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The 21st edition of the Commonwealth Games will kick off on April 4, 2018 in the Gold Coast, Australia. Among the Nigerians getting warmed up to impress at various events will be the country’s first female university director of sports, Dr Cecilia Arinye, who has received an invitation to officiate at the games.

The Nation reports that Arinye is the only Nigerian invited in that capacity. As a blue badge international umpire, she’ll be officiating table tennis at the games.

This invitation is obviously an offshoot of her participation in the last edition of the games in 2014 where she became the first black woman to officiate at the table tennis event. She was also the first black woman to officiate at the Summer Paralympics during the Rio 2016 Paralympics Games.

Since she became an umpire in 2007, Arinye has officiated in numerous international events sanctioned by the International Table Tennis Federation (ITTF). Currently the Director of Sports at the University of Lagos, she helped the institution achieve their best NUGA Games performance in 2014 when UNILAG finished second.

Arinye with a UNILAG student-athlete (Photo: Titans Basket)

 

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In a move that is designated to set Nigeria back at least a couple of decades, the Nigerian military wants to end the admission of female cadets into the combatant course of the Nigerian Defence Academy (NDA). In 2010, President, Goodluck Jonathan ordered the military to allow females interested in becoming combatant officers of the Nigerian armed forces to be admitted into the NDA for the first time ever. In 2011, a set of 20 women, nicknamed ‘Jonathan Queens’, were first admitted into the course.

First Female Cadets (aka Jonathan’s Queens) at the Nigerian Defence Academy (NDA) (Photo: Sahara Reporters)

Ironically or unironically (depends on how you see it), the recommendation to end the programme was made by the Armed Forces Council inaugurated by President Muhammadu Buhari, just last week. The council also revised the National Defence Policy: Harmonised Terms and Conditions of Service Officers last week, and the changes were ratified by president Buhari, to include one new clause: Phase out the training of female regular combatant cadets.

There are many types of commissions in the Nigerian Armed Forces: Regular Combatant Commission, Short Service Combatant Commission, Direct Regular Commission, Direct Short Service and Executive Commission. According to a correspondent for Punch Nigeria, a serving general in the Nigerian Army said that the military allegedly took the decision due to complaints from some unnamed northern Muslim leaders:

“It is only the Regular Combatant Commission that can give an officer the opportunity to aspire to head any of the services or rise to become the Chief of Defence Staff, while the others have limited career path. If the military is able to scrap this programme, women will never be able to head any of the arms of the Nigerian military.

The northern Muslim leaders want to prevent a situation where one day, a woman will lead the army and give orders to men.”

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In 2013, of the first 20 female cadets, only one Muslim woman, Fatimah Saleh, enlisted. She had also stated that her “Arabic school teacher” had advised her against joining the army. The general said those pushing for the scrapping of the programme had convinced the president that women were not doing well in the programme. Because, what else can men do if they’re not oppressing women?

“When we started the training of female cadets in 2011, we never thought it would be successful. When the first set of women cadets graduated from the academy last year, women won three awards, including the best award in the navy category.

A female cadet, C. Lord-Mallam, won the Navy Gold award which is the highest in the navy category. The Army Silver award, which is the second highest in the army, went to a female cadet, K. O Dayo-Karim. The Air Force Silver award was also won by a female cadet, O. S Ijelu.

However, some northern conservatives were not happy about it because most of the female cadets are either Christians from the South and northern minority groups or Muslims from the South and Middle Belt. Dissatisfied with how things are turning out, the northern Muslim leaders lobbied the military authorities to stop the programme for women.”

Basically, this move is being made because some fragile men are quaking in their shoes about the success of women. The female cadets are outperforming their male colleagues, but the military hierarchy would rather suppress their achievements. These men are so sexist that they’re willing to overlook the general quality, superiority and ability of the women in the military to make sure women don’t get a chance to lead.

Two of these same female cadets even beat their male counterparts to win placement at the United States Military Academy in West Point and they are doing well. Presently, we have female armoured tank drivers, female para-troopers, jumpers, and so on. According to the general said, the women were trained just like the men were trained. They were not given any preferential treatment.

But looks like it will be a while before the Nigerian armed forces is without discrimination. They will allow women join the army, but on men’s terms: limiting women to non-combat duties, thereby limiting their career path regardless of their competence or skill. Masculinity so fragile…

 

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An Le, the photographer responsible for cropping out Lupita Nyong’o’s natural hair on the cover of Grazia, has apologised to Nyong’o and “everyone else that I did offend.”

