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Nigerian girl, Ugboaja Chizobam Stephany, has emerged the youngest, best candidate ever recorded by the West African Examination Council (WAEC).

16-year-old Stephany graduated from the Jesuit Memorial College in Port Harcourt where she sat for the just concluded Senior Schools Certificate Examination (SSCE).

The courses she took were Further Mathematics, General Mathematics, English Language, Biology, Physics, Chemistry, Civic Education, Economics and Data Processing. She emerged with distinctions in all nine subjects.

WAEC released the results of candidates who participated in its 2019 May/June West African Senior Secondary Certificate Examination (WASSCE) on July 26, 2019.

A total of 1,596161 candidates registered for the examination from 18,639 recognized secondary schools in Nigeria and 1,020,519 of them obtained credits and above in a minimum of five subjects including English and Mathematics.

 

 

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Avoid a rocky marriage, trash out important matters before you walk down the aisle.

You don’t necessarily have to wait until marriage to begin to deal with certain marital issues

Since it is often said that prevention is better than cure, it becomes absolutely necessary for courting, engaged, or other couples in serious committed relationships to discuss the following things…

Work stress

This is one aspect of pre-marriage conversations that many people hardly bother with.

Except you both expect to starve and/or beg, then, at least one of you has to go to work.

Upon return from a long stressful day, different people have different ways of resting or chilling.

You and your partner should discuss this before marriage, so as to avoid cases where you are usually feeling chatty after work, and she just wants to left alone for at least 2 hours after her return.

This kind of conversation will help you both know how make suitable adjustments, or at least, know what to expect after you finally say “I do.”

In-laws

The matter of bad in-laws is quite terrible that I hear some ladies now pray to marry a man whose mother is long dead before they even meet him.

Let’s even forget how absurd and terrible that kind of wish is; the truth still remains that not all mothers or fathers-in-law will be dead by the time you meet your partner, so it’s best you prepare to relate with them because they will be present in your married life whether you like it or not.

Clashes often arises when couples feel divided or threatened by by in-laws. So discuss well what your spouse’s relationship with his/her parents is like, so as to judge if they are still tied to mommy’s apron, or mentally mature enough to stand up and resist unnecessary interference from daddy. You really need to discuss this properly, really.

Money

This one does not really need much explanation as it is well-discussed matter already. All that’s left to do here is to remind you to ensure that you ask the right questions.

Don’t just ask him how much he earns, or how much of her salary she saves. Ask of their relationship with money, which is basically asking them to give you a recap of their financial history.

You should also not shy away from asking them about their financial strengths and weaknesses [Yeah, some people can spend their last kobo on clothes, and shoes… and for some, it’s just sports betting… smh.]

Please ask them to tell you about their financial dreams and goals, too.

Sex

We understand that they told us in church to shun pre-marital sex. [Amen]

However, I don’t think anyone will ban you from you from pre-marital sex-talk.

Yes, pre-marital sex-talk. Please talk about it. The fact that you are contemplating marriage with someone essentially means you are sexually attracted to that person, and that y’all are planning to do the do soon.

So there’s no sense in being too shy to ask him how often he thinks you should be having sex in a week, ask her into which hole she prefers to have it [clears throat], also ask about that body count.

Yes! The body count actually counts, too, and try to be as open and honest with your answers as possible.

Babies and contraceptive techniques

How many babies do you ideally want? What is the spacing between births going to be like? What techniques of contraception do you think we should use. These questions are equally as important. Please ask them.

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Omawumi has come out to openly stand by BusolaDakolo and other young women who have at one time or the other been molested and raped.

The award-winning singer and actress made this known during one of her live performances. Omawumi believes that women who have been molested and raped should come out and speak. She went on to call out a serving senator who was accused of hitting pregnant woman a few months ago and still got an award from some Nigerians.

“People have been getting away with rape for a long time. People that would say lemme just put a cap in…aside from that, they begged me that I should not say it but I have to say it. I would accept the fact that you don’t own up to the fact that you raped someone but shut da f**k up. 

