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For a mass wedding ceremony themed 77 DOGs (77 Days of Glory), 200 brides involved where transported to the venue in an unusual style – on the back of 5 decorated flat-bed Mercedes Benz trucks, where the grooms were waiting.

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The wedding ceremony held at the Miracle Centre Cathedral in Rubaga, Uganda. According to Ugandan Daily monitor, The pastor of the church, Robert Kayanja, thought that because it was a mass wedding, the 200 brides involved should ride together.

 

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A female student of the University of Benin, who goes by the facebook name Jennifer Belle Aise, took to her facebook account yesterday, February 22, 2016, to brag about adding cannabis to her little nephew’s plate of beans, to teach him a lesson. She posted a video of the poor boy feeling all drowsy and incoherent with a caption ”He didn’t greet me this morning so I added weed on his beans. Am I a wicked aunt??” She was even giggling while recording the video!

She later took down the video and denied ever adding cannabis to the boy’s food, saying ”it was just a joke”

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Not quite long ago, a Youth Corper serving in Edo State, posted a photo of a young female student who he bragged to have slept with, and also posted a video of himself and his male students, hanging out and him actually promising to get them palmwine to celebrate valentine. All efforts to get information about the guy proved abortive as the NYSC headquarter in the state (Edo State) got burnt that same week, and he has since taken down his Instagram account.

What is really going on with our youths in Edo State? What ever happened to being a role model for the young ones? It is quite unfortunate and saddening that the leaders of tomorrow are now using social media to gain cheap publicity. I fear for the future of Nigeria!

While addressing this incident, the Editor-In-Chief of Women Of Rubies and the Founder/ Executive Director of Rubies Ink Initiative, Esther Ijewere, said,

”This is becoming alarming!!! Second case of Child abuse in two weeks from Edo State.

Just last week the video of the youth Corp member who bragged about sleeping with an underage girl and promised to also give primary school students palm wine went viral and this morning again I woke up to several tags on this video . While we are still trying to investigate the case of the corper as NYSC office in Edo state couldn’t give any info yet because there office got burnt last Friday , this one decided to drop her own stupidity online.

I hope Edo based NGO’S will stand up this time and join us in speaking out. Appears this people think they can get away with anything .

Some people say she is joking but I beg to differ please, you don’t post such jokes especially when a child is involved on a public domain .

I hope Governor Obaseki will do something. These people are putting Edo state in bad light .”

 

Bonang Matheba keeps winning our hearts all the time! Call her a diva, a social media queen, a super woman – she is all of that and much more!   Here are our top ten reasons for not being able to get over her:

  1. Bonang is pro-woman all the way

Boning is a staunch lover and promoter of women. Even more, she is a strong believer in the strength and dreams of African women. To her, a woman can have it all.  Her dream to promote self-love in women led her to launch her lingerie line, Distraction. Through it, she encourages women to embrace their bodies.

  1. She’s got burnt and made it through

Bonang did not just wake up one morning to become an overnight ‘disney’ princess. She has had her very fair share of disappointment and frustration. She’s been called names. What she did? She moved past it all and gave herself a better choice. She grew to be the woman we all love now.

  1. She’s a serial achiever

Bonang is such an inspiration to many young ladies. She has had more achievements than most media personalities can get for themselves. Of course, she has become a favourite cover star for renowned international fashion and lifestyle magazines such as Grazia, Marie Claire and Elle South Africa. Talk about a black girl who rocks?

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  1. She is love’s biggest fan

For Bonang, love is everything. That, for her, is the biggest principle to live and work by. She tells LLA, “it is the love that drives the passion of what I do, being true to myself means I will always be authentic in what I do and the brands I align myself with, happiness brings positivity into your life and the more of it the more life seems great”.

  1. Bonang is an early planner

For Bonang, life did not have to start at 21. At 13, she did not have anyone telling her what to do, she had it all figured out. She knew just what she wanted to be and went right ahead to chase after it at 16 by kicking off her career in a South African’s television series for kids.

  1. She’s a perfect fit in two contrasting worlds

If she is not here on the noisy, photo-splashed side of glam, then she’s on the other side. Either way, Bonang makes a perfect blend of both worlds. She knows how to be just the diva and the home girl.

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  1. She’s a super slay queen

Bonang is a fashion favourite and definitely a designer’s muse. She does as much justice to the red-carpet as to the streets. She is a slay queen with a capital ‘S’.

  1. She’s not just about the glam

Bonang is not just about the pretty face or the 6-inches. She pushes herself to be better and smarter, and we’ve come to know that a pastime of hers is reading. Oh yes, she loves to read. Her favourites are socio-political books. So, thinking of being the next Bonang? Try reading a few books.

