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During my service year, I worked at a District Hospital. It was one drama to the other everyday, and I got to learn that the hardest people to deal with are people residing in the rural areas.

On a fateful morning as I prepared for my CDS I heard a knock on my door. I opened up to see a young girl standing outside.

Yes?”

“Are you the Corper that works in the lab?” she asked.

“Yes I am”
“Please I want to run a test it is urgent.”

“I don’t work in the morning, it’s my CDS and I am late.” I said

Please help it is very urgent. I need an urgent PT test.

I decided to run the test and it was positive. I rendered my usual congratulations to her.

As I locked the lab, a motorcycle parked in front of it and a young man got off it.

He spoke to the girl before he approached me. I told him the nature of the result and congratulated him. He asked for an audience with me in private.

“Corper please don’t be angry I want to ask you something” He said in Igbo.

He narrated how he had only met the girl last week and this week she said she was pregnant for him. I almost laughed, but due to professional courtesy I asked if he was sure of what he was saying. I called the girl and she didn’t refute his statement.

With all this back and forth going on, my second boss came to work and I keyed him into what was going on. He questioned the girl and she said yes she met him last week and he slept with her without protection. We asked her if she had any other sexual partner she said no.

My boss flared up at this time and threatened to call the guy if she doesn’t say the truth. She finally admitted to getting pregnant for a ‘small boy’ as she called it. According to him, he was unfit to be a father, and she thought it was only ideal to say it belongs to this one.

I was completely ashamed of the girl and her morals. We called the guy and she confessed in front of him. The guy wasn’t even bothered, he just thanked us, because he knew it could not be possible – but maybe because the girl thought that since he was a motorcycle rider and illiterate, he had no common sense. He told the girl she was on her own and sped off.

This wasn’t the first time something similar has happened at the hospital.
Some voice out their doubts, some simply carry the good news. Some don’t even need to question if it is theirs.

In cases where a child’s blood group don’t match the parents’  during urgent transfusion, we waive it… because it is not a definitive answer or a determining factor. It is also not our business professionally, so we tell them to buy blood – ruling that they are unfit for donation.

You see, in this life, men do a lot of things that make you question if they killed their humanity switch. They could cheat, lie, break your heart to a hundred pieces, but in all these, most of them take responsibility for their actions.
Women, on the other hand, do a lot of unspeakable things; this is why the need for a DNA test has been red flagged.

If a man questions something, stalling only proves his doubt. Sometimes it is okay to let them have their way, and if in the end there is nothing to hide, he will feel guilty for not trusting you.

Trust is 100% vital in relationships, so if he questions the paternity of his children, it is only normal as a woman to be angry for his mistrust; but as long as you have nothing to hide, let him do it. It is his money, and at the end… his guilt to deal with – when he is proved wrong.

Nothing is as important as your peace of mind. Dragging it further will only create a rift.

In a family where the two parties understand and trust each other completely, are sincere to each other, love themselves regardless and put each other first, the issue of a DNA test will never arise.

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Vanessa Onyema

About Vanessa Onyema

Writer, Illustrator and a lover of the arts.
Creative Director of The Reine Series
http://www.thereineseries.com

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A warrior’s story needs to be told over and over, far and wide. It is the story of survival against the tide of pain, medical bills, and the emotional upheaval of living with sickle cell.

Wana Udobang‘s latest series tells the story of sickle cell warriors. Warriors is an interview series that takes an in-depth look into the lives and experiences of people living with Sickle Cell disease,” Wana Udobang says.

This episode features Greg Emuze, who shared his story of strength and determination.

“It wasn’t exactly easy to say you have sickle cell,” he said, adding that to him, the bane of the disease is having to lose time meant for other things during a crisis.

Greg describes the pain as similar to being hit by a truck. He says while taking painkillers can work, it is only for a while as sometimes, your body can become used to the drugs and it either reduces its effects or stop working for your system entirely.

He said: “Sickle cell pain can be really terrible and could go on for a while.”

