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In self development November 12, 2018 By Women of Rubies

WOMEN WHO PLAYED PIVOTAL ROLES IN THE #METOO MOVEMENT

Over a year ago, the #MeToo movement took off on Twitter, encouraging women all over the world to voice their stories of sexual assault and abuse, and call out their abusers. Here, we take a look at some of the women who have been crucial to this movement.

Tarana Burke, Founder of the #MeToo movement

As an activist, Tarana Burke often spent time with children of colour at youth camps. At one such camp, she met a young girl who confided in her about her stepfather sexually abusing her. Burke could barely make it through five minutes of the conversation, and abruptly cut the young girl off, directing her to another counsellor. She was ridden with guilt as the child walked away from her because she could not bring herself to tell the young girl that she understood her pain. She could not find the courage to say, “me too”.

The #MeToo movement began in 2006 when Burke, along with other activists, founded Just BE Inc., a youth organisation to guide young women of colour in their process of self-discovery and ultimately towards empowerment. Following this, they put up a MySpace page that was very well-received by many young survivors of sexual abuse.

Today, Burke is the Senior Director of Girls for Gender Equity (GGE), an intergenerational organisation focussed on the holistic development of girls and women, while encouraging communities to create opportunities for them to live independent, self-determined lives.

She is also working on her memoir, Where the Light Enters, set to be published in 2019.

Alyssa Milano, Hollywood Actress

In October 2017, New York Times published a detailed account of horrific sexual assault allegations against former producer Harvey Weinstein that eventually lead to his arrest in May 2018. Following this, actress Alyssa Milano tweeted asking people to reply “Me too” to her tweet if they have been sexually assaulted or harassed. This led to thousands of women – going beyond just household names – to come out with their personal stories.

Even celebrities like Lady Gaga, Reese Witherspoon, Cara Delevingne and Angelina Jolie joined her.

Milano soon realised that it was Burke who founded the #MeToo movement in 2006, and she encouraged others to learn about it.

In the weeks and months following the horrific stories being brought to light, abusers in positions of power finally came to light for the world to see who they really are. A few prominent names among the many accused are Bill Cosby, Kevin Spacey, Morgan Freeman and R. Kelly.

Dr. Christine Blasey Ford, Professor and Psychologist

In mid-September, a confidential letter from professor and psychologist Dr. Christine Ford to a senior Democratic lawmaker, unexpectedly went public without her consent. The letter alleged that the then Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh had sexually assaulted her 36 years ago, when they were in high school. When it came out to the public, Dr. Ford’s e-mail was hacked, and she received death threats. She then decided that she was ready to face the world with her story.

On September 27th, she faced the Senate Judiciary Committee and swore to tell the truth. She answered every question thrown at her, admitting that she did not recall the fine details of the encounter with Kavanaugh. When asked if she was sure that it was Kavanaugh who assaulted her, she confidently said, “One hundred percent.”

Initially, the White House had sent out a statement by Kavanaugh soon after, which read, “I categorically and unequivocally deny this allegation. I did not do this back in high school or at any time.”

During his testimony, Kavanaugh also did not comment further on Dr. Ford’s allegation, and did not answer any questions pertaining to whether or not he knew her during high school.

Despite the allegations, Kavanaugh was sworn-in as Associate Justice of the Supreme Court of the United States, on October 6th.

Tanushree Dutta, Bollywood Actor

In 2008, actor Tanushree Dutta accused actor Nana Patekar of sexual assaulting her on the set of a movie but no action was taken, and the news died down just two days later.

Ten years after the incident, she recounted this in an interview on September 25, and said that Patekar has always been known to disrespect, beat and molest women, but nobody paid any attention to this behaviour. She revealed that she backed out of a song with Patekar in the movie Horn Ok Pleassss, because he demanded her to take part in uncomfortably intimate dance moves with him, and touched her inappropriately. After Dutta refused, her car was attacked by members of a political group while she was in it.

Following Dutta’s bravery, thousands of Indian women have been coming forward with their stories and allegations. Unsurprisingly, a large majority of them are against prominent figures, beginning our own #MeToo movement. Among the accused are Utsav Chakraborty, Vikas Bahl, Sajid Khan, and MJ Akbar. Take a look at the consequences of some of the allegations here.

