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5 WAYS TO GET THINGS DONE EVEN WHEN YOU’RE TOTALLY UNMOTIVATED

Right, today is not just one of those days you feel like doing anything. Getting things done can be such a big ask when faced with a to do list. There are days when the mind has to wedge serious bruising battles just to get things done. Your resistance mount on when you are faced with activities, tasks or even things that seem boring or just tedious. Resistance can plague you. They are days you can’t even push yourself to get out of bed, to do your business accounts, to train in the gym or to even be at work.

They are those days some of us take Bruno Mars  “Today I dont feel like doing anything” literally and just feel like doing nothing. I am mean nothing. The days when your motivation hovers around zero and nothing gets done. Any sort of affirmations will definitely fall short. All you are saying is you can’t get yourself to feel like doing these things. Here is the tough bit, who said you need to wait until you feel like doing something.

When you think about it, it’s nonsensical that one can only do something when they feel like. Some of the most successful people are where they are because they grew into routines.  Yes you can’t take away the place for passion, but it is not every day that you are driven by some form of motivation but rather working through the routine, clocking those hours and working towards getting the results.

Imagine the relief you get when you do the things you are supposed to when you are meant to. You feel less guilty, no shame and happier that you got those things done. How can you still save the day and get results? Of-course you can still get sh*t done and here is how:

  1. Make stuff pleasurable to do

It’s a given that some things can be boring and doing them takes away everything from you.  There is a tendency to associate such things with pain and not pleasure. Its easier to associate demanding things with discomfort. Doing mundane work can shutter your interest, going through a training workout can just seem painful, studying whilst others are having fun can be unthinkable.

 

Why not think of ways to bring a bit of pleasure to it. If you are thinking of losing weight but don’t fancy dealing with weights or the sweaty smells in gyms, why not take advantage of that sport you love. The result is still the same, it doesn’t matter how you go about. Why not listen to the jams (songs) that gets you going? There is something about music, it motivates, inspires, gives us energy and even push us. It doesnt matter if you are having a rainy day, or feeling tired or bored, playing your favourite music sends you into a parallel universe where everything is great – you can be lost in it. In those moments you wouldn’t certainly mind getting on with what ever needs doing.

If music isn’t your thing, why not invite friends over. Some things are easily done when you do them with your friends. Think of an event you can bring your girl friends over for and help you get the task at hand done. Having a laugh with friends whilst revising for your degree, getting the paint job done or fixing your garden can bring a different experience.  Before you even know the work is done and the results are here.

2. Manage your time on social media

For some social media is about business and making money but for many others social media is a distraction that has morphed into an addiction. A necessary ‘evil’ that keeps our minds and fingers hovering from one social platform to the next. There is no doubt social media has taken over our lives. It is what it is, some wake up to social media and wrap up their day on it. Well you cant blame anyone, the platforms carries everything you want to know from catching up with friends, gossip, news, even checking out trending movies or products.

So I cant even ask, given a choice, getting things done or social media, what gets done. Seriously no need to ask. So everything gets parked, today, tomorrow until you feel like there is no more choice. So if social media is the evil, why not cut it off. Don’t frown I don’t mean completely. As you shove your mind around, it too loses the flow of what you want to accomplish. Choose times when you can turn off those notifications, turn off even the messages from Facebook, Watsapp your DMs on Instagram. This frees you up and get your mind set on things that need doing. The best solution I’ve found is to turn off ALL notifications from social media apps and only check at certain times of the day. As fun as social media is, it doesn’t bring the same satisfaction as getting things done!

3. Give yourself incentives

Just imagine on the day you don’t feel like it, someone all of a sudden dangles cash in front of you. Put money on the line and we all get our feet up, we start counting even the things we are gonna get. It’s funny how motivated you get when there’s money on the line. There is something in you that just says, geez forget about my feelings I am going to get this done right now. Money can indeed ‘bribe’ us to get things done.

In the same way, find incentives that can ‘bribe’ you to get things done. “I am going to train so hard and then treat myself to a cheat meal, I am going to get this work done and get myself a 15 minute break on social media”. Even the smallest things like an extended rest period can change your attitude towards getting things done. Its about luring your mind with something irresistible and getting it focused to getting the things done. In some cases for those in relationships or married, your partner can offer something that, that THING you cant resist in exchange of you completing your tasks- you know what you can’t do without. The carrot approach can be a damn good motivator.

