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Veteran actress, Patience Ozokwor has opened up on her marriage to her late husband.
Speaking to RTV, Patience Ozokwor revealed that she was forced into marraige by her parents at age 19, and wasn’t giving any choice as she couldn’t disobey them because she wasn’t brought up in that manner.

“It was not my decision. And if it’s not my decision then I was forced into it. I did not see any reason my parents were forcing me as I was still young. And even at that age I had so many suitors and they just wanted me to get married. You know when you come from a polygamous family and your mother is struggling for her own daughters to get married and this other one is also struggling for her own daughters to get married and when this one came around and I said no I should make a choice. but I was not allowed to make that choice. They didn’t give me that choice and at the end, I had to obey my parents. I was not brought up to disobey them at all.”

When asked if she enjoyed the marriage, she replied saying

 “Sincerely speaking as a Christian I did not.”

Adding that he was once married to girl who was arranged for him but the marriage didn’t work out.

“The girl was sent to London to meet him but she got there and found out she didn’t like him so she decided to move on with her life. So they didn’t leave together as husband and wife. He waited till after he came back after the war to come and marry me and there was no reason for that.”

Speaking further on her marriage, she revealed that it wasn’t easy at all for her as a young girl
“The marriage was not easy at all for me as a young girl, it was not easy but when you have two children and it is also not in the culture of my parents for you to jump from one man to another. I lost it sometimes and I had make due with the children God gave me that is why I am very close to my parents.
When asked her view on marriage she said;
 ” It is an ordained thing by God and it should be honoured. When a man and woman are declared man and wife that is final, your plate of food is out of your parents’ house.

She further said that there are only two reasons a person should leave their spouse according to the bible, life and infidelity.

 “If life is involved, God did not say don’t separate. God has standards and christians must adhere to the standards of God concerning marriage because there are one or two things that a husband and wife divorce otherwise it is not coming from God. So it didn’t come. I didn’t catch my husband cheating on me and he didn’t catch me so we had to stay together until death parted us. When he died, I became free, people started coming for my hand in marriage but I said no, it’s already late”

Patience Ozokwor also said she couldn’t remarry because of the foundation she had, the kind of home training and because of her stand in christianity.

 

The Liquefied Petroleum Gas Group of the Lagos Chamber of Commerce and Industry has distributed cooking gas cylinders to some women in Lagos State as part of its empowerment programme.

The Chairman, LPG Group, LCCI and Executive Director, Chimons Limited, Mr. Baylon Duru, said the initiative was an extension of what they did with Eko Gas scheme where the group was able to distribute close to 20,000 cylinders during the administration of the immediate past governor of the state.

Duru, who spoke during the distribution of the cylinders at Our Lady Star of the Sea Catholic Church, Navy Town, said, “The state acquired those cylinders; we, from the chamber and ministry of energy and mineral resources, collaborated to make sure that the cylinders were distributed throughout the local governments and local council development areas to people that really required them.

“So, when we had some of them left, there is no need to keep them; we decided to do what at the group termed ‘cylinder evangelism’ where those leftover cylinders would be taken to Lagosians through the churches and mosques.”

While describing the initiative as a continuous thing, he said, “We keep doing it as our corporate social responsibility because the first people that are exposed to the dangers of crude sources of energy like charcoal, firewood and kerosene are the women, and these affect their health so much.

“So, this initiative is to empower the women; one, let them understand the importance of the LPG, which we have told them is better than kerosene, charcoal and firewood, and they will cook faster; their kitchen will be cleaner; and they will save a lot of money using the LPG.”

Duru said with what the Federal Government and the industry stakeholders were doing, the price of cooking gas would come down.

 

He said, “The price of a 6kg cylinder, which is about N2,400, will be less than that and our aim is to drive it down to about N1,000.”

Jay Z and Beyonce’s combined income have crossed the billion dollar mark, according to Forbes.

According to Forbes:

Beyoncé and husband Jay Z are set to welcome twins this summer, joining their daughter Blue Ivy, 5. Buying new baby equipment shouldn’t be much of a problem: Beyoncé and Jay Z are now officially a billion-dollar couple.

Per Forbes’ list of America’s Wealthiest Self-Made Women–released today–Beyoncé, 35, has amassed a personal fortune of $350 million. The total for Jay Z, 47, has soared to $810 million per last week’s ranking of hip-hop’s richest acts (he trails No. 1 Diddy by just $10 million).

That brings the couple to a combined net worth of $1.16 billion and counting.

Couple’s goals.

Looking for a unique way to show your husband how much you love him? Check out these five need-to-try gestures.

