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It is very easy for a guy to start getting distant somewhere along the line in your relationship. If you are suffering in your relationship because your man is pulling away and becoming distant, I know how painful it feels because I have actually been there myself! It could be that he has stopped making plans in advance, or he is telling you he is confused, or he has stopped initiating affection and now he is telling you how busy and stressed out he is with work.

It is very easy for us women to feel a shift in his energy and it instinctively makes us feel worried, anxious and insecure, no matter how much we want to appear cool and confident. It feels so frustrating and devastating when the love we once felt from him feels like it is just drifting away and then we start asking ourselves, “How could this be happening?”

How can you get things back to the way they felt in the beginning, when you knew he was so into you?  He was doing and saying all the right things, everything to make you feel so happy. We believe if we can just talk to him and let him know how we feel and specifically how we feel about him, he would instinctively want to “fix” things to make us feel better and be compelled to come closer. Wrong.

I have learnt that this is exactly what does not work to inspire a man to want to get close again. In fact, it has the opposite effect on him! It makes him feel pressure and the ONLY thing he wants to do is run as far away as possible – as fast as possible!

What we instinctively want to do actually pushes our man further away. When you learn how men and relationships really work you will get all the time, love, attention, affection, fun, passion and romance you have been longing for.  You will get amazing results with your man.

If you do not learn how men and relationships really work and you keep doing what you have been doing, you will keep finding yourself in the same painful situations over and over again, wondering what went wrong, analyzing everything your man does and spending your precious time trying to figure out what he is thinking and how to bring him back.

If you want to get everything you want from your relationship,

Imagine Your Man is Right In Front Of You.
What do you want to do? If you are anything like me, you want to reach out and touch him and talk to him – move closer. Stop Yourself From Moving Towards Him In Any Way.

Imagine making eye contact and smiling softly at him. Let him move towards you first and close the “gap”. This looks like him physically moving towards you, calling you, texting you, making plans, and initiating affection.

When we allow there to be space between us, if he is the man for you, he will instinctively and automatically come close. He will sense you are a woman who values herself enough to not chase any man and simply requires a man to pursue her (without saying a word) – it creates a magnetic pull on him he cannot resist!

Use Specific Words And Phrases To Compel Him To Come Even Closer.
When he starts coming close again, you can “give back” by letting him know it feels good to hear from him, or you feel happy to see him, or his soft kisses make you feel soft and warm and he will feel a connection he has never felt with another woman. All it takes is practice talking in this new love language. (When we stop moving towards our man, we begin to worry he will think we are not interested, we do not care or we do not love him – we can eliminate these fears by being soft, warm and inviting when he comes close.)

To bring him closer today, just try and relax. Relaxing gets you into the present moment where your man can connect with you.  (A man cannot connect with us when we are up in our heads, worrying, analyzing and trying to figure him out.) By doing this, you begin to lighten up. For me, I began feeling better immediately. I felt the tension leaving my body.

By just relaxing and acting like everything is okay and you are in control, your vibes will instantly shift, making you more magnetic to your man. Commit to seeing yourself as a woman who easily inspires her man to want to get as close as he possibly can by not doing anything or working hard to make it happen.

Simply being a woman is magnetic to a masculine man.  Your only job is to receive the love he has to give.
Let’s Recap: Anything we do or say that looks like moving towards our man – calling, texting, initiating, advising, asking him how he feels, being super sweet and understanding, or making things easy for him in any way, actually kills his attraction for us.

What draws him towards us is allowing there to be space between us. Allowing, trusting, receiving and responding to your man is what creates and builds attraction for a man.

Try this, it could really work for you, I promise and i would love to hear how this goes for you.

To our happiness. Cheers.

 

Source: Guardian

Bonang Matheba stays working her magic with new major deals everywhere – book deals, TV show deals and beauty brand deals.

The South African star is the cover girl for Destiny magazine’s June 2017 issue and in the magazine she talks about how she’s changing gears and making exclusive new deals this year.