“How in the hell in this world will a senator slap a pregnant woman and is still giving a speech and some youths are giving him awards. Nigeria we need to wake up, it is sickening…For every young woman out there arise from this from this shit. You will rise from it, I employ everybody out there that has a story to come out and say it. We will stand by you, we are standing by Busola Dakolo,” she said.

This is coming a month after Busola Dakolo had accused the senior pastor of Commonwealth Of Zion Assembly (COZA), Biodun Fatoyinbo of raping her when she was a teenager. That now-famous interview not only sparked off a conversation on social media but changed the lives of the parties involved.

In the video, she alleged that the senior pastor of The Commonwealth Of Zion Assembly, Biodun Fatoyinbo had raped her twice when she was a teenager [Instagram/BusolaDakolo]In the video, she 

Whether you are having a drink at home or in a public space, it is supposed to be worry-free.

However, considering that there are reports of drinks getting drugged or spiked, one needs to be careful and understand the risks that come with leaving drinks unattended or drinking carelessly.

In this article, we will share some advice on how to remain safe and avoid tainted drinks while still being able to enjoy the experience of relaxation. Find below basic tips you should take into consideration to make sure you are drinking as safely and enjoyably as possible.

Only Drink Cocktails That You Can Watch Being Made

If you are drinking out in public or with company, ensure that you watch your cocktails or similar beverages being made. Order drinks that you are familiar with the recipe to enable you to monitor what is being added and if there is an ingredient you should be wary of.

Opt For Canned Or Bottled Drinks

Although canned or bottled drinks does not guarantee that your drink is taint free, you are decreasing the risk of your drink getting spiked or drug.

Bring Your Own Drink

If possible, consider bringing your own drink from home with you are going for an outing that requires you drink. it is an easy way for you to ensure that you know what you’re drinking and where it came from.

Seek Medical Attention ASAP If You Feel Strange

If you’re feeling weird after you’ve had a drink, don’t second-guess yourself. Ask a trusted friend to get you professional medical help immediately.   That way, you have someone looking out for your best interests even if you’re incapacitated.

Avoid Surprisingly Cheap Liquor

If you’re in a new place and you’re shocked by how cheap a handle of liquor is, then it might be too good to be true. This could be a sign that you’re about to purchase illicit or unregulated alcohol. If the price seems too cheap to be true, it probably is. Be mindful of cheap, discount products. Keep the four “P’s” in mind: place, product, price, and packaging.

 

BY:  AKINWALE AKINYOADE

 

Gospel singer, Kenny Saint Best is over the moon as her daughter graduates from High School in flying colors.

Her daughter, Edwina had 5 distinctions in the just-released 2019 WAEC result.

She wrote:

“My most rewarding investment is my daughter’s education. While many individuals derive joy in investing in properties, the latest automobiles, a holiday in the most exotic holiday spots of the world, investing in gold and precious stones. My joy comes from investing in the best education money can buy for my kids. 
My daughter has brought me ultimate joy by getting 5 A1s , 3Bs and a C in the 2019 WASSCE exam. 
Mathematics- A1
English – B3
Financial Accounting- A1
Commerce – B3
Economics – C4
Food and nutrition – B2
Civic Education – A1
Dyeing & Bleaching -A1
Information, communication,Tech -A1
Food & nutrition – B2

All these high grades accompanied with an impressive Jamb score have landed her admission into Pan Atlantic University, an arm of LBS (Lagos business school). My heavy investments on her from primary through secondary both at the prestigious Chrisland school Opebi & college Idimu. This required me to take a break from a luxurious lifestyle, doing new videos and promotions, going on holidays or buying automobiles and this had paid off with a great result and a wholesome and well-grounded education.

To God be all the glory”.

 

KSB changed her name from Kenny Saint Brown after she and her husband, Eddy Remedy Brown got a divorce in 2012. They have two children together.

 

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No fewer than half of Nigerian children reported some form of physical violence prior to 18 years by an intimate partner, parent, adult relative or community member, the UNICEF said on Tuesday.

