resilience

In Health March 1, 2021 By Women of Rubies

Two Steps To Building Resilience

When life is shaking us up and we’re feeling stressed … it can be tough to feel resilient.

Resilience helps us to deal with the chaos and overwhelm … but how to we create it when we feel like we’re underwater?

The first step is to remove things that are adding unnecessary stress. The second step is to do things that help us feel replenished.

Those two steps won’t get us all the way to full resilience, but they’re a huge huge start.

Remove Extra Stress…

Some stress is inevitable — wishing for a life where we feel zero stress is just going to add more stress.

But if we are flooded with stress, removing some of it can help us to clear the space to create even more resilience. If we don’t remove the extra stress, we’ll never do the things we need to take care of ourselves, or to train our minds to be more resilient.

So removing unnecessary stress is the first step.

Some examples:

If you’re drinking a lot, reduce down to 1-2 glasses of wine a night. Zero might be even better for some, but it’s useless to ask someone to quit alcohol when they’re flooded with stress.
Similarly, reducing smoking or other narcotics or drugs would be a big help.
If you’re working late into the night, creating a stopping point earlier would be a big help, if possible.
Cut back on your workload a bit, if you’re able to. Delegate the ones you can. Create a to-do list and prioritize the ones you can’t delegate.
Stop saying yes to everything, and take fewer meetings. Don’t be afraid to turn down excess workload as well.
If you’re fighting a lot with someone, refrain for a bit. Take a breather and let yourself settle.
If you’re watching things or playing games late into the night and getting little sleep, cut back on that.
If you’re watching news or reading things online that really get you angry, stop that for awhile.
Cut out social media if that gets you anxious.

And so on.

Removing these stressors will help you catch your breath.

…Then replenish yourself.

I don’t mean that you have to take a spa weekend (though that would be great!) … I mean doing little things that help you feel more recharged and settled.

These things fill you up, so that you can better take on the world.

For example:

Go for walks out in nature.
Create space for reading, having tea, taking a bath, journaling.
Talk with someone regularly, in person or over the phone.
Take naps.
Get better sleep.
Take a weekend off.
Get some sunshine, if there’s any where you are.
Take moments of stillness and deep breathing during your day.

These little things can make a huge difference.

You won’t get all the way to resilience with these two steps — but you’ll have given yourself what you need to take the further steps of shifting your thinking patterns and practicing resilience.

In Inspiration April 27, 2020 By Editor

Here are 6 Qualities of a resilient woman

With the current pandemic sweeping the globe, you may be experiencing several tough times, physically, emotionally, or financially (or all the above).

As woman who needs to overcome there are certain traits to hold out on, to see how resilient you are, they are:

Not giving up easily

This is a common trait in a resilient woman. They bounce back from pain and failure. “Resilient people are like trees bending in the wind,” says a professor at Yale University School of Medicine. “They bounce back.”

You accept

Been resilient means you accept what has happened, you understand that those perfect lives portrayed on Instagram aren’t reality. This isn’t about feeling defeated that you can’t change things. It’s about confronting emotions and trusting that we will bounce back.

You change perspectives

You need to learn how to look at things in different ways. Like I’ve been seeing this one way; let me change to a different way of thinking about it.” For example, if you’ve just lost your job, now may be the perfect time to consider a career change. If the relationship did not work out a better one is on the way, how do I prepare for it ? This helps you get better result from your past failures.

Focus on what you can change

Resilient people focus on what they can change and ignore what they can’t. Ask yourself, “What can I take responsibility for?” “can i change this” if you can you move to change it or otherwise focus on something better. Accepting circumstances that can’t be changed can help you focus on conditions that you can change.

Take advantage of opportunities

A resilient woman is open to opportunities, therefore they recognise one quickly. When you look for opportunities to empower yourself, you’re less likely to feel stuck and helpless.

Ask yourself questions

They ask themselves this question, “Is what I’m doing helping or or making things worse?” This practice puts you in control of your decision making—turning you into a survivor rather than a victim.

As Dean Becker, the president and CEO of a company that develops and delivers programs about resilience training, puts it, “More than education, more than experience, more than training, a person’s level of resilience will determine who succeeds and who fails. That’s true in the cancer ward, it’s true in the Olympics, and it’s true in the boardroom.” By practicing and learning these habits of resilient people, you’ll be able to adapt to any life-changing situation and emerge stronger than before.