Destiny mag writes:

Bonang Matheba made a reported seven figures off her first Revlon deal as a global brand ambassador in 2014. So while it’s certainly a big deal to be getting her own Revlon range later this year, “Brand Bonang” is less about money and more about confidence and honesty with which she’s finally sharing her story, in the June issue of DESTINY!

See more photos from the cover shoot below.

Photo Credit: Twitter – @destinyconnect

We are in the 21st century and it is shocking that activists, advocates and development agencies still continue to agitate for citizens access to the internet. Internet accessibility has undoubtedly become a fundamental human right; but some nations are not allowing the freedom that comes with internet access. There has been a large-scale government-authorised crackdown or total shutdown of the Internet, especially in developing nations.

To best describe the Internet in formal terms, it is a global system of interconnected computer networks that use the Internet protocol suite (TCP/IP.) Despite the increasing billions of people accessing the Internet, there remains pockets of the world that do not have access, or an attempt to restrict or control the content that users have access to. Why are developing countries shutting down the Internet? Why the legislation to crackdown users? Why has the Internet become more of a threat?

Participants from over 400 countries gathered in Stockholm to find answers to the foregoing concerns – with the theme, “Leaving No One Offline” . The just concluded Stockholm Internet Forum (SIF) had participants from governments to corporate agencies and civil society actors; the argument moved from legislation to economic liberation and users privacy.

To get closure, I decided to enquire from participants from seven countries – (used that number for my sample size) on how they have fared in accessing the Internet, from legislation to affordability and crackdown. Their responses gives a sense of what is obtained in many under-developed nations.

Cameroon
The Cameroonian government recently suspended Internet services for Anglophone areas of the country, (Southwest and Northwest province) after a series of protests that resulted in violence and the arrest of community leaders.

“The cost of exposing the state abuse and the state excesses has fallen below the price of data”, says 38-year old Kathleen Ndongmo of the Anghore Group. “In any gradation of citizen activism, taking a picture or video is the lowest risk form of engagement – a bullet cost more today than any dissenter”.

Despite being the leader of the country for almost 34 years, President Paul Biya is also to stand for the 2018 presidential election in Cameroon. A new seven-year term for the head of state is also linked to the severe internet crackdown.

Mozambique
Mozambique, a nation of 26 million people, has a barely sufficient 6% Internet penetration nationwide. 32-year old, Borges Nhamire, with the centre de Integridade Publica says the poor access to Internet is linked to government stringent regulations. “They (government) are not allowing for a free market”, he alluded. “During the 2011 demonstrations against the state of the economy, government shutdown access to internet and all forms of communications.”

Mr Borges says to ensure the crackdown is absolute, much after the restoration of Internet, “the government embarked on an enlightenment campaign, deceiving the population that WhatsApp conversations are monitored – that move reduced the participation of most Mozambicans from civil society activities that may be termed anti-government”.

WhatsApp’s end-to-end encryption ensures only you and the person you’re communicating with can read what is sent, and nobody in between, not even WhatsApp. Messages are secured with a lock, and only the recipient and users have the special key needed to unlock and read messages; but a government manages to deceive its people in a bid to stifle dissent.

Zimbabwe
Another country facing series of crackdowns is Zimbabwe, and with elections ahead, speculations are rife. The government introduced a cyber-crime and computer crimes bill with unclear definitions “so you could tweet something and they can determine whether you’re a cyber terrorists – and the essence is to curb protests”, says 32 year old Munya Bloggo of Magamba Network, a Zimbabwean organization.

Munya said in January 2017, “the government in collaboration with the private sector, allowed a 500% increase in data so it becomes out of reach of the ordinary people which then led to “datamustfall” hashtag.