Source: Your Story

In self development November 8, 2018 By Women of Rubies

‘BLACK PANTHER’ ACTRESS, LETITIA WRIGHT TALKS ABOUT BATTLING DEPRESSION AS SHE COVERS THE HOLLYWOOD REPORTER ‘NEXT GENERATION’ ISSUE

Guyana-born British actress Letitia Wright features on the cover of The Hollywood Reporter’s Next Generation issue.

The actress, who got her breakout from Marvel’s first black superhero movie, Black Panther, playing the role Shuri, speaks to the magazine about how faith rescued her from a very dark place, how she chooses her roles and a whole lot more.

Read excerpts below:

On choosing roles: I pride myself on keeping it the same as when I came into acting, to not just change the lane and take everything, just because it may have a big name or a big budget. Am I right for this part? Is this what I should be playing? If something feels off in my spirit, I know that’s God’s way of saying, ‘You shouldn’t do that.’

On overcoming crippling depression: I was putting so much pressure on myself. You get comfortable with the idea of thinking, maybe it’s OK to leave. I wrapped it up and was done with it, happy to do anything that was more chilled. But that’s not the way God had it with me.

On writing pretend contract emails to herself: First I had CAA, but I was like, it’s too red. I like WME, the blue background is more earthy. And right now, I have an email from someone at WME and it’s real.

Visit THR for more.

Credit: Bella Naija

In self development November 5, 2018 By Women of Rubies

WOMAN TALKS ABOUT LOSING TWO BABIES TO ALCOHOLISM, SAYS IT’S A GUILT SHE CAN’T EXPLAIN

Caroline struggled with alcohol addiction for 18 years of her life. She lost two babies to addiction, suffering miscarriages both times.

She describes her miscarriage as, ‘a guilt I can’t even put to words,’ but also shares her journey to getting help.

Watch her speak to the BBC below:

In self development November 5, 2018 By Women of Rubies

NIGERIAN PROGRAMMER, ABISOYE AJAYI-AKINFOLARIN LISTED ON TOP 10 CNN HEROES OF 2018 LIST

Pearls Africa Foundation’s Abisoye Ajayi-Akinfolarin has been named one of CNN’s 10 Heroes of 2018!

Ajayi-Akinfolarin is one of 10 people around the entire world who will receive $10,000 in support of their heroic endeavors. One of the 10 will be chosen as the “CNN Hero of the Year,” and will receive the sum of $100,000.

Speaking about her cause, CNN said:

Abisoye Ajayi-Akinfolarin left her career to teach computer programming to girls in Lagos, Nigeria where Facebook and Google opened offices earlier this year. A 2013 survey found that less than 8% of Nigerian women are employed in professional, managerial or technology jobs. Ajayi-Akinfolarin hopes to change that statistic.

The “CNN Heroes: An All-Star Tribute” will air live on Sunday, December 9, where Ajayi-Akinfolarin, along with the other 9 heroes, will be celebrated.

You can vote for her to become the “CNN Hero of the Year” here.

Credit: Bella Naija

In self development November 5, 2018 By Women of Rubies

LORI MILNER: THE POWER OF LISTENING

It happens often: we appear to be listening but in fact we are so distracted by other thoughts, other people, and other things we have to do, that we’re not really actively listening. Or we’re thinking about what we’re going to say next and how we can say it so that we sound fabulously articulate and intelligent. We don’t entirely hear what the person in front of us is saying. We’re not getting the whole message. In our careers, it’s critical that we are heard. But it’s just as critical that we hear, that we truly hear. Our ability to really listen to others is as vital to our overall presence.

When we actively listen, we’re in a better position to get the whole story. We hear what is being said, how it’s being said and often more importantly, what isn’t being said. We start to see the whole picture, we grow in understanding and we learn. In the wise words of talk show legend Larry King, ‘I never learnt anything while I was talking.’

The more we listen, the more people tend to share, because ultimately people have a need to be heard. To remain unheard is almost like being invisible. When you give people the respect of listening to what they have to say and you value their right to express themselves, you make them feel more valuable. Don’t ever underestimate the power of giving someone the opportunity to be listened to.