Greg further talks about his friends and family who have been really supportive.

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Songwriter and singer, Seyi Shay, took to her Instagram page to show off her two adopted children.

According to her, she adopted them because their future is so bright – she says both of them, a boy and a girl, are in private universities and are just home for the holidays.

 

She wrote:

”I adopted these two because their futures are so bright, I had to wear Ray Bans to talk to them when I met them. Both in private universities and home for the holidays. Proud mum. I have two hearts. Ray of hope.”

 

So I’ve been sitting quietly, studying Nigerians’ reactions ever since Falz made that comment about internet scammers, and was I disappointed? Seriously speaking, do we have problem with English Language or are we just trying to be incredible clowns?? Falz didn’t say that you people shouldn’t do ‘yahoo yahoo’ na..all he said was that ARTISTES should stop GLORIFYING internet scams..are you an artiste ni?? so why bother yourself with what he said or didn’t say?? Why not let them artistes come out to defend their music and their choice of lyrics?? But mbah, we have to show the world that we have issues with understanding and interpreting literal terms and English Language itself *sighs*

Internet scam and credit card frauds are not the only way to make money so dude was just trying to caution his colleagues to stop glorifying ‘yahoo yahoo’ so the younger generations won’t grow up with the staunch belief that internet scam is the only way where the money lies (after all, the young shall grow and they are the leaders of tomorrow..let’s not forget that corruption don full ground already) I really don’t understand why y’all are getting defensive and rude since y’all are doing something ‘right’!

To make matter more interesting, remarkable young Segun Wire, replied ‘Lawyer turned musician’ Falz, and we all went crazy! Jesu! Lemme grab a drink while y’all keep on believing that ‘bird-poop’ story that, that boy actually came up with that interestingly boring, lenghty reply. I was actually enjoying and relating to that post but he lost me totally when he dragged Falz’s dad into the matter..I was like “Mo fo ooo, are we dragging the family tree into this ni??” If you have proof to nail his dad, kuku whistle-blow on him and get him arrested but as long as you don’t have any proof, you have no right whatsoever to drag him into this matter! For all I care, that reply was defensive..now the thing is, since you are right, why are you getting defensive?? You get defensive only when you are wrong and you want to try so hard to justify your wrong act! We all are sinners so there’s really no need to justify your sins..

I told my sis that Tonto Dikeh lost that war against Churchill immediately she granted that first interview..she presented weapons to be used against her(that’s a post for another day) I’m this kind of person that people find it convenient enough to lie against. I can’t even remember the many blatant lies and untrue stories people have concorted about me…simply because I hardly come out to defend myself. I’m always like ”why should I be defensive when I know I’m right and this person is just a dirty, pathetic liar?” I usually let people get away with their lies and false accusations because I know they are unknowingly digging their graves, while I quietly gather evidences to prove my innocence. Once you finish digging your grave, I will let Karma bury you and I will cover you up with my innocence!…Believe me, when you are right, there’s no need for you to get unnecessarily defensive!

I read one comment where this ‘Anti’ was like ”Stop calling yahoo guys, illegal. They are hardworking guys that hustle while lazy guys sleep in the night” I just sighed and rolled my eyes. That post could have been the bomb but she had to go spoil it with that ‘while lazy guys sleep in the night” Like, are you kiddin me right now?? I am not into yahoo yahoo but I have a job…I’ve been working all day and I decide to get my well-deserved rest in the night, and that makes me lazy?? Kuku beat me up na! Defend what you to do without having to degrade someone else na.

Bottom line? Falz didn’t go out of line because he didn’t say you shouldn’t engage in internet scam. All he said was that artistes should stop glorifying ‘yahoo yahoo’ so people don’t get misled! As for me, I will say do whatever makes you sleep peacefully every night..and is at peace with your conscience! Lobatan!

Everyone has the right to his or her own beliefs and opinions..and you don’t have any right whatsoever to attack or be abusive (or even be stupid)while opposing anyone’s opinion.