Myanmar
In far away Myanmar, with Aung San Suu Kyi as incumbent State Counsellor and Leader of the National League for Democracy, the popular Section 66(d), seems to be the newest threat to freedom of expression. It is a tool, surprisingly, for the former activist. Persistent repression of criticism through section 66(d) of the Telecommunications Law has led lawyers, politicians and activists to suggest that conditions for free speech have continued to deteriorate under the National League for Democracy-led government, despite expectations that the new leadership would usher in an era of freedom.

The government is under mounting pressure from the public and from rights groups to amend its criminal defamation laws, after a spate of cases against journalists and bloggers has raised questions about the administration’s commitment to protecting free speech. “Our member posted a satire on his facebook wall and he got six months in jail” Activist Zar Chi Oo tells me. Activists Chi Oo is a member with PEN Myanmar, a pressure group advocating for the law to be abolished says it puts every social media user at risk of arrests or detention. “A supporter of a public figure can just see any post and sue the user and said social media user is immediately detained”.

Tanzania
The Tanzanian government in 2015 also got smart enough to develop a cyber-crime bill. The document shrouded in secrecy was “taken to the parliament. Citizens were given only 24 hours to review the document with most parliamentarians lacking knowledge of most of its content”, famous activist with the Change Tanzania movement, Maria Sarungi-Tsehai says. “What they were really doing was criminalizing gossip”, she continued – “and that has led to series of arrests of crackdowns as we’ve seen over the last year”.

Pakistan
While other nations give different reasons for the subtle crackdown or total shutdown of the Internet, the Pakistani government attributes its intermittent act of shutdowns, or blocking platforms like YouTube and Facebook, to the prevention of terrorist activities.

Authorities claim users posting blasphemous content has a tendency of leading extremists/terrorists attacks. The government only recently, also threatened Facebook to reveal identity of users. 24 year old Rafia Shaih, a freelance Journalist says “If you’re shutting down the Internet for national security, what is being done is simply attacking the basic human rights of communication”, she argues.

Kenya
Judith Omigar, working with Juakali, an online platform linking young people seeking for jobs in the formal sector says, “The Kenyan government is likely to shutdown the Internet ahead of the August general elections”. She said there has been series of arrests of bloggers posting contents against powerful persons in the country, and the build up to the election season will likely see to more crackdowns of Internet users.

The conversation about a free, open and secure Internet, that promotes human rights and development worldwide continues. For governments, especially in the developed nations, I’d like to share a 2009 report by the World Bank, which clearly states that access to broadband boosts economic growth in all countries, but most especially in developing ones.
The study also showed that in developing countries, for every ten-percentage points of broadband penetration, their economies grew by 1.38%. The report, conducted in 120 countries between 1980 and 2006, showed that developed countries’ economies grew by 1.21%.

About Mercy Abang

Mercy Abang is a Journalist – Media Fixer with Sunday Times of London, BBC, Aljazeera and a former Stringer with the Associated Press – She tweets at @abangmercy..

Chinyere Kalu MFR(née Onyenucheya) is the first Nigerian female commercial pilot. She was born in 1970 and is from Ukwa East in Abia State. She had her primary school education at Anglican Girls Grammar School, Yaba, Lagos State before she trained as a private and commercial pilot in 1978 at the Nigerian College of Aviation Technology, Zaria under SP.12 Batch. 

She subsequently took several aviation and transport courses in the United Kingdom and the United States before she received her license as a commercial pilot on May 20, 1981, from the Nigerian College of Aviation Technology. In October 2011, former president Goodluck Jonathan appointed her the rector and chief instructor of the Nigerian College of Aviation Technology and served from October 2011 to February 2014.

She is a member of the Nigerian Women Achievers Hall of Fame and also a member of the Order of the Federal Republic of Nigeria,which was conferred upon her in 2006.

