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Now is the time to start thinking of how you can upgrade your style in the new year.

Probably you didn’t have many fashion hits this year, but with the coming is a grand opportunity to switch up your style such that you step out looking your best every time.

Of course its not everyone who loves to follow the trends, but there are simple general changes you can male to your styles that will affect your total look.

These simple changes will make a whole lot of difference to your wardrobe, style and looks.

1.  Find and befriend a good tailor

The key to looking good every time is always wearing clothes that are your perfect fit. most clothing you buy off the rack won’t fit you right unless you are a perfect sample size. You could anticipate that you’ll grow into it, but a tailor can work wonders for you in any circumstance. Also for outfits you want to have sown, a good tailor that work magic in bringing that dream look to reality.

2. Learn to dress for the occasion

Dressing for the occasion is another simple way to ensure you always make the right statement with your outfit. Imagine showing up at a friend’s wedding in a t-shirt and denim… that is the wrong statement. You can use the internet as a guide for selecting outfits for your events too.

3. Invest in quality staple items

There are some clothing items such as your denim pants that should always be in top shape. Try to replace the worn out ones as the new year approaches. You don’t have to buy a new one. There are several second-hand clothing items that will look as good as new.

4. Learn some simple customizations

Got a hole in the elbow of your sweater? Learn how to sew a patch over it. Got a dirty spread or button-down collar on your oxford shirt? Cut the flap off and make it a band collar shirt. Customizations give old clothing items that are on the brink of extinction that breath of life to prosper as if they’re brand new.

5. Watch out for colours that flatter your skin tone

Knowing the colours that work well with your skintone goes a long way to determine how good you will look in them. Your our different skintones, there are colours that will make you glow up while others will just nmake you look boring.

 

Culled from fabwoman.ng

 

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Toke Makinwa has some tips on living your best life in 2018 in her latest vlog post. The pretty media girl and best selling author makes an hilarious case for the best things that will ensure you have a splendid 2018.

The latest episode of her vlog, ‘Toke Moments’ dishes on some important do’s and don’t of getting the best out of the new year.

As 2017 wraps up, here is what Toke Makinwa thinks you should do instead of creating new year resolutions and goals.

Watch the video below

Once, Janie had a gun, and now, she’s got a fund and a house that helps victims of violence and abuse. On December 7, Aerosmith frontman Steven Tyler took to Instagram to announce the opening of Janie’s House, a new residential center that will provide support to survivors of abuse and neglect.

Created as an extension of Janie’s Fund, a philanthropic initiative by Steven Tyler and Youth Villages, the facility is located in Douglasville just outside of Atlanta, Georgia. It offers accommodations for up to 30 people annually, including 24-hour medical care and therapeutic support.

The name, just like fund’s title, was inspired by Tyler’s 1989 song “Janie’s Got A Gun,” which tells a story of a young girl who was abused by her father. According to the Youth Villages press release:

“Tyler has long had a desire to help with this issue, leading back to the 1980s when he was in a program for his personal recovery.

There, he heard a story of a woman who had experienced incredibly painful and debilitating sexual abuse as a child and how those gruesome events put her on a path of suffering that eventually led to her abusing drugs to mask the pain.”

Tyler’s goal was to create a safe space for women and girls to share their problems and get appropriate help from professionals. Describing Janie’s House, the musician said: “It’s a safe haven, and more than anything, it gives them a voice.”

Looking at the impressive things Tyler has already achieved through Janie’s Fund – with donations from more than 38 countries and philanthropic influencers such as Bono, Miley Cyrus, Britney Spears the fund has raised more than $2.5 million and helped over 520 girls – we’re certain his latest initiative will be of equal success.

(Photo: Janie’s Fun/Instagram)

(Photo: Janie’s Fun/Instagram)

(Photo: Janie’s Fun/Instagram)

Source: Konbini.com

Hello WORriors! Today is #WomanCrushWednesday and our Woman Crush is Joke Silva!

Joke Silva (born 29 September 1961) is a Nigerian actress, director, and businesswoman.

Silva was born in Lagos, into a family of four children. Her mother, Adebimbola Silva, a pioneering female doctor, died in July 2015. Her father was a lawyer. She attended Holy Child College in Lagos. At university she was part of a cultural group that included the playwright Bode Osanyin and the singer Stella Monye. Silva took a year off from her studies, during which time she began working as an actress. She then relocated to England, studying drama at the Webber Douglas Academy of Dramatic Art in London. Initially her parents were opposed to Silva’s decision to go into the theatre but they soon began to support her, happy at the success she made of her career. During a slow period of her career, she returned to school, studying English at the University of Lagos.

