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Mary is a survivor of rape in South Sudan, and her story is a point of interest following the disasters in the region.

Initially, her husband was shot, and then, soldiers killed her young sons, ages 5 and 7. What’s more, they snatched her daughter from her hands, leaving her with nobody.

Mary hails from the Nuer tribe in South Sudan.

Recently, the people have been experiencing a power struggle between the country’s President Salva Kiir, of the Dinka tribe, and his Vice President, Riek Machar, a Nuer.

They fought this war based on ethnic reasons, and the Northern part of the country has been turned into a wasteland.

According to the United Nations, 50,000 people have been killed, and close to 4 million people face famine, 2.2 million fled their homes, and they have all told the story of severe maltreatment, torture and manslaughter.

Among these people who suffered the adverse effects of the war, Mary and her family members were some of the people who sought freedom and looked forward to gaining refuge. They were at a U.N. peacekeeping base in Bentiu when they encountered Kiir’s forces on the road in June 2014.

According to Mary, 27, the soldiers told her that they perceive the Nuers to be rebels, and the reason her sons were killed is that they don’t want them to grow up becoming fighters.

“We don’t kill the women and the girls,” the soldiers told Mary.

“They said they would only rape us. As if rape were different than death,” Mary adds.

Mary retreated to a safe house in neighboring Uganda run by Make Way Partners, an American Christian organization that provides housing, medical care and schooling for South Sudanese orphans and victims of human trafficking.

Following the murder of her husband and sons, five soldiers forced her to watch them rape her 10-year old daughter, Nyalaat.

“I couldn’t even see my little girl anymore. I could only see blood.” Mary says. After they had raped her daughter, they played a game of taking turns with mother and daughter, raping them both.

Within a few hours, Nyalaat died and Mary says that she wanted to die too. However, Mary didn’t give up. She rather made it to a U.N. camp for civilians displaced by war.

This didn’t stop the soldiers from attacking evebtuaeve. The violence continued, and the soldiers were still able to make their way into the camp and rape all the women they were able to get their hands on.

Mary adds:

“IT HAPPENED TO ALL OF US: LITTLE GIRLS, GRANDMOTHERS. THEY DIDN’T CARE. IF YOU CALM DOWN WHEN THEY ARE RAPING YOU, THEY WON’T BEAT YOU. BUT IF YOU RESIST, THEY WILL BEAT YOU, EVEN SO MUCH TO USE THE GUN IN YOU.”

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The CEO of Instagram has expressed his disappointment that Selena Gomezdeleted the app after it made her ‘depressed’.

Gomez, once the most followed person on the platform and now the third (after Cristiano Ronaldo and Ariana Grande), has been honest about her struggles with social media, Instagram in particular, and mental health.

She recently announced she’d stopped personally using it after it left her feeling low and affected her self-esteem.

‘I used to use it a lot but I think it’s become really unhealthy for young people, including myself, to spend all of their time fixating on all of these comments and letting this stuff in,’ she told Kelly Ripa and Ryan Seacrest on their show. ‘It would make me feel not good about myself and look at my body differently,’

Gomez has now deleted her Instagram account on a colleague’s phone instead of hers, so she can just access it when she wants to share something with fans.

In the past, she’s also spoken about taking regular breaks from the platform and even deciding not to know the password for her account. At Cannes Film Festival last month, she told reporters ‘social media has been terrible, for my generation specifically‘.

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In response to her latest comments, Adam Mosseri – the CEO of the app – has said the singer’s criticism of Instagram left him feeling ‘disappointed’ but would love to talk to her about it to collaborate on ways to improve the platform.

‘I would love to hear from her,’ Mosseri told BBC Radio 1 Newsbeat. ‘If there’s something specific that she thinks is working or not working about the platform, I’d love to hear. We like the criticism, we like to have the conversation.’

However, Mosseri also questioned whether Gomez’ experience of Instagram – where she currently holds 152 million followers, is inundated with comments and likes and looked to as a role model – can be compared to the average user’s experience.

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‘She has over 100m followers,’ he said. ‘It’s a whole other world.’