  1. She is on the look-out for everyone

There is no disputing the fact Bonang loves her fans and wants as much good for them as she does for herself. She is an amazing giver. Whether it involves offering mentorship to young girls or inviting her fans to an expense paid trip, Bonang is willing to do so much and more.

  1. She stays leading!

Bonang is our quintessential Leading Lady! She just keeps on winning! She is a perfect blend of both the entertainment and fashion industries. She is leaving the B prints everywhere she can possibly be. We love, love, love her!

Source: Leadingladiesafrica.org

Producer and actress, Rita Dominic, has been awarded as the Sun Newspaper Nollywood Personality Of The Year at the 14th edition of the event which held on Saturday, February 18, 2017, at Eko Hotel and Suites. She was presented with the award by the Special Adviser to President Muhammadu Buhari on Foreign Affairs and Diaspora, Hon. Abike Dabiri-Erewa.

Congratulations, girl!

 

Hello WORriors! Our Woman Crush for this week’s #WomanCrushWednesday is Iyabo Ojo. Iyabo Alice Ogunro-Ojo is a proud mother, businesswoman, actress, film maker, and philanthropist. She was born on 21 December 1977 in Lagos. She is from Abeokuta in Ogun State. She studied Estate Management at Lagos State Polytechnic.

She started acting in 1998 and made her debut in the movie, Satanic, an English-language film. In 2002, she made her Yoruba-language debut with Baba Darijiwon. She started producing her own films in 2004 and her first production was Bolutife. She has featured in over 150 movies and has produced over 14 movies of her own.

Iyabo Ojo launched her NGO, Pinkies Foundation, which caters to the children with special needs and the less privileged on May 2011. She is also the CEO of FESPRIS Production; and FesprisWorld;Spa, Salon,Mimi bouquet. She recently got unveiled as the brand ambassador of Larriett luxury shoes, alongside Monalisa Chinda.

Women Of Rubies celebrates you, dear Iyabo Ojo!

Who is a sadist?

A sadist is a person who experiences pleasure from watching others undergo discomfort or pain. A sadist can also engage in using emotional cruelty and intentionally manipulating other people through the use of calculated fear. More frequently, some sadist perform aggressive social behaviors and/or enjoy publicly humiliating other people to achieve a feeling of power and control over others. Surprisingly enough, even though sadistic personalities do gain pleasure and satisfaction from inflicting suffering and pain upon others, the act of sadism do not necessarily always involve usage of violence or physical aggression.

There are different classes of sadists;

ENFORCING SADIST

This category of sadistic people can often be found within important positions of authority, such as military sergeants, police officers, prison overseers and deans of universities. These individuals are in a situation where they feel that they are the ones who should be in charge of controlling, overseeing and punishing people for breaking laws, rules and regulations. Although they might have the opinion that they are actually acting for common interest, more critical, deeper motives are involved than just that. Enforcing sadists normally seek out rule breakers within their authoritarian domain, or within the society in general, and by doing so exercise the worst punishments they can give out for an individual case. The more they punish and dominate others, the more powerful and satisfied they feel. With more of these acts, their self-image of righteousness gets reinforced which increases their ego.

EXPLOSIVE SADIST

People having this form of sadistic personality are known to be unpredictably violent as they are disappointed or frustrated with their general lives. They lose control when they feel humiliated and/or hopeless and seek retribution for the deprecation and mistreatment to which they sense they have been subjected to.These sadists do not generally move about in grumpy or surly manner and as a result it is difficult to know what might set them off. Although the violence that gets released is nearly always directed at a particular individual, it primarily serves as a form of emotional release for the pent up feelings that the sadist had been holding inside himself or herself.

TYRANNICAL SADIST

This type of sadistic personality is counted among the more cruel and frightening of all subtypes as they seem to really relish their acts of brutalizing and menacing others. It appears that forcing their unwilling victims to submit and cower provides them with some special feeling of satisfaction. An important difference between the explosive sadists and the tyrannical ones is that the tyrannical sadists choose their victims quite carefully to make sure that they are not going to stand up and fight back when they are attacked. The tyrannical sadists normally have a low self-esteem and several inner insecurities that they try to conceal from the world. In order to do this and feel superior, they often overwhelm others by their behavior.

SPINELESS SADIST

This type of sadist is completely opposite of other three types, as they are extremely insecure and behave like cowards. These people anticipate real danger, project their hostile ideas and strike first, thereby hoping to forestall the antagonist and put forth questions later. Although these sadists are afraid of many things, during times of stress they try to enforce the fears of their enemies. Spineless sadists employ aggressive hostility to portray the idea that they are not intimidated or fearful, which allows them to manage their inner feelings and display exactly the opposite of how they are actually feeling. Their mannerisms can be termed as counterphobic, a trick that allows them to control their personal fears as well as divert and propagate a false aura of self-assurance and confidence. Spineless sadists even seek out scapegoats whom they gang up on as this allows them to live in a state of denial about their own inner states.