4. Nurture your inspiration

Your levels of motivation takes a swing, shooting up and down without the needed warning. It is just how the world is, mind you we experience different things sometimes a multitude in a day from painful experiences, disappointments, excitement, and the unexpected. Your levels of motivation are prone to the variations in your every day life experiences. To keep going you need to constantly and continuously nurture your motivation. One way of getting your motivation at peak is to think of the end result, getting that business going, getting the job done, getting the degree class and looking your best. Its about results. Focus on results not the pain, disappointments or the difficulties.

5. Refresh yourself on why you are doing it

Someone remind me why I should write this business report, why does this need doing, why do I have to train always, why do I have to write the book or study? It is important to face the questions and ask why you are doing these things. Your questions will help you to focus and keep in mind that it is about the RESULTS. The reminder can help you understand the importance and purpose of getting stuff done. “I am putting the extra hours on the business proposal so I can increase my chance of getting a business loan, I am forever drenching in sweat so I can get a position in the team, I am forever in the library to ace the exam that will get me the degree and career I want”

The daily and constant reminders nurtures and drives you to get the boring stuff done because by the end of the day it is about the result. By looking at the bigger picture everything else becomes less cumbersome.

6. Get yourself an Accountability partner

No matter how bored or tired you are, there is nothing as difficult as escaping accountability. There is something about accountability that  can even make you move mountains. How would you feel when you look bad around people you regard as friends and family. You would hate to look bad, to be seen as lazy and with no motivation or desire to do any better.

So you would agree there is something about accountability that makes you do stuff. Find someone, a friend, partner or family member who takes no NONSENSE, the one who can push you through and make you accountable for the time you spend. Start by sharing your plans, goals and things you want done.  Having such friends or partners around can provide you with the much needed accountability and increased the chances of you getting most stuff done. By doing things to avoid being shamed, you become accountable to you what needs doing.

7. Change your physical environment

A change in location or scenario plays a huge part in shaping your habits and behaviors. Your physical location can either drive or stall your desire to get things done. What the mind does subconsciously is exceptional. Without paying much thought to it, you assign behaviors to certain places even in your home.  Certain places can boost your motivation and drive your desire to get things done. Instead of looking at the tasks as mundane by varying your scenario its as if the task gets more doe-able, easier, enjoyable and worth doing. There is a place that you connect with – some writers gets inspired when they sit in cafes or coffee shops, some entrepreneurs find it easier when they mix with other business people in hubs, or you could be a nature enthusiast who finds peace and tranquility motivating.

You will be surprised how changing your location can help you to get stuff done. You get into a state of flow. Without doubt where you are affects how you get things done. Certain places just gets you into the zone, the moment you step in the mind shifts and focuses on what needs doing. Time to find what works for you, what locations motivates you to get stuff done?

Source: She Conquers

 

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SIJU YUSUF : WOMEN AND SELF-ESTEEM

Feminism and its aggressive drive in recent times have opened our eyes to a lot of issues bordering on women, chief of which is self esteem.

How we value ourselves, our self-worth and how we perceive our value to the people around us, and by extension, the world is a great way to describe self-esteem. In the case of women, it reflects an overall subjective emotional valuation of her own worth, more because women are emotional beings.

Several studies have shown that men have higher self-esteem than women. A study by American Association of University women stated in 1991 that ‘girls lose their self-esteem on the way to adolescence’.

Little wonder why particular attention is being paid to grooming a more informed generation of highly confident women.

Girls in the adolescent ages show rugged standpoints on a variety of matters however, this changes as they mature into dating ages. They begin to soft pedal and relax on these beliefs in a bid to be more attractive to the opposite sex. They take on new interests and assume new personalities.

Thankfully, this trend is changing and it is indeed interesting to know that the next generation of women do not have to be stifled to be accepted, or in the dating scenes, lovable.

The mischaracterization of women and their worth has caused too much damage in our world. From acceptance in places of worship to the wrong beliefs that certain positions in the workplaces cannot be held by women. Sadly, the society will not take on the responsibility to undo this harm, the onus is on every woman to recognize and take their positions.

Successes or failures are hinged on ones perception of worth. Therefore, it is safe to say nothing is as important as how you feel and think about yourself.

The following highlights practical ways women can improve their self-esteem.

  1. Get a mentor. Have you seen a women whose strength and confidence you admire? Move close to them. Learn from them. Glean.

Many successful women are willing to help others navigate their paths because they know, more than anyone else, the hard-work, courage and strength that brought them this far. They also understand the importance of a support network.

