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As part of the year long series, As Equals, by CNN, women from lesser developed countries are sharing their own stories of gender inequality, sexual assault and harassment. Even though the #MeToo and TimesUp movements started in the US, countless women from all over the world can relate to the distressing stories being shared.

 

Three brave women: Oluwaseun Ayodeji Osowobi, Brenda Uphopho and Eurel Nwafor (Photo: CNN)

2017 was a pivotal year for Nigerian women and women’s rights movements revealed some disturbing details of the commonness of sexual harassment and assault of which thousands of men and women around the world partook in.

CNN is now also giving Nigerian women a louder voice, allowing them to share their #MeToo stories. Watch these strong Nigerian women – Brenda Uphopho, Eurel Nwafor, Chichi Ogbonnaya, Oluwaseun Ayodeji Osowobi and Omodasola Omibeku – share their survival stories below:

1. Brenda Uphopho

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Brenda, a  festival producer from Lagos is one of the five women who shared their sexual abuse stories with CNN.

According to her, she was assaulted three times by three different men but she never found the nerve to tell anyone until it was dawn on her that her teenage daughter was fast growing up in the same world that soiled her purity.

Watch Video of her talk below

2.  Eurel Nwafor

The 22-year-old said she was raped in August 2017 after some opposition union members stormed her former place of work.

She was working as a personal assistant at a market in Lagos at the time of the incident. We have her video below

3. Chichi Ogbonnaya

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Chichi, another victim, was defiled at 10 years old by an ‘uncle’. Ogbonnaya was sent to live with the man by her mother, who could not afford to take care of her.

4. Oluwaseun Ayodeji Osowobi

#MeToo: Meet the female sexual abuse survivors speaking out it Nigeria (photos/videos)

In 2010, young Seun now 27, was working as a volunteer in a local election when she was asked to register underage voters. Her refusal to carry out the illegal request landed her in trouble.

She said one of the candidates in the election tried to make her juicy offers just to make her budge which led to the unfortunate situation.

5. Omodasola Omibeku

At age 6 years old, another victim, Omodasola was first abused by a distant relative.

The man lived with them in her family house, which she said was full of “aunties and uncles, some not even blood relatives.” We have her video below.

 

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Model Chrissy Teigen, wife of John Legend and mother to 22 month old baby girl has opened up on post partum depression and her sincere wish that she not experience it with this second pregnancy.

While writing for April’s issue of Glamour magazine an essay on her past bout of postpartum depression, heavily pregnant Chrissy also revealed how she had battled with post partum depression and how she had no body to warn her or school her on it.

She said;

“Before this, I had never, ever in my whole entire life had one person say to me: ‘I have postpartum depression,’ ” writes Teigen on Instagram.

She added that she struggles with the term itself, “because the word depression scares a lot of people. I often just call it ‘postpartum.’ ” Maybe I should say it, though. Maybe it will lessen the stigma a bit.”

I didn’t know I had it. I knew I had an incrediblelife, and an incredible husband, and family, and all the resources necessary, and I knew I was personally unhappy, but I didn’t think anything was wrong with it because I just assumed that that’s the way it was.

You have a kid, you’re sad, you lose those endorphins, and that’s the way it is.”

Teigen had to have a ‘sit down’ talk with herself and come clean about what was really going on. She wishes one thing had been done differently with her past experience,

I do wish more people had spoken up around me. It took me to finally sit myself down because I think it’s hard for people to point something out.”

emphasizing, “Postpartum does not discriminate. I couldn’t control it. And that’s part of the reason it took me so long to speak up.”

She went on to say in the writing, “I’m speaking up now because I want people to know it can happen to anybody, and I don’t want people who have it to feel embarrassed or to feel alone. One thing I know is that-for me-just merely being open about it helps.”

 

 

 

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Dorothy Steel, who started acting at age 88, amazingly got a role in the biggest grossing film at the moment ‘Black Panther’.

It is noteworthy that the 92-year-old Atlantan got her big break when she was 91 years old, landing a role in the mega hit movie  as the Merchant Tribal Elder giving advice to the King of Wakanda. She told WSBTV in Atlanta that she didn’t even pursue acting until she was 88!

Casting callbacks don’t usually happen the way it did for Steel who submitted her audition and within an hour got a callback for a role in the blockbuster.

