It was a women-only meeting, one of those organised by the women leader (usually the Head Pastor’s wife) to empower other women.
The agenda on this occasion was to inspire attendees to be more. To unlock potentials and harness their strengths.
I cannot remember what led to this conversation or the question that followed. However, I remember quite vividly how this beautiful unassuming woman stood up to ask a question, the question that changed the course of the conversation for that day and opened my eyes to the reality of some other women.
I call it a question because even though she presented it factually, I ‘decided’ it should be for her, a question. It was the most dramatic statement I had heard by then.
She said and I quote ‘When we get to heaven, our husbands will ‘face’ God on our behalf. Men will give account for the women-folk because they are our heads.
Saying I was dumbfounded is putting it extremely mildly but as one of the major participants of the event, I painfully had to snap out of my reverie. I mean, how beautiful will it be to carelessly dump my failures on HIS head at the end of time, I may as well start now. It will indeed be convenient to say the reasons I haven’t met deadlines and delivered or accomplished to the measure of expectations is because of a man/my husband.
Where ever this woman got her idea from, I may never know and honestly, it is irrelevant. The fact that she ‘lived’ (hopefully not anymore) with this idea carefully balanced in her head is what baffles me till date. I haven’t stopped wondering how many more women live with such ideas as this.
I may not even be as keen as talking about the end of time but I am so interested in how much influence, authority and rule we give men over us. Some ideas are as short changing as they are deadly.
To think we are not living up to the measure of our talents because ‘only men’ are expected to be talented is mind bugging.
An able bodied woman refuses to add value to herself because she believes women do not need to. Only men do. How lazily ridiculous! What books are you reading? What companies do you keep? Where do you get your ideas?
Snap out of the day dreaming for one, it is a bad dream and two, you are designed to do more; be more.
You may not be looking at making history like Michelle Obama but you need to be an example to the generation coming after you.
Stop shortchanging yourself with ridiculous excuses.
Stop applying the bible out of context.
Stop letting in junk.
Guard your heart with all diligence. These are the issues of life that we are talking about.
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