He is your everything, and you are his. That bond between you two grows stronger every day, but you don’t need us to tell you that.

After years or even just months together, finding a unique way to show your husband how much you love him becomes incredibly difficult. No fear! With a little creativity you can easily help your man to feel more loved than ever.

To get you started, here are six gestures you can use to show your husband that he means more than the world to you.

  1. Buy a special treat

Remember, be creative! Ask his family what foods and treats he hasn’t had since he was a kid. Can he go through a box of Mott’s fruit snacks faster than your kids? Buy a box that’s just for him! Or buy a delicious treat neither of you has tried before. Or make it a fun date night by baking an exotic dessert together. Whatever you do, make a memory out of it. Have a big reveal or take pictures. Make even the small, ordinary moments matter in your relationship.

2. Wear that outfit that he likes

Who cares if you wore that shirt and jeans earlier this week? Not him! Ask your husband what outfits he likes to see you wear. Especially if you’re not the girl to reuse outfits often, your husband will love knowing that you’re wearing that outfit just for him.

3. Stop saying “I’m sorry” so much

Do you ever apologize for apologizing? Or say “thank you” to every little thing your husband does? In an effort to appear humble, sometimes we come off as submissive. We don’t feel confident and it shows.

When you act confidently, your husband knows that he’s doing his job. He wants to build you up. He’s your biggest cheerleader (sorry, Mom). You build his confidence when he sees that he’s building yours.

4. Tease him

Along with feeling needed, your man needs to know that you have fun with him. Don’t roll your eyes if he makes a ridiculous joke. Build off of it and keep the joke going! Laughing together is a quick way to show your husband that you’re glad you married him.

Teasing him especially can break down a lot of walls if you two are having an off day. Never be mean, keep the teasing light. He’ll pick it up and start teasing you back. Those are the moments when your man knows he’s got his partner in crime and his best friend right by his side

5. Take him out on a “Treat Yo’ Self” day

Ever seen “Parks and Recreation”? Sometimes you and your husband just need a “Treat Yo’ Self” day. This means a day away from the stresses of daily life – a day to relax and unwind. You both deserve a break from time to time. Taking your husband out for a treat yo’ self day shows him how much you appreciate his hard work. Looking to show you love him? Show him that you appreciate him.

Ask him what his idea of a treat yo’ self day looks like. Spending a day at the spa? You’d be surprised how many guys enjoy relaxing at a spa, with a full day of massages, body scrubs and hot tubs. Yep, sign us up.

No one can make your husband feel loved like you can. He needs you. Not every gesture of love has to be creative or elaborate. Just be you, and don’t stop loving him like crazy.

You and your hubby can spend the entire day at amazing Island Spa and Sauna for only $29 each. There, you’ll get to explore the different themes saunas, rejuvenate the the hot tubs and get pampered with professional massages and scrubs.

Gospel artistes have really ‘upped’ their game to meet up with the competitive and changing environment, which has seen corporate sponsors and promoters opting to support other genres to leverage their businesses.

This ‘upping’ has so revolutionalized gospel music that, save for the lyrics, it has received much criticism from people who feel that gospel music has been taken too far and too wide to a point that differentiating it from secular music is difficult.

They believe that the gospel industry is driven by the desire to reap profits and attract corporate sponsors at the expense of evangelism.

Beyond the criticism, there is no doubt that gospel music has been upped in terms of standard and professionalism like the secular’s – but despite that, there is little or no presence (at all) of endorsement deals or corporate sponsors and promoters, who incidentally, swarm on secular artistes like bees on honeycomb.

With these sponsors’ coldness to the gospel music, many gospel artistes are now finding it hard to survive or switching to other opportunities to eke a living – these are worrying signs indeed for the gospel music industry.

With a view to unravelling the reason for this dearth of corporate sponsorship, the Women of Rubies was privileged to run into the pretty ‘JUBILEE’ – a fast-rising gospel artiste, who just organized a successful gospel concert (IGNITE).

She talked on that and more….

Why Jubilee? Is that your stage name or real name? If it’s your stage name, what’s the concept behind it?

Jubilee is my stage name; my real name is Akinboboye Oluwafunmilayo Helen. Jubilee is a name God gave me few days to my 25th birthday. Then, I was thinking it was a name of a business but 5 years down the line, it became a burden and God used a brother for me to birth Jubilee.

Let’s meet you and your kind of music.

My name is Akinboboye Oluwafunmilayo Helen; I’m in my early 30s. I have an OND in Mass Communication. I am from Ondo town in Ondo State. I am the 2nd in a family of 4.