In a statement released to HuffPost UK, Le began by admitting his part in the controversy.

“I’ve had some time to reflect on my part in the incident involving Grazia and Ms. Nyong’o” he stated.

 “I realise now what an incredibly monumental mistake I have made and I would like to take this time to apologise to Ms Nyong’o and everyone else that I did offend.

“Though it was not my intention to hurt anyone, I can see now that altering the image of her hair was an unbelievably damaging and hurtful act.”

Nyong’o had spoken out against erasing the uniqueness of women of color and was not exactly pleased with Le’s take on her – or Grazia for allowing it to go to print.

In an Instagram statement, she wrote:

“Being featured on the cover of a magazine fulfils me as it is an opportunity to show other dark, kinky-haired people, and particularly our children, that they are beautiful just the way they are.

“I am disappointed that Grazia UK invited me to be on their cover and then edited out and smoothed my hair to fit their notion of what beautiful hair looks like.”

 

The post garnered over 260,000 ‘likes’ in three days, indicating that Nyong’o’s honesty was needed and welcome.

The Vietnamese-born photographer seems to hold himself accountable.

“As an immigrant myself, it is my duty to be an advocate for the representation of diversity of beauty in this industry,” said Le.

“I will demonstrate this in my work even more going forward.”

The statement continued:

My altering of her image was not born out of any hate but instead out of my own ignorance and insensitivity to the constant slighting of women of color throughout the different media platforms. There is no excuse for my actions. I deeply regret the pain I’ve caused Ms. Nyong’o, a woman I’ve admired for quite some time now.

To many, this one action speaks volumes about the restrictive standard there still exists regarding beauty in 2017.

Le concluded his apology with a line that addresses the gravity of the situation.

“Again, I would like to say I’m deeply sorry to everyone I did offend,” he said.

“I want to thank Lupita for addressing this important issue.”

The editorial team at Grazia has also issued an apology.

“Grazia is committed to representing diversity throughout its pages and apologises unreservedly to Lupita Nyong’o,′ the statement read.

“Grazia magazine would like to make it clear that at no point did they make any editorial request to the photographer for Lupita Nyong’o’s hair to be altered on this week’s cover, nor did we alter it ourselves.

“But we apologise unreservedly for not upholding the highest of editorial standards in ensuring that we were aware of all alterations that had been made.”

 

Culled from HuffingtonPost

Phenomenal black woman
Phenomenal black woman
Your walk is the definition of elegance
And oh your sway beautiful but exuding so much strength
Your smile always accommodating and loving never showing the hurt you have been through

Phenomenal black woman
You kill yourself so your children don’t have to
And bear the pain so they are always happy
Your arms are always comforting and your lips never complaining

Phenomenal black woman your sacrifices are not in vain
And your daughters have risen to take up your cause
They call us angry, opinionated, sassy, troublemakers
But we watched you suffer in silence for so long
So every time we stand up for ourselves
We wipe away your silent tears
And with every success of ours
A fruit is harvested for your days of endless toiling
Phenomenal black woman we are forever grateful for you

 

By Chidinma Chukwuma


To see more of my work check out chidinmachukwuma.wordpreess.com

 

 

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Powede Lawrence is a Nigerian model, nurse and pilot who has proved to the world at large that she was more than just a queen but one with a difference. In a world where most people believe that a beautiful woman cannot achieve anything meaningful, this 26year old young lady has stunned the world.

She is not only a go getter, she is ambitious, beautiful and sophisticated  at that and we totally love her.

Fabwoman.ng has compiled list of 5 things everybody can learn from Powede.

1. It is possible to be beautiful but still have brains

Yes, Powede is  a beauty queen but her beauty goees beyond the physical. Hers is different- her mind is beautiful  and full of wondrous ideas. She shocked the world when she enrolled  to train as a pilot and got certified but this shows that she has got a brain on her. Worthy of note also is the fact that she is a registered nurse.

2. If given a platform, help others

Fashion icon Powede, uses her platform, “Powede Lawrence Foundation” to help the less privileged, her charity renovates school for the physically challenged students in Yenagoa, Bayelsa, and also offers scholarship to all the physically challenged students at her university annually. Once you have a means of assisting one or two people, do it!

3. Be determined

This beautiful lady is a testimony to what anyone can achieve if one has a strong determination. For her to have done so well with modelling and her career, it goes to show that she is a very hard working lady and determined to see her dreams come through.

Of course, there will be days you feel like quitting but in the end, you will have a whole lot of cause to smile.