She began a career in film in the early 1990s.  She is the pioneering managing director of Malete Film Village, in association with Kwara State University. On 29 September 2014, Silva received recognition as a Member of the Order Of The Federal Republic, one of Nigeria’s National Honours’ Awards, at the International Conference Centre in Abuja.

Silva has starred in numerous films and television series in both the English and Yoruba languages. One of her earliest roles was in the 1990 English film Mind BendingIn 1993 she appeared in Owulorojo, followed by Violated in 1995. In 1998 she starred opposite Colin Flirth and Nia Long in the British-Canadian film The Secret Laughter of Women, in which she portrayed Nene. Author Finola Kerrigan noted than Silva stood out as an exceptional actress in the Nigerian film industry after mentioning her role.

In 2002, Silva starred opposite Bimbo Akintola in Keeping Faith. Akintola later cited Silva, whom she refers to as “Aunty Joke”, as a major career influence, adding, “Silva has done a lot, but it’s not even about the things that she did, it’s about the things she didn’t realize that she did”. Also in 2002, Silva co-produced and starred in The Kingmaker with Olu Jacobs. This was followed by roles in pictures such as A Husband’s Wife (2003), Shylock (2004), and A Past Came Calling (2004).

Silva won Best Supporting Actress in 2008 for her “methodical portrayal of a grandmother” in White Waters (2007), though she was not at the ceremony to receive her award in person. In a November 2008 interview, Silva professed that “whenever she had to play an evil character in a film, she would pray and use Jesus as her ‘hedge'”. Silva is also the recipient of an EMOTAN Award from African Independent Television (AIT) and the SOLIDRA Award for Visual Art.

In October 2012, the United Nations Office on Drugs and Crime appointed Joke Silva a goodwill ambassador. In accordance with the UN policy of enlisting prominent figures in art, music, film, sport and literature to assist with their campaigns, Silva’s role was focused on her participation in the fight against human trafficking in Nigeria. Work fighting human trafficking was part of the “I Am Priceless” campaign, which had also received support from the Nigerian authorities. Silva’s appointment was for a period of three years.

In 2013, Silva took to the stage to appear in the Thespian Family Theatre and Productions staging of the “Mad King of Ijudiya” at the Agip Hall of Muson Centre of Lagos at Christmas. Two shows were put on at 3pm and 6pm on 21, 22, 28 and 29 December, which Vanguard described as a “rich blend of folklore, traditional dance and music that naturally transports the audience to a typical African village setting”.

Silva is married to veteran actor, Olu Jacobs, with two children. The couple met in 1981 at the National Theatre, Lagos during the 21st Independence anniversary.

Silva is Director of Studies at the Lufod Academy of Performing Arts, while her husband chairs it. Lufodo Academy is one of several assets the couple own as part of the Lufodo Group, including Lufodo Productions, Lufodo Consult, and Lufodo Distribution. Silva has curated for the Bank of Industry (BOI) in Theatre, Film, Documentary and Poetry and the 2012 London Olympics, and is also the pioneer managing director of Malete Film Village, in association with Kwara State University.

In addition to her work as an actress, Silva is a philanthropist and a strong supporter of women’s emancipation and empowerment, contributing to their education, training and progress.

On 29 September 2014, Silva was honoured as a Member of the Order of the Federal Republic, one of Nigeria’s national awards, at the International Conference Centre in Abuja. In September 2016 she was unveiled as the brand ambassador for AIICO Pension Managers Limited (APML).

 

Women Of Rubies celebrates you, Aunty Joke Silva!

Tennis star, Serena Williams is set to make her playing comeback before the end of 2017, following the birth of her daughter, Alexis Olympia Ohania.

The mother of one, who has not played since winning the Australian Open in January, will return to court to play French Open champion Jelena Ostapenko next Saturday, at the Mubadala World Tennis Championship in Abu Dhabi.

The 36-year-old, who gave birth to her baby in September, is planning to make a competitive return at the Australian Open next month.

Confirming her comeback, she said:

“I am delighted to be returning to the court in Abu Dhabi for the first time since the birth of my daughter in September,” Williams told the tournament’s official website.

‘The Mubadala World Tennis Championship has long marked the beginning of the men’s global tennis season.

“I am excited and honoured to be making my comeback as part of the first women to participate in the event.

“I look forward to seeing the fans in Abu Dhabi at the 10th Edition of the Championship very soon,” She added.

27-Year-Old Jetsun Pema of Bhutan is the world’s youngest living queen. She became a queen at age 21 when she married King Jigme Khesar Namgyel Wangchuck of Bhutan, 31, in 2011.

