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Olayode Juliana who was famous for her role as Toyo Baby in Funke Akindele’s Jenifa series, recently granted an interview with The Nation where she spoke on her firm belief against sex before marriage. According to Juliana, sex before marriage leads to cheating when people eventually become married as they start comparing their partners sexual prowess with that of the people they had sex with before marriage.

Read excerpts of her interview below

Do you believe that sex before marriage makes relationships more complicated?

Yes I do. Sex before marriage makes relationship more complicated. Some ladies date more than five men before marriage and sleep with all of them because they see it as a norm or a way to prove their love against God’s standard. I personally believe that there is a lot to sex than the pleasure it gives. It makes you become one with the person. It ties you with the person, such that when you marry you compare your previous sexual life with your present and the memories of how you did it with the other person won’t leave you, expecting more from your husband or wife, forgetting that we are all not the same and our sexual lives can’t be the same as well.

That’s what leads to cheating in marriage. Some men or women can’t imagine been faithful to just one person because they’ve done it with several people in their past or before marriage so it’s difficult. Research has it and I learnt that if you had sex with a particular person if you meet the person years after and you’re alone or whatever, it is very possible that you will do it again.

You are really a strong advocate on ‘no sex before marriage?

Sex is good, don’t get me wrong, I mean God created it and everything He made is good and beautiful but sex before marriage is what makes it bad and wrong and sex with anyone else apart from your husband or wife in marriage is bad as well.

Former Big Brother Nigeria housemate Gifty Powers made her mom her woman crush Wednesday yesterday and shares an emotional story of how her mom singlehandedly raise her and her sibblings.

She wrote:

“If I’m permitted to celebrate one special person over and over again for the rest of my life, it will be none other person but my MOM.

I remember a week after my step dad passed away, my mom was given 2 options(hand over all properties or we give my 2 step siblings to them), all my mom could say was “9months is never 9days”..
few days later my mom handed all properties to them and as little as we all were,we had to start life all over again through the scorching sun; the road was rough but hey we made it through. 

This woman has laid her life for us in so many ways that till now i wonder “Why would she”, she’s been the kind of bestfriend that I’ve always wished for since as a little girl, she’s been the reason why i kept holding on strong for so many things happening life, she’s one person that has taught me that “In Life if you listen to the noise in the market,you won’t buy what you wanna buy”.
She lost my Father (my dad) when i was a year old, still lost my step dad when my step kid brother was 4years old, got abandoned by family members who saw they were not gaining(money) from us like they used too & above all these, she still held perfectly strong & said “no obstacles will hold me down, life goes on”. 
In as much as I’ve been dragging + pleading with her to MARRY AGAIN but no avail, all she keep saying is “i don’t need any man in my life,my kids are enough for me”.
I can swear that in my life, i have done some horrible stuffs that I’m not proud off of which i know a mother shouldn’t forgive her child, yet without any hesitation my mom will cover me up in public no matter what and scold me behind closed doors. 
Well, I don’t care if I write too much based on my Mom because it is my page and I’m proud of writing these down. My mom is my weak point,you do her wrong then you’ve gotten to me + at he end you will see the BEAST sidbelowme.

But one thing i will always say is One Love To All The Widows All Over The World, i know it’s not easy taking care of kids but trust me, if there is one thing one should be grateful for, it is LIFE.. not everyone is opportuned to Live in this Life.
#AlwaysMyWCW

#WCW

#MyLove

#MyHeart

#noonelikemysweetmama”

Once, Janie had a gun, and now, she’s got a fund and a house that helps victims of violence and abuse. On December 7, Aerosmith frontman Steven Tyler took to Instagram to announce the opening of Janie’s House, a new residential center that will provide support to survivors of abuse and neglect.

Created as an extension of Janie’s Fund, a philanthropic initiative by Steven Tyler and Youth Villages, the facility is located in Douglasville just outside of Atlanta, Georgia. It offers accommodations for up to 30 people annually, including 24-hour medical care and therapeutic support.