 

4. Believe that you can have it all

Yes, the belief is what it takes for you to actualize your dreams. She believed in herself and see all what she has accomplished today. It does not matter if not everyone is cheering you, what matters is you persisting in chasing your dreams.

5. Do not live your life to please others

From everything about Powede, it is very obvious that she is not out to please anyone. She lives her life, constantly braking bounds and achieving. We are sure if she had listened to every advice or ill comments, she might not be where she is today.

Always remember to be YOU, self love is key and the moment you have that, you have almost all you need.

 

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Following months of speculation surrounding her pregnancy, Ghanaian actress Yvonne Nelson who welcomed her daughter on October 29th, 2017 in Ghana has finally released her pregnancy photos.

The beautiful actress who didn’t say anything amidst pregnancy rumors and delivery took to her page to share photos as she  turned a year older today, November 12.

She wrote on Instagram:

WOW! ITS MY BIRTHDAY 🎂🎊🎂 The BEST year of my life!
The best birthday GIFT ever!
Looking for a miracle?? Just look around you….it’s there. He’s present in everything

This is coming after it was reported that Yvonne Nelson got married to a secret lover, which she denied.

For her pregnancy photoshoot, Yvonne posed for WOW Magazine, and spoke about having a child out of wedlock, how her mother felt about the news, and what she feels about marriage in general.

Asked about how her mother felt about the pregnancy, she said:

“My mum, she used to be so big on marriage, she was very traditional: marriage then baby. Until I got pregnant. It’s like everything changed.

I guess your priority obviously changes to something else. She is now concerned about the baby. She doesn’t pressure me anymore with marriage. You know, it’s not like I am engaged or married or anything. It’s just that when it happens, it happens. As a woman, you cannot marry yourself.”

Asked if she thinks she is not the typical traditional girl, she said:

“I believe if I say that people might say I am not setting a good example, but I think society is just too hard on most of us. It is good to get married. It is the right thing to do.

But then again if you are a woman and you think you are getting to a certain age and you want to have kids and you meet a responsible guy who hasn’t yet proposed but wants to do the same thing, it depends on you and him.

You can go ahead and do it if you think the guy is right and responsible and he makes you happy. Why not? Marriage nowadays is just ceremony and a huge wedding.

The whole marriage thing, that name is just so scary.”

Here are the photos:

 

 

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Serena Williams enjoyed a girls weekend getaway in New York City with her family and pals as she prepares to walk down the aisle with her fiancé Alexis Ohanian. The 23-time Grand Slam Tennis champion who had some fun time with her celebrity friends and family, hosted them at the opulent Baccarat Hotel & Residences. The new mom who got engaged to her Reddit co-founder beau, Ohanian in December 2016, was joined by sister Venus Williams and her friends Lala Anthony and Ciara, among others.
See photos below;
Photo by Allan Zepeda & Mel Barlow

 

 

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Eniola Salu Akintunde is a native of Agbede town, Etsako west of Edo state, Nigeria. Second child in a family of seven children, single handedly brought up by her mother a primary school teacher.

She attended Fazil-Omar Ahmadiya Primary School Onike-Iwaya. She then proceeded to Our Lady of Apostles Secondary School, Yaba, Lagos, where she got her O’levels. Eniola worked briefly at the University of Lagos Medical Center, and later gained admission as a student into  the same university, graduating with a Bachelor’s degree in Industrial Relations and Personnel management. 

Eniola  lost her hubby to colorectal cancer, her in laws blamed her for her husband’s death and she was accused of giving him Cancer, the physical and psychological abuse she faced from them before and after his death  informed her decision to kick off her NGO; Niola Cancer Foundation , an organization that advocates for better cancer care and accurate diagnosis. She also campaigns against rape and child sexual abuse because of her experience of being a sex slave at the age of 5 till age 6 before she was rescued by her mother.

She is also a multiple award winning Gemstone designer, Head Creative Director & CEO of Styles By Saennys – a company founded over 11 years ago , which deals in rough Natural stones and designing ,situated in the heart of Lagos. She is a member of NECA – Network of Entrepreneurial Women, the Nigeria Association of small scale Industrialist(NASSI) , a member of the NDLEA Celebrity Drug Free Club and also a member Fashion Designer Association Of Nigeria (FADAN ).

She shares her life journey in this interview.

