How do you know if a guy is genuinely interested in you or just wants to boost his ego?
There are a few tell-tale indicators that let you know he might be more interested in what you can do for him than actually in getting to know you.
If you’re looking to find lasting love with “The One” you need to know how to tell if a guy likes you, which means also making sure you’re familiar with these crystal clear signals that you’re being used, so you can spot a self-absorbed man before he wastes your time.
Here are five signs that he isn’t looking for love, he’s only looking for an ego boost:
- He sends you “Good morning!” and “Goodnight!” texts — and that’s it.
This guy consistently sends the sweetest texts greeting you in the morning and wishing you sweet dreams at night. You think it’s so nice that he’s thinking of you and letting you know it. However, if there isn’t much else to his communication, that’s your clue that he’s just into boosting his ego.
Chances are strong he’s texting a bunch of women twice a day to keep you on the line while feeling really good about himself. Doing this makes him feel like a desirable and popular ladies man with all the women on his daily texting list.
Don’t be one of the many hanging around hoping for more from this fellow. If the texting doesn’t get any deeper after a few days, stop responding or block him. Otherwise, this man is just going to waste your time.
2. He sends you a ton of fun and witty messages! Then nothing. Then MORE! Then nothing.
You connect with a guy online who sends the most engaging texts. Then suddenly you hear nothing. Days later he messages again … then nothing. Communicating is loads of fun, but he remains inconsistent. You’re always happy to hear from him — and sometimes he talks about getting together. Too bad no actual dates materialize.
Don’t be fooled by the engaging “forever texter” who never takes that next step to ask you out on a date.
3. He keeps appearing in—and then disappearing from — your life, making you feel unstable and uncertain.
When you are seeing a guy who is inconsistent and your relationship falls into an on and off pattern, that’s a surefire indication that you’re dating a man who likely wants his ego stroked.
He gets together with you because he feels great in your presence. He feels strong, powerful or masculine when he’s around you. Even if he is attentive and thoughtful, he’s still doing it to boost his own ego. It’s a shame he can’t handle the closeness or has some other emotional availability issue that causes him to pull away.
Let go of the on and off again guy. Be strong and free yourself up to look for a man who is ready for the loving relationship you want.