The name, just like fund’s title, was inspired by Tyler’s 1989 song “Janie’s Got A Gun,” which tells a story of a young girl who was abused by her father. According to the Youth Villages press release:

“Tyler has long had a desire to help with this issue, leading back to the 1980s when he was in a program for his personal recovery.

There, he heard a story of a woman who had experienced incredibly painful and debilitating sexual abuse as a child and how those gruesome events put her on a path of suffering that eventually led to her abusing drugs to mask the pain.”

Tyler’s goal was to create a safe space for women and girls to share their problems and get appropriate help from professionals. Describing Janie’s House, the musician said: “It’s a safe haven, and more than anything, it gives them a voice.”

Looking at the impressive things Tyler has already achieved through Janie’s Fund – with donations from more than 38 countries and philanthropic influencers such as Bono, Miley Cyrus, Britney Spears the fund has raised more than $2.5 million and helped over 520 girls – we’re certain his latest initiative will be of equal success.

(Photo: Janie’s Fun/Instagram)

(Photo: Janie’s Fun/Instagram)

(Photo: Janie’s Fun/Instagram)

Source: Konbini.com

Tennis star, Serena Williams is set to make her playing comeback before the end of 2017, following the birth of her daughter, Alexis Olympia Ohania.

The mother of one, who has not played since winning the Australian Open in January, will return to court to play French Open champion Jelena Ostapenko next Saturday, at the Mubadala World Tennis Championship in Abu Dhabi.

The 36-year-old, who gave birth to her baby in September, is planning to make a competitive return at the Australian Open next month.

Confirming her comeback, she said:

“I am delighted to be returning to the court in Abu Dhabi for the first time since the birth of my daughter in September,” Williams told the tournament’s official website.

‘The Mubadala World Tennis Championship has long marked the beginning of the men’s global tennis season.

“I am excited and honoured to be making my comeback as part of the first women to participate in the event.

“I look forward to seeing the fans in Abu Dhabi at the 10th Edition of the Championship very soon,” She added.

27-Year-Old Jetsun Pema of Bhutan is the world’s youngest living queen. She became a queen at age 21 when she married King Jigme Khesar Namgyel Wangchuck of Bhutan, 31, in 2011.

Queen Jetsun Pema and King Jigme Khesar Namgyel Wangchuck of Bhutan (aka Dragon King) both previously studied in England. The queen attended Regent’s College in London, where she studied international relations, psychology, and art history, while the King studied at Oxford University. They share a love of art, and were once been dubbed the “Will and Kate of The Himalayas”. In April 2016, the King and Queen welcomed the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge on a royal visit.

The King and Queen have a one-year-old son called The Gyalsey. He was born in February 2016.

There are different versions of the story of how they met. The Washington Post reported that in one version of events, the two met at a picnic when she was seven and he was 17. She reportedly came up to him and gave him a hug. Theirs has been described as a “love marriage”.

Pema was reportedly portrayed as a “commoner” by the secretariat. However, her family apparently has long-term links with the royals. She is the daughter of a pilot but her paternal great-grandfather was lord of the eastern province of Tashigang, and her maternal grandfather was the half-brother of the wife of Bhutan’s second king, according to The Washington Post.

Speaking about his wife, the king once told local reporters:

“I have been waiting for quite some time to get married. But it doesn’t matter when you get married as long as it is to the right person. I am certain I am married to the right person. 

“She is a wonderful human being. Intelligent. She and I share one big thing in common, a love and passion for art.”

The young queen is known for her charity work for organisations such as the Bhutan Red Cross Society, Ability Bhutan Society, and Bhutan Kidney Association. The Queen is active on social media where photos of her, the king, and their son are frequently shared. She also shares interesting works of art via her social media accounts.

 

Source: LIB

When it comes to mental health, the topic is full of stigmas, particularly when it comes to black females and males. Although a proven form of treatment for mental suffering, therapy has been seen as a longtime off-limits area for POC.

