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Toolz, in an interview with Genevieve Magazine, said that it was a painful experience for her.

Speaking, she said that she finds hard to talk about the loss of her baby.

According to LIB, Toolz lost her baby sometime in 2017.

Also speaking on the marriage, she said “I’m a die-hard romantic, so I did think marriage was going to be like a Disney movie….no arguments, birds singing every morning.

To be honest It’s not quite like that, but I’m very happy. I think what I love most about being married is being part of this team.

“It’s amazing knowing that whatever I’m going through good/bad – someone will always be there with me to hold my hand or cheer me on,” BellaNaija reports.

Full interview is on Genevieve Magazine.

Channels TV reported that ‘Money Marriage’ is an age-long tradition of the Becheve tribe of Obanliku in Cross River State, as almost all family in the community are involved in it.

The girls are reportedly called ‘Money Woman’ or ‘Money Wife’ and are sometimes sold out even before they were born.

The Money Marriage culture does not in any way favor the money woman or wife. The moment a man shows interest in a girl, her immediate family and other relatives are free to visit the man and collect things from him.

“Anything offered them during their visit is given monetary value and recorded by their in-law (the man who is marrying the girl). If the mother is the greedy type, she’ll often visit her ‘in-law’ to get stuff,” Channels TV reported.

Where the man has made full payment, the girl is given out in marriage.

Aji Patience, a girl whose sister was sold at four years old said, she was given out for N2, 000.

Unfortunately, when the husband dies, his next-of-kin marries the girl and if she dies without giving birth to children, her parents are mandated to bring a replacement.

Victoria Tabang is a victim of this. After the death of her husband, she was expected to remain with his people.

“Even when I went to my people, they drove me away, saying I now belong elsewhere,” she told Channels TV.

Money women or wives are sold for as low as N10,000, few goats and pigs, tubers of yam, depending on the man’s bargain power. They are also not allowed to be educated.

“Money that the man give in my head (sic) was not much. It was N20,000 and one goat,” a money wife said.

Once a girl is sold out for Money Marriage, she is considered dead by her immediate family and warned never to return irrespective of how she is treated by her husband or his relatives.

 

 

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According to Africa Check, a total of 14,333 murders were committed in South Africa between April and December 2016. 1,713 of those murders were women, meaning that a woman was murdered every four hours in South Africa. 57.1% of these women are killed by their partners – boyfriends, fiances, husbands – according to the South African Medical Research Council’s Gender and Health Research Unit. So, one woman is murdered every eight hours by an intimate partner.

Not to be dramatic, but this means that women are an endangered specie in South Africa. South Africa’s femicide rate is five times higher than the global rate, according to stats from the World Health Organization’s Violence and Injury Prevention Programme. The global femicide rate in 2015 was 2.4 per 100,000 women. South Africa’s rate for the same year was 9.6 per 100,000 women, meaning that femicide in South Africa is four times that of the global average.

In South Africa, gender-based violence is an everyday reality, and even when justice is done in courtrooms as in the case of Sandile Mantsoe, women still live in constant fear. Across Africa, and the world, women live in fear. Walking down the road, going to work, at work, at conferences, at restaurants, women are in a constant state of alert because the danger is everywhere – mostly from men.

 

This is a call for women all over the world to stay woke. The society can do only little or nothing to protect you. It is sad but it is what it is. Once you notice signs of abuse in your partner, run as fast as your legs can carry you (that should be faraway) Do not try to make excuses for an abusive partner. Be street smart too. If you notice someone stalking you, report to the authorities right away.

 

Reports source: konbini.com

Image credit: face2face Africa

 

OK, so I figured it was time to come up with some highly practical ways to spend. Shopping was always a part of my life; I just didn’t put any conscious thought or energy into understanding it, or my relationship to it.