  1. Become self-reliant. Little successes have a way of boosting self-esteem. Rather than call in a handy-man to fix the cable set-up or even the kitchen cabinet, roll up your sleeves! There is something about the feeling of accomplishment on little things that spur us on to achieve greater tasks.
  1. Positive thinking. This may actually be the very first step to take. It shouldn’t actually be a one-time event, the process should be a never ending one. The power of positive thinking cannot be over-emphasized. Positive thinking has been known to position or set people up for success and success, we already established is a great booster of self-esteem.

‘I am enough’. ‘I can do this’. ‘I am intelligent’.

  1. Attention to self. Feel good about yourself. In saying feel good about oneself, particular attention is required to be paid to hygiene, dressing, diet and general welfare. The effect of these is especially powerful. Being confident in your looks is another essential ingredient in attaining and maintaining a rich self-esteem.
  1. Be more assertive. Stand for what you believe in. Put you foot down on issues. An assertive person is more is more in charge of her emotions, after all, whatever happens, you were a major factor.

Be more in control of the places you visit and the people you let into your circle. Don’t give room to people that make you feel less about yourself. Be surrounded with people that know and appreciate your worth.

  1. Know your strength. Find your strength and build on it. Encouragement comes from when you excel at the things that you do well. Again, the feeling of success is powerful in building self-esteem. When this is achieved, it becomes easier to stretch and push further.

Finally, the points mentioned above is not a ‘one-size-fits-all’ template as some women have had their esteem severely damaged by years of abuse and neglect, requiring professional help.

A psychotherapist should be seen in such instance. A professional that will help to uncover the circumstances that led to such levels of severity and help in developing a workable plan to rejuvenation.

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STELLA DAMASUS: “I WILL NOT RAISE MY DAUGHTERS TO THINK LIKE MEN”

“Think like a man” is one of the most common statement women utter while trying to show they are strong.

In the new edition of her Soldiers In Red Lipstick vlog, Nollywood actress Stella Damasus explains why she does not agree with the statement.

“Why would you say to me, a fully grown woman, that for me to be successful, I have to think like a man,” she asks.

She said,

You have to be clear what you mean by think like a man because when you say stuffs like think like a man and you don’t explain it, people will take it that you are born a woman, you go through what you go through in life but at the end of the day, your major goal to be successful is for you to think like a man.

So if you say you want to be equals with a man and in the same breadth, you are saying as a woman, you should think like a man, it means you are admitting and saying that the man is more intelligent, the man is the one that has what it takes to be successful, the one that can run a business……

No, I refuse to accept that. And that is the reason why most of us women don’t that we are strong enough, smart enough, good enough and  intelligent enough.

I will not raise my daughters to think like a man.

 

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CATHERINE KUPTA : THE POWER OF PERSONAL BRANDING

In the article, renowed writer  Catherine  Kupta stated that in her opinion, the reason why we see so few highly successful women at the top is that women are not as aware as men are of the power of personal branding, whether it’s self-promotion, projecting confidence or strategic networking. She then gives seven tips for success based on her discussions with over 150 highly successful women.

We hope these tips make your journey to the boardroom smoother and shorter.

Enjoy!

  1. Speak out at meetings

In general, women tend to speak up less than men in meetings and wait to be asked a direct question before they speak. While this can be polite behaviour, it can be misinterpreted. People might even think that you lack ideas or confidence or talent. You have to learn to join the business conversation and confidently express your ideas if you want to be successful.

  1. Stay “on brand”

Highly successful women know what they stand for and are authentic and consistent in the way they present themselves at every touch point too, whether it’s participating in meetings, leaving a succinct voicemail message on the phone, composing an email or attending corporate events.

  1. Don’t under-market yourself.

Humility may be a virtue but women can take it too far! One global study of male and female leadership found that most women tend to downplay their accomplishments, while men tend to promote their accomplishments. Highly successful women don’t leave career success to chance. They learn how to promote themselves and figure out a way to do it that’s authentic and effective. After all, if you don’t market yourself, who will?

  1. Fake it until you make it

Women are notorious at feeling that they’re not ready for a new assignment or promotion unless they can check off every box in the skill set required for the position. Highly successful women often tell me that they forced themselves to go after stretch assignments even if they weren’t ready. Sometimes you need to “fake it until you make it,” to get over the initial jitters and until you feel confident in a new role.