Thankfully, kind souls are doing the work necessary to put tools into place to get rid of these stigmas surrounding mental health, and begin the healing in a proactive way.

BTW, http://therapyforblackgirls.com  is a nationwide listing of licensed Black women therapists in case you’re looking for someone professional to talk to like you.

Therapy For Black Girls is a website that allows black women to connect with licensed psychotherapists who are just like them. Featuring a growing database across the United States, the website boasts a goal of “encouraging the mental wellness of Black women and girls” by giving them access to women who can not only help improve their mental health, but who they can relate to.

Founded by Georgia-based licensed psychologist Dr. Joy Harden Bradford, she explains she created the space as a way make getting help easier for young black women faced with debilitating stigmas.

“So often the stigma surrounding mental health issues and therapy prevent Black women from taking the step of seeing a therapist. I developed the space to present mental health topics in a way that feels more accessible and relevant.”

Broken into a variety of poignant topics – including anxiety, break ups, dating, depression and college life – the site allows visitors to decipher which areas of life they’d like support in before accessing psychologists based off of an easy to use and regionally-specific list.

Dr. Joy Harden Bradford (Photo: Therapy For Black Girls)

The directory includes the psychologist’s website – so you can find your absolute best match – as well as the contact information for the desired therapist– solving hours of Googling, calling and researching that can instead be used towards remedying the mental issues at hand.

As many young black men and women know, the avoidance of acknowledging mental health issues is a direct deterrent to the betterment of the race as a whole. But by making this process simple, modern and stigma-free, this tool is heightening the chances of black women becoming masters their mental health, leading to a inarguably healthier, happier and more free world.

 

culled from Konbini.com

British lady who married an Igbo man and goes by the name Nwanyi Oma on social media has shared a testimony of how she gave birth after the doctors had told her she could not.

Talking about her experience on her Instagram page, she wrote:

“There was a time in my life I thought I couldn’t have children. My doctor told me I suffered from PCOS – the most common endocrine disorder among women between the ages 18 and 44 – and that my chances of having children were close to zero. When you are dreaming of starting your own family, the pain and heartache that go with such a diagnose are absolutely overwhelming.
But as it turned out, God had a different plan for me. Today I am not only the proud mother of three children, but on top of that, I can proudly call myself mama ejima!”

 

See her full post below

 

In Tunisian high schools, the dress code is not uniform. Actually, it is: but only for girls. Boys can wear what they like, and now the girls are up in arms.

One morning, instead of turning up for class wearing the regulation navy blue smock, a defiant group of adolescent girls came to school in white T-shirts instead, demanding an “end to discrimination”.

At the elite Bizerte public school in the north, as is the case in most high schools in the North African country, pupils have to sign a school rule stipulating that wearing a uniform applies to girls only.

One day in September, supervisors reminded senior female students who did not abide by this rule that if they did not wear the smock, a loose-fitting, long gilet, they would be sent home.

Ironically, the warning was passed on during a philosophy class — about the human body.

This “injustice” inspired many of the girls to take to social networks and vent their feelings, 18-year-old Siwar Tebourbi told AFP.

She said the girls agreed to take collective action from the following day “to demand that this discrimination must cease”.

So dozens duly turned up for class, wearing white. Several boys did the same, in solidarity with their classmates.

How did the school authorities react? By saying nothing. Thus was born the “Manish Labsetha” (“I won’t wear it”) campaign, referring to the offending garment.

‘A terrible message’

It was the culmination of a dispute that had been brewing for years.

Outraged that the navy blue was imposed on everyone in primary and secondary school but was compulsory in high school only for girls, pupils regularly appeared without it, risking expulsion or seeing their parents summoned.

Monia Ben Jemia, head of the Association of Democratic Women of Tunisia, an independent feminist group, called the smock rule “a terrible message” because it implies that young girls’ bodies can have a disruptive effect on their peers.

She called it a complete aberration, especially since the country’s new constitution of 2014 says that men and women are equal.