 

Recently though, I started wondering why I bought unplanned items and overspent with a ‘reasonable margin’. I also realised that 40% of items in my shopping trolley were unplanned, not immediately required and bought on impulse.
Guess I need to improve on my ability to say NO. Let me re-phrase, ‘Why can’t I say No’. or rather, will the direction in which I am looking within the store change my perspective?

 

All these different views can be taken in without moving my feet beyond one square foot. I only have to turn 90 degrees one way or the other, and what I see changes dramatically.

 

When it comes to shopping, so much of what we experience as shoppers and consumers has to do with the perspective in front of us which is based on the direction we are facing. And it is almost always within our power to change our direction, even if just a little bit. Sometimes just the smallest change in direction or approach can lead to the largest changes in perspective and outlook. Our shopping environment is much cluttered due to space constraints and also because the competition has become fiercer as alternatives and variants are on the increase. If it must catch the shopper’s attention, communication material must cut through the clutter, with unique ways of engagement that creates brand love and affinity.

I know what I want to be looking toward. And it ain’t the carpark…Most definitely, as there was this huge red signage in front of me that not only had sales written in my favourite yellow colour, but read 50% off!.

It was a no brainer, it was disruptive and in my face, seeking attention – I went for it.
Familiar experience? I guess.
Here are a few tips to that breakout and breakthrough the clutter.

• Campaignable Ideas/Communication: The fundamental law of successful is engagement: if you’re not engaging the consumer with a compelling story, they’re going to make up one of their own. It’s important to provide shoppers/consumers with memorable ideas and engagements they are compelling to talk about and share.

• Harnessing the creativity of shoppers/consumers: While conventional consumer research provides an essential foundation, it no longer creates a competitive edge. As there’s more need to experiment with non-traditional, sometimes radical and untried approaches that seek upfront inspiration – and actual ideas – from creative consumers who have a passion to innovate. These gives an opportunity to tap into consumers’ minds and passions to co-create products, solutions, communications and “experiences” that are truly resonant.

• Word of Mouth: Taking the time to watch / Listen /read feedback including feeds from Social Media for common themes and insights can provide a plentiful source of fresh, consumer-inspired ideas. Striking up relationships with the most prolific, influential bloggers with the aim of better understanding what makes their shoppers/consumers tick and how to improve the engagement platform is key.

 

Shopping these days have become defining moments with powerful choices instigated by compelling in store and out of home communication which usually brings consumers under the spell of ‘Fear of Missing Out’…but really, this butterfly called ‘satisfaction’ is going to be constantly out of reach, we need to start getting contented!.

 

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Bamigbaiye-Elatuyi Omotola is a Regional Marketing Manager for West Africa in an FMCG.
A firm believer in empowering others for success in the work place as she is a well sought after facilitator on Marketing and Business management. She also manages Workplace Management columns and Consumer Insight columns in magazines published across West Africa as well as volunteering with NGO’s as a child educator.
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Media personality, Tolu Oniru popularly known as Toolz has launched an inspirational brand for plus-size women, called “Sablier
Sablier is a brand that represents confidence, female empowerment, and self-expression, especially among plus-size women. It is set to drive a message that promotes inclusivity and change the stereotypical perception of plus-size women.
She wrote:
 
“As a plus-size and curvy girl, you tend to feel out of place – my body type wasn’t the hot thing back then. I just didn’t fit in. I became very self-conscious – I thought my hips were too wide… my bum was too big, and I was on the short side.

 

As a teenager, you are dealing with a lot, especially when it comes to self-identity and accepting yourself. And you often get confused about what beautiful is. My self-consciousness got so bad at one point that I had to cover up all the time.

In the middle of summer, I would wear a light coat to cover up my hips, and people thought I was weird. Clothes shopping was a bit of nightmare, not to talk of shopping for lingerie. Most of the lingerie in plus sizes were quite unattractive; boring styles and colours with super thick straps. Sadly, inclusivity wasn’t such a big thing when I was growing up, you were basically stuck with what was available.