  1. Be visibility minded

Many women are visibility challenged and are not well-known outside of a very small network. Talent is important, but visibility separates those who are wildly successful from those who are just doing okay. That’s because there is a “visibility premium.” If you’re well-known, people think you are better than others who are not so well- known. She must be good because she’s well-known in the company is how the thinking goes.

  1. Pay attention to style

Women are scrutinised more in the business world, so you might as well turn it into an advantage! Realise that your clothes, hairstyle, office, even your make-up convey “messages” to others. You want to convey the right message for your organisation but have your own style. For most career women, there’s one important message your image must convey; you must project authority.

  1. Take a power pose

Poses such as standing tall, leaning in towards others or expansive hand gestures convey high power. Crossing arms across your chest or crossing your legs convey low power. Highly successful women try to use high power poses to underscore the words that they use.

Source: Source: Catherine Kaputa at http://www.hrzone.com

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BETTY IRABOR SHARES HER BATTLE WITH DEPRESSION AND SHE OVERCAME IT!

Publisher of Genevieve Magazine turned  sixty last week and she covers the latest edition of  Genevieve Magazine,  and again  shares with the world her strugggles with Depression.

Read excerpts from Genevieve Magazine below

On what triggered the depression

Insomnia and menopause triggered the depression. This is something women don’t talk about but the reality now is that people go into menopause as early as 37. I went into menopause on the other side of 50 but the depression came later. It wasn’t diagnosed in time. I was simply told I was under severe pressure and was advised to close down or take two years off. I lost a lot of weight and people thought it was intentional. Thisday Glitterati wrote that I was anorexic.

After two years of going back and forth on the root cause, one day I asked my doctor if it was menopause related. He was surprised I was 50 and he admitted that it was likely to be menopause. I suffered depression for years until I made the decision to get out of it. In the morning, I didn’t want the blinds open. I did not socialise for two years and the depression took its toll on my skin as well as my emotions.

I would be having a conversation and randomly burst into tears. People were insensitive and made comments about me losing weight because I wanted to stay young but it was all based on ignorance. I am sharing this because we hide what could be helpful to others.

I had to deal with mood swings…one minute I was laughing, the next, I was moody. It was bizzare that I became afraid to socialise…my socialisation skills were hindered. I tried to avoid celebrity events so the cameras won’t catch me. I stopped looking in the mirror because I didn’t like what I saw. Really weird.

Doctors didnt detect it was depression early enough!

Not for a while. I think it finally dawned on my doctor when he asked me to describe exactly how I felt. I said I felt sad! Funny thing is he couldn’t understand why a woman who had it all could be depressed. “Is it your husband,” he asked. “No, I said.” “Do you have money issues?” he asked again. “No,” I responded and added, “all of us will be depressed if it was about money.” “Are your children not doing well in school,” he probed further. Once again, I said, “they are doing very well.” “Is it your magazine,” he asked helplessly. “No,” I said, “but it’s a lot of work but not enough reason for a melt down,” I assured him.

“Could it have anything to do with menopause and the fact that I suffer chronic insomnia?” I volunteered. “How old are you again?” he asked. I pointed at my age which was boldly written on my case file and then he went…. “Oh, its depression triggered off by insomnia and menopause. You’re losing weight because of the lack of sleep and loss of appetite.”

Read the full interview and how she overcame depression in the new edition of Genevieve Magazine

Source: Woman.ng

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DEBBIE LARRY-IZAMOJE: 2 IMPORTANT LESSONS FROM MY FRIEND’S EXPERIENCE

When we were younger Bisi was probably the prettiest in class. While we tried to deal with the zits that came with puberty, Bisi had gotten a hang of it and became our go to person for advice. She was full of wisdom. Her fashion sense, her poise and diction, how could one person have it all? I remember how guys of all ages tried to talk to her back then, and how she always shut them down before they could say anything.

We became even closer in university and decided that we needed to go for one of those ACS events, since we never went out much. It was a little get together and I remember this guy who seemed like he was 20 years older than us talking to Bisi all through the night.

According to him, he was on holiday in the UK and had somehow found himself in an event meant for just university undergraduates. To cut the long story short, I didn’t see my friend Bisi again that night.

I heard a loud knock on my door the next morning it was my friend Bisi “ahh Debbie, I’ve found the one o,” she said with so much excitement.

See, I had known this girl since I was 9 years old, I had seen guys jump fences and fight themselves to get her attention but she was never moved. As a friend, my first instinct was to ask questions and ensure that this guy was right for her; but for some reason I never asked any question, because over the years Bisi had proven to me that she was very wise in dealing with the opposite sex.