 

I saw this quote somewhere: ‘Real hustlers don’t talk. They just hustle’

 

*drops pen*

 

– Lydia Oladejo

Listening to her ramble on about the past 10 years of her life and her marital woes, with my stare fixed on her bulging tummy the entire time, the world around me seemed to have attained a stand still position. The pregnancy should be what? About 6-7 months if my instincts are not playing tricks on me.

She got married to him when she was 22 years old. Their meeting was one you would say is divine. He was the perfect gentleman who swept her off her feet and she was going to be his gorgeous bride.

Events unfolded so fast I am compelled to believe their marriage was an act of spontaneity. However, what is to say that a prolonged courtship will/does not suffer such fate?

It wasn’t long before she missed her period and they were expecting baby number one. She didn’t mention how or when the beating started. May be a deliberate attempt at forgetting the genesis of her misery or she simply has lost count of the inhumane treatment she received from her husband.

Didn’t they take those vows? To love and to hold? In sickness and in health? I wondered as she prattled on.

 ‘It was a church wedding’. She blurted as if to say ‘I heard your thoughts’.

Two years after the birth of her first (By now the beating had reached a crescendo. The expectation would be to run for her life), she conceived and bore her second, and shortly after, her third. All girls.

From where they hail, female children are as good as barrenness. They were treated as trash. This should be another source of pain in her heart right?

I must have been lost in my own thoughts because what jolted me back to reality was ‘until he started sleeping with her too’. So I told her to please go over what she last said.

The father of her girls had started sleeping with them and was not in any way remorseful even when confronted.

He hasn’t slept with the third girl although he maltreats her as he does the others.

She’s just a teacher, earning a meager amount.

‘How about moving to your parents?’ I asked.

‘They want me to pray for him. They said I cannot come back to the house’.

Whew……………………..……………………

This story will make a box office hit but unfortunately, it is the reality of a known woman.

The question I am asking today is; ‘How do women in abusive relationships bear to keep getting pregnant and making babies for their abuser?’

 

 

Zhou Qunfei is a Chinese entrepreneur who founded the major touchscreen maker Lens Technology. After the public listing of her company on the Shenzhen ChiNext market in March 2015, her net worth temporarily reached US$10 billion, making her the richest woman in China.

She was born the youngest of three children in 1970 to a poor family in Xiangxiang, Hunan province, China. Her mother passed away when she was five. As a child she helped her family raise animals for sustenance and small profit. Although she was the only one out of her siblings to attend secondary school and showed promise as a bright student (her former middle-school teacher described her as being a “hard-working and talented student”), she dropped out at age 16 and moved in with her uncle’s family to become a migrant worker in Shenzhen, the special economic zone in Guangdong province. While she briefly considered pursuing a government job for its stability, she discarded the idea as lacking a diploma would make it difficult to do so.

In Shenzhen she deliberately chose to work for companies near Shenzhen University, so she could take part-time courses at the university. She studied many subjects and passed the examinations to be certified for accounting, computer operations, customs processing, and even became licensed for driving commercial vehicles. Her biggest regret is not having studied English.

Zhou got a job working for a small family-run firm making watch parts for about 180 yuan a month. Displeased with the working conditions, she decided to quit after three months and submitted a letter of resignation explaining her reasons, yet expressing gratitude for the working opportunity. The letter moved the factory chief to offer her a promotion instead.

When the factory folded, she established her own company in 1993 at age 22, with her savings of HK$20,000 (USD$3,000). It was her cousin who encouraged her to start on her own business, and the company began with her brother, sister, their spouses, and two cousins all working out of a three bedroom apartment. The company appealed to customers by promising higher-quality watch lenses. Here, she took a hand on approach and involved herself in all parts of the company, including repairs and creating improved designs of factory machinery. In 2001, she caught her big break when her company won a profitable contract to make mobile phone screens for the Chinese electronics giant TCL Corporation.

Zhou Qunfei has stated that over the years she has started a total of 11 companies.