And of all the movies, Dorothy Steel ended up being cast in one of the highest grossing Marvel Cinematic Universe releases of all time, on her first try!

Talking about being cast in the movie, she said:

“If anyone would have told me I would be an actor, I would’ve said you got to be out of your mind.”

“Chadwick [Boseman] the King. Every day, he would make sure if I was on the set, he would come by and make sure he gave me a big ol’ hug and kiss.

“We were one big melting pot of Black people and we knew we were doing something that had never been done before.”

Dorothy Steel also told the Atlanta station that she believes the female heroes in the film helped the movie break records at the box office.

Steel said her role as Tribal Elder was fitting, especially because on set she also doubled as the resident grandmother.

 

 

19 years old Eniola Abioro, a finalists at the Few Model Management maiden competition, has become the First Nigerian to make an international debut for Prada during the Milan Fashion Week!

Eniola was discovered by the director of Few Models director, Bolajo Fawenhimi, in 2017 while working as an intern in a private primary school in Lagos. She was convinced to participate at the maiden edition of Few’s Next Face where she emerged as one of the top 5 finalists.

 

The young model has also made appearances on top fashion runways around the world since her Prada debut, at Versace, Tommy Hilfiger, Feragammo, Yves Saint Laurent, Paco Rabanne and Loewe. She was recently named by Vogue as “one of the strongest new faces on the runway”

 

Sosoliso Air Crash survivor Kachi Okwuchi has bared it all in her interview with Linda Ikeji in On The Interview show.

Kachi speaks about how she’s journeyed through life and how she’s learned to accept that your scars don’t define you.

She also talked about how it felt waking up after 5 weeks of being in a coma to realize everyone from her school on the flight with her had died. She also talked about her experience as a contestant at America’s Got Talen

Watch her Interview below;

Media personality, Gbemi Olateru has been trending online after her insightful tweets on marriage went viral.

She said: “Our generation has a lot of work to do. We need to understand that being a good wife /Mom goes beyond cooking great meals and having a low body count. Being a good husband /Dad doesn’t just stop at being able to provide. There’s so much more.

Let’s say your father was a great provider – He paid for EVERYTHING – it still doesn’t make him a great father. What if he used his money to bully you , your siblings or your mom into doing the things that HE WANTED?”

 

See her full tweets below

some of you are so hopelessly dense and every little thing has to be explained to you ….*sigh*

Let’s say your father was a great provider – He paid for EVERYTHING – it still doesn’t make him a great father . What if he used his money to bully you , your siblings or your mom into doing the things that HE WANTED?

Let’s say your father was a great provider – He paid for EVERYTHING – it still doesn’t make him a great father . What if he used his money to bully you , your siblings or your mom into doing the things that HE WANTED?

Or let’s say your mom was the best cook EVER! From Naija to continental dishes – she was the best ! But she was emotionally abusive to you/ your siblings and made you feel worthless with her words? Being a great cook does not a great mother make .

Or let’s say your mom was the best cook EVER! From Naija to continental dishes – she was the best ! But she was emotionally abusive to you/ your siblings and made you feel worthless with her words? Being a great cook does not a great mother make .

That’s what I meant by being a great provider / great cook isn’t enough . Why does there have to be a thread for some people to grasp things 🤷🏾‍♀️. *sigh*

Pakistan has elected its first female senator from the lowest Dalit caste in weekend polls which also saw the ruling party strengthen its hand ahead of a general election in the Muslim-majority country.

The surprise victory of opposition candidate Krishna Kumari Kohli in the Senate election stirred a wave of optimism on social media, as Pakistanis celebrated the rare success for a woman from a marginalised community at the bottom of the Hindu caste hierarchy.

“I feel proud, I am thankful to Pakistan People’s Party that they nominated me,” Kohli told AFP Sunday.

“Kudos to PPP for electing #KrishnaKohli…. Our parliament should have representatives of all religions, classes & genders in pursuit of true democracy,” tweeted rights activist Jibran Nasir.

Pakistan’s Hindus, who make up around two percent of the country’s 200 million people, have long faced economic and social discrimination.

Members of parliament and of provincial assemblies voted Saturday to fill half the seats in the Senate, or upper house, before elections due this summer for the lower house of parliament.

