Tag

Naija

Browsing

Oluremi TejumoJesu, also known as TenaciousTejumoJesu is a child of God and a Mindset Fixer, she helps individuals move their minds from average and mediocre to positive and excellent.

She has a coaching academy, Discovery Point With TenaciousTejumoJesu Academy,and this offers Coaching classes on Self Esteem,Purpose Discovery, Relationship with God and fellow humans.

She is the author of the book “You Are Enough.” She is also the Lead Volunteer of Blissful Vines Network.

She is also the CEO of Emerald Empire (a catering and event planning hub).

TenaciousTejumoJesu loves meeting people, cooking, reading, inspiring the world around her and leveraging on experiences.

She shares her Ruby Girl story with Aduragbemi Akintepede

1. Let’s meet you. Who is Tejumojesu?

TejumoJesu is a child of God who loves going about His Business. She is the second child in her family and she believes in ORIGINALITY and REBRANDING oneself as an individual.

2. What is Mindset Revamp?

Mindset Revamp is one of the programs from Discovery Point With TenaciousTejumoJesu Academy, and it aims to help individuals reset their mindset and also break some mindset myths that has been naturally built over a long period of time.

3. When did you realize your gift of revamping minds?

I realized this gift last year, precisely in the month of December.

4. You published a book titled “You Are Enough” what is the story behind it?

The story behind it is that of a young girl who suffered from low self esteem which affected her sense of identity. And she was able to overcome when she realized that she is enough just the way she is.
And that young girl is ME, TenaciousTejumoJesu

5. What does your book entail?

It is a true life story of how I struggled with low self esteem and what I did to overcome that defect.
I was very vulnerable with my readers as I gave personal examples from experiences.

6. What has the Covid-19 pandemic taught you?

It has taught me to go all out to add more knowledge to myself, it has also taught me COMPLETE TRUST IN GOD.

7. As a caterer and event planner how has the pandemic affected your business?

This pandemic didn’t affect my business, as I quickly switched to digitalization as soon as I noticed that the whole world virtually went online.
And it has since then been useful.

8. How do you relax or unwind from your busy schedule?

I take out time to REST, see a movie and spend time with my family.

9. As a Mindset coach what are the major challenges young people face in Nigeria and what is the way out?

All the challenge starts from the mind, and the only way out is to be concious and intentional about your thought pattern.

10. How do you juggle coaching, event planning and other activities you’re involved in?

I try to balance everything. And when I see that everything is overwhelming, I switch into “observation mode.”

11. *Mention 3 women who inspire you and why?

My mum
Chichi Ogbonnaya
Tolulope AkinbinuThey have been able to successfully groom me, and show me that as a woman, you can attain the greatest height and still be balanced!

12. *Where do you see yourself in the next 5 years?

Married with two children.
Winner of the Forbes under 30 successful women.
Established in my coaching career and own a restaurant.

13. *If you were given the opportunity to address a group of girls five years younger than you, what will be your advice to them?

You can be whatever you put your mind to, you can be successful and no one can stop you from being the total and complete woman except you.

“I don’t understand why Lagos Landlords have a problem with renting out their apartments to single women” I hear the worry and frustration in my sister’s voice at the other end of the line. The prawn crackers I was munching on became tasteless in my mouth. We’ve been on this conversation for the past twenty minutes. I sigh. I understand her predicament. Our other sister had the same issue while she was apartment hunting. Ever the adventurous one, she had wanted to move out of the house as soon as she got a job after serving the fatherland in Kwara State.

She was initially posted to the far end of Wamba in Nasarawa State, our parents, after a long series of argument, emotional blackmail, and threats had reached a compromise with her; they would agree on a state not too far from home but Ogun, Oyo, and Osun States are out of the options. Fully aware of the efforts it took her to reach a compromise; they had agreed to facilitate her redeployment to Kwara State. After service, she got a great job at a top publishing firm in Lagos and couldn’t wait to leave home; “A girl also needs her privacy” she always says. I recall the number of times she would lament to our parents and whoever cared enough to listen about how unfair society treats women. A single woman can hardly get accommodation in a decent environment without pretending to be engaged or presenting a father figure in her life to testify of responsibility and his willingness to grant her the freedom she desires. Long story short, after much persuasion, dad had gone with her to the agents of some of the apartments she was interested in.

I try persuading my sister to go through the route our other sister eventually took. I mean, if a single woman cannot gain decent accommodation because of the prejudice the society has on singleness and women in general, what else can a girl do? Lagos landlords are of the opinion that women are mostly sponsored by their parents, husbands, or the numerous men in their lives. If things go sour between the ‘small girls’ and their ‘big gods’, the rent will suffer for it. That again is another prejudice, a stereotype that women are not as hardworking and financially stable as their male counterparts. My sister still continues to rant, demanding to know why her decision should be based on her marital status or parental influence. Seeing that I was making no headway as she is already determined, I calmly listen to her rants and let her know all will be well.

After saying our goodbyes, I begin to ponder on what we had just discussed. I have never thought about leaving my parents’ house without leaving for my matrimonial home. I still have no intention to do so, except if my career demands it. Probably because I’m very attached to my parents, being the last child. I recall my brother didn’t have this kind of problem. The landlord had only insisted that the rent be paid when due, the number of occupants shouldn’t be more than three at any point since that was stated clearly in their agreement form and loud parties will not be tolerated. Those rules were fair enough. Any responsible person would easily abide by them.

