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27-Year-Old Jetsun Pema of Bhutan is the world’s youngest living queen. She became a queen at age 21 when she married King Jigme Khesar Namgyel Wangchuck of Bhutan, 31, in 2011.

Queen Jetsun Pema and King Jigme Khesar Namgyel Wangchuck of Bhutan (aka Dragon King) both previously studied in England. The queen attended Regent’s College in London, where she studied international relations, psychology, and art history, while the King studied at Oxford University. They share a love of art, and were once been dubbed the “Will and Kate of The Himalayas”. In April 2016, the King and Queen welcomed the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge on a royal visit.

The King and Queen have a one-year-old son called The Gyalsey. He was born in February 2016.

There are different versions of the story of how they met. The Washington Post reported that in one version of events, the two met at a picnic when she was seven and he was 17. She reportedly came up to him and gave him a hug. Theirs has been described as a “love marriage”.

Pema was reportedly portrayed as a “commoner” by the secretariat. However, her family apparently has long-term links with the royals. She is the daughter of a pilot but her paternal great-grandfather was lord of the eastern province of Tashigang, and her maternal grandfather was the half-brother of the wife of Bhutan’s second king, according to The Washington Post.

Speaking about his wife, the king once told local reporters:

“I have been waiting for quite some time to get married. But it doesn’t matter when you get married as long as it is to the right person. I am certain I am married to the right person. 

“She is a wonderful human being. Intelligent. She and I share one big thing in common, a love and passion for art.”

The young queen is known for her charity work for organisations such as the Bhutan Red Cross Society, Ability Bhutan Society, and Bhutan Kidney Association. The Queen is active on social media where photos of her, the king, and their son are frequently shared. She also shares interesting works of art via her social media accounts.

 

Source: LIB

When it comes to mental health, the topic is full of stigmas, particularly when it comes to black females and males. Although a proven form of treatment for mental suffering, therapy has been seen as a longtime off-limits area for POC.

Thankfully, kind souls are doing the work necessary to put tools into place to get rid of these stigmas surrounding mental health, and begin the healing in a proactive way.

BTW, http://therapyforblackgirls.com  is a nationwide listing of licensed Black women therapists in case you’re looking for someone professional to talk to like you.

Therapy For Black Girls is a website that allows black women to connect with licensed psychotherapists who are just like them. Featuring a growing database across the United States, the website boasts a goal of “encouraging the mental wellness of Black women and girls” by giving them access to women who can not only help improve their mental health, but who they can relate to.

Founded by Georgia-based licensed psychologist Dr. Joy Harden Bradford, she explains she created the space as a way make getting help easier for young black women faced with debilitating stigmas.

“So often the stigma surrounding mental health issues and therapy prevent Black women from taking the step of seeing a therapist. I developed the space to present mental health topics in a way that feels more accessible and relevant.”

Broken into a variety of poignant topics – including anxiety, break ups, dating, depression and college life – the site allows visitors to decipher which areas of life they’d like support in before accessing psychologists based off of an easy to use and regionally-specific list.

Dr. Joy Harden Bradford (Photo: Therapy For Black Girls)

The directory includes the psychologist’s website – so you can find your absolute best match – as well as the contact information for the desired therapist– solving hours of Googling, calling and researching that can instead be used towards remedying the mental issues at hand.

As many young black men and women know, the avoidance of acknowledging mental health issues is a direct deterrent to the betterment of the race as a whole. But by making this process simple, modern and stigma-free, this tool is heightening the chances of black women becoming masters their mental health, leading to a inarguably healthier, happier and more free world.

 

culled from Konbini.com

British lady who married an Igbo man and goes by the name Nwanyi Oma on social media has shared a testimony of how she gave birth after the doctors had told her she could not.