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Marijuana Pepsi Vandyck (yup, that’s her real name) graduated from Wisconsin’s Cardinal Stritch University in May with a Ph.D. in Leadership for the Advancement of Learning and Service in Higher Education. She wanted to prove to the world that, despite having a rather unique name, she could make it in life.  

“People make such a big deal out of it, I couldn’t get away from it,” Vandyck told the Milwaukee Journal Sentinel.

Marijuana Pepsi is her legal name — and no, she doesn’t smoke and she’s not a huge fan of soda.

“Vandyck” was added after she married her current husband Fredrick in 2017. The 46-year-old, who grew up between Chicago, Illinois, and Beloit, Wisconsin, says she used to question why her mom gave her such an odd name (her sisters are named Kimberly and Robin).

“It makes it difficult sometimes,” Vandyck previously admitted to TODAY. 

Her mom apparently believed her name would take her places. And in reality, she has gone places. Vandyck lives on a farm in Pecatonica, Illinois, with her husband (they have four children — her 16-year-old son, as well as three children and a grandchild on her husband’s side). In addition to teaching and running a performance coaching company, Vandyck started an annual scholarship award for African American students enrolled at the University of Wisconsin-Whitewater.  

But it wasn’t always easy. Vandyck was constantly teased growing up, especially in junior high. She dreaded when teachers conducted roll call.

“Every single class, the teacher is taking attendance out loud, and as they slowly get down through the J’s, I’m just like here it comes. ‘Marianna? Marijuana?’ And all the students turn to see who it is,” she said. 

Vandyck used these situations to her advantage and wrote her thesis on the topic: “Black names in white classrooms: Teacher behaviors and student perceptions.” 

For her dissertation, she spoke with other Black students who had unique names. They also opened up about those tense moments when teachers would pause on their names during roll call.

Today, she is proud to call herself Dr. Marijuana Pepsi. In a way, she thanks her mother, and she admits her name may have given her a sense of resilience.

“I’ve grown into my name because I am a strong woman,” she told TODAY. “I’ve had to be.”

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A North Carolina teenager is heading to college for free after she received more than $1 million in scholarships.

Ny’Quasia Brown has been on the road to since middle school. She began taking high school courses when she was in the eighth grade, and consequently, she’s graduating high school after only three years. As she prepared to graduate, Brown began applying for scholarships to pay for college. Due to her efforts, she secured $1.5 million in scholarshipsfrom 87 schools.

 “It was very overwhelming,” Brown told WCNC. “It just felt like all of my hard work had honestly paid off.”

The 16-year-old overcame several obstacles to get to this point. She was raised by a single mother while her father was incarcerated.

“He’s my best friend, he’s my other half. And with him gone I know I have to fill his shoes that he would want me to,” Brown said. “I do everything I do because of him and my uncle.”

Brown admitted there were challenges, but she knew she had to keep going. She also worked two jobs and played basketball along with her studies.

“I know it gets hard, it gets very hard. You miss that other parent, but you can’t lose the vision,” Brown said. “Because at the end of the day you have to think, ‘what would that parent want you to do.'”

The White Oak High School senior credits her mother and godparents for ensuring she keeps her priorities in check.

“I feel so lucky because some people don’t have any parents,” Brown said. “My mom made sure I don’t feel any less than a child with two parents.”

The young scholar also has a network of friends who act as accountability partners.

“I have my five friends that when I’m down and say ‘guys I can’t do this’ they always push me to continue,” Brown said. “We’re gonna be great.”

Brown had an array of choices, but she already had her mind made up, according to HBCU Buzz.

“I’ve always wanted to go to an HBCU (historically black college or university),” Brown said. “When I started doing my research, I looked at colleges that ranked high in the nation where I knew I could also get a great education.”

She is headed to North Carolina Central University (NCCU) to study political science and has dreams of becoming a lawyer. Her mom, Crystal Gill, believes she can do it.

“Ny’Quasia is very independent and has a mind of her own, and I support her,” Gill said. “I see her being a successful attorney. She will be phenomenal and make changes in the world.”

Her principal, Dr. Christopher Barnes, spent years watching Brown work toward her goals.