Queen Jetsun Pema and King Jigme Khesar Namgyel Wangchuck of Bhutan (aka Dragon King) both previously studied in England. The queen attended Regent’s College in London, where she studied international relations, psychology, and art history, while the King studied at Oxford University. They share a love of art, and were once been dubbed the “Will and Kate of The Himalayas”. In April 2016, the King and Queen welcomed the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge on a royal visit.

The King and Queen have a one-year-old son called The Gyalsey. He was born in February 2016.

There are different versions of the story of how they met. The Washington Post reported that in one version of events, the two met at a picnic when she was seven and he was 17. She reportedly came up to him and gave him a hug. Theirs has been described as a “love marriage”.

Pema was reportedly portrayed as a “commoner” by the secretariat. However, her family apparently has long-term links with the royals. She is the daughter of a pilot but her paternal great-grandfather was lord of the eastern province of Tashigang, and her maternal grandfather was the half-brother of the wife of Bhutan’s second king, according to The Washington Post.

Speaking about his wife, the king once told local reporters:

“I have been waiting for quite some time to get married. But it doesn’t matter when you get married as long as it is to the right person. I am certain I am married to the right person. 

“She is a wonderful human being. Intelligent. She and I share one big thing in common, a love and passion for art.”

The young queen is known for her charity work for organisations such as the Bhutan Red Cross Society, Ability Bhutan Society, and Bhutan Kidney Association. The Queen is active on social media where photos of her, the king, and their son are frequently shared. She also shares interesting works of art via her social media accounts.

 

Source: LIB

When it comes to mental health, the topic is full of stigmas, particularly when it comes to black females and males. Although a proven form of treatment for mental suffering, therapy has been seen as a longtime off-limits area for POC.

Thankfully, kind souls are doing the work necessary to put tools into place to get rid of these stigmas surrounding mental health, and begin the healing in a proactive way.

BTW, http://therapyforblackgirls.com  is a nationwide listing of licensed Black women therapists in case you’re looking for someone professional to talk to like you.

Therapy For Black Girls is a website that allows black women to connect with licensed psychotherapists who are just like them. Featuring a growing database across the United States, the website boasts a goal of “encouraging the mental wellness of Black women and girls” by giving them access to women who can not only help improve their mental health, but who they can relate to.

Founded by Georgia-based licensed psychologist Dr. Joy Harden Bradford, she explains she created the space as a way make getting help easier for young black women faced with debilitating stigmas.

“So often the stigma surrounding mental health issues and therapy prevent Black women from taking the step of seeing a therapist. I developed the space to present mental health topics in a way that feels more accessible and relevant.”

Broken into a variety of poignant topics – including anxiety, break ups, dating, depression and college life – the site allows visitors to decipher which areas of life they’d like support in before accessing psychologists based off of an easy to use and regionally-specific list.

Dr. Joy Harden Bradford (Photo: Therapy For Black Girls)

The directory includes the psychologist’s website – so you can find your absolute best match – as well as the contact information for the desired therapist– solving hours of Googling, calling and researching that can instead be used towards remedying the mental issues at hand.

As many young black men and women know, the avoidance of acknowledging mental health issues is a direct deterrent to the betterment of the race as a whole. But by making this process simple, modern and stigma-free, this tool is heightening the chances of black women becoming masters their mental health, leading to a inarguably healthier, happier and more free world.

 

culled from Konbini.com

British lady who married an Igbo man and goes by the name Nwanyi Oma on social media has shared a testimony of how she gave birth after the doctors had told her she could not.

Talking about her experience on her Instagram page, she wrote:

“There was a time in my life I thought I couldn’t have children. My doctor told me I suffered from PCOS – the most common endocrine disorder among women between the ages 18 and 44 – and that my chances of having children were close to zero. When you are dreaming of starting your own family, the pain and heartache that go with such a diagnose are absolutely overwhelming.
But as it turned out, God had a different plan for me. Today I am not only the proud mother of three children, but on top of that, I can proudly call myself mama ejima!”

 

See her full post below

 

In Tunisian high schools, the dress code is not uniform. Actually, it is: but only for girls. Boys can wear what they like, and now the girls are up in arms.

One morning, instead of turning up for class wearing the regulation navy blue smock, a defiant group of adolescent girls came to school in white T-shirts instead, demanding an “end to discrimination”.

At the elite Bizerte public school in the north, as is the case in most high schools in the North African country, pupils have to sign a school rule stipulating that wearing a uniform applies to girls only.

One day in September, supervisors reminded senior female students who did not abide by this rule that if they did not wear the smock, a loose-fitting, long gilet, they would be sent home.

Ironically, the warning was passed on during a philosophy class — about the human body.

This “injustice” inspired many of the girls to take to social networks and vent their feelings, 18-year-old Siwar Tebourbi told AFP.

She said the girls agreed to take collective action from the following day “to demand that this discrimination must cease”.

