Ending a marriage you have spent years nurturing can be very hard. On one hand, you are happy you have made a good decision for yourself, on the other hand, you feel an overwhelming feeling of loss.
It can be particularly hard for women who don’t have the right support or who live in a society where divorced women are stigmatized.
For these reasons and more, Tinuola Okenimkpe is sharing her personal experience to help divorced and separated women move on and live their best lives after divorce.
ABOUT TINUOLA OKENIMKPE
Tinuola Okenimkpe, popularly known as Tinu-Ola-Onipekun, was born in Kaduna, Nigeria. She studied Computer science at Yaba College of Technology, Lagos, Nigeria.
She started her journey as an entrepreneur at the age of 19 and currently owns and runs a cake store known as Dreamtreats Cakes.
A divorced mother of 2 children and an adopted cousin, Tinuola, who has a can-do attitude towards life, loves to inspire others to pick up their dead dreams once again, dust them and run with it. She derives fulfilment from helping women get back on their feet especially after experiencing a loss.
Beautiful Beginnings is an organization she founded to provide support for women who have experienced a loss. She has gone ahead to release her debut book also titled Beautiful Beginnings, focused on helping others find the courage to move on just like she did.
She has another soon to be released book titled Now That You Are Divorced, a step by step guide to finding your groove back.
WHY SHE STARTED BEAUTIFUL BEGINNINGS AND WROTE A BOOK
My marriage ended after 10 years. From my experience, I found out that society has defined the way a divorced woman should look and how she should carry herself. It was considered a thing of shame and you were literally labeled a failure.
After divorce, one was expected to be silent, and talking about it only made it worse. Due to lack of support both from the community, religious organizations and sometimes even family, most women considered divorce an end to their lives and their dreams.
And many others remained in marriages that should never have been because of the fear of stigmatization. I also found that many divorced people had a sense of overwhelming loneliness during this process and for many, it was literally impossible to pull through.
Over the last 9 years, I discovered a lot of things I wish I had known earlier on. While that knowledge may not have eased the pain, it would definitely have made a lot of things easier and helped me get my groove back earlier.
I am very passionate about helping other divorced women through that season and that is why I started a support system known as Beautiful Beginnings.
HER BOOK – BEAUTIFUL BEGINNINGS
Reading the book Beautiful Beginnings will give you a fresh perspective and help you find the courage to move on.
You can also sign up for Walk With Me, a 30 days session.
– Discover the truth about who you really are
– Get tips for going through a divorce with less drama
– Pick up your dreams again…. they are valid and possible.
– Learn to raise outstanding kids despite and in spite of what you are going through
– Find the courage to move on with your career or start a business
– Build a support system
– Get your groove back
GET IN TOUCH WITH TINUOLA OKENIMKPE
Facebook: Tinu Ola-Onipekun
Phone call: 09079006877
This article was culled from Woman.ng, In support of the Author’s work as it relates to marriage and separation. It is not our original content , neither did we conduct this interview.