Ms Juliane Koenlg of UNICEF in Abuja, made the disclosure while presenting the findings of the Economic Burden of Violence against Children in Lagos.

It was at the launch of two documents: “A Financial Benchmark for Child Protection, Nigeria Study, Volume 1” and “The Economic Burden of Violence Against Children” by UNICEF.”

Two Studies, ” A Financial Benchmark for Child Protection, Nigeria Study, Volume 1″ and “The Economic Burden of Violence Against Children” launched by UNICEF and stakeholders in Lagos on Tuesday, July 30, 2019 (NAN photo).
Two Studies, ” A Financial Benchmark for Child Protection, Nigeria Study, Volume 1″ and “The Economic Burden of Violence Against Children” launched by UNICEF and stakeholders in Lagos on Tuesday, July 30, 2019 (NAN photo).

According to Koenlg, findings in the the study also shows that roughly one-fifth of Nigerian children reported emotional abuse while growing up.

She said that based on this large indicator, there was need to give a sense of spending on child protection going by the huge implications of Violence Against Children ( VAC).

” Nigeria faces significant political, security and economic challenges; 53 per cent of the population are children; many are exposed to extreme situations of violence due to ongoing political and ethnic conflicts.

“Many suffer abuse due to prevailing social norms and economic conditions and distorted wealth distribution.

“The analysis of the economic costs shows that violence against children carries a considerable burden in Nigeria, especially as the adverse consequences of childhood violence affect not only children as individuals, but by extension, families, and communities”.

According to her, the estimated economic value that Nigeria lost to some selected health consequences of violence against children in 2014 amounted to N849 billion for females and and 579 billion Naira for males.

She urged governments, Ministries, Departments and Agencies (MDAs) and decision makers to urgently develop budget for interventions that would reduce VAC.

Speaking, Mrs Bola Balogun, Permanent Secretary, Lagos State Ministry of Youth and Social Development on Tuesday said: ” President Muhammadu Buhari in September 2015 made a wakeup call for a national campaign to end violence against children in Nigeria.

This singular declaration by the president and the follow-up action by core Ministries Department Agencies (MDAs) has positioned Nigeria as one of the leadng countries to end child crime.

“Nigeria is now one out of the seven Pathfinding Countries for the End Violence Against Children Global Campaign.

“One of the requirements of a pathfinding country is to have a data hub that will guide decision making,” she said.

The permanent secretary said the desire to document existing child protection services in the federal MDAs gave birth to documenting the services and financial benchmark of child protection services between 2014 to 2016.

The first part of the study was embarked upon to provide evidence on the actual budget allocation and expenditure on child protection services.

“The second report which is on economic burden of violence against children presented the cost of inaction of violence against children.

“This has helped to deepen the evidence of the quality of protection for every Nigeria child,” she said.

Balogun said that the findings in the assessments serves as a wake up call for all stakeholders to go back to the drawing board and chart a new course towards increased funding for child protection.

She said that this should be done with a view to improving the safety of children as well as reducing the cost on response services in the long run.

The financial commitment of government on child protection services has become necessary with a rise in child crime in the country,” Balogun said.

In her remarks, Mrs Grace Obi-Ukpabi, from the Ministry of Budget and National Planning, Abuja said that the government knows the importance of investing in people for a better future.

Obi-Ukpabi said that if investments are not carried out on human beings, every of the economic endeavour being propagated will eventually become null and void.

If we refuse to invest in our children, we are giving the future a bleak look because what we do to our children, we indirectly do to ourselves,” she said.

She said that the reports launched could be used as a benchmark in ministries so that the press could use it as a yard stick of measurement to judge performances over time.

Also, Mrs Olufunmilayo Balogun, Permanent Secretary, Ministry of Finance, Lagos State said that protecting a child is synonymous to protecting the future of a country.

“We need to be sensitive to the things happening around us as it affects our children and unborn generation.

“As Nigerians, we must invest in our heritage because it is this investment that will yield quantifiable returns towards growth in the future.