Here are 8 tips to fine-tune your listening skills:

Prepare yourself to listen: Stop what you’re doing, put down that phone, put away auditory and visual distractions, hush your thoughts and most of all, stop talking. Listening is an active process, so it requires your absolute attention.
Show that you’re ready to listen: Make eye contact, focus on the speaker, and if you are sitting across from them, lean forward. Don’t fold your arms. Use your body language to make the speaker feel relaxed enough to speak freely.
Listen closely: Focus on what is being said. Now is not the time to plan a response, formulate an opinion or solve a problem. Now is the time to listen. Simply allow this person to express themselves and allow their views to be heard.
Be respectful: Don’t judge, don’t bring your personal prejudices into play and don’t censor what somebody else is trying to say. Practise curiosity instead. Open your mind and be respectful of the story unfolding in front of you.
Listen deeply: Listen as much to the things that aren’t being said as the things that are being said. Pay attention to the tone of voice, be mindful of the words that are chosen and watch the speaker’s body language.
Be patient: Don’t jump in. Even when the speaker pauses, fumbles for the right words, or stutters, don’t finish their sentences for them and don’t interrupt them.
Understand: When the full story is on the table, make sure you get it with absolute clarity. Ask questions if you have to. Paraphrase it back to them. Get all the details you need, not later, now.
And when you do respond: Think first, self-evaluate and ask yourself, is what I am about to say going to make a valuable contribution?

Here’s to the power of listening,

Warm wishes,

Lori

LORI MILNER is the engaging facilitator, thought leader and mentor known for her insightful approach to being a modern corporate woman. Her brainchild, the successful initiative Beyond the Dress, is the embodiment of her passion to empower women.

Credit: Lori Milner, lionessesofafrica.com

In self development November 3, 2018 By Women of Rubies

KEMI AMUSHAN: IMPROVE YOURSELF, BE A BETTER YOU

About 4 years ago, I sat down and asked myself why I was so unlucky in love and ending up with all the Mr wrongs instead of ending up with my Mr. Right? I thought hard for days and that was when I realized there was only one constant in all my years of terrible dating choices. ME.
I woke up one day and said, “If I didn’t work on ‘ME,’ I would never end up with a good man and be a ‘WE’.
For all those years that I had been ‘just being myself’, it always led me down a path to nowhere. Then one day I decided to become the very best ME by learning everything I could about myself and the love department. And everything changed, including the sentence that not only changed my life, but can change yours too.

“Don’t Be Yourself, Be Your BEST Self”
So, if you want to learn about how you can be your best self, then keep reading.
Do you consider yourself the exact same person today that you were a year ago? 5 years ago? 10 years ago?
If you are being truthful, there’s no doubt that you understand that as a human being you are constantly changing. Think about what you were like at your happiest time of your life. Maybe you were in love or were on a great vacation. Think about the way you felt inside.

The way you looked at the world.
Now, do the same thing and think about what you were like during one of the lowest point in your life. Maybe you were just dumped by someone or just got fired from your job. Think about the way you felt inside. The way you looked at the world. The fact is that our life experiences are constantly changing us and on any given day we are gathering up more fuel to fill fire that is our “self.”

The problem with the concept of being yourself is that at any given time our sense of self is different. It is ever changing, which means when someone offers up the advice to just be yourself is that it fails to take into account where you are in your life at any given moment. Let me ask you these two questions: Are you the best you that you can be?” and “Are there areas in your life you can improve on today that will help you tomorrow?” If the answers to both of these questions is “NO” then I ask you, “Should you just go on being yourself or try to make improvements?”

The key to happiness and success in life isn’t about staying in one place (aka BEING); it’s about striving for personal growth and improvement. It’s about continually putting yourself in a position to learn and stretch into positive change. When you understand that, there is little you can’t accomplish in life.

Did you know that being yourself can actually keep you from meeting the love of your life? Imagine for a moment there is a very shy woman named Temi. She is someone who doesn’t like to engage other people very much either in social situations or work settings. Now she is at a party surrounded by attractive, single men. Any one of those men could be the man of her dreams.Since Temi is a shy person, she is being herself and standing in the corner. Nobody comes and talks to her and she leaves the party meeting not one single man.

So because she is being herself and standing in a corner do you think Temi is putting herself in a good position to find that special someone? Of course not.

When you or anyone else enter a situation like a cool party you want to be the very best person “you” can be. You want to show the people in that room the very best of you. Show them that you are a special, confident, authentic person. And for Temi, and people like her, this will take effort.

Let’s take another example where there’s a guy named Damola. Damola is unhappy. The reasons are simple, he’s pushing 40, extremely unhealthy, lives at home with Mom, and spends 10-hours a day watching tv. He wants to find a woman and even does some online dating, but has not had much luck. You need to know that change does not happen over night, but day-by-day those little changes add up!