Later in life, I began to notice and research curvy/plus size models like Tabria Majors, Candice Huffine, Anita Marshall and Ashley Graham – her confidence is incredible! In an industry that is notoriously discriminating about anyone above a size 8, seeing this beautiful and curvy ladies flourish was magical. I was extremely inspired to say the least.

Being in the public eye also had a big impact on my ‘acceptance journey’.

 

 I have been bashed and shamed about my body on so many occasions, I can’t even count. The first few times it happened, I was very hurt, because there was always so much venom behind the attacks, and I would be at home in tears thinking what did I do to anyone to warrant this? Unfortunately, this comes with being in the public eye, and I soon managed to get a thick skin.

On the positive side, as I got more popular I began getting messages from women who admired me for being one of a few plus size women in the public eye. I would get messages from young women who had contemplated suicide because they looked different, and they were being bullied for that. They would write and say how seeing pictures of me boosted their confidence – making them accept themselves and their bodies. These comments made me realize that my presence and visibility in the industry was having a positive impact on at least a few people.

My experience strengthened me and gave me a voice – one which I have decided to use in empowering and boosting the confidence of plus-size women like me – those who are currently in a physical and psychological battle to accept their own bodies.

I am Tolu Oniru-Demuren. You probably call me ‘Toolz’.

Welcome to this journey with me.”

 

 

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There’s a saying that “A confident woman is not afraid to stand alone, and that’s why everyone wants to stand with her”

When you see a confident woman, you see class, grace, and power. A confident woman inspires everyone including people who don’t like her.

So what are really the major habits of a confident woman?

See five habits of a confident woman below:

They seek challenges.

The fear of failure stops many people from taking chances — but not confident women. Instead, they search for opportunities to challenge themselves and view any “failure” that comes from it as simply a stepping stone to get to where they want. These women collect experiences through trial and error, expose themselves to new ideas, and constantly push themselves to continue learning. Whether it’s changing their career path or investing time and money into mastering a new hobby, confident women aren’t afraid to step out of their comfort zone — they live for it.

 

2. They support instead of compare.

With the convenience of social media, it’s nearly impossible to not know what someone is doing. It takes a swipe of a finger and a screenshot of an image to discover what someone is up to and share it with your friend. Although it’s easy to begin comparing yourself to the successes and life decisions of others, confident woman avoid this toxic decision and choose to support. Thus, they open the door to networking with more people and feeling inspired by the milestones of others (instead of threatened by them).

3. They hold themselves accountable.

Confident women not only have goals — but they also have steps they take to achieve them. They’re not waiting for a sign to make a move, because they’re already too busy taking action and pursuing what they want. These women understand that their lives are happening right now and that it’s up to them to take control of it. From sticking to the new monthly budget they’ve set for themselves to taking time out of their schedule to dedicate to their side hustle, they make the conscious effort to better themselves and make their own luck happen.

 

4. They communicate effectively.

The ability to communicate is a skill that anyone in any field of work or situation can gain from. Confident women are the walking definition of this — they easily adjust to social settings and can hold conversations on a wide variety of topics due to their knowledge and natural curiosity to learn more. Not only are they a pleasure to speak to, but they also have positive body language that makes them easy to approach. Whether a confident woman is giving a professional presentation or explaining her feelings during a conflict, she’s able to clearly communicate in a way that’s simple for people to understand, making others want to listen.

 

5. They ask questions.

Similar to how confident women live outside of their comfort zones, they also don’t accept views and ideas simply because they’re told to. They’re individuals, and they aren’t afraid to be who they are — and fight for it. Confident women are natural born leaders — they’re people who aren’t afraid to ask questions to try to understand a concept better. Furthermore, they won’t settle their standards to comply with what the majority of people believe. They aren’t afraid of standing alone, and that’s what makes them worth standing with.

 

 

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Four best friends who have known each other since childhood and also share a love of chocolate, has decided to start a company called Kakawa Chocolates in Mozambique.