“My first interaction with Ny’Quasia showed me she was a very vocal and confident freshman,” he recalled. “She has become intense and determined about success beyond high school,” Barnes said.  “Her ability to know what she is after, where she is going and how to get there is admirable. She is a mold-breaker.”

Brown has simple advice for students who want to follow in her footsteps.

“Leadership is very important; take advantage of every opportunity you are given,” she said. “Place God first. Utilize your full potential. God has blessed me with a community and family that have supported me when I couldn’t do it for myself. Always remember that you have to sow a seed.”

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The statue of the woman is nearly 23 feet tall. Her head is wrapped and she stares straight ahead while sitting barefoot, but regally, in a wide-backed chair, clutching a torch in one hand and a tool used to cut sugar cane in the other.

In Denmark, where most of the public statues represent white men, two artists on Saturday unveiled the striking statue in tribute to a 19th-century rebel queen who had led a fiery revolt against Danish colonial rule in the Caribbean.

They said it was Denmark’s first public monument to a black woman.

The sculpture was inspired by Mary Thomas, known as one of “the three queens.” Thomas, along with two other female leaders, unleashed an uprising in 1878 called the “Fireburn.” Fifty plantations and most of the town of Frederiksted in St. Croix were burned, in what has been called the largest labor revolt in Danish colonial history.

“This project is about challenging Denmark’s collective memory and changing it,” the Virgin Islands artist La Vaughn Belle, one of two principal forces behind the statue, said in a statement.

The unveiling comes at the end of a centennial year commemorating the sale by Denmark of three islands to the United States on March 3, 1917: St. Croix, St. John and St. Thomas. The price: $25 million.

Though Denmark prohibited trans-Atlantic slave trafficking in 1792, it did not rush to enforce the ban. The rule took effect 11 years later, and slavery continued until 1848.

“They wanted to fill the stocks first” and ensure enough slaves would remain to keep plantations running, said Niels Brimnes, an associate professor at Aarhus University and a leading expert on colonialism in Denmark.

Three decades after slavery formally ended on what today are known as the United States Virgin Islands, conditions for the former slaves had not improved significantly.

That continued injustice fomented the uprising on St. Croix.

Mary Thomas was tried for her role in the rebellion and ferried across the Atlantic to a women’s prison in Copenhagen. The statue created in tribute to her, called “I Am Queen Mary,” sits in front of what was once a warehouse for Caribbean sugar and rum, just more than a mile from where she was jailed.

The only other tribute to Denmark’s colonies or those who were colonized is a statue of a generic figure from Greenland.

The two artists, Jeannette Ehlers, left, and La Vaughn Belle, were inspired by Mary Thomas, who with two other female leaders known as Queens unleashed an uprising in 1878 on St. Croix.
The two artists, Jeannette Ehlers, left, and La Vaughn Belle, were inspired by Mary Thomas, who with two other female leaders known as Queens unleashed an uprising in 1878 on St. Croix.CreditNikolaj Recke

The Danish artist Jeannette Ehlers, who teamed up with Ms. Belle to create the “Queen Mary” monument, said, “Ninety-eight percent of the statues in Denmark are representing white males.”

The torch and the cane bill held in the statue’s hands symbolize the resistance strategies by those who were colonized, the artists said in a statement. Her seated pose “recalls the iconic 1967 photograph of Huey P. Newton, founder of the Black Panther Party.”

And the plinth on which her chair rests incorporates “coral cut from the ocean by enslaved Africans gathered from ruins of the foundations of historic buildings on St. Croix.”

Henrik Holm, senior research curator at Denmark’s National Gallery of Art, said in a statement: “It takes a statue like this to make forgetting less easy. It takes a monument like this to fight against the silence, neglect, repression and hatred.”

He added: “Never before has a sculpture like this been erected on Danish soil. Now, Denmark is offered a sculpture that addresses the past. But it is also an artwork for the future.”

The preferred self-image of this country of 5.5 million is that of a nation at the forefront of democratization and a savior of Jews during World War II.

And even though the Vikings raped and pillaged their way around the shores of Britain and Ireland, the Viking Age is generally a source of national pride and amusement in Denmark.