The high school students who launched the campaign, both male and female, are also against what they perceive as a wider “hypocrisy”.

“They drill into us at school that men and women are equal, but in practice this is not the case,” said Adam Garci, 17.

That the navy gilet is actually supposed to erase social inequalities between pupils is a source of some amusement to Tebourbi.

“If it was really meant to conceal any differences between rich and poor, then boys as well as girls would have to wear it,” she smiled.

Imposing the blue uniform on girls at a time when their bodies are undergoing change is not a trivial issue, said her friend Farah Ben Jemaa.

Rather embarrassing

“One supervisor told me I couldn’t wear leggings without a smock because I was ‘shapely’, and another told us ‘It bothers the men teachers’,” Ben Jemaa said.

The whole affair would appear to be somewhat embarrassing for the authorities.

Speaking on condition of anonymity, one senior education official found it difficult to explain exactly what was happening.

He acknowledged the sensitivity of the subject, even though Tunisia is considered to be a pioneer in North Africa and the Middle East in the field of women’s rights.

If the official line is that equality between men and women is an asset, large sections of Tunisian society remain conservative and “there is resistance”, said Ben Jemia, at the Association of Democratic Women of Tunisia.

In the courtyard of another school in Bizerte, the Habib Thameur Lycee, equality is a topic for passionate debate among students.

Of around 15 boys asked about it, just one — Nader — spoke up for the traditional view.

“Girls must cover the shape of their bodies,” he said.

“That’s how we have been raised. It’s our mentality, and it should stay that way.”

The others were firm backers of the campaign.

One final year pupil tried to argue with a supervisor seeking to enforce the rules.

“But madame,” he asked. “What if the regulation is wrong?”

Revolution generation

She thought for a moment. “For me, it’s not unfair, it’s the rules. That’s the way it is,” she murmured.

School director Iadh Toulgui admitted that the supervisor’s view was unlikely to sway pupils who had lived through the revolution of 2011, which toppled a 23-year police state and brought about freedom of expression.

“This is a revolutionary generation, open to the world. When you try to impose something on them it doesn’t work,” he said.

It is a view shared by Ben Jemia.

“These young people are much more aware of their rights — they have grown up with freedom of expression,” she said.

“This is the revolution generation, and it is incredible.”

For Bizerte’s regional education commissioner Nabil Smadhi, discussion is the way ahead.

“It is time to address this issue in a national dialogue” involving the education ministry, parents, trade unions and civil society, he said.

“This agitation is effective, not just in the public high school but in the majority of establishments in Bizerte and in several high schools” across the country, he said.

In the meantime, Siwar Tebourbi, Farah Ben Jemaa and girls like them still come to school without the regulation uniform.

“We’re not doing it just for us,” said Ben Jemaa.

“Next year we’ll be gone. But it’s important for the generations who follow.”

Source: pulse news

Singer, Gloria Doyle shares her experience with domestic violence in her previous marriage.

In an interview with The Sun, Doyle stated that she got beaten for no reason at all which made her walk out with her.

”I walked out of it with my children alive and faced the challenges, stigma and relegation of being a single mother,” Doyle recounts.

“I told my ex that after three years of marriage, I wanted to return to my music career and he got so mad and he just couldn’t stop battering me, accusing me, that I only wanted to be let loose,” she added.

Doyle advised women to move on when in abusive relationships. She stated that once a sour relationship gets to the point of verbal abuse it is best to move on.

When a relationship gets to the point of verbal abuse, which leads to physical abuse, if care is not taken, anything could happen so I strongly advice, walk out in peace and not in pieces.

I have seen many young women lose their lives because they were unable to let go their abusive husband especially when they depend on their husbands for everything. Women feel very uncomfortable walking out of such relationship because of the stigma attached to being a single mother,” she said.

Although Doyle was rumored to be getting married to a younger man a few years ago, she said it didn’t work out because she is not ready for marriage.

Source: pulse.ng