Talking about her experience on her Instagram page, she wrote:

“There was a time in my life I thought I couldn’t have children. My doctor told me I suffered from PCOS – the most common endocrine disorder among women between the ages 18 and 44 – and that my chances of having children were close to zero. When you are dreaming of starting your own family, the pain and heartache that go with such a diagnose are absolutely overwhelming.
But as it turned out, God had a different plan for me. Today I am not only the proud mother of three children, but on top of that, I can proudly call myself mama ejima!”

 

See her full post below

 

In Tunisian high schools, the dress code is not uniform. Actually, it is: but only for girls. Boys can wear what they like, and now the girls are up in arms.

One morning, instead of turning up for class wearing the regulation navy blue smock, a defiant group of adolescent girls came to school in white T-shirts instead, demanding an “end to discrimination”.

At the elite Bizerte public school in the north, as is the case in most high schools in the North African country, pupils have to sign a school rule stipulating that wearing a uniform applies to girls only.

One day in September, supervisors reminded senior female students who did not abide by this rule that if they did not wear the smock, a loose-fitting, long gilet, they would be sent home.

Ironically, the warning was passed on during a philosophy class — about the human body.

This “injustice” inspired many of the girls to take to social networks and vent their feelings, 18-year-old Siwar Tebourbi told AFP.

She said the girls agreed to take collective action from the following day “to demand that this discrimination must cease”.

So dozens duly turned up for class, wearing white. Several boys did the same, in solidarity with their classmates.

How did the school authorities react? By saying nothing. Thus was born the “Manish Labsetha” (“I won’t wear it”) campaign, referring to the offending garment.

‘A terrible message’

It was the culmination of a dispute that had been brewing for years.

Outraged that the navy blue was imposed on everyone in primary and secondary school but was compulsory in high school only for girls, pupils regularly appeared without it, risking expulsion or seeing their parents summoned.

Monia Ben Jemia, head of the Association of Democratic Women of Tunisia, an independent feminist group, called the smock rule “a terrible message” because it implies that young girls’ bodies can have a disruptive effect on their peers.

She called it a complete aberration, especially since the country’s new constitution of 2014 says that men and women are equal.

The high school students who launched the campaign, both male and female, are also against what they perceive as a wider “hypocrisy”.

“They drill into us at school that men and women are equal, but in practice this is not the case,” said Adam Garci, 17.

That the navy gilet is actually supposed to erase social inequalities between pupils is a source of some amusement to Tebourbi.

“If it was really meant to conceal any differences between rich and poor, then boys as well as girls would have to wear it,” she smiled.

Imposing the blue uniform on girls at a time when their bodies are undergoing change is not a trivial issue, said her friend Farah Ben Jemaa.

Rather embarrassing

“One supervisor told me I couldn’t wear leggings without a smock because I was ‘shapely’, and another told us ‘It bothers the men teachers’,” Ben Jemaa said.

The whole affair would appear to be somewhat embarrassing for the authorities.

Speaking on condition of anonymity, one senior education official found it difficult to explain exactly what was happening.

He acknowledged the sensitivity of the subject, even though Tunisia is considered to be a pioneer in North Africa and the Middle East in the field of women’s rights.

If the official line is that equality between men and women is an asset, large sections of Tunisian society remain conservative and “there is resistance”, said Ben Jemia, at the Association of Democratic Women of Tunisia.

In the courtyard of another school in Bizerte, the Habib Thameur Lycee, equality is a topic for passionate debate among students.

Of around 15 boys asked about it, just one — Nader — spoke up for the traditional view.

“Girls must cover the shape of their bodies,” he said.

“That’s how we have been raised. It’s our mentality, and it should stay that way.”

The others were firm backers of the campaign.

One final year pupil tried to argue with a supervisor seeking to enforce the rules.

“But madame,” he asked. “What if the regulation is wrong?”

Revolution generation

She thought for a moment. “For me, it’s not unfair, it’s the rules. That’s the way it is,” she murmured.