 

 

Childhood Influence

While growing up ,l never knew lm going to be a gemstone designer or go into cancer advocacy,working in an NGO

 

Meet Eniola

 Eniola Salu Akintunde is a native of Agbede Town Etsako west of Edo State, attends Our Lady of Apostle Secondary School Yaba for my O Level, worked for a few years at The University of Lagos, Medical Center Akoka,Studied Industrial Relations and Personnel Management in the same University .

I have great passion and desire for the cancer cause ,l’m committed to it, working so hard in my own little way with our NGO (Niola Cancer Care Foundation )to reduce death rate from cancer in Nigeria.an award winning gemstone designer the CEO and chief head designer at Styles By Saennys, we design jewellery using well polished and high grade gemstones.

 

Losing  my husband  to cancer inspired me to kick off Niola Cancer care foundation?

 The year 2012-2013 The life threatening and bitter experience l had when my late husband had colorectal cancer, his final transition in Indian at a young age of 39 and I brought back his corpse for final burial.

How he was managed in Indian was different especially when it comes to latest development to his deteriorating health, His Doctors in lndia do not hoard information from me, l was carried along,l asked all sorts of questions,they answer and replied with empathy and compassion,compared with some of the Doctors that first managed him in Nigeria, also there was NO COLORECTAL NGO IN NIGERIA then, apart from his oncology Dr nobody to talk to ,how we handle health lssues and cancer management here in Nigeria is sadden, l understand and know better now , why most doctors and nurses in our public health institutions are sometimes hostile towards their patients and their relatives,Nigeria health worker are under utilized, the workload on them is too much with low income, Nigeria has very brilliant and qualified doctors and nurses but no tools and equipments to work with,their take-home pay does not quantify their workload.

Battle from In-laws

  My other strange and personal experience was from some of my in-laws, especially my sister-in -law during the periods he was ill and after his death, despite l was the sole care-giver to my late husband, l was responsible and l solely looked for funds from friends, from our church and one of my late husband’s uncle to pay for his treatment, every 10 days he will need N350,000 for his chemo,he was on this for a year, and the cancer came back , then l took him to India after doing all this , l was accused of given my husband cancer, that l killed him and my Sister-in-Law abused and attacked me physically and emotionally, while still mourning his death, she beat me up, l was  under treatment too , no strength ,l was trying to recover too, because taking care of last stage cancer patient is draining, l wish death could come and take me, l was tired of life, l questioned my  existence, whats happening ? Death of a child after waiting on the Lord for years, with several miscarriages and now the death of my husband, my classmate in University ,one of the best hubby in the world, the odds from my childhood….but God stepped in, He restored me and gives me hope of a new dawn…for God to have kept me, I do not have any choice than to serve humanity .HE KEPT ME FOR A PURPOSE….we birth NIOLA CANCER CARE FOUNDATION, The first colorectal cancer NGO in West Africa, from my personal experience.

 

Venturing into gemstone design

From childhood l got fascinated to colors, l love art, now as an adult ,l’m fashionable,  love looking good, l never knew l’m going to end up been a gemstone designer, also an award winner, l started like every other beads designer in 2004,l went into research on natural stone, l got hooked, l travelled to other countries to know more on stones, on those journey l got to know Africa as a continent is the most blessed in the world with natural stone and diamond, Nigeria is one of the countries in Africa with large deposit of gold and natural minerals. our designs can compete with any other designs in the world, my outfit Styles by Saennys started using Chains and mounting gemstones on precious metals way back 2006, our designs are timeless, l represent our company annually in one of the biggest gemstones and diamond Exhibition in the world with over 70,000 visitors and over 2,000 Exhibitors from all over the world, The Hongkong Gem Fair. l pray Nigeria will have something similar someday. Our government needs to look into our mines make review and build standards lapidary, make power supply stable ,this will create more jobs and takes people off the streets, Zambia runs their economy on natural minerals and gemstone mined from their country, South Africa too we all know they are blessed with diamond, their mines is managed by their government and their economy is stable to some extent.

 

 

My experience as the official accessories designer of the MBGN 2010

Well it was really another experience for me as a designer taking part in MBGN 2010,Styles By Saennys been the official jewellery designer that year…No monetary compensation from the organizers,we struggled with the organizers at some point before they could mention our outfit in their brochures after providing and designing Jewellery for 36 contestants, my late husband was my manager then ,he represented us in the meeting with the organizers,we were determined to make best out of the situation,we count it all joy today…

 

 What and who inspires you?

