Self-love requires understanding and engaging with yourself at the most intimate level, and opening up to yourself in a way that might be uncomfortable and unfamiliar for most of us.
Here are our 5 tips to help you live with self-love:
1) Live with Intent:
Live mindfully, truthfully, and intentionally. Do not lose yourself in your moments, and if you do, find out why you lost yourself and what you can do to stay present.
Your life is limited – time is your most important currency – and the more you show yourself that you value your time, the more you prove to yourself that you love your life.
2) Live with Care:
Treat yourself well; physically, emotionally, and psychologically. Listen to your body and your mind at the most basic level – if something doesn’t make you feel good, then it is probably bad for you. Protect yourself, from the dangers of both greasy food and toxic friends.
Your mind is your window into the world; keep it clean, keep it strong, and your world will stay equally positive.
Practice a proper diet, exercise regularly, sleep enough hours, and engage in healthy social behavior that secures your personal growth.
And make sure to live with boundaries. Don’t limit yourself, but don’t confuse self-love with hedonism. Moderation is good for the soul.
3) Live with Forgiveness:
You will make mistakes. You’ve most certainly already made a ton, filling you with various bouts of guilt and regret trapped in the back of your head.
You are human, after all, and that’s what makes life worth living: the unexpectedness of your own humanity
But learn to forgive, yourself and those around you. Every day you wake up is an opportunity to grow away from the person you were the day before.
If that person made a mistake, then try to understand and forgive, as you can work towards being a different person tomorrow.
4) Live with Need:
Your mind is your greatest asset, so trust it. When presented with a situation to overindulge, ask yourself: do I need this or do I want it? In most cases, what you think you need is simply a case of you wanting it.
And while it is more than fine to pleasure yourself with your own desires every now and then, it is important to remember not to fall into self-made destructive habits based on desire and want.
Live according to what your mind, body, and soul need.
Turn away from the pleasures of laziness, of automatic happiness, of destructive behavior, because these are short-term, and they care nothing for the person you could be.
You are the only person who must live with yourself for your entire life, so make your happiness last longer than a day.
5) Live with Yourself:
And finally, it is crucial to learn to live with yourself as if you were someone else.
When faced with the task of self-loving, we think too much in the abstract; we think of it as a mental challenge, a psychological question rather than a task we can actively work towards achieving.
But loving yourself is as simple as loving anyone else, so ask yourself: how would you love yourself, if you were someone else?
Treat yourself with the same respect, kindness, and mindfulness that you would offer the people who matter most to you in your life.
Love yourself with the same patience and tenderness you would give your own child, partner, sibling, or parent.
Be kind but be stern; learn to discipline, but learn to forgive. You are your own greatest fan, your own greatest rival, and your own greatest love.
Learn to see yourself in ways you have never considered.
Self-love seems so easy in movies and shows. Just let go of the thoughts, problems, and people causing stress in your life, exchange them with sources of joy and happiness, and voila: you are a self-loving king or queen.
But true, transformative, authentic self-love isn’t so easy. While you might feel great for some time, there will be many moments when you want to give up, where you might convince yourself that your attempts at self-love are meaningless and childish and stupid, that the world is hard and cruel and you should just learn to live with it.
But don’t stop. Keep going. Self-love isn’t about happiness. It’s about improving your life as much as you currently can, and accepting it.