I can’t help but believe these hideous beliefs and bias stem from the deeply rooted patriarchal system African countries, especially Nigeria are cursed with. Why my financial capabilities would be judged by my gender. A woman by ‘default’ is judged incapable, not because she doesn’t have a job, but because she’s a single WOMAN.

It’s funny how many people would turn a blind eye to discriminating against females wanting to be independent. Others might even validate the act. It is very understanding and acceptable if the basis of rejection is based on the premises of the individual doesn’t have a stable job hence the fear of defaulter in payment of rent or the individual has a track record of recklessness and irresponsibility. I recall reading about an interview with a property owner and landlord, Coleman Nwafor and BBC Africa, Mr. Nwafor had said that the bulk of his tenants are men because they have more than women.

Asides the financial ‘insecurity’ bias, many landlords and property developers, are driven by the belief that women cannot — or should not — live outside their father or husband’s house. Another evidence of how much damage the patriarchal belief system has done to our society.

My sister had earlier shared with me the very unnecessary and invasive questions the landlords of the apartments she had inspected had thrown at her, “Why would you want to leave alone? Don’t you know you’re a woman? Are your parents still alive? What do they think of this act of yours?

Another had said “You look old enough for marriage, why are you still unmarried? One of them had even with all sincerity told her that men do not want a woman who is already ‘settled’ getting an apartment as a single woman would reduce her chances of getting married, no man wants a woman who doesn’t need him, a woman who has it all would find difficult to be submissive to her husband. The society has made marriage the ultimate attainment of a woman and normalised policing women about. There is already established bias, that the need for a single lady to live apart from her parent is to fuel her wayward lifestyle, most definitely to live her life unsupervised. The upper-class single women seem to have it a little easier though they still endure some wagging tongues and snide remarks about their lifestyle.

If we are aware of and irritated about how tribalistic landlords can be when it comes to choosing their tenants, and then we can imagine how most women have it worse, one from discrimination against their tribe and then their gender.

Can you testify to these ridiculous and backward reasoning acts? Please share your experience with us and how you handled it.

Written by: Olabisi Animashuan

Eniola Akinbo, known by her stage name Niyola, was born on December 9, 1985 in Lagos state, Nigeria. The female Nigerian recording artist, singer, songwriter and performer developed interests in music at a very early age and sand in church with her siblings.
Her interest in music piqued and she ventured into music in 2000 and she was the runner up in Amen Starlet Competition,2000. 2005 brought a new turn as she decided to go professional with her music. Her breakthrough came with her single ‘toh bad’ which was released in 2013 under EME label.
She has since won awards as the female artist of the year by Nigeria Entertainment Award in 2014 and 2014 Headies award as Best Vocal Performance. With a voice that is so rich and unique, and an impeccable sense of fashion, Niyola is a force to reckon with in the Nigerian Entertainment industry.

 

Concoction rice has been on the Nigerian food scene for ages but it was a meal I didn’t really care about because I saw so many versions of it that I didn’t really like nor enjoyed. Some where just made up of palm oil and pepper with a little crayfish and seasoning. I just didn’t get it so it was not on my list of favorite meals until I told myself to look into it and modify it.

6

I decided to go for basmati rice, swapped the palm oil for vegetable oil and instead of making it a one pot meal, I made it a stir fry. ? You know where I am going right? I brought in the Asian way of cooking, using an African recipe. God bless Asians and their techniques. Boy it was so good! It tasted like nothing I had tasted before and had more depth than the usual concoction rice. You should try this. Damnnn! You should!!! ?

Let’s get the pots and pans rocking!

1

Cook basmati rice until it is almost done. See how to cook the Perfect Basmati Rice here. After cooking, spread it on a tray to cool down to avoid clumps.

2

Steam smoked fish with some salt until it is soft. This does two things. It kills germs and softens the fish, infusing some salt into the fish.

3

Slice the veggies. In a pre-heated frying pan, add some vegetable oil and toss in the vegetables. Stir fry for a few minutes.

4

Add blended crayfish powder, some cayenne pepper, seasoning cubes and some salt to taste. Blend it all properly.

5

Add the fish, prawns and some fish stock to add some fluidity to the sauce. Fry for a few minutes.

6

Now, add the cooled basmati rice and blend in nicely. Season some more if needed.

7

This is the slightly browned lovely concoction rice you get. Isn’t it Pretty? ?

dp 4

dp1 small

dp 2 small

Ingredients
  1. 3 cups basmati rice (steamed)
  2. 1 medium sized onion (sliced)
  3. 5 habanero pepper (sliced)
  4. 5 stalks of spring onions (sliced)
  5. 1 medium sized smoked fish (cut to bits and steamed with salt)
  6. A handful of dried prawns (steamed with salt)
  7. 2 heaped tablespoon dried ground crayfish
  8. 2 cooking spoon vegetable oil
  9. 1/2 teaspoon ground cayenne pepper
  10. Seasoning cubes
  11. Salt to taste
Instructions
  1. 1. Steam basmati rice.
  2. 2. Slice the onion, spring onions, habanero peppers.
  3. 3. In a frying pan, add the vegetable oil and then the vegetables, stirfry for a few minutes.
  4. 4. Add crayfish, cayenne pepper, seasoning and some salt. Allow to stay for 2 minutes over flame.
  5. 5. Pour in the fish, prawns and some fish stock. Fry for a few minutes.
  6. 6. Add the cooled basmati rice and blend in nicely. Heat up to let it absorb moisture and flavour. It will colour nicely and smell divine.
By: Matse