What do you think Damola’s prospects are at finding true love? Not so good. But if one day he took steps to become the very best Damola he could be, what do you think could happen for him?

If I were Damola’s friend, I would help him to work to improve at least one aspect of his life. It sounds cliché, but it is about being the best person he can be one day at a time.

Maybe he starts working out to get healthy and in shape. Then he makes the goal to go on one date a month. Finally, he makes the big step to look for his own apartment. It may take time, but once he makes the decision to be the best person he can be, happiness and change are soon to follow.

If you are ready to make the positive changes in your life and begin the work it takes to become the very best “you,” that you can be, then I ask you what is one thing you’re willing to do today that get’s you one step closer.

You are a special person who deserves the very best out of love and life and in order to make the changes to achieve that it starts with one decision, a decision to break away from the conventional thoughts about who you are and start thinking about who you want to be. Once you do that there will be nothing you won’t be able to achieve.
To our happiness. Cheers.

Source: Guardian

In self development November 3, 2018 By Women of Rubies

“MY HUSBAND ENCOURAGED ME TO START MY JUICE COMPANY” – TEMILOLUWA BALOGUN

Temiloluwa Balogun is fulfilling that dream by following her passion by changing the narrative unhealthy food consumption, She is the CEO of DawnJuice, a fast rising organic fruit juice and smoothies company in Nigeria. The young budding entrepreneur earned her degree in Microbiology from Olabisi Onabanjo University. Temi is strong advocate for healthy lifestyle. She continues to promote healthy living and lifestyle by carefully creating recipes to meet her family and clientele demands; encourages young people—especially women to choose healthy meal options.

She has supported and partnered with several organizations to drive the message of healthy lifestyle home , while she also runs her beauty and lifestyle outfit MO’s Crib Ventures on the side to further help women with their day to day lifestyle as it relates to beauty and make-up.

Temiloluwa who is happily married with children is also a certified Air hostess , In her words “ If I wasn’t into Juice business , I would have been a very successful air hostess because I commit myself to everything I do and give it my all”.

She shares her story with Esther Ijewere in this interview and shed more light on the need to eat and stay healthy.

Childhood Influence

I wouldn’t say Yes or No. But, all I can relate is that the church we attended back then fruits was always the order of the day,invariably I got introduced and exposed to fruits very early in life in varieties.

Meet Temi

A mother of three, who loves caring for her home. An entrepreneur and business woman who owns both Mo’s Crib and Dawn Juice (beauty and healthy lifestyle). I love caring for people around me, love togetherness, working with my team especially in areas of support and supervision. I’m very hardworking, humble, fun person, down to earth, takes responsibility and shares authority amongst workers accordingly. Happy to protect and serve her home, the people around her and give back to the society.

Inspiration behind Dawn Juice

I got inspired by a handful of thoughts, just to mention a few; I recall that fast foods and drinks was the order of the day for my generation while growing up. It was trendy and a breakaway from the normal home food making. Little did we know that like everything it has its own side effects. I wanted to change the narrative, and that’s where the inspiration for Dawn juice came from, I started with my immediate family and friends , moreso the society needs more awareness about living, eating and staying healthy, so since eating is one of the behavioral functions of humans for living, what goes into the esophagus should be healthy and 100% clean, organic and fresh. Our products are from natural fruit and vegetables contains no artificial preservative or additives which guarantees healthy lifestyle. To help the World in reducing sickness and diseases resulting from unhealthy eating and passing the healthy lifestyle culture to the incoming generation.

Challenges of running Dawn Juice

Dawnjuice deals with fresh, organic farm produce which are personally sorted for in a good state. The most dreadful challenge is when the fruits all get spoilt/rotten before used or when already processed and bottled up for sales and been kept in the fridge but the generator or fridge and or PHCN decides to give up at the same time and it all gets sour. It’s heart breaking and no juicing company wants to experience it. Luckily, we have been able to adjust by not relying solely on PHCN but also solar electricity

Another challenge is trying to change the narrative by breaking the cycle of unhealthy food, apparently most people are used to that, it’s also challenging that prospective buyers are always skeptical about the content of healthy drinks either because of previous experience with other brands or out of fear Thankfully, three of our products are NAFDAC approved, so quality is always guaranteed.

Another bottleneck is pricing. Most people may find it convenient to buy a N100 or N200 unhealthy drink than to buy a N600 to N1000 healthy drinks- juice or smoothies of the same Litres.