Over the centuries, Danes have not undergone a national reckoning about the thousands of Africans forced onto Danish ships to work the plantations in Danish colonies in the Caribbean, historians say.

“It may have to do with the narrative of Denmark as a colonial power saying, ‘We weren’t as bad as others,’” Professor Brimnes said. “But we were just as bad as the others. I can’t identify a particular, humane Danish colonialism.”

In a speech last year, the Danish prime minister, Lars Lokke Rasmussen, expressed regret for his country’s part in the slave trade — but he stopped short of an apology.

“Many of Copenhagen’s beautiful old houses were erected with money made on the toil and exploitation on the other side of the planet,” he said.

“It’s not a proud part of Denmark’s history. It’s shameful and luckily of the past.”A version of this article appears in print on , on Page A9 of the New York edition with the headline: Nodding to a Colonial Past With ‘Rebel Queen’ Tribute. Order Reprints | Today’s Paper | Subscribe

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No fewer than 2,000 Nigerian women die of unsafe abortion annually with Northeast recording highest rate, says Dr Christopher Lamai, Head of Department, Obstetrics and Gynaecology, Federal Teaching Hospital, Gombe.

Lamai made the disclosure at the capacity building workshop for journalist on Sexual Reproductive Health and Rights (WSRHR) organized by Ipas Nigeria, an international NGO on Tuesday in Gombe.

He said the rate contributed to 13 per cent of mortality in the country as many women died from abortion more than malaria.

According to him, every eight minutes women die of unsafe abortion while an estimated 220,000 children are left motherless annually as a result of abortion related death.

He advised participants to fully sensitize the public on how to undergo safe abortion towards reducing the rate of mortality in the country.

Earlier in her remarks, Mrs Hauwa Shekarau, the Ipas Country Director said the objectives of the training were to equip journalist with international, regional and national legal framework for the protection of WSRHR.

Shekarau said the training would also transform the attitude of the media on issues around WSRHR.

She said that Ipas was working closely with legislatures and law enforcement among other stakeholders on importance of safe abortion to reduce high rate of mortality in Nigeria. 

Media mogul and EbonyLife TV founder Mo Abudu has been announced as the Chair of the 47th International Emmy Awards Gala scheduled for November 25th, 2019 in New York.

The International Emmys made this known in an Instagram post on Tuesday.

Speaking on the announcement, Mo said: “As producers, we are in a unique position to share fresh, authentic, and original stories with a global audience. Our content is not limited by language or culture. Viewers want to see stories that reflect their everyday lives—which can be found everywhere.”

She continued: “At EbonyLife, we believe in changing the global African narrative. And like many, we connect the world with our stories. As a Nigerian television producer, I am honored to chair the 47th International Emmy Awards and be part of an organization that celebrates extraordinary television producers from all over the globe.”

The International Emmy Awards recognises and celebrates excellence in television produced outside of the U.S.

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Analysis of new surveys on single mothers in America have revealed that Black single mothers have made huge advancements economically in the last decade, particularly in corporate America.

Both The New York Times and Forbes released reports in the last week highlighting findings from Current Population Survey data and the 2018 Motherly State of Motherhood Surveyshowing that a number of federal and state policies during the Obama presidency made it somewhat easier for single mothers to work.

The number of single mothers in the country’s workforce has grown by four percent and best-selling author Christine Michel Carter wrote in Forbes that the number of single black motherswho earned more than $75,000 grew 106 percent between 2012 and 2017. This was 30 percentage points higher than single white mothers, according to the survey. 

During that same time period, single Black mothers have been able to secure higher income growth than all other single mothers by two percentage points. 

Analysts have attributed these gains to a variety of policies enacted during the Obama administration and said it resembled growth seen during the Clinton administration in the 1990s.

Both periods saw an improving economy and low unemployment numbers. But what makes the most recent advances for single mothers strange is that there has been a decrease in federal efforts to provide a safety net.

Carol Burnett, executive director of the Mississippi Low Income Child Care Initiativetold The New York Times that the federal safety net has been “evisceratedand work requirements have increased.” But some studies showed that the introduction of Obamacare helped more single Black mothers get to work, and states that adopted Medicare expansion saw significantly more single mothers working.