School director Iadh Toulgui admitted that the supervisor’s view was unlikely to sway pupils who had lived through the revolution of 2011, which toppled a 23-year police state and brought about freedom of expression.

“This is a revolutionary generation, open to the world. When you try to impose something on them it doesn’t work,” he said.

It is a view shared by Ben Jemia.

“These young people are much more aware of their rights — they have grown up with freedom of expression,” she said.

“This is the revolution generation, and it is incredible.”

For Bizerte’s regional education commissioner Nabil Smadhi, discussion is the way ahead.

“It is time to address this issue in a national dialogue” involving the education ministry, parents, trade unions and civil society, he said.

“This agitation is effective, not just in the public high school but in the majority of establishments in Bizerte and in several high schools” across the country, he said.

In the meantime, Siwar Tebourbi, Farah Ben Jemaa and girls like them still come to school without the regulation uniform.

“We’re not doing it just for us,” said Ben Jemaa.

“Next year we’ll be gone. But it’s important for the generations who follow.”

Source: pulse news

Singer, Gloria Doyle shares her experience with domestic violence in her previous marriage.

In an interview with The Sun, Doyle stated that she got beaten for no reason at all which made her walk out with her.

”I walked out of it with my children alive and faced the challenges, stigma and relegation of being a single mother,” Doyle recounts.

“I told my ex that after three years of marriage, I wanted to return to my music career and he got so mad and he just couldn’t stop battering me, accusing me, that I only wanted to be let loose,” she added.

Doyle advised women to move on when in abusive relationships. She stated that once a sour relationship gets to the point of verbal abuse it is best to move on.

When a relationship gets to the point of verbal abuse, which leads to physical abuse, if care is not taken, anything could happen so I strongly advice, walk out in peace and not in pieces.

I have seen many young women lose their lives because they were unable to let go their abusive husband especially when they depend on their husbands for everything. Women feel very uncomfortable walking out of such relationship because of the stigma attached to being a single mother,” she said.

Although Doyle was rumored to be getting married to a younger man a few years ago, she said it didn’t work out because she is not ready for marriage.

Source: pulse.ng

Nollywood Actress, Kate Henshaw who is already in her 40s took to her IG page to celebrate fellow actress, Iyabo Ojo as she turned a year older today and also welcomed her to the 40s club.

Sharing the photo below, she wrote:

“Welcome to Club 40s!!! This is how you go into it, BOLD and FEARLESS like a BOSS cos life truly begins at 40… God bless and protect you darling @iyaboojofespris May He continue to bring you success in all you do… Grant you long life and peace. As your days so shall your strength be… Lots of love and have a blast like you don’t care!!!���� Y.O.L.O��������”

She shared:

 

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Actress,Yvonne Jegede has taken to Instagram, to share her success story and a motivational piece.

Read her moving testimony below

Look at Choco 17yrs ago (2years before Nollywood/African Queen video). Wow😇 I have grown. I look at this picture with tears in my eyes, looking back at different stages of my life and all my struggles. 
Wow, to think there was a time I had no house/roof over my head, at ojuelegba under bridge at 2am with a little bag hanging under my arm (@femibrainard69 do you remember?).. Thanks to Shola aka Shaggy Dread who opened @ogidantade OGD studios for me to lay my head for those weeks (I had to wait till everyone left the studio, or was sleeping before I came knocking on the window.😇)
Look at me now #Choco.
This picture brings memories. LASU days, as a law student we had to wear white and black everyday (hence the white top) to class.
But bia, where did my eye brows go😂? My struggles only made me who I am. I have never been scared/ashamed of where I am or where I am coming from, but I’m certainly SURE of where I am going… #ChocoRules
#IAmATestimony
#TheThrowBackThursdayOfLife
#WhoIsCuttingOnionNearMe\

Here is what she shared:

 

Hello WORriors! Today is #WomanCrushWednesday and our Woman Crush is Somkele Iyamah!