 

Below are some behavioral pattern of a sadist;

  • A sadistic individual does not hesitate to humiliate people intentionally in presence of others. The shame and disgrace that he inflicts on other people makes him feel larger than life and supremely important.
  • He considers all people to be under his control, no matter whether the other individual is a student, child, prisoner or patient, and treats them in an unkind and harsh manner. All that he hopes to gain is unchallenged dominance within a relationship.
  • A sadistic individual finds pleasure in causing pain to other people or harming them by lying without any apparent reason or without any motive to achieve any other goal. This action of harming others like that makes him feel contented and invincible.
  • Unlike a normal person, a sadistic individual frightens and terrorizes others for getting his job done.
  • He often puts restriction on the freedom of other people within a close relationship. For instance, a spouse may not be permitted to leave the premises of the house unaccompanied or the teenage daughter may not be allowed to attend various social functions. The controlling nature of the person makes it difficult for others to have his or her say. A sadistic person behaves as if his word is final and the ultimate law. Hence it should be obeyed, even if it may seem outrageous and senseless to others.
  • A sadistic individual gets highly enthralled by all forms of violence, martial arts, weapons, injuries, torture or death. He or she channelizes the inner killer instinct in various socially acceptable ways like “studying” as well as admiring historic figures such as cruel monarchs or dictators like Hitler.
  • He does not falter from making use of violence or cruelty for establishing his dominance in any form of relationship. The main goal is to exert full and unbroken control over an individual or situation.

 

 

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I do tell people that one of the most toxic, dangerous thing to do is to keep and nurse grudges. When you hold grudges against someone, you unconsciously become angry, bitter, and miserable…and from there, you proceed to looking for ways to make the person suffer (most especially when you see that the person is happy). Anger, bitterness, misery, grudges, unforgiving spirit, are all unnecessary baggages and you don’t need them in your life, so why don’t you throw them out!

I’m naturally a happy person so I hate any form of negative vibes around me. I don’t like dullness, bitterness, sadness, around me so I always try to make anywhere I am, lively. If you offend me, I will let you know straightaway(even if I have to ‘para’ for you) and if you don’t think the reasonable thing to do is to accept the fact that you have hurted my feelings and apologize, I would forgive you in my heart and forget about the whole drama because I can’t allow you to take my peace of mind and happiness away. People find it surprising the way I straighten people out(by mostly ‘para-ing’ for them) and within the next seconds, I’m back to my playful self with them. Whenever I’m asked how I easily switch like that, my response is always ”Life is too short, my happiness is important, and I can’t allow anything or anyone to block my blessings and happiness ke” If I have issues or disagreement with someone, I always look for ways to settle up and liven things up even if I’m right and the person is wrong. If I see that the person is being stiff and doesn’t want to settle up, I’d scoff and say ”wahala ti e ma niyen o..na you sabi” and move on with my life.

Do you know that when you keep grudges, you unconsiously block your blessings and happiness? Is anything or anyone worth losing your blessings and happiness, for? If you offend someone, what’s the big deal in apologizing to the person? Why wait for an apology before you can forgive? Sadly enough, some people find it hard and demeaning to say ‘sorry’. Some people gets ashamed when it comes to apologizing for being wrong. Don’t be like that. Don’t wait for someone to come and apologize to you before you can forgive. Don’t be proud or ashamed to apologize when you are wrong. Forgive and seek forgiveness for your own happiness and peace of mind. Even the Holy Books emphasize on the importance of letting go and forgiveness. There is one verse in the Bible that says ”Leave room for wrath but the sun must go down on your wrath” and the verse also clearly says that you must not take revenge but you should leave revenge for God. God knows that as human beings, we have emotions and so it is natural for us to get offended but we are not allowed to get too angry and we are not allowed to hold grudges. Trust me, I know how hard it is to let go and forgive, but you need to let go..it is very important. If you find it hard to forgive all on your own (you can’t even do it all on your own without God) talk to God in prayers and ask Him to help you..and He surely will help you.

I see people cursing, bad-mouthing, and causing problems for their exes, all because they dumped them. You don’t need that. Leave them to God and let Him handle them. I see people finding it hard to move on with their lives and learn to love again, because they are still smarting from the bad experiences they have had in their past relationships, and are finding it hard to forgive and forget…I say to you, it’s time to let go. Forget your past, bad experiences. Not every man/woman is going to be like your last partner. There is someone out there who is going to love you like you have never being loved before, and that person won’t be able to find you if you are still living in your past. Let go and let love find you!

Today, decide to throw out the unnecessary baggages you have been dragging around in your life. You don’t need them anymore because they are too heavy for your life and they are slowing your journey to a better, brighter place! It is time to throw out those unnecessary baggages, It is time to let go!

 

By Lydia Oladejo.

 

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