Researchers in The New York Times report and Forbes had rival theoriesas to what lead to the recent economic gains, but some said the decreased federal safety net has forced certain states to enact policies that protect and help single mothers like paid leave and public preschool.

Single mothers, especially Black mothers, had no choice but to work with less help coming from the federal level and the growth of America’s gig economy was making it a bit easier for them to do so. 

“Even with increased wages and even with the changes that are being made around leave policy and the like, employees are still at the mercy of their employers,” University of Michigan associate professor Kristin Seefeldt said to The New York Times.

“The way we think about workers, it’s on us to take care of our personal and family issues. It’s embedded in our culture that it’s not the employer’s job to do that.” 

The studies showed that warehouse work, nursing opportunities and gig economy jobs were increasingly becoming avenues for single mothers to make money. A number of states also increased the minimum wage, something that has had a massive effect on increasing the wealth of single Black mothers. 

Although the studies found that Black mothers were four times as likely to be single parents than any other race, millennial Black mothers were more optimistic about handling motherhood and a career than any other race. 

“Perhaps these single black mothers have discovered the secret to achieving work-life balance, juggling successful careers and parenthood,” Carter wrote

“Taking a deeper look at the largest generation of single mothers in the work force to date, over 23% of black millennial moms feel they can combine a career and motherhood, citing it’s possible to combine them creatively (compared to 14% of all millennial moms).”

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BET is set to honor Mary J. Blige with its 2019 Lifetime Achievement award at its awards show later this month. 

The BET Awards announced on Wednesday it would recognize the nine-time Grammy award-winning music icon for being “a figure of inspiration, transformation and empowerment, making her one of the defining voices of the contemporary music era.”

“And in the ensuing years, the singer-songwriter has attracted an intensely loyal fan base, responsible for propelling worldwide sales of more than 50 million albums,” the BET statement continued. 

Last year, Blige became a double Oscar nominee when she was nominated for two Academy Awards, supporting actress and original song, for 2017 film “Mudbound.”

Blige, affectionately referred to as the Queen of hip-hop soul, called the double nomination ‘really special’ in an interview with the Associated Press last year.

The veteran artist has also scored three Golden Globe and two SAG award nominations. Her debut album, “What’s the 411?” released in 1992 to critical acclaim, with timeless hits like “Real Love.” View image on Twitter

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The 2019 BET Awards show will air live from the Microsoft Theater in Los Angeles, across seven Viacom networks, on June 23 at 8 p.m.

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Shirley Raines offers makeovers, food and showers to homeless people in Los Angeles.

Raines initially started her volunteer work by serving food to the homeless on Skid Row with another organization. She noticed that a lot of the women seeking support would ask questions about her hair and makeup.

“As we passed out food, the women were more interested in my hair color and my makeup. And they used to compliment me, going ‘oh my god, we love your makeup’ or ‘we love your hair color’ or ‘you smell so good’.” Raines told Insider.

This eventually led Raines to establish her own organization, Beauty2TheStreetz, dedicated to helping the female houseless population in Los Angeles. The Long Beach native takes the time to travel to Los Angeles and prepares food for 400-600 people every weekend while working full-time and being a mother of six.  View this post on Instagram

One of the most challenging things for us trying to help the homeless with makeup is NOT having the shades for everyone’s skin color. Darker shades are so hard to come by but thanks to @blackradiancebeauty and their donations we were able to hook the ladies of skid row up yesterday 🙏🙏 Stitches pull your wound together…allows the skin to grow back as one. MAKEUP helps pull the homeless women together! Helps heal their wounds through beauty, self care and love! #humaninterest #respect #stayhumble #wefeedthehungry #mentalhealth #helpingothers #helpingthehomeless #skidrow #payitforward #nonprofit #change #people #worldhunger #wakeupandmakeup #help #humanity #donate #hoodlove #dotherightthing #ghetto #endhunger #themarathoncontinues #beauty2thestreetz #helpinghands #streetlife

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Raines is a perfect example of combining a skill set with compassion to help those who have fallen on hard times.

For ways to get involved follow Shirley Raines on Instagram @beauty2thestreetz

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