Somkele Iyamah-Idhalama is a Nigerian TV and film actress and model. She is known for her roles in Dreamwalker (2012), 93 Days (2016), The Wedding Party (2016), The Arbitration (2016), the TV series Gidi Up (2013–present) and gained recognition at the Toronto and African International Film Festivals.

Iyamah was born in Delta State, to Andrew and Rosaline-Onyi Iyamah. She is the third of four children. She attended the Chrisland Schools and she was introduced to drama by an inspirational teacher while attending Grange School in Lagos.

Somkele holds a bachelor’s degree in Biochemistry from McMaster University. She volunteered in several shows for charity at McMaster and modelled during the holidays in Nigeria. Her site says this included work for Virgin Nigeria, Harp, ETB and Visafone Communications.

Iyamah’s first feature film was Dreamwalker, where she had a small part. From 2013 – 2016, she appeared as Yvonne, a fashion designer, in the TV series, Gidi Up where she worked with O.C. Ukeje.

In 2016, three films which she starred in 93 Days (2016), The Wedding Party (2016) and,The Arbitration (2016) were premiered at the Toronto International Film Festival which she attended as the first “female international Rising Star”.

In 2016, Somkele appeared in the comedy-crime/heist thriller Ojukokoro (Greed) with Wale Ojo, Ali Nuhu, Tope Tedela and Seun Ajayi.

Somkele has been nominated and won awards and recognition. She also manages the fashion brand, Andrea Iyamah, founded by younger sister Dumebi Iyamah.

Women Of Rubies celebrates you, Somkele Iyamah!

Wow…this seems like quite a BIG one. Okay before anybody judges me this quote or expression was not coined by ME per se. I am sure some of you might have stumbled upon it someway somehow. Personally, I stumbled on a meme similar to the caption which actually reads ‘We live in a world of smart phones and stupid people’.

‘Ermmm excuse me? I use a smart phone alright but am in no way stupid!’ was my remark. I had immediately assumed this was referring to me just by ‘personalising’ it. I mean it is not like the person who put this meme up directed it to me by tagging me or mentioning me in the post. Phew! Silly assumptions on my part! BUT after reflecting on this for a while, I think there was a point beyond its harsh outlook.

Mobile phones as a communication device we all know have come a long way in terms of branding and all. I mean at first, it was the Nokia 3310’s, Motorola and the likes with the basic functions of receiving and making calls, texting and other related stuff. Fast forward to about 5 or 6 years ago was the emergence of the Android, Windows Phone and Iphones among others. With the inception of these new kind, ALMOST everyone craved to have the ‘new era’ phones and most eventually got it (I mean with the exception of those who could not afford it or those who did not care about the ‘new era phones’). These phones could be used for literally everything particularly INTERNET SURFING. I mean we would not expect less at a time where internet is almost easily accessible to many people.

Now this ATTITUDE of finding out what’s trending, replying every single text from that friend who chats once in a while, sharing that video which probably isn’t APPROPRIATE, scrolling through all those messages you missed in your numerous group chats on WhatsApp and what have you is of major concern. Now, I wonder why people cannot FIND time to do all these somewhere in the day but RATHER choose to do this whilst crossing the road, walking on a busy street, doing an important assignment and other things which are SERIOUS BUSINESS! I am a CULRPIT too in some of these instances and in no way trying to exonerate myself. But you see these things that we do BEING CONTROLLED by that tiny or large device could cost us a GREAT DEAL.

I mean I have heard stories of people being knocked down by cars, some end up with brutal injuries or minor ones or some dying in the process. My dad for one always complains about how the craze of phones are these days as he recounted of how he had to be in ‘traffic’ one time just because this guy was crossing the road and was on his phone and probably forgot where he was. Thus, cars coming from all angles had to wait for him to finally cross the road before proceeding. What if the first driver in the supposed traffic decided to ignore this boy, knocked him down and he eventually died? How pathetic! What was soo important about that message he was trying to reply or that email he may be reading that could not wait? Really? In exchange for his life? I am not saying there is a right or wrong way to lose one’s life but you will agree with me that some deaths are preventable and in this case, this ONE is included in that list. I mean I don’t know if it is a way of these people trying to tell drivers or people walking in the streets to tread carefully or whatever but hey! that is not solely one person’s duty but you as well should register that in your LONG TERM MEMORY.