Days, weeks and months passed and my communication with my friend started fading out. I would send messages and her response was always “sorry I was busy.” We barely spoke. Our other friends complained that Bisi didn’t talk to them either, and it was because of this man she was now dating.

I remember scrolling through Instagram and seeing a picture of my supposed friend getting married, my heart skipped a beat. How was Bisi getting married and I had no idea? Was this why she had stopped coming to class? Were the rumours about her dropping out true? My phone didn’t stop ringing that day as our friends all had different reactions to what we had all seen on social media.

We never got answers till I ran into Bisi again 4 years later.

Bisi had married the wrong man. Dropped out of school to marry a violent man, a liar and a cheat. He had warned her to cut all her friends off as she had no business having single friends any more. She had willingly dropped out of school to bear kids for him, as he was getting older but even kids looked like a dream at this point. She had miscarried 3 times because of different instances – one which involved him pushing her down the stairs for not being active enough during her first pregnancy.

As Bisi spoke to me, I could feel my heart breaking, I cried. Who would have seen Bisi and known that she had endured all this?

I asked her how come she was doing so well now after everything she had endured. She said: “Debz, I turned my pain into a project, I knew that I had reached my lowest when I walked out of that marriage, but I also knew that I could only go up from there with the right mindset, I wanted to be able to fend for myself. It didn’t matter what decisions I had made to get here, I wanted to do the right thing moving forward”

Silence Your Giants
Bisi explained that when she decided to leave there were many thoughts that crossed her mind and even family members that told her she’ll never be anything as a divorcee. She said she had to work on her mind, because most times if you can fix your mind, you can fix your life. According to her there will days that you wouldn’t want to get out of bed, but you have to fix your mind on where you see yourself 10 years from now or even 5. After you have reached rock bottom, take time to mourn and keep moving. Don’t stay there. Be intentional about what project you want to turn your pain into and just do it.

Turn Your Pain Into Purpose
Bisi explained to me that sometimes your journey and experiences are lessons for other people. Do not be silent about them. We sometimes go through situations to raise a better generation. Do not let your pain overwhelm you. Focus on ensuring that your pain produces a better you. Whether it is working out again, speaking to people in the same situation and much more.

Sometimes we have to clear away the clutter so we can see what God has planned for us and when He shows you his plans, obey and turn it into a mission that can bless the next person.

“When something bad happens you have three choices. You can let it define you, let it destroy you, or you can let it strengthen you.” ~Unknown.

Debbie Larry-Izamoje

About Debbie Larry-Izamoje

Debbie Larry-Izamoje AKA The Entrepreneur’s Best-Friend, holds a BSc in Information management from the University of Sheffield, United Kingdom. And Msc in management from University College London (UCL). She has also secured certificates in user innovation from Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT) and Innovation and strategy from Harvard University.
She is on a mission to raise a generation of young established or soon to be established professionals who are more vocal about business difficulties while providing solutions through public speaking, training, workshops and coaching.
She is the founder of Image Boosters a digital communications and strategy agency and the IBL platform a subsidiary of Image boosters limited which is an online business community for young established/soon to be established professionals to ask questions, share concerns and experiences and receive tailored counselling.

http://www.imageboostersng.com/debbieizamoje/
Twitter and Instagram: @dee_larry @imageboosters_
Email: contactus@imageboosters.com.ng

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THE WOMAN’S PERCEPTION OF THE MAN (PART 2)

Boyfriends, these are another elite set of champions in a woman’s perception of men. When a lady has gone through a series of boyfriends (which in our society today, both home and abroad) is usually the case, she tends to develop preferences. What preferences you ask?! I’m talking about your ‘spec’, your dream man or your ‘ideal man’. The ammunition boyfriends bring to the table is ‘love’. Love in any of its manifestations, is a very capable weapon that can build upon or destroy a woman’s perception of the man. I know a girl who dated close to four basket-ball athlete-looking bobos (really tall guys) and afterwards, claimed she couldn’t date men shorter than a 6-footer; this is a preference formed from the perception that tall guys are better lovers. I am also happy to report that in a funny twist of fate, she is now married to a guy barely 5’2.

The woman’s boss at the office is another trigger. He also has the power to build upon or destroy a woman’s perception. This is because, he is someone she respects (sometimes fears) and is also in a position of authority. A wicked boss, begets the perception that men at the reins of power, are wicked and heartless. These parameters were also used to measure male political leaders alone, for being heartless and shamelessly stealing public funds, or at least it was solely reserved for them, till a few flawed women (women inspired by these men) began to edit that line of thought.