How long have you been in the music ministry (you know it’s a ministry and an industry altogether)?

I started singing in the children choir at the age of 8 and since then, have graced so many platforms. I once had the privilege of backing up Ron Kenoly, Sammie Okposo and a few other notable gospel artistes, but I started my ministry 4 years ago.

Have you released any album, or working on one? How soon do we expect it?

I have already released a single titled: MARVELOUS GOD. I have no album yet, but working one or two more single tracks this year with the help of God.

Are you a ‘performing musician’ or a ‘performing worship/praise leader’? Many people seem to get confused about both?

I am not a performing musician or a performing praise leader – I am a minister with God’s mandate to liberate, restore and inspire people of God to rejoice in spirit and in truth.

You recently organized a programme (IGNITE) – how would you grade the turnout and performance?

It was an awesome experience! God blew my mind with the success of that programme. I received several testimonies during and after the programme. The turnout was incredible. It was a confirmation that God is with me.

Has your music been favourable to you so far?

Yes, because God is with me always. He has got my back and performs everything He has spoken to me about the ministry. I am grateful to Him always.

What’s your assessment of the Nigerian Gospel music Industry so far?

We are doing well so far but people are not encouraging us. Sponsors are not forthcoming. So, we make use of what we have, to do what we need to do.

What is your genre of gospel music?

I don’t have any, sincerely. I talk to God per ministration and He gives me key songs to do. I do worship songs most of the time.

Are you on any label or under any management?

No, I am not. I am under God’s label and management.

If you where asked by a major recording company to do a collaboration with any Nigerian gospel artiste, who would that be?

That will be Wole Oni or Cobhams Asuquo.

Who is your most influential international gospel act?

Kim Burrel

There has been this misconception about gospel music and secular music, sometimes you get to listen to some gospel music and you be like “is this really a gospel music?”, some gospel songs are rap and some sounds very ‘worldly’ – what’s your definition of gospel music?

God knows who He has called. Heaven alone will judge. I don’t talk to judge others. I do my thing the way the Spirit inspires. 

The gospel music seem not to be capturing the attention of the corporate industry in terms of endorsements and brand modelling, what do you think is the problem and what do you proffer as a solution?

We are not doing things merely to attract their attentions. That is not our primary mandate. But gospel artistes also need to improve on the quality of their production, including video. Because it is gospel does not mean it shouldn’t be of excellent. This is one area I am hoping to make a huge difference. It is the only way we can get corporate sponsors to take us serious.

Are you married or in any relationship?

I am not married. I am relying on the direction of the Holy Spirit with regards to relationship.

You are a pretty woman, how have you been able to cope with advances from your male fans?

My male fans are a part of the people God has sent me to minister to. So, I consider every contact an opportunity to minister. I do not see advances from male fans as a problem or challenge. Rather I see it as an opportunity to fulfil the mandate God has given to every believer.

The Money or The Message? These days, if you don’t do music for the money, you do it for the fame. Did you also look at the fame part of it and the money and said “I will do it”?

Both are important. The message is more important than the money. I will never compromise the message for money.

What has been the biggest challenge so far?

Organizing IGNITE posed a lot of challenges. But I thank God for His faithfulness. I thank God because today I can testify to the success of the concert. I thank God for all the helpers He used to make the concert a success.

 

How can we get to follow you on social media platforms like facebook, Instagram and twitter etc?

JubileePraise on Facebook, jubilee_praise on Instagram and jubilee_praise on Twitter. I can also be reached on: 09058999082, 09098949690

Here’s a weird statistic for you: The percentage of women working in tech has decreased since the ’90s. So basically, technology fields have become more male dominated as more women have joined the work force.

In the ’90s, women made up more than a third of the tech workforce, but that number has since dropped to just over a quarter in the past 20 years.

Over half of the professional workforce is female, but women make up only a quarter of all jobs in computer and math professions – and that needs to change because if we’re being honest, girls kinda run the world.

A homegrown solution

Born out of this need to see more African girls in science and engineering disciplines, Chinenye Ezeakor founded African Sisters in Science, Technology, Engineering and Math (A-SISTEM) —  a platform where young girls can interact with female professionals in the science, technology, engineering and mathetmatics (STEM) industry

Chinenye organizes outreach programs for teenage girls by focusing on areas such as energy, ICT and physical sciences; as well as organising workshops and training programs to expose them to potential mentors.

Speaking about what inspired her to create A-SISTEM, Chinenye said:

“I believe that given the right opportunity, orientation and guidance, the pipeline of young African women venturing into STEM related disciplines will be increased.”