In 2003, while still producing watch faces, Zhou’s company received a request from Motorola to develop glass screens for their Razr V3, during a period when the mobile phone industry was transitioning from plastic to glass display screens.

Following this, Zhou Qunfei started touch-screen maker Lens Technology (named so that it would turn up to potential customers searching “lens” online) In 2003 and the company soon received orders from other mobile-phone makers such as HTC, Nokia, and Samsung Electronics. After producing the touch screens for Apple’s iPhone during its 2007 market entry, Lens developed into the dominant player of the industry. Lens Technology now primarily supplies touch-screens to leading electronics makers such as Apple, Samsung, and Huawei, receiving nearly 75% of its revenue from Apple and Samsung. The upcoming Apple Watches will use her company’s glass and sapphire crystal screens. As of April 2015, the company employs about 60,000 people, was expected to churn out more than a billion glass screens, and has 32 different factory locations.

On 18 March 2015, the 22nd anniversary of the founding of her first start-up, Lens Technology began trading on the ChiNext A-share market of the Shenzhen Stock Exchange. The company’s stock price rose by the market’s daily limit of 44% on the first day and 10% every subsequent day for 13 days in a row between 19 March and 2 April. This made Lens Technology China’s largest technology IPO in the first quarter of 2015.
During Lens’ 2015 IPO offering, Zhou’s (who holds 87.9% of the shares, a $7.2 billion stake as of July 2015) net worth rose 452%, dethroning Chen Lihua as China’s richest woman. She also holds the position of the world’s richest self made woman, and is one of the richest women in the technology sector.

As she holds an 87.9% of the company’s shares (having been credited the majority in stakes because she exerts strategic control of the company) worth $6.4 billion as of August 2016, her fortune has been put on par with media tycoon John C. Malone and Pierre Omidyar, the founder of eBay.

Additionally, Zhou is on Forbes lists as #61 in 2016 Power Women, #205 in 2016 Billionaires (#9 out of Hong Kong billionaires), #18 in 2015 China Rich List, and #30 in 2015 Richest in Tech. Fortune ranked her #18 on their 2016 Most Powerful Women of Asia-Pacific list, and she is a newcomer to the list. Bloomberg has ranked her as #211 out of the world’s billionaires.

Zhou Qunfei’s rags-to-riches story has been hailed as an inspiration to the millions of migrant workers in China. In an interview with Gansu Television, she said the secret of her success was the desire to learn.

 

Nigerians have been ‘crucifying’ rapper, Falz, ever since he cautioned artistes to stop glorifying internet fraud ‘yahoo yahoo’ through their music. Well, Nigerian professional footballer, Asisat Oshoala, who plays as a forward in the Chinese Women’s Super league for Dalian Quanjian F.C., has taken to her Instagram page to express deep concern about how people are now proud to be fraudsters. In Falz’ defense, she insisted fraudsters shouldn’t be glorified. See her posts below;

Reality star, Kim Kardashian and her husband, Kanye West have reportedly agreed to use the services of a surrogate agency for a third child.

TMZ reports the couple took this decision because of Kim’s reported condition, placenta accreta which “occurs when the placenta attaches too deep in the uterine wall but it does not penetrate the uterine muscle.” It can be life-threatening when pregnant.

TMZ stated that the couple has agreed to pay monthly instalments of $4,500 for 10 months and an extra $5,000 for an additional child in case of more than one.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The agreement places all liabilities of birth abnormalities or defects on Kim and Kanye. This latest development comes after on a new episode of ”Keeping Up With The Kardashians”, the reality star tells her family that she intends to undergo a surgery on her uterus that would allow her get pregnant again.

Best of luck to them!

Controversial journalist, Kemi Olunloyo, has obviously turned a new leaf after her experience in prison. She shared her experience with God and how she got ‘married’ to Him, immediately after she left prison. She has also offered the olive leaf to Georgina Onuoha, whom she fought with before she went to prison. Kemi took to her IG page to share a text message she sent to Georgina and the response she got.

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