Kakawa Chocolates makes beautiful handcrafted chocolates bonbons with both local and foreign flavors.

The four friends are a team of 3 doctors and 1 architect but decided to start their company in 2017, after they all had completed their college degrees.

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While talking about their future plans and goals, they revealed that they are opening their first physical store soon. They also plan to expand their products to the rest of the country and to the world in the nearest future.
Credit: lionessofafrica.com

 

The new President of Cuba, Miguel Díaz-Canel Bermúde has assumed office and three women were also voted in as vice presidents, and two of them are black (Afro-Cuban).

Cuba is becoming more progressive as the country is making moves toward diversity and away from its former white dominated legacy. The country is getting more black leadership with two Black women vice-presidentsInés María Chapman and Beatriz Jhonson. Both women are engineers, and they, along with the third female Vice President, Gladys Maria Bejerano Portela, will help lead this new historic Cuban government.

These appointments have great historical significance, the importance may now trickle down to the people who need it most – the Afro-Cubans who have struggled since Cuba’s 1990s economic downturn. There are three other Vice Presidents – in total, three VPs are black and three are women, making it the most diverse ruling council in Cuba’s history.

Cuba’s new National Assembly is all 53.2% women, which is a major development.

Alejandro de la Fuente, a professor of Cuban Studies at Harvard University said:

“Even if this was window-dressing, it would mean they feel the need to dress the window a certain colour, and that is something one would not have said 30 years ago.”

 

 

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The National Agency for Food and Drug Administration and Control (NAFDAC) has raided the four pharmaceutical companies exposed in a documentary – Sweet Sweet Codeine, recently released by the British Broadcasting Corporation (BBC).

This was made known by the NAFDAC’s Director General, Prof Mojisola Adeyeye, BBC reports.

The documentary drew attention to the effects of the drug on youths and how some officials of pharmaceutical companies distribute the drug to dealers on the street.

Adeyeye said:

“Our inspection and enforcement teams are in the premises of the four pharmaceutical companies that were shown in the [BBC] video.

“Our officials are there putting things on hold, and everything is being documented. When completed, we will prepare our report and then we will take appropriate action.

“If products that are fake or substandard are discovered, such products will be seized and destroyed.

“These companies that were caught, from our records, have a limited amount of codeine, but from what the documentary showed there is indication that the production is more than the quantity that was approved. So the question can be asked, was there smuggling involved?”

Following the startling revelation in the documentary, the Federal Government of Nigeria announced a ban on the use of codeine as an active agent in the production of cough syrup.

Emzor pharmaceutical company has since suspended the production of Codeine cough syrup.

One of the company’s officials was also seen in the BBC documentary, selling the cough syrup to undercover journalists.

Emzor on Monday, April 30, 2018, issued a statement saying that it has launched a full-scale internal investigation into the breach of the codeine distribution.

The company also said the official in the video has been dismissed, adding that his conduct is illegal and against Emzor’s policy.

The Ministry of Health said that the decision to ban codeine by the Federal Government is not based on a documentary by the British Broadcasting Corporation (BBC).

Source: Pulse News

Obia Ewah, is a trained chemist, the founder and formulator of OBIA Naturals.

OBIA Naturals produces pH balanced, vegan and non-toxic natural hair and body care products fortified with natural ingredients.

Months to her graduation from medical school, Obia was diagnosed with cancer, which she believes had something to do with the chemicals she used to relax her hair.

After surviving cancer, Obia became very careful about the foods and products she allowed into her body. She also went natural to improve her health.

When she started her natural hair journey in 2010, Obia couldn’t find any hair products that could both tame her thick hair and health-conscious ingredients, she began some DIYs using natural ingredients.

Surprisingly, the mixture that Obia originally created for her hair alone, worked great for others also!  Friends began to ask for and purchase Obia’s formulations and that is how OBIA Naturals was started. The company officially launched in 2012.

OBIA Naturals boasts that their products do not contain any toxins or carcinogens.

 

 

 

 

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