Since A-SISTEM was founded, over 500 girls have been impacted by her program – and the numbers only keep growing.

Source: Konbini.com

 

A total of 335 foreign nationals were on Tuesday in Abuja granted citizenship by the Federal Government after statutory clearance and due diligence by the relevant security agencies.‎

The Minister of Interior, retired Lt.-Gen. Abdulrahman Dambazau,‎ who presented the certificates of citizenship to the foreigners, charged them to be good ambassadors of Nigeria.

Iara Oshiomhole, wife of former Governor of Edo state, Adams Oshiomhole‎, who is from Cape Verde, was one of the recipients.

Dambazau in his remarks said that the 335 applications were approved by the Federal Executive Council (FEC) in January, out of the over 500 foreigners that applied.

He explained that 245 of the foreigners approved were granted Citizenship by‎ Naturalisation while 90 were by Registration, mainly foreign women married to Nigerians.

“Let me say that application for the Citizenship of Nigeria which can be by Naturalisation or Registration is provided for in Chapter 3, Sections 26 and 27 of the 1999 Constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria,’’ the minister explained.

The minister said that the approval was part of government’s effort on the “Ease of doing business in Nigeria” and boosting Nigeria’s image in line with international best practice.

He tasked the “new Nigerian citizens” to be of good conduct, respect the rights and customs of their communities and contribute to the development of Nigeria.

Damabazau said the last time such ceremony was conducted was in December, 2013 and pledged to ensure its sustenance on an annual basis for proper scrutiny.

Dr Lamabert Shumbusho, from Rwanda, who responded on behalf of the recipients, thanked the Federal Government and pledged their loyalty and commitment to the development of Nigeria.

Other recipients include nationals from Lebanon, Syria, Pakistan, China and some African countries, most of whom are business moguls who have been operating in Nigeria for years.

The Ministry of Interior and the Nigeria Immigration Service (NIS) are charged with the responsibility of processing applications for Naturalisation from foreign nationals who have stayed/lived in Nigeria for a minimum of 15 years and those by Registration who are mainly married to Nigerians.

I don’t think I went through much of a hoe phase, but not because I didn’t want to. Thinking back now I feel like I missed out on a lot. I don’t drink or smoke, so a lot of the time I was very aware, with my inhibitions staring right back at me.

I wish I had a few one nightstands and dabbled in the casual dating scene a bit more or maybe just experimented in general.

According to Urban Dictionary, the hoe phase is a phase in your life that occurs frequently when you are fine with exploring promiscuous activities and connecting with random people.

These activities do not always end in sex, but can lead to it. You have a high tendency to dance provocatively with strangers, be a tease in social settings, flirt non-stop, make-out with others, and get caught up in the moment.

This phase helps you establish what you like and what you don’t. You explore your sexuality, and have fun. You have the ability to stop these actions or snap out of the phase.

Please if you are a member of the moral police, take your judgmental hat off and read, or just skip this post and keep it moving. The inspiration to write this article came from reading stories from Joro Olumofin’s page; if you don’t follow him you better start.

Now there were a few posts where some couples got married, but throughout their entire courtship they decided against having sex. Come the wedding night when the goods were being sampled, it’s either they didn’t know what to do, or the husband was an indomie man (premature ejaculation issues).

There were also men who complained about their wives’ just lying in bed like bed linen and not adventurous or exciting enough.

Some people complained about how tepid their marriages had become, and how cheating brought back the excitement.

There was one lady who was getting married a virgin and scared of sex as she had been circumcised and thinks she might never enjoy it.

A particular story stood out to me the most; it was about a married lady who is sleeping with a dad (also married) in her daughter’s school. She claims she’s been with her husband for 13 years, never cheated on him prior to getting married or through out the marriage up until this point. Right now she doesn’t know what’s come over her and she doesn’t think she can stop. She says she’s doing things with the man she’s never done before or with her husband. Sex in different places, various positions, she even mentioned in broad daylight against the wall. Wow!! That, I certainly never tried.

The closest I ever came to a hoe phase was in an article I wrote a while back about DTFing (Down to F%$king) with this hot mocha latte I met. It was supposed to be a drive by, on both our parts… but I found myself holding onto him. Ever since that ordeal, I’ve locked up shop and checked into the celibacy hotel room 101. But with the wedding epidemic hitting us left right centre, I’m wondering if I’ve been out there enough, dated enough, had enough wild uninhibited sex, so that when I do tie the knot, I will be experienced enough for my husband and won’t feel like I’ve missed out on anything or crave any other man aside from him.