So dozens duly turned up for class, wearing white. Several boys did the same, in solidarity with their classmates.

How did the school authorities react? By saying nothing. Thus was born the “Manish Labsetha” (“I won’t wear it”) campaign, referring to the offending garment.

‘A terrible message’

It was the culmination of a dispute that had been brewing for years.

Outraged that the navy blue was imposed on everyone in primary and secondary school but was compulsory in high school only for girls, pupils regularly appeared without it, risking expulsion or seeing their parents summoned.

Monia Ben Jemia, head of the Association of Democratic Women of Tunisia, an independent feminist group, called the smock rule “a terrible message” because it implies that young girls’ bodies can have a disruptive effect on their peers.

She called it a complete aberration, especially since the country’s new constitution of 2014 says that men and women are equal.

The high school students who launched the campaign, both male and female, are also against what they perceive as a wider “hypocrisy”.

“They drill into us at school that men and women are equal, but in practice this is not the case,” said Adam Garci, 17.

That the navy gilet is actually supposed to erase social inequalities between pupils is a source of some amusement to Tebourbi.

“If it was really meant to conceal any differences between rich and poor, then boys as well as girls would have to wear it,” she smiled.

Imposing the blue uniform on girls at a time when their bodies are undergoing change is not a trivial issue, said her friend Farah Ben Jemaa.

Rather embarrassing

“One supervisor told me I couldn’t wear leggings without a smock because I was ‘shapely’, and another told us ‘It bothers the men teachers’,” Ben Jemaa said.

The whole affair would appear to be somewhat embarrassing for the authorities.

Speaking on condition of anonymity, one senior education official found it difficult to explain exactly what was happening.

He acknowledged the sensitivity of the subject, even though Tunisia is considered to be a pioneer in North Africa and the Middle East in the field of women’s rights.

If the official line is that equality between men and women is an asset, large sections of Tunisian society remain conservative and “there is resistance”, said Ben Jemia, at the Association of Democratic Women of Tunisia.

In the courtyard of another school in Bizerte, the Habib Thameur Lycee, equality is a topic for passionate debate among students.

Of around 15 boys asked about it, just one — Nader — spoke up for the traditional view.

“Girls must cover the shape of their bodies,” he said.

“That’s how we have been raised. It’s our mentality, and it should stay that way.”

The others were firm backers of the campaign.

One final year pupil tried to argue with a supervisor seeking to enforce the rules.

“But madame,” he asked. “What if the regulation is wrong?”

Revolution generation

She thought for a moment. “For me, it’s not unfair, it’s the rules. That’s the way it is,” she murmured.

School director Iadh Toulgui admitted that the supervisor’s view was unlikely to sway pupils who had lived through the revolution of 2011, which toppled a 23-year police state and brought about freedom of expression.

“This is a revolutionary generation, open to the world. When you try to impose something on them it doesn’t work,” he said.

It is a view shared by Ben Jemia.

“These young people are much more aware of their rights — they have grown up with freedom of expression,” she said.

“This is the revolution generation, and it is incredible.”

For Bizerte’s regional education commissioner Nabil Smadhi, discussion is the way ahead.

“It is time to address this issue in a national dialogue” involving the education ministry, parents, trade unions and civil society, he said.

“This agitation is effective, not just in the public high school but in the majority of establishments in Bizerte and in several high schools” across the country, he said.

In the meantime, Siwar Tebourbi, Farah Ben Jemaa and girls like them still come to school without the regulation uniform.

“We’re not doing it just for us,” said Ben Jemaa.

“Next year we’ll be gone. But it’s important for the generations who follow.”

Source: pulse news

Singer, Gloria Doyle shares her experience with domestic violence in her previous marriage.

In an interview with The Sun, Doyle stated that she got beaten for no reason at all which made her walk out with her.

”I walked out of it with my children alive and faced the challenges, stigma and relegation of being a single mother,” Doyle recounts.

“I told my ex that after three years of marriage, I wanted to return to my music career and he got so mad and he just couldn’t stop battering me, accusing me, that I only wanted to be let loose,” she added.

Doyle advised women to move on when in abusive relationships. She stated that once a sour relationship gets to the point of verbal abuse it is best to move on.

When a relationship gets to the point of verbal abuse, which leads to physical abuse, if care is not taken, anything could happen so I strongly advice, walk out in peace and not in pieces.

I have seen many young women lose their lives because they were unable to let go their abusive husband especially when they depend on their husbands for everything. Women feel very uncomfortable walking out of such relationship because of the stigma attached to being a single mother,” she said.

Although Doyle was rumored to be getting married to a younger man a few years ago, she said it didn’t work out because she is not ready for marriage.

Source: pulse.ng