The ruling Pakistan Muslim League-Nawaz (PML-N) won 15 of the 52 seats up for election to secure a total of 33 spots in the 104-seat upper house. Support from allies is likely to give it a dominating majority.

The Pakistan People’s Party (PPP) won 12 and the Pakistan Tehreek-e-Insaf party of former cricket star Imran Khan came third with six.

“Pakistan Muslim League-Nawaz has secured a clear majority in the Senate polls,” the party announced late Saturday on its official Twitter account.

The victory came despite legal setbacks.

Last July the Supreme Court toppled PML-N supremo Nawaz Sharif from the premiership over corruption allegations.

Ahead of the Senate vote, the court also barred Sharif from leading his party, forcing all PML-N candidates officially to stand as independents because they had been selected by the axed chief.

Following the win, Sharif called on his supporters to keep fighting at the ballot box in the face of pressure from the courts.

“First they removed my name and then they removed the Muslim League’s name but members of parliament and provincial assemblies rejected that decision,” he told thousands of supporters at a rally in the eastern city of Gujrat Sunday.

Despite the court rulings, the PML-N has won a string of by-elections following the ousting of Sharif.

The Sharif clan and their supporters have repeatedly denied corruption, suggesting Nawaz is the victim of a conspiracy driven by Pakistan’s powerful military establishment.

Source: Pulse News

Uche Onyekwelu, the brain behind the business, Stuch Beddings, has taken to her Instagram page to share her inspiring success story.

She started her business in 2014 as a youth corper who knew she loved good beddings and wanted to make a lucrative business out of it. It looked like it was never going to pay as no body was willing to invest in the business but all that is history today as her business is extremely successful.

 

See her Instagram post below

The #BlackPantherChallenge is an ongoing online challenge created by a New York resident Frederick Joseph. The aim of the challenge is to take more kids to watch Black Panther in the cinemas in the bid to expose them to all the representation in the film.

Many celebrities have taken up the challenge, and Lupita took it a notch further by sponsoring 600 students in her hometown: Kisumu, Kenya to watch the film.

(Photo: Lupita Nyongo/Instagram)

Black Panther is a celebration of blackness that both powerfully pays homage to African heritage, while showcasing what Africa could be through the highly advanced Wakanda. Young children all over the world don’t usually see black superheroes in films, and Black Panther is one the first movies that offer this.

It is important for young black children all over the world to see this movie, as more than just a fun superhero movie, it’s a chance for black people to see themselves reflected on the big screen without being whitewashed or diluted.

Speaking about why she sponsored children from her hometown on Instagram, Lupita said:

“I joined the #BlackPantherChallenge and sponsored 600 schoolchildren to watch the film in Kisumu, Kenya with my mother’s help.

I wanted kids from my hometown to see the positive images reflected in the film and superheroes that they can relate to on the big screen.

No matter where you live, you can help make this happen for more children who can’t afford to see the movie.”

After seeing what not just the titular superhero can do, but also the bevy of ass-kicking ladies who help him save Wakanda, it’s hard not to leave Black Panther feeling like you too can save the world!

 

 

Culled from konbini.com

Veteran actress, Eucharia Anunobi has taken to her Instagram page on Tuesday, February 27, 2018, to share a number of photos for her fans as she graduates from RCCG’s School of Disciples.

In one of her photos, she made reference to her ability to finish her exams despite being in the process of burying her son.

“If you keep looking at the mountain, it becomes overwhelming, go to the base and start climbing, don’t look down and don’t look up, just keep at it, before you know it, you are at the top.

“If I could finish my exams while burying my son, what is stopping you from completing your studies. I prophesy as commanded may all satanic agenda put in place to stagnate your destiny be truncated now in JESUS name,” she wrote.

This is coming barely a couple of days after Eucharia Anunobi had revealed that her son, Raymond was mistakenly killed by doctors. The veteran actress revealed this while granting an interview with Saturday Beats and also talked about why she celebrated her son’s posthumous birthday.

The actress had celebrated her son’s post-humous birthday with a visit to the motherless babies home on Friday, February 16, 2018 where she shared gifts. She revealed that she usually visits motherless babies home where she gives out gifts yearly and that this year won’t be different.
Source: Pulse