I know what the Bible says about fornication, but the practicality is the hoe phase does in a peculiar way play a role in ship shaping us. When you’ve been there, done it all I doubt anything will faze you. You would have had your fill and peaked!

There’s this guy who’s been asking me out for a long while. To me, he looks like he’s been around the block; plus I’m way too scared to date him. I doubt I ever will, because he reminds of the type of men I run away from.

During one of our conversations I asked him why he hasn’t given up on me, and in his words “Uru I’ve been with beautiful women of all shapes and sizes, from different races. I’ve seen it all. You are the sort of homely girl I want to settle with” I rolled my eyes and told him to take several seats. Was that supposed to be some sort of compliment? So I’m not beautiful, just homely? Rubbish!! Anyway, clearly he’d been through his hoe phase and was ready to hang his boots, I think.

Some people are of the opinion that women should go through their hoe phase in their 30s, maybe that’s why it’s labeled the dirty thirties,

I guess maybe because women reach their sexual peak in their 30’s and start to know what they want and how they want it (sexually), Wendy Williams would suggest you go through your hoe phase in your twenties – this is going by some of the advice she gives her audience during her ‘Ask Wendy’ segment.

If you havn’t been through a hoe phase and have arrived at the marriage juncture, there’s no going back, although that’s easier said than done.

I put myself in the shoes of the lady who’s having an affair with someone at her daughter’s school, and to be honest I don’t know what I’d do. Maybe she’s doing it a result of several things;
1. Dynamics between husband and wife
2. The loss of excitement in the marriage
3. When spouse turns to sibling. i.e so used to each other they seem like brother and sister

Whatever her reasons are, I’m thinking maybe if she had her hoe phase, this gentleman that she’s cheating with may not have had the chance to sway her.

In conclusion, I would agree with Mark Zacchiomy “regardless whether you’re a male or female, before you settle down with the one you care most about, you should go through a promiscuous phase at some point in your life.
Date people. Date a lot of people. Date more than one person at a time. While you’re looking, you might as well see what’s out there. When you’re in search of a new car, you don’t just go to the first one that interests you and stick with it; you shop around.

You don’t have to sleep with someone you’re dating, but it’s your prerogative and you shouldn’t be judged one way or the other”. You may never know what you want in life until you know what you don’t want first.

Uru Eke

About Uru Eke

Uru Eke is an actress, host, and activist.Her website is www.urueke.netInstagram: @urueke

 

In May 2016, I hosted a FREE 3 hour online seminar for teenagers and young adults on Academic Excellence principles, nuggets and thereafter, in June 2016, held the #30Days#AcademicExcellence daily sharing, packed with nuggets, principles and Academic Excellence stories. Since then, I have spoken on different platforms on Academic Excellence, career choices and intentional/ purposeful Living.

It did not just start there!

I have always had a heart for academics, glorifying God in academics. I remember always writing faith based academic confessions for my friends towards examination at the university. I was also in academic committee of my departmental fellowship, there I would take scriptures and write on them in the light of academics and also spend hours counselling classmates on academic excellence and mindset towards academics.

I have had my fair share of academic mistakes, I saw my grades drop and then it was more convenient to say it was because I was serving in church leadership, than to accept that it was all my doing, till God pointed out to me the truths I share with teenagers and young adults today.

In my interactions and conversations with teens and young adults, I see why God put this book in my heart and allowed that I give expression to his heart on the matter.

 

About Academic Excllence Devotional

The Academic Excellence Devotional is full of relevant, impactful, and easy to understand content that I believe will transform the  Academics and Lives of its readers in general while bring them closer to God. Each page is hinged on God’s word to let you know that he wants you to be the very best!

What to expect:

  • 31 Days of relevant and practical content
  • Academic Excellence stories
  • Academic Excellence nuggets
  • Q&A with a Lecturer
  • Academic Confession
  • Academic Goals setting worksheet and action points
  • Study plan

My heart prays that this book will cause people will wake up to the reality that God is interested in every single area of their lives including Academics, and he wants to see his children Excel in life.

 

Book Launch Info:

The Book launch will be a 3-hour event on a lovely Sunday evening (3pm to 6pm NO african time) and it promises to be worth your time. The Academic Excellence Devotional will also be on sale at the venue.

Date– Sunday, 28 May, 2017

Time–  3pm to 6pm

Venue– LCCI Conference and Exhibition Centre (10, Nurdeen Olowopopo Drive, Alausa, Behind MKO Gardens Ikeja, Lagos)