 

 

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Are you dating a man child? Do you know the attributes of a man child? There are many men in relationships who behave like children and expect their women to keep putting up with their childish behaviour. They don’t know what it means to love and respect a woman. Some men still behave like babies who need to be bottle fed because they are still holding on to the archaic belief that men are like babies.

Such men are bad news. Women should stop putting up with them for the sake of their sanity. Women should be careful not to fall for the tantrums these men throw. They are the ones who believe that abuse is not bad. They subtly encourage emotional and psychological abuse. They use religion and culture to cover up abuse.

Here are 10 characteristics of a man child women shouldn’t ignore:

He refuses to grow up

A man child refuses to grow up. He believes that a woman must babysit him, take care of him and clean up after him. Dealing with this kind of man brings nothing but drama and heartaches. He expects you to wash his clothes, clean his apartment, clean up after his relatives, and pay his bills too. When he goes into debt, he expects you to bail him out. He expects you to always make excuses for his bad behaviour, rationalize his poor choices and please him at all costs.

He whines about not getting sex

When you are not in the mood to have sex, the man child throws a tantrum. He complains about not getting what he wants like a child he didn’t get his favourite candy. He remains in a bad mood and becomes distant for not getting what he wants. He punishes you for not having sex with him by being moody. He also gives you the silent treatment. He doesn’t care about you or your reasons for not having sex with him. He’s selfish. It’s all about him. You really don’t matter.

He avoids conflict

Don’t let a man make you feel like you are troublesome because you need to discuss an issue. That is one of the signs of a man child. He will tell you he doesn’t want to fight and  won’t engage in an argument. He will claim that you love fight too much instead of listening to your concerns and working with you to make sure your relationship continues to go smoothly. Sometimes, arguing is part of a healthy relationship.

He avoids responsibilities

He will try to get away with doing things for you no matter how little they are. If you need a ride to the airport, he will come up with excuses as to why he can’t do it. If you need help with your car, he has reasons why he just can’t be there.

He tries to make you jealous

If a man child is unfaithful, or flirts with other women in your presence, he dismisses your concerns about his irresponsible actions. When you say it makes you uncomfortable, he tells you that doing that is not technically cheating.

He is quick to stop his woman from advancing in her career

All a man child wants to do is play with you. So if you can’t join him for fun because you are working hard for yourself and making your own money, he is not excited for you. He is not proud of you. He only complains that you don’t spend time with him. he sees your advancement to the top as a threat to his masculinity. Dealing with a man child is stressful. It’s like everything you do or say is a problem.

He supports gender equality when it benefits him

A man child supports feminism only when it suits him and when his woman has to settle his bills. That is when he will shout gender equality until his voice goes hoarse. A man child will let you foot the bill every time, because you have a lot more money than he does or because you offer to do so. He won’t remember then that it is an abomination for a woman to pay for a man’s food or take care of his money needs.

He subscribes to toxic masculinity

He thinks to be masculine means to never discuss emotions. He sees men who show emotions as weak men. If you try to ask him about his feelings, he becomes irritated with you, as if you are crossing a line and shouts you down. A man child leaves you feeling like you did something wrong.

He splashes negative feelings everywhere

A man child can be a little bit too comfortable with his emotions. He may have been a spoiled child whose tantrums were never dealt with. He will go to your friend’s birthday party in a bad mood sulking about what happened to him that day. He will not control his emotions, even if that means ruining everyone else’s mood.

He doesn’t take responsibility for his actions

Such men don’t know what it means to be responsible or take responsibility for their actions. They blame you for cheating on you, blame you for being abusive and also blame you when things start going downhill for them. Such men find it hard to own up to their mistakes and actions.

Veteran model, Naomi Campbell has revealed that there was still a possibility that she might become a mother someday.

In an interview with Paris Match,Campbell, who is 49 years old, was asked whether she missed being a mother.

She replied, “No. By the way, who said I would not be a mother someday?”

Meanwhile, she also revealed her experience of racism during the last Cannes Film Festival held in France.

She revealed she had been invited to an event at a hotel in the south of France but wasn’t allowed in because of the colour of her skin.