Love, fear and respect. These are all emotional and psychological parameters that the woman uses to analyze the man. If a woman loves a man, fears a man or respects him, he can do a lot of good and a whole lot of bad to her perception of who the man is and what he represents. It seems unfair doesn’t it; well that’s just the cycle of life. The Holy Bible said the woman was torn from the rib of the man; is that where the perpetual need to love and respect them comes from? However, scientists would prefer to paint a picture that shows a natural animalistic tendency for male dominance over the female; after all they say we are only ‘higher animals’ right?!!

The Holy Grail influencing the woman’s perception of men is her husband. Permit me to refer to the Holy Bible again, a scripture says ‘’… of all these, LOVE is the greatest of them all”. Now, that scripture was talking about love in general, but nonetheless, the romantic love between a man and woman is a force that has managed to make little sense when it comes to a wholesome definition. Poets have tried, philosophers have pondered, but even with their brilliant conclusions, they have managed to fall short in perfectly describing the phenomenon that is love. Love for a man, can make a woman do crazy things (note that this goes both ways). A wo-man wooed by a man is practically high. What is she high on? She’s high on love. Whatever her lover does is the law, if he thinks a certain way, does things in a particular order, or even breathes a certain way; to the woman, this is how men behave or at least should behave. Anything that falls short of this is suddenly a surprise to her.

 

                                            

 

Loving someone includes loving their character and personality; it is even more intense when they have a bad habit or react in a not so pleasant way and to the woman that’s okay, it’s just fine. So imagine a woman being battered and abused and yet is still there playing the role of a punching bag without crying out, this is because to her ‘’that’s what men do, sometimes they get angry and they slap you’’. Then there is the woman who knows there’s even a limit to which a man can raise his voice at her. Love, love, love, it can suppress or appreciate the rationale behind the woman’s perception of the man. I beseech you women out there, check your perspective, make changes where and if necessary. Take back the power.

 

 

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“WHY DO MEN LIE ABOUT BEING MARRIED?” UWANMA ASKS IN HER LATEST VLOG |

OAP Uwanma Odefa is out with a new a Vlog and in this episode, she is asking Why do men Lie about being married?

She says:

This is something I have never understood. Why do some men deny their wives and children just so they can get a single girl to date them? What makes them so desperate to have a particular woman that they would deny their own children? And when they’re caught, their wives automatically assume the other woman is a husband snatcher when that woman had no idea Mrs. Wife exists!

Here is why I think they do it and here is what I think girls should do to protect themselves from these married in bachelor clothing!

Watch!

 

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PECULIAR OKAFOR: TEACH HER TO SAY ‘BEAUTIFUL’

I once watched a Dove T.V commercial  in which two doors were open; one tagged ‘beautiful’ and the other tagged ‘average’. Both doors were beside each other leading to a mall and the ladies were to choose whatever door they passed through based on their how they viewed themselves. It was funny to watch a lot of females, including extremely stunning ones, go through the average door.

This could have been for a lot of reasons; maybe they did not consider themselves beautiful or maybe they were afraid to ‘dare’ call themselves beautiful. Haba, they were supposed to be humble, and maybe they were afraid of backlash.

In life there we will always be faced with two choices: to be beautiful or average (okay, there’s a third one, to be downright ugly)… but we need to teach our daughters to choose beautiful;

  • When feelings of doubt, insecurity and low self esteem creep in, she is to choose beautiful.
  • When people are malicious, when they gossip and backbite, she is to choose beautiful and show love.
  • When evil lurks around, rather than be average and complain, she will choose beautiful by doing her best to bring a change.
  • When being mediocre is easier, she will choose beautiful by striving to utilize all her God given potential.
  • She will do her best, give her all, bring others happiness (okay, I’m stealing Beyonce’s lyrics but you get the drill).
  • But most importantly, she will never compete with anyone or allow anyone put her down because she knows that she is a masterpiece, God’s definition of beauty.

Shout out to all women.  In a world that strives to put us down and force their labels and definitions on us, may we be bold enough to always CHOOSE BEAUTIFUL.

Photo Credit: Paul Hakimata | Dreamstime.com

About Peculiar Okafor

Peculiar is a Marketing communications personnel, she believes that one can have a full life without being bitchy and she wants it all ‘A good career, love, laughter, wealth, you name it.

She blogs at www.daworkdiva.blogspot.com.ng.

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