Cost of business in Lagos is quite high, ranging from electricity bills, transportation, licensing etc. this will definitely affect the price. However, we have worked so hard to keep the overhead costs so low while maintaining its quality recipe that the pricing is almost equivalent to do-it-yourself cost at home

Plans to hold a walk

Dawnjuice is working on starting up a walk campaign which will be held once every year or depending on the outcome of the first program when it commences. The campaign is a Walk against Disease, which is one of the major reasons Dawnjuice was birthed, we are also open to give support to and partner with any organization or company that gives back to the society.

Reward

Our greatest reward so far is been referred too with good and positive feedback. Our customers satisfaction is our main priority and we are also ready and happy to serve those buds with our healthy and hearty recipes.

DawnJuice in 5 years

In today’s competitive world, it’s our job to stay true to our product, quality, quantity and remain humble, stay friendly with our customers and remain consistent with them and have their satisfaction as our main goal at all times. With that been said our customers can only make it work with continuous demand from them and supply from us. I’m really excited about the future cause it takes drops of water to make an ocean, with continuous hard-work, teamwork and determination dreams do come through. Nothing is impossible if we put our minds to it, Dawnjuice moves in a steady pace, gradual is he that want to eat fat, so establishing branches in the various locations in Lagos and then other states to spread our vision throughout the country. Healthy eating is no longer expensive.

I will keep pushing against all odds

There’s hardly anything you set to do that someone else isn’t doing and that alone can get you thinking on how you’ll start and meet market standard and the thoughts of not been capable of sustaining in the market. At the beginning not having the necessary and right machinery to make work faster, effective and efficient. I almost gave up but with great support and encouragement, I went back to drawing board evaluated what exactly I needed and wanted to do. A lot of things can discourage one from attain success but with determination, set mind and focus all will be the thing of the past sooner or later.

My husband is my Inspiration

I got inspired by My Husband as I get to prepare Juice for him like every other day, as healthy living is a long term and continuous commitment and he was very conscious of his diet with the Juice added. That birthed the dream. Continuous attempts paved way for learning, exploring and researching into the World of Juicing, the juicing in small quantities been made, started growing progressively by the day and boom DAWNJUICE here I come.

More inspiration came as I get to influence people around me to living and eating better and healthy by adjusting their diet plan by adding Juice or smoothies to their meal plan.

Being a Woman of Rubies

I believe as a woman being independent goes a long way for us, our kids and the society at large, we need to wake up from the Mentality of keeping ourselves in the wall of our homes, care for the household and not mix and mingle with the ongoing events around us and our surroundings.

We have lots of talents and things to offer to the society, starting from been supportive to our husbands in every ramification, raising our kids and instilling good habits in them, been our sisters keeper at all times and helping fellow women instead making her feel inferior.

Are Nigerians well informed on the need to eat and drink healthy

Yes! Almost everyone is into one thing or the other it’s either you hear of Exercising (fitness club) or the Keto diet, smoothies cleansing etc. Everybody wants to live long in good health and so in achieving that they fall on any of the mentioned above. Staying in shape is trendy thing now – exercising and having a good diet, everything and anything at all that can make the old look younger. Farming is also beginning to resurface as fresh and organic crop product are more save and reliable to consume.

Why we support charitable causes

Dawnjuice loves to support and promote other business the little way we can cause we all need each other to grow, it gives us more exposure and opportunities and help reach our prospective customers , giving them an insight and knowledge about DawnJuice.

In self development November 1, 2018 By Women of Rubies

SINEM BILEN-ONABANJO: SHAKE BODY…NOT!

“Look, talent comes everywhere, but having something to say and a way to say it so that people listen to it, that’s a whole other bag. And unless you get out and you try to do it, you’ll never know. That’s just the truth. And there’s one reason we’re supposed to be here is to say something so people want to hear. So you got to grab it, and you don’t apologize, and you don’t worry about why they’re listening, or how long they’re going to be listening for, you just tell them what you want to say. Don’t you understand what I’m trying to tell you?”

These words are from A Star is Born – the 2018 remake of the 1937 film of the same name – uttered midway through the movie by the seasoned country star Jackson Maine, superbly brought to life by Bradley Cooper.

“Yeah, I do. I don’t like it, but I understand it,” says Ally (played credibly by Lady Gaga in her first lead role), the ingenue he discovered makes her Saturday Night Live debut. An ordinary girl on the cusp of stardom, commercialised beyond imagination at the hands of music producers.

