, Mahmee is an online platform that allows women to track their health and the health of their child after birth. Through the platform, users are able to connect with health professionals to ask questions and get advice on the health issues they’re facing. 

Though Hanna says she’s aware that technology is not “going to save the world” or the maternal health care industry, she does believe that her platform “can be a component of a solution here.”

With her new round of funding, she says she plans to hire more engineers, clinicians and sales staff in order to support her company’s expansion. 

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Last week, California became the first state in the United States to ban employers and school officials from discriminating against a person based on their natural hairstyle. 

Democrat Sen. Holly Mitchell, who introduced the bill earlier this year known as the Creating a Respectful and Open Workplace for Natural Hair (CROWN) Act, said that the new law is about “inclusion, pride and choice.”

“The law protects the right of Black Californians to choose to wear their hair in its natural form, without pressure to conform to Eurocentric norms,” CNN reports Mitchell saying in a statement. “I am so excited to see the culture change that will ensue from the law.”

Working alongside Mitchell to help push for this legislation were several other women including political strategist and racial equality advocate Adjoa B. Asamoah, Unilever’s Chief Operating Officer and Executive Vice President Esi Eggleston Bracey, Emmy Award-winning creative visionary Kelli Richardson Lawson and Orlena Nwokah Blanchard amongst many others.

“Claiming success in California sets the stage for us to get legislation passed in other states,” Asamoah tells Blavity. “The prospects of this being a nationwide push look good.”

During Essence Fest weekend, Bracey hosted a “Crowns & Conversations” event to not only celebrate California’s new legislation, but to also create a call to action for other Black women to celebrate their beauty and to push for similar legislation across all 50 states. 

“We formed a Black beauty alliance to make sure you are clear on how we, together, can impact our community,” Essence reports Bracey saying. “It was mind boggling to us that in 2018, and still in 2019, when you Google search pretty women you see white women with blond hair and blue eyes.”

Bracey added that “the stories continued on issues with our hair and how our hair wasn’t acceptable or accepted. All of our glory and our hair is our crown.”

In research sponsored by Dove, it was discovered that 80% of Black women are more likely to change their natural hair in order to meet social standards at work. Additionally, Black women are 50% more likely to have reported being sent home because of their hair, and 82% of Black women said they have received grooming policies at work. 

That’s why, Dove co-founded the CROWN coalition in partnership with the National Urban League, Color of Change, and Western Center on Law and Poverty. On its website, Dove says their mission is to “advance efforts to end hair discrimination and to create a more equitable and inclusive beauty experience for Black women and girls.”

To find out how you can support the CROWN coalition and sign the petition to bring anti-discrimination hair laws to your state, visit https://campaigns.organizefor.org/petitions/help-make-hair-discrimination-illegal.

One day before the Fourth of July, a true Sister Act occurred for two sisters in New York. The pair gave birth in the same hospital and on the same day, which also happened to be their father’s birthday. Oh, their daughters were also delivered by the same doctor.

Shari and Simone Cumberbatch knew their girls would be close in age, but they never thought they’d be hours apart. 

Both were originally projected to give birth mid-July, however Simone and her doctor planned a C-section for July 3. She selected the date because it’s her father’s birthday. What the family didn’t plan was for her sister Shari to go into labor on the same day.

Shari’s unexpected labor actually delayed Simone’s scheduled C-section as the two shared the same doctor.

According to Good Morning America, Shari’s daughter, Hailey, was born at 12:57 p.m. and Simone’s daughter, Liberty, was born a few hours later at 5:30 p.m.

“They’re like twins… they’ll be close,” Shari said in an interview with CBS New York. 

The babies’ grandfather received two gifts to celebrate his 70th birthday.

“I always used to say ‘what if, what if it happened,’ not knowing it would actually happen,” the newborns’ granddad Elmo Cumberbatch told CBS New York.

It’s probably safe to assume all future birthday parties will be planned out well in advance and will be held on the same day.

Congratulations to the Cumberbatch family!

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Zaria and Hailey Willard are two sisters from Delaware who are spearheading a campaign to connect fellow book enthusiasts by hosting live reading gatherings every evening on various social media platforms. 

“Sunday we go to the library and pick out books for the week,” Zaria, 13, told Good Morning America Tuesday. 




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Eight-year-old sister Hailey is a Dr. Seuss fan and told the morning show her favorite books by the late author are Green Eggs & HamAre You My Mother? and Go Dog, Go.

Convincing mom to allow them to start their own online community was no easy feat, but Victoria Willard said she eventually obliged after seeing her daughters’ desire to start a movement rooted in positivity.

“I can’t hold them back from that,” Willard said.

Like any parent would, Willard does have stipulations on what Zaria and Hailey can do, regulations she refers to as “mom terms.” Some of these rules include no responding to messages or comments before she sees them first and no devices at the dinner table and use of mobile phones after 9 p.m.

Their newfound venture has led to incredible opportunities. Willard says her two girls are developing their own children’s book series.

“One is the writer and one is the illustrator … it’s about blended military families,” she explained.

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Mo Abudu shared a motivational post on her Instagram page on how to stay focused when irrelevant people stab you in the back as you journey to your success in life. 

In her post, the successful media mogul revealed how some irrelevant persons and some perceived successful people have stabbed her in the back as she made her mark in the media and entertainment industry. Read her post below

A good friend of mine shared this African proverb with me yesterday and it made so much sense. “it’s not every dog that barks in the market that you answer”. Just to say that as we are on this journey called life, and as we build, as we start to see and experience some level of success, all sorts of people will come after you. They will even say all sorts, do all sorts, but don’t get distracted. Some of them will even try and use your relevance to make their “irrelevant” lives relevant. It’s all a distraction. What is key is that you continue to stay focused on your end goals.

In my personal journey, I just find it absolutely incredible, that for every stab anyone tries to take at me, believe me a few have tried, some “irrelevant and a few perceived successful ones too, but like magic, GOD just gives me such a GLORIOUS LIFT that just propels me even further. So actually the “Stabs” have become my stepping stones to even greater things. So “Stab” me some more please . I truly am grateful oh Lord. You have stood by me ALL the way. Turning EVERY CHALLENGE into a MIGHTY OPPORTUNITY. So beautiful people, the key is dream big, plan, focus, hard work, tenacity, persistence, team work, do the right thing and serve God, then the magic happens;;,

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