First My inspiration comes from God ,for grace and strength to do great exploits, From people around me and great mentors,some l have mention in the past,and some are my secret mentors and they inspire me a lot

 

Greatest Reward

The greatest reward For our NGO was when an older friend of mine was surprised that we run Niola Cancer Care Foundation from my jewellery showroom, she paid for Niola Cancer Care Foundation present office that Reward for me, also people who smile when they see you even in pain the cancer patients and their family

Those that was screened and the disease was picked early,They are saved -that’s reward for me

For my jewellery outfit Styles By Saennys clients that are happy for making them look gorgeous and appreciating our creativity ,that’s rewarding

For those that has given up on life and they come to meet me and tell them my story, l tell them they Shouldn’t, they got inspired and get back on their feet and face life head on-That’s rewarding.

 

Challenges of running my NGO

On The Cancer NGO our religion believes is not helping matters at all, Nigerians won’t allow you talk about cancer before they shot you down and tell you ‘it’s not my portion’ l asked WHOSE PORTION IS CANCER ? We are still in denial ,but we still go ahead with preaching and creating the awareness, Or when they notice something is wrong with their body ,they keep quiet,till when it’s bad, eventually when they know ,they run to churches or mosques ,even shrine instead of seeking medical help first,and take to instruction from their doctor,when the case is beyond the churches they push them out, by the time they get to hospital it’s late ,please Tell your pastor or lmam about your health and seek medical help immediately,their prayer with God on your side will make it easy for the doctor to found solution. When the cancer patients are in their final stage nearing ,End-to life , the society, the system even families and friends disappear ,they gives up on them before the patient died,this is so so wrong, they have a right to treatment,lots of love, support, care and they should be comfortable.That is the reason Niola Cancer Care Foundation visit Cancer Patients on admission in the hospital Twice a year, where we pray with them ,donate gift and show them love. We do this On Niola Founder’s Day which is my birthday every 18th of June Tagged ‘Celebrating With The Victors’ and on Christmas Day ‘Spending Christmas With Champions 

-Another major challenge is Funding ,but we don’t allow that to affect us, we are doing our bit, with the little we get from few people, who really appreciate what we doing

 

Giving up

Giving up is not in my dictionary  …not at all, when Nigeria has the highest death rate from cancer, over 300,000 newly cases every year and over 200,000 death annually from cancer this are recorded case , statistic from WHO, we are in country where people died and Autopsy are not carried out on most of the corpses, so the figure above is far more than that, with  all this put together Cancer is an Epidemic , No Cancer Machines, No Radiotherapy machine working in Nigeria, A country with population of over 180m people, no cancer centers, it’s scaring …of course no cure as they make Us to believe but l know early Detection Saves. Get Screened , Go for check up, Nigeria buys aso Ebi, goes to party, that money should be put aside and use it for medical check up, not all checks up are expensive, they should pay attention to their body. 

 

I am a rare gem, a woman of Rubies

Well…. even the bible says ‘the price of a virtuous woman is far above Ruby. Ruby is a gem with high value

Advice to women

We women are powerful,compassionate, resilient and strong, we should always support  each other, my sister-in -law is a fellow woman, no competition at all, we should lift ourselves up.

Lupita Nyong’o is not happy with women magazine, Grazia for editing her photo without her permission on their cover.

The beautiful actress who took to her Instagram page on Friday, November 10, 2017, to speak on what she calls an unconscious prejudice against black women, feels she should have been consulted before taking off her natural hair from the cover.

” As I have made clear so often in the past with every fiber of my being, I embrace my natural heritage and despite having grown up thinking light skin and straight, silky hair were the standards of beauty, I now know that my dark skin and kinky, coily hair are beautiful too. Being featured on the cover of a magazine fulfills me as it is an opportunity to show other dark, kinky-haired people, and particularly our children, that they are beautiful just the way they are.

 

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As I have made clear so often in the past with every fiber of my being, I embrace my natural heritage and despite having grown up thinking light skin and straight, silky hair were the standards of beauty, I now know that my dark skin and kinky, coily hair are beautiful too. Being featured on the cover of a magazine fulfills me as it is an opportunity to show other dark, kinky-haired people, and particularly our children, that they are beautiful just the way they are. I am disappointed that @graziauk invited me to be on their cover and then edited out and smoothed my hair to fit their notion of what beautiful hair looks like. Had I been consulted, I would have explained that I cannot support or condone the omission of what is my native heritage with the intention that they appreciate that there is still a very long way to go to combat the unconscious prejudice against black women’s complexion, hair style and texture. #dtmh

culled from pulse.ng