Aside the many hormones in overdrive, these journeys are one of the toughest a woman goes on. A return is not guaranteed. Even if there’s a return, the bearer is never the same again. Physical, emotional, psychological, spiritual and social changes are inevitable.
The desire to birth children, becloud us so much so that our gazes are on the price, largely never on the process. A price not guaranteed.
I write not as a ‘spoiler’ or ingrate, I write rawly, a broken woman who has been through these journeys, and who has also lost people on these journeys.
I maintain, pregnancy is underrated. Making and growing a child is not a picnic. No doubt, the making for some is breeze but the larger percentage of women agree the growing is not a child’s play.
A jumble of events in your erstwhile organized life…
13 IVF’s after and finally, there’s a bun in the oven. 6 months of taking extra precautions, 6 months of palpitating breaths, 6 long months of endless night watch and vigils, 6 months of indescribable feeling of anxiety and excitement- the bun gets burnt not because of the length of stay in the oven, but maybe temperature, or is it just nature?
And you say this is not exhausting?
5 years after, luck crawls at the door and there’s another faint line on the stick or ‘Clearblue’ is gracious enough to pop ‘3 weeks’ on its screen. The tortuous journey begins. 7 long months of nausea and vomiting, nosebleeds, carpal tunnel syndrome, sciatica, restless leg syndrome, gestational diabetes, cervical incompetence etc and the wee one decides to make an unannounced entrance. Several attempts at pushing results to forceps but for some medical reasons, the child decides against the world, it wanders far away in dreamland. Let’s say preeclampsia or placenta previa. Whichever one tickles your fancy. The Mum-To-Be then decides to go in search of the wandering child and both wander into beyond.
Regardless of medical competence, provision and administration these journeys and its trophy are not guaranteed and that’s why there will never be zero mortality rate.
My heart goes out to every family that has burnt a bun, lost a love, or buried instead of make merry in these processes. We would do anything to stop these endings if we could but hey, ain’t we just mere mortals?
To those that have been there and back with their trophies; I know you got your scars to remind you of the ‘hell-a’ job you did. May I also congratulate you once again and remind you to remain forever thankful and not to spare a hug for your trophies.
TTC and anticipating; Hold on there will you? It’s not guaranteed but it does happen. So may you have it if you want it that badly.
Arghh, I shudder at the thought of the oven or is it the kitchen? I guess more like the Builder who in this case also designs the journey.

On Saturday Beyoncé celebrated her upcoming double bundle of joy with friends and family with a “Carter push party”

The star-studded event was attended by many of the singer’s a-list friends including her Destiny’s Child sisters Kelly Rowland and Michelle Williams, a pregnant Serena Williams and Lala Anthony.

As seen in a video posted by Beyoncé’s mother Tina the party was an African-themed family event, with lots of colorful African-inspired patterns.

The grammy award-winning artist shared more photos from her baby shower, showing off her huge baby bump with her husband Jay Z by her side.

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The highly anticipated TV drama series “Industreet” created & directed by JJC Skillz and produced by ace Nollywood actor, Funke Akindele Bello premiered over the weekend on the 19th of May, 2017 at the IMAX Cinemas in Lekki.

The premiere of the music-oriented TV drama which is set to start showing on the 26th of May 2017, was an interesting one, as many stars like Kate Henshaw, Toke Makinwa, Ariyike Akinbobola, Rita Dominic, Bolanle Olukanni, Linda Ejiofor, Akpororo, Lilian Afegbai, Lolo and more were in attendance.

JJC Skillz, Funke Akindele Bello

Cast of Industreet

Mo Eazy

Sonorous

Kate Henshaw, JJC Skillz, Funke Akindele Bello, Annie Idibia, Rita Dominic

Dede, Rita Dominic, Kate Henshaw

Kay Switch

Kemen

Kemen, Lilian Afegbai

Lilian Afegbai

Lolo

Toke Makinwa

Annie Idibia

Bolanle Olukanni

JJC Skillz, Leo Ugochukwu

Lilian Afegbai, Layole Oyatogun, Ariyike Akinbobola

Ariyike Akinbobola

Funke Akindele Bello

VJ Adams

Linda Ejiofor

Gemstones, Linda Ejiofor

Gemstones

Soledayo Adegbite

Layole Oyatogun

Mo Eazy

Leo Ugochukwu

JJC Skillz, Funke Akindele Bello

Mo Eazy, Ariyike Akinbobola, Toke Makinwa, Funke Akindele Bello, Mabel Makun, JJC Skillz

