“She stabbed him thrice in the back and several times on his private part, that was the sad story all over social media on Saturday . Some tagged it a crime of passion while some women came to her defence , but I won’t support such irresponsible act just because the culprit has the “W” tag. No justification for violence of any kind!!!! 

For a long time we hardly hear of women being on the wrong side when it comes to domestic violence, we are always at the receiving end, appears something is and has changed in the trend of domestic violence. It’s a wake up call for us to continue advocating for the rule of “Walking Away”. 

PLEASE let’s stop telling people to manage abusive relationships, you are saving them from being killed or stopping them from killing out of psychological torture.

Abusive  relationships are unfortunately very common. They come in forms of physical abuse and emotional abuse, in which both are equally as devastating. Most are just pushed under the rug, in hopes their partners will change, out of fear of their partner, thinking it is just a momentary reaction or thinking it is completely normal. Abusive relationships are definitely unhealthy, and should not be continued. An abusive partner normally will never change, no matter how much they claim they are going to.

Here are signs you are in an abusive relationship and why you need to walk away ;

1. Being treated as a property or sexual object

2.Others see the abuser as a very nice person and the abuser acts very pleasant and loving between acts of violence 

3. Denying the seriousness of the violence and /or blaming it on circumstances like stress, anger, partners behaviour, drugs, alcohol or other reasons..

4. Constant jealousy , calls and/or surprise visits.

5. Controlling and/or treating you like a child such as interrogating intensely, tracking location, having to ask permission to go places or try new things, keeping all the money, and asking for receipts and proof of what you’ve been up to

6. Unrealistic expectations of perfect behavior and treatment

8.Isolation from family, friends, cars, phones, jobs, and/or the public

9. Name calling, degrading, and/or humiliating

10. Manipulating your emotions and making you feel like you’re the problem

11. Easily insulted, angered, or saddened

12. Feeling fear, nervous, unsafe, trapped, or hopeless

13. Forceful sex

14. Blaming others for mistakes

15. Arguing constantly and quickly.

Feel free to add other signs you know,remember nothing is worth losing your life/or going to jail for. 

Walking away cost you nothing , just tell your legs to receive common sense before your hands get you in trouble. 

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Esther is an activist, Writer, Columnist, Author and editor-in-chief & founder -Women of Rubies. She is passionate about issues that affect women and children. 

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