What struck a chord with me beyond Ally’s rags-to-riches road to stardom, Jackson’s battle with his demons and their whirlwind romance were these words.

How many stars were made in the ‘90s on the same conveyor belt, shaped with the same cookie cutter? Britney, Christina, Jessica… Until they reached a stage in their career to exert some freedom and control over their material, could you even tell the difference between who was who? I don’t know about you, but I didn’t actually even know Christina Aguilera could sing until she belted out “Beautiful” which we had to wait for until her fourth album.

Watching the fictional Ally on the SNL stage writhing around with a choreography that would make Britney of ‘…Baby One More Time’ era blush, I felt Jackson’s heartbreak at the sight of his rough diamond hewn into a pop princess.

These days we are a little luckier when it comes to our pop stars, Beyoncé has inimitable talent, Rihanna boundless sass, Adele her British blend of softness and edge. Even the new kids on the block from Dua Lippa, Rina Sawayama, Jorja Smith are not manufactured, pre-packaged bubblegum pop princesses. Even X Factor finalists these days boast more personality in their little finger than pop stars of yesteryears, with more opinions than you can shake a mic at, on anything from global warming to unrealistic beauty standards perpetrated by the media to the rise of crypto currencies.

The stars of today, whether made by their talent or their social media following, know that they have gained the much coveted “influencer” status. They also know that, with great influence comes great responsibility – except for Youtube vlogger DJ So Cool perhaps, whose channel was suspended last summer amidst accusations of child abuse after he laced his kids’ ice creams with laxatives and filmed them crying in pain. When you have a platform and you have the spotlight on you, albeit for a short while, most celebrities or influencers know that “you got to grab it, and you don’t apologize, and you don’t worry about why they’re listening, or how long they’re going to be listening for, you just tell them what you want to say” as per Jackson’s advice.

Then, naturally, I think of Nigerian stars and influencers, and it dawns on me just how we can count those who use their platform to say something beyond, “Oya shake body” on the fingers of two hands – at a push. You can rely on Banky W to speak his truth, whether it is political views or social critique, Lami Phillips always serves pepper soup for the soul, RMD shines as a man of virtue and wisdom for our young boys to look up to, Betty Irabor and Joke Silva are forever inspiring and empowering women, by speaking their truth and laying their souls bare for us to learn from. There are a few more.

Except for a respectable few beacons of light that shine through a vast land of nonchalant ignorance, what else do we have but a bunch of so-called celebrities – most of us would be hard pushed to figure out what they owe their fame to – who go around flaunting Gucci, Versace, Porsche, Lamborghini, making countless appearance on the red carpet and chatting absolute rubbish until their season is over and the next movers and shakers of the fame game come along… come to shake body and not much else.

Culled from Guardian Woman

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In self development November 1, 2018 By Women of Rubies

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In self development October 31, 2018 By Women of Rubies

“WE HAVE NEVER CONSIDERED DIVORCE AS AN OPTION” – WILL SMITH AND JADA PINKETT

Red Table Talk, a reality TV show by Jada Pinkett on Facebook Watch afforded the couple and their first child together, Williow, to speak on their rumoured plans to end their marriage.

The couple aired all that had gone down in their marriage in the last 10 years when the ‘Bad Boys’ star and his daughter, Willow Smith, appeared on Red Table Talk.

On the rumours about the couple, Will and Jada cleared the air on allegations bothering on their sexuality and religious beliefs.

Shutting down the divorce rumour, Jada said, “We have never considered divorce as an option and that is because it’s wasn’t for us, we had a bigger family aside our nuclear family. I have never seen a divorce lawyer before.“

However, the couple agreed to have gone through a phase that broke their relationship and they had to rebuild.

“It’s not possible to clear all the rumours but to just to have it on record about the historical rumours,” Will Smith began.

“We have never been scientologists. We have never been swingers, that’s a real specific lifestyle.

“Do you know why I never got a divorced?” Will continued.

“It’s cheaper to keep me,” Jada interjects.

“No, but it’s because I’ve never met anyone like you and I knew if I wasn’t with you, I’d be searching in vain for the rest of my life,” Will confessed.

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In 2016, Will Smith revealed that he and his wife, Jada Pinkett Smith, have had marriage counselling to save their relationship.

The “Suicide Squad” actor revealed he and his wife sorted out their marital problems by attending couples therapy together.

Source: pulse.ng