Joke Silva

Last month, Twitter users started a campaign to have Grammy winner Rihanna co-star in a movie with Oscar winner Lupita Nyong’o after a photo of the both of them was posted by one Twitter user. Another user quoted the tweet and said:

That comment caught the eye of the Oscar winning Kenyan star and she tagged Rihanna to the comment saying, “I’m down if you are @rihanna”. Rihanna replied her saying “I’m in Pit’z” (Lupita’s nickname).

Another fan mentioned the idea to Insecure producer Issa Rae and she instantly replied with a meme indicating that she’s down for it.

Entertainment Weekly is reporting that after dramatic negotiation session at the Cannes Film Festival, Netflix has nabbed the film project which is expected to be directed by Selma director Ava DuVernay, and Issa Rae is also said to be in talks for the screenplay.

Quoting sources, EW said Issa Rae is already working on the script and the studio is eyeing a production start of 2018 after DuVernay completes her current film.

 

Source: Bellanaija

A large number of women in politics, trade and business on Thursday said they would partner Lagos State in its quest for economic growth and development.

They added that such would ensure that oncoming generations of women found a space to fully realise their potential.

The women reached the resolution at a symposium organised by Committee of Wives of Lagos State Officials, in Lagos, as part of events to mark the 50th anniversary of the state

The wife of the Lagos State Governor, Bolanle Ambode, at the event, with the theme, ‘The Contribution of Women to the Development of Lagos in the Past 50 Years,’ said women had played important roles in politics, commerce and other professions, adding that in the next 50 years, women would do more.

She said, “The women of Lagos State will not draw back. We will do more to help the state maintain its position as first among equals.”

The Deputy Governor, Idiat Adebule, said the anniversary was an avenue for women to do more, especially by supporting programmes of government.

She said, “The government will also provide opportunities so that more of our women can be actively involved in the process of decision-making.”

The Senator representing the Lagos Central Senatorial District, Oluremi Tinubu, said more could still be done to advance the cause of women and society.

“We still have some women without access to education, while others are desperately in need of support to lift them out of poverty.

“We must devise a holistic strategy to equip women to become more relevant,” Tinubu said.

Also in attendance at the symposium were the President, Lagos Chamber of Commerce and Industry, Chief Nike Akande, and the Special Assistant to the President on Diapora Matters, Abike Dabiri-Erewa.

Two of Nigeria’s foremost women empowerment platforms Inspired by Glory, a personal development hub for women and Her Network, a networking platform for women, recently hosted career women to an evening of networking games, career development conversations and lively debates.

9to5chick is a product of Inspired by Glory dedicated to providing skills for career women to thrive in the workplace. The aim of the event was to create opportunities for professional women to network within and outside their sectors, learn key tips to excel in their careers and discuss issues that impact directly on women in the workplace.

The event which took place at Eve Restaurant in Victoria Island, featured career development tips led by high powered career women such as Peace Hyde, Forbes West Africa Correspondent, who shared tips on networking tips for career women; Chioma Dike, Senior Special Assistant, Lagos State Ministry of Women’s Affairs, who spoke on how women can support each other in the workplace and Toyin Awesu, Head Marketing and Communications, United Capital, who shared visibility tips for career women.

The event also featured conversations, which tackled hot button career issues faced by women such as harassment and discrimination against women in the workplace and surviving in male dominated careers.

Participants at the event commended the organisers for a highly impactful event, with one attendee remarking “it was an evening well-spent, with stimulating conversations” and another noting “I didn’t expect to enjoy myself as much as I did, it was great learning from speakers while meeting and making new friends.”