Apart from this craze, people spend too much on the accessories of mobile phones these days compared to the days of the old. I remember a friend of mine giving me a description of a particular phone case to buy for her and I was like SMH (Shaking my Head)…all that covering including screen protectors which mostly costs loads of money! Now, I am in no way saying it is a ‘bad thing’ to beautify your phone like any other thing but what makes me wonder is when some people are almost naked but have their phones all covered! The IRONY!

I once saw a group of ladies and a gentleman in the city centre during the winter period and judging from the day and time, my best guess is they were going to the club (FRIYAAYY!). Though the gentleman was all covered up, the ladies were in skimpy dresses, with their hands covered around their bodies (signifying they were cold) yet their phones were covered! Now, I did a bit of digging and I was told that in the clubs, you are charged for bringing extra clothing along…let’s say for someone to keep watch over your clothings whilst you are LETTING YOUR HAIR DOWN! (That’s some smart move especially when they know people will definitely come along with some jackets and all judging from the weather!).But how wrong they are to include people such as these ladies above. I may not know exactly why these ladies refused to wear jackets whether for the sake of saving the little money for something better or whatever. But what could be better than your health?? Exposing your body to such cold could result in some terrible cold and fever which could cost you your job or inability to do CERTAIN things (You will understand only if you have been knocked down in bed by a terrible cold before). In other words, if you saw the need to cover your phone to keep it NEW all the time (I mean a phone you will replace probably in a year or two) then why can’t you cover a body which is soo precious which is DEFINITELY irreplaceable!

I mean I could go on and on. One funny thing I realised is, some people strive to have these ‘smart phones’ which cost a lot in most scenarios yet can hardly fend for themselves. I mean why do you have to TRY TO BELONG? Then you find yourself on the streets after your landlord sacks you from the house because of instead of using that money you saved up to pay the rent , you THOUGHT it will be nice to also SHOW THEM THAT YOU ARE ALSO THERE. Who benefits and who loses in the end? I know of a guy who was squatting (staying with someone for a while) with a family friend due to family issues. I mean they were kind enough to not only provide housing for him but also food, care and protection without taking money from this guy…I mean he was not working. Now, this guy is offered a huge amount of money after doing a translation job. What is the most sensible thing to do? Be courteous enough to at least give the money out for the upkeep of the house. But as excited as he was, this was the right opportunity to purchase a brand new phone he had been targeting for a while! Alas! his prayers have been answered. But wait for it….It cost him his shelter. He was sacked from the house for this ‘act of stupidity’. How sad!

There are so many examples I could list where people choose a ‘smart phone’ at the expense of their life, health, accommodation and other things. I, with all HONESTY state here that it is not worth losing anything precious just because of a MOBILE PHONE…It is an inanimate object, your life is just one. If you lose it, that’s it! You cannot go back into your mother’s womb to be born again not even with the concept of reincarnation. I mean even if you did, you will MISS on a lot. Why not act WISELY by doing things at the RIGHT time. After all, the Bible even says in Eclessiastes 3:1 it says there is time for everything under the sun!

 

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Gertrude Asumadu, a 24 year old young lady who is passionate about women empowerment, girl child education and overall helping others to achieve their own dreams. I am a graduate of University of Leeds with a degree in BSc (Hons) Economics. My time in university was the turning point for me I believe as I have been able to stretch myself and in essence on way to achieving my purpose.

Please feel free to contact me on various social media platforms so we can start working together!

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