Campbell said, “I was recently in a city in the south of France, at the time of the Cannes Film Festival, where I was invited to participate in an event in a hotel whose name I will not mention. They did not want to let my friend and I in because of the colour of my skin. The guy at the entrance pretended that the place was complete. But he let other people pass.”

She added, “It is for these kinds of shocking moments that I will continue to express myself and make myself heard.”

 

 

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Hephzibah Frances, author and social entrepreneur is set to host a healing conference for sexual abuse victims.

Frances who also doubles as a lawyer and the founder of ‘ Women At The Well’ a Christian women ministry based in Lagos, said her burden for sexually abused women inspired the meeting.

“I had a burden for sex abused women during a retreat last year and could feel their pain, hurt and brokenness”.

On why she is hosting the event at this moment, she said:”It is time. We wrote the book last year but now more than even before, many women are crying out for healing from pains from the past”

The event holding on Saturday August 3rd 2019 will be featuring Oma Grace Okonkwo and Iyinoluwa Onduru   who are survivors of sexual abuse.

The epoch-making event will be holding at Petit Paris Café, Admiralty Way, Lekki Phase 1 Lagos by 10am.

Frances also stated the reason behind her choice of speakers, saying: ”They were both abused – one at 8 years old and the other by a bike man while coming back from church. Both are married now, healed from the past and thriving in God. That there is healing in God. The Fathers heart is love towards them and they can be restored after past abuse and brokenness which is a restoration our speakers have found too”.

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With the issue of rape and sexual molestation currently a trending issue, everybody especially women need to be conversant about different ways to avoid getting raped or sexually assaulted.

The use of drugs is one of the ways rapists employ to assist them in their nefarious activity and these drugs are quite powerful and dangerous. Known as date rape drugs, they can be slipped into your drink when you are not looking and because the drugs often have no colour, smell, or taste, it is hard for you to tell you are being drugged until the deed has been done.

Before you go on your next date or take that drink from that ‘perfect gentleman’, here are some date rape drugs, their street names as well as effects on your body that you should know about.

Gamma Hydroxybutyrate Acid (GHB)

Gamma Hydroxybutyrate Acid | Photo – Twitter

Usually made by people in a home or street lab, and a small amount of GHB can have a major effect as it is a very potent drug. It is quite easy to overdose on GHB and the street names for GHB are Grievous Bodily Harm, Liquid G, Easy Lay, Liquid Ecstasy, Georgia Home Boy and Great Hormones at Bedtime. It takes effect in about 15 minutes and can last between three to four hours.

GHB can cause these problems:

  • Drowsiness
  • Nausea
  • Loss of consciousness (blackout)
  • Problems breathing
  • Sweating
  • Vomiting
  • Slow heart rate
  • Coma
  • Death

Ketamine

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This is a very fast-acting drug and boasts of the street names Special K, Vitamin K, KitKat and Purple Bump.

Under the effect of this drug, you might be aware of what is going on around you but usually, you are unable to move and it more often than not causes memory problems as you might not be able to remember what happened while you were drugged.

Ketamine can cause these problems:

  • Distorted perceptions of sight and sound
  • Lost sense of time and identity
  • Dream-like feeling
  • Feeling out of control
  • Vomiting
  • Memory problems
  • Numbness
  • Depression

Rohypnol

Rohypnol | Photo – Twitter

Known on the street as Roofies, R-2s, Roches, the Forget-Me pill, Whiteys, and Mind-Eraser, the effects of this potent drug can be felt within 30 minutes of being taken in and usually last for several hours. Under the influence of the drug, there is a tendency for you to act like a drunk and have trouble standing. Other effects include slurred speech or unconsciousness. Rohypnol can cause these problems:

  • Muscle relaxation or loss of muscle control
  • Drunk feeling
  • Problem with talking
  • Nausea
  • Loss of consciousness (blackout)
  • Confusion
  • Dizziness
  • Lower blood pressure
